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Toks2008:
Over the years i have realized that LOVE is the most wrongly used word in the dictionary.

Do you know that when your bae says "I LOVE YOU",more often than not,that person is only stating his her feelings based on what he or she is benefiting from the union at that point in time?Take away the benefit(s) and see if such person will still profess an undying love for you.

I have seen many people who professed love to each other suddenly make a 360 degree turn and then i tend to wonder if they ever understood that word love.

I have heard of a situation where a man or woman found it so easy to walk away from the spouse and children after many years just to conclude that what they felt all through the years was probably pity and not love.

It has become the norm for us to now see a million dollar wedding crashing down even before it began and then these same people who were all smiles and curdled up on the wedding day, exchanging vows will turn against each other with so much hatred.

Husbands kill same woman they made a vow to love and wives do same to their hubbies even when they have borne the same man children.

How many husbands can still tell their wives "i love you" even if she denies him sex? how many husbands will still love their wives if she refuses to do her duties as a wife in the house? and how many women will still love their husbands even if he fails to live up to his status?

Judging from all these happenings i have decided to stop using that word love and any one who uses such word to describe his or her feelings for the partner must really take a chill pill and think deep before uttering such.

If from the real life situation i see, i think it will be reasonable for anyone to wait for at least 20years of being with your partner before you can truly say those words "I LOVE YOU" even if we all know that even after 30years people can still turn against each other but at least 20years is good enough to pass that assertion.

I have come to believe that LOVE can only exist between GOD and man and what humans feel is just a temporary feeling of desire which can be in form of initial gragra(Adrenaline love), infatuation(Unreasoning love),Lust or maybe a superficial love as a result of what you are getting from that person and in the absence of such will diminish.

Yes maybe i am over-flogging it,maybe we still have true love between very rare partners but the truth is that i would rather seek for a true friendship, a true bonding which i have found to be more realistic than that facade called True love.

My advice is that anyone in any affair should not put too much expectation but should just flow with the tide because that person who is all over you today can make a u-turn tomorrow and you will wonder if that is the same person you ever knew...

I hope this makes sense.

OP YOUR SO DAMM RIGHT...I DON'T BELIEVE AND THE ONLY LOVE THAT TRUELY EXIST IS THAT OF GOD FOR MAN...I PREFER MY PARTNER BUILD A STRONG BOND,FRIENDSHIP AND UNDERSTANDING....O AND BEFORE I FORGET I DONT BELIEVE IN TRUST AS WELL, EXCEPT YOU TRUST AT YOUR OWN PERIL.

emmijes3:
lolzz cool..I'd pm u

check your box

emmijes3:
happened in ss3,,,when I used the money I was supposed to use for hand out,to buy naruto...I also remember putting red ink on my class teachers chair.so wen she sit's on it,it kindda looks like her period

naruto fan spotted, me like

Hadez:
And who says we care about how huge you are? You should get your facts right

i pray you don't care..talking as if you can date a guy with small d**k, tomorrow u il come here complaining how his mall d**k can't do much work

aktem:
we stated dating a year ago&everything was fyn until she told me abt a guy she met in 1 higher institution wea she had gone 2 do her post jamb.since then....almost everytime we chat,talk or engage in any conversation either fone call,whataspp,bbm or even wen we face 2 face...she will always mention d name of d guy&she'll always av sometin 2 say abt him...even during own private discussion (abt our relationship)..dis has been happening 4 long&@Ist,i didn't c anything wrong abt it...bt it later became too much &i'm trying 2 b patient with her so dat she wont say i'm complaining too much or jealous.
A month ago,she called me dat she needed some amt in d morning &i was doin my IT wea she stays so,i told her i'll branch @her side in d evening&give her,i went 2 her side in d evening&gave her d moni...bt she didn't say 10k u(though, datz doesn't mean much 2 me).so,when i got home,i called her&told her(nt with annoyance) dat weneva some1 give her sometin or renders a help,it might even nt b me,dat she told learn 2 say 10k u.then, she got angry&started blasting me dat hw much did 1 give her sef...dat,even wale(d guy she do talk abt always) wu went 2 d bank 2 send her moni did nt complain....dat statement hurt me 2 d core.she later apologized bt i understand d fact dat "anger makes a person expose d secret tinz goin on in his/her m"ind....so i can really c wea i stand in dat relationship.4rm my conclusion, i realize dat..is either she loves d guy or dere is a kind of secret relationship btw them(d guy also have a gf)....&d funny tin is dat she gained admission 2 d skul wea dat guy is&as an experienced guy, i knw what wil happen.
..since then,av been thinking whether 2 break up with her or turn her 2 a side chick.
I want mature advice pls.

OP to have a side chick that have a side guy no they cause fight o, so long every thing is on a low key..at the end your happy, she is happy and everyone is happy as well

Hadeybholar:
I met dis guy in 2013,He dated my roommate for 3 months b4 dey quit.i nd d guy became close pals nd I evn dated his frnd for some time b4 everybody lost contact but I and d guy still get in touch till now.all of a sudden he asked me dis year 2016 if we can be dating.reli confused giving d scenario above, being my ex frnd nd his ex frnd. what should I do.i like him a lot but I just av dis mentality dat mayb he is deceiving me plus he used to b a womaniser so I dnt know if he has changd.


People advices:
mr A: it's possible d guy has had a crush on u since but mayb because of his frnd he cldnt do anytin den

mr B:it's possible d guy wan come chop him own

Your advice will be highly appreciated.

OP is a no no cus is like he wants his share of the national cake o, maybe ur x told him how good your are and you never can tell though

to be sure of the spouse fertility and avoid running from pillar to post all in the name of looking for a child

GLeesMODEL:
As Christians worldwide celebrated Xmas yesterday with love and gladness, Queen Miebaka Wokoma Face Of Aso Label 2015 took time to put happiness on the faces of Widows in Rivers State.

The 22 Year old graduate of University Of Port harcourt visited ‎St.Matthew Anglican church to share food items like bags of rice, groundnut oil, cartoons of indomie etc to several widows.

Queen Miebaka ‎who was crowned as one of the winners at the 10th edition of Queen of Aso Nigeria pageant excited the aged widows with the gifts and cash as the prayed and blessed her.

‎The Rivers state born beauty queen is preparing to flag of her project that deals on projecting the Girl Child Education. Though, the widows' visitation is part of her mission to help and support the women who have lost their husbands in Rivers state and beyond.

http://www.alexreports.info/2015/12/xmas-love-face-of-aso-label-queen.html?m=0

IF THIS IS THE QUEEN FOR FACE OF ASO LABEL PLS I WOULD LIKE TO SEE THE OTHER CONTESTANT

tomorrow they will come out and say their account got hacked..all this cheap publicity stunt they make this days just to get noticed.

really hate the kiss and tell kind of guys..especially when they go as far as displaying it on social medias

LifeIsGuhd:
She thought you something

hahaha must u pick that part

Islie:
Dear Bunmi,
I have been married for three years and we have a daughter. I have been secretly seeing one of my husband’s friends for the past six months though he is also married. We have a sexual relationship and love each other so much. But I feel bad because this man is a better lover than my husband. As a result, I have not had sex with my husband for weeks.
I know that this is a wrong thing to do, but I’m very happy this way.
Dorothy,


www.vanguardngr.com/2015/12/he-is-a-better-lover-than-my-husband/

that's what happens when you marry a LovePeddler as a wife...i keep saying it ladies allow their emotions think for them and my annoyance is how they come back begging and crying and will say it only happened once ''LIARS''.. at the end ''IS GOOD TO TRUST IS BETTER NOT TO''. i just pity the man cus he has no idea what his wife is doing with his stupid friend

PinkBarbie:

We know their true colour.

was your own color since you know theirs

daretodiffer:
Joke Silva is not baring her chest

If she were, you wouldd havge insulted her if she had gone braless

why do you think that she gets celebrated all the time..i won't teach things of life cus is obvious your a guy cus no girl will say this things u just said ..i rest my case here

daretodiffer:
Ode!

What is there to cover up? There is no different between what she wore and what others wore. She chose not to use a bra for her ‘fallen' boobs. If it were firm, it would have been okay.

Guess what? It is not okay. Breasts come in different shapes, sizes and forms. She has chosen to represent one shape, size and form but because you and the society do not find it appealing does not make her worse than other women up there.

It is high time you embraced that a ‘fallen' breasts is very natural. And your preference will not change that fact. If a woman can walk around showing perky or pushed up breasts, then a woman with a ‘fallen' breast can choose to do the same whether or not it appeals to you.

olofo

was there to embrace would have appreciated her more than the other lady if she had dressed decent..just incase you don't with all due respect Mrs joke Silva hers as well but she can never dress this way..its called decency I know you probably have not come across such word before but pls do me a favour n check it out...my guess is you have a fallen boob but no1 will know n if you dress decent you will be apprecaited..there s a saying, u il b address the way u dress.

daretodiffer:
Look who is talking

That is exactly how you people seen when you go in about slipper bo.obs

1) you have time
2) you sound bitter
3) you have no respect for your motherv who had the same thing neither do you have respect for women in general, if you did you would realise that those boobs are as natural and normal as every other boo.bs. The world of push-ups to make it appear firm is merely illusory and fake

your foolish I swear would v asked you to go to yaba left but you might end up chasing every mad person from that home..you lack understanding and find it hard to comprehend..if not you will get the idea that every one is saying she should have covered up and look decent...but all your concern about is opening that pit latrin of urs u call a mouth and spit the poo you have been taking from every tom dick and harry that have put their sperm and that's the reason y ur brain is filled up of expired sperm reasoning...even if your sorry ass got dumped 2days b4 Xmas, does not mean you should come here and venge it on us cus we are not the reason ur mama didn't giv u any home training if not, she would have taught u how to respect other people mama..get a life n stop hating on everyone cus we live the life you crave for since the day u were born.

this foolish guy just made me rethink my gender cus am aschamed of it after reading this....your asking for our advice, very simple just tell your girlfriend to kill you finish cus your as good as dead.

daretodiffer:
Everywhere like the ones in your home;(

reading through I noticed three things..
1.you have time
2.you sound bitter
3.you have no respect for MOTHERS if not you won't go about insulting every ones mum.

it speaks bad of u so stop it

DrDauda:
You sound like an OSU

same thing I thought of

ps2:
The bible said something in Galatians 3:13,"For Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the Law".It also said a woman must leave her family and join to her husband and they shall be one flesh. Religiously speaking she can get married. Tribal discrimination must end...

mark 12:17 also says give to ceasar what belongs to ceasar and to God what belongs to God and his reply completely amazed them...

point is if she is going to go ahead with it then she has to be really in christ so as to prevail any repercussions that comes after.

kevinscore:
She rather die than not marrying the guy,she has concluded already

and who told you she has concluded?

emorse:
Oh now I get where you're coming from. I'm sorry, I don't do "spiritual". Not condemning your spiritual inclinations though.

neither do I do spiritual inclination like you said...

all the same, them no they tell blind man say rain they fall..

emorse:
I speak as an individual. I know no tribe or religion. My stance is based on the the fact that love and respect must be mutual. If my family love me, they should value my happiness more than a simple tradition which I believe has no more value than the killing of twins in the days of Mary Slessor.

I concur that winning them over is a more diplomatic means though.

don't you get it at all? you can't win them over..you think is mere talk right okay let me tell you something..

my mum friend whom her daughter got married to an osu man after much warnings from her family.. she gave birth and her mum visited her after ignoring plea from her husband not to go but due to the love she have for her daughter she went coming back she was involve in a ghastly motor accident and was the only person that died..my mum made it clear to me that she will accept any 1 but not an osu and if i go ahead with it then am on my own cus she won't risk her life because of my ignorance...even though nobody wish for it we just have to be careful, do the needful and avoid story that touch.

Spirit1:
Keep calling it shit. Why don't you go and marry an Osu if you are Igbo

some of the peeps here blabbing don't even know the road to their village or visit home so why won't they end up saying what they don't understand..

jidxin:
im just sayin...under d requsite law btw it has happnd b4 notin new u ve friends collegue nd some naughty family of urs ur neigbhours could make it all 4 u

if that's the case then get the blessing from them and not your parents and family cus they won't giv one neither will they be there for you...is even in the bible give what belongs to caesar to caesar and what belongs to God to God.

mzvyne:
The children Ofcourse....

how can u equate genotype incompatibility with segregation ?

your mixing it up..tradition goes a long way, take for instance till date the first son of a man in an igbo land is entitled to his father building irrespective of his siblings and the ladies once married don't get anything mean while in the yoruba tradition they share everything equally and so many others which i won't like to start mentioning..quite alright is really bad no doubt about it but there is solution to it which is very expensive to pay..
that's why they advice young people to travel home and know more about their culture and people..this days you see guys and girls who have had sexual intercourse not knowing they are related cus they don't visit home or know their extended families..

emorse:
check this out bro [url] http://news.uic.edu/new-treatment-for-sickle-cell-brings-hope-and-a-cure-to-chicago-area-patients[/url]

how many people are lucky to have access to it and am sure you read the part they said they have been in and out the hospital all their life before the cure came and do you know the pain they went through, my bro you don't want to imagine?

emorse:
Treatment is possible. *smiles*

Quick one bro. Imagine yourself as the Osu here.

good thing am not one but if am one then i would rather look for my fellow osu lady and get married to or go outside and get married to someone else..more over it does not have effect on the osu clans but the non osu clans which is y the reason for the advice...

V0lv0:
In this day and age people still are caught up in this shiit. When will we black people be delivered from all this nonsense. Smdfh

you call it nonsense cus you don't know your root

emorse:
Treatment is possible. *smiles*

guess you should do more research am sure your smart up there and you know better *wink*

sickstars:
Even weni'm good how many treated me good

Dnt want to call names dats it

Dnt expect nytin from any one

Even wen u good or bad

They taught me dat

Ryt now i dnt expect nytin from ny one

call my name but all the same we all have been through such but it does not mean everyone are the same.

mzvyne:
I already know what their response will be.... Definitely against...

That one dey for their pocket sha...

good you know what their response will be. will end this by asking u a simple ?, in AS genotype couples who suffers and bears the pain, couple or kids?