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Xxxxtentacion2:
what opportunities are you blabbing about....
Shey you no dey poor as you dey type all this rubbish...
If you were this smart to see opportunities why are you not as rich as Elon Musk...🤣🤣🤣

Keep quiet my friend you don't know anything if you had any atom of knowledge you would have used it for better things instead of arguing senselessly everyday on this forum...

You get time, that guy will get you so frustrated so tey e go be like make u slap am though phone me no Dey reply am

Gerrard59:
It is like compound interest. When the first family is established, invariably, successive generations would become more established and even wealthy. Na part of the reasons some African Americans say the success of Nigerian-Americans should not be used to judge the success of black people in the US because those Nigerians by virtue of going through the US immigration system, are the best and brightest from Nigeria. The same would play out in Canada compared to blacks who have been domiciled there for many generations.

It is usually hard for the first generation and maybe second. A lot of sacrifices and delayed gratification have to be made. One major way is to have few children instead of many children. That way, little resources can be managed for the benefit of everyone. Another is delayed gratification. The first generation should postpone some purchases and expenses so that their offsprings' education can be catered for properly. Education still remains the surest way to a middle class lifestyle in a country where things work and the economy is pretty good. Buhari and his cohorts have severely destroyed the Nigerian economy. Also, insecurity has rendered many people poorer than before.

In developed countries, especially those who got developed and prosperous within a short period of time, parents pay very close attention to their children's education and development. This applies to Singapore, Taiwan, Japan, China, South Korea etc. For instance, Chinese who migrated to the west during the '80s and '90s faced many challenges, but they persevered and were focused. Today, their children are reaping the fruits of their parents' labour and enjoying life. At the same time, it is very important for the first and second generations to discipline themselves not to be wayward. Again, these Asians know it so well, and very few are wayward compared to other races. Waywardness can destroy everything the previous generation built. To build is hard, to destroy is easy.

With the Internet comes easy access to information, however, this means greater and stiffer competition for scarce resources. People from less financially comfortable backgrounds should be properly and timely informed, plan their lives well and play delayed gratification. It is hard at first (nothing good comes easy), but it pays in the long run.

omo, you’re one of the reasons I’m addicted to nairaland. 99% of people will never understand the bolded

sisisioge:
You are one of the lucky ones. And yes, there are some exceptions to the phenomenon who show a lot of zeal and resilience to break out of the chain. I totally agree with the OP.

the guy you quoted doesn’t understand the difference between living life and surviving.

what he’s achieved is still average and has not stood the test of time. For a person who comes from an humble background to create generational wealth, he needs to be extremely lucky and super smart.
Family and environment play vital roles in what we become in life Walai ta lai.
You need to walk extra extra extra miles and be super lucky to defeat those two factors .

It seems people mistake wealth for building 3 bedroom bungalow and using muscle camry. Something wey be say if him get serious health issues, all him property no go solve am.

I’m not underrating his achievements as I’m still struggling too in the grand scheme of thing , but make we Dey tell our selves the reality .

woginid967:
You can make money from NOTHING.... I can tell you many ways i have made money from nothing.... So pls practically your family background has nothing to do with how great you will become. Ask obama who was in kenya and years later became USA president....

See children of the privileged like tinubu, can only use their fathers name.... But those of us from poor or average family generations are the ones breaking through now in tech, social media, etc.

No diabolism, no shortcuts, no mago mago.

So that you dont think I'm marketing anything or anyone, let me tell you how i made money as little as 570k, i was broke and hungry for days, family couldnt help, I am good at making friends and acquaintances, so my WhatsApp status at that time was about 746 views. At that time, i have been on hinger strike for 4 days, drinking water and visiting people hoping they'll give me food... Even bricklayer job was not available yet I'm a graduate, I sent one message to all the 700+ people that I need 500 to 1k for urgent help because i have not eaten and i was sick and need medical checkup and also I will refund the next month, well not all of them replied, some blocked me but i got 570k that week, with some promising foodstuff and others telling me not to refund. I used 100k to take care of myself for two months. Invested the rest in crypto and bale of clothes from Onitsha, which i started selling online ad delivering by myself. To cut this story short, i posted on my status thanking everyone and telling them what I did with the money, guess what, more started giving till i got 970k over the following 2weeks.... by the 4th month, i put my profit plus the donations together and bought a car for uber making 460k monthly, and the rest is history, under 7 months from zero to business man. It is my own story.

See, you cant be broke poor and hostile to friends.... Thats death. If you dont have money, at least be friendly, and with little wise idea you condition will change.


If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you'll be successful, period

Bro, from your write up, you’re still average and yet to find your feet. What u managed to achieve can only take care of your mouth and maybe 1or 2 highest .
By the time bills pile up, you’ll realize you’re not far from square 1 and if you manage to chest the bills , when you die, the struggle continues. You’re yet to create a generational wealth with that so you’re still not far from poverty. We’re not talking about surviving here , we’re talking about living life .

Don’t get me wrong, I know your story is motivating by sensitizing people to think out of the box, but I still maintain that creating generation wealth and living extremely affluent life have to do with your family background and environment most time.

Tinubu offsprings have higher chance to be successful than you are even if they’re not THAT hard working and smart , while you on the other hand will need to be extremely lucky and smart to even ‘compete’ not to talk of beating them to wealth-building games.


I’m in no way attacking you , I hope you read this with a balanced perspective.

ahnie:
Get a job and quit this hating.

If you don't mind, there's an opening for a guy that can grill chicken.i would want you to apply
@op

U sabi cook food and human being join
U Dey bring gun to knife 🔪 fight

Congrats ma.


still doesn’t negate the fact that you’re a hôe and single mother

Ok. Tife270

1. Before a woman agrees to come around , ensure you throw sexual talk in between conversation on WhatsApp , doing this would have prepared her ahead . Although , if a mature woman who’s not your fam or business partner agrees to visit you alone, she’s already concluded in her mind to fhuck u, it’s left for you to package yourself well .


2. When she comes, if you’re living in a self con, e don finish , make she sit with you on bed, dont try to impress her and don’t appear desperate before her.
Be bold and touch anywhere apart from coming directly for her breast-this will make her uncomfortable and restless. When you begin to touch her, youself go know weda to proceed or not, if she gives u green light, proceed to touching and fôndling her breast from the outside, afterwards, plant a devilish kiss on her lips and watch her get soaked .


To be sure she’s in the mood and not forced, naturally when she’s soaked, 90% of time , she won’t be able to control herself so she’ll take it up from there by holding your neck and locking her lips with yours, if she’s a hoè she’ll look in to your eyes while doing this, if she’s not, she’s close her eyes. Whichever, continue this forèplay and romance until you notice she’s shaking and sweating.


Take of her gown/skirt/jean, watch her take of her pant by herself. If she does this , it shows she’s damn in the mood and really wants u.
Attack her twins with 4-4-3 formation , stand up and direct her head to your peepee, make she suck u, shift your pillow and take out your condom, well well you know the rest .
don’t worry nature will take its course easily from there .

3. If you’re using a bigger apartment where she sits on a chair , it’s simple , move closer to her, sit beside her and log on to TikTok , catch cruise then refer to no 2 above.


But if she resists after all your effort , then two things dey involved,
1. She no like u
2. She one size u up


whichever it is , don’t fall for it, enter bathroom and soapy with her pic in mind, come back to her and discharge her without mercy. Whatever she says afterward is non of your business, don’t contact her again and let her do the chasing .










Least I forget , please smell nice( use sweet perf), this also works particularly for me, I no fit fhuck women wey no smell nice .

Don’t forget to strap up , good luck my G

Ok

Op, you’re a very wicked person. After you don sleep with her multiple times? After u don make her cum and lick her tow tow wifh your useless mouth ?

Una go Dey complain say good women scarce , God kon sugar your tea, he dash you complete package with 2 extra goodies , yet you’re complaining .
From her behavior can’t you see she’s a very good woman , can’t you see it’s her ex fault?. U better man up and do the needful and don’t forget to take good care of her two kids, you can even will your properties to them. .






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Didirin agba. Ob’efon labata, oyobe ti..

U go learn

Zonefree:
Stop patronising mediocrity. University in 21st century producing bread to generate funds is a big low. It's a university for crying out loud! They should go into inventories like Biogas waste management and collaborate with government if they truly want to generate funds. Producing ordinary bread that our dearest daughter Ahnie can produce inside her 2 by 2 kitchen is laughable.

wetin Ahnie buy for your market?

Nsogbu001:
I go abroad shaa since 2019.
Omo I worked like Jacky. I investee reasonably.
Na long tory ooo Manny

Worked where? Invested on what ?
Share your story

No. But I mistakenly transferred btc to wrong wallet before . Also I mistakenly recharged someone 5k mtn,
The last two digits of my number is 73, The person’s own is 74.

2 billion? Murasi o

If the rx 350 is not from 2010 upward I no too like am .

The es Toks go make sense in this case.

cococandy:
When sick and old in-laws come to love with the family, the expectation is that the wife will be the one to provide care for the sick and old family member. So your wife should have the final say on who’s coming for extended say in my opinion.

Because let’s face it, your wife would have been the one to give your mom bed baths, bathroom care etc. now that her mom is coming, she’s still the one who will be expected to do that. Not you.

So it might not be the presence of your mom she didn’t want. She just didn’t want the extra responsibility which invariably falls on her. Before you ask why she can’t treat your mom the way she treats her mom, know that her mom will be willing to die for her but your mom won’t. That’s the difference

and if the her Mom comes to live with them , who is going to bear the medical bills and other financial costs ? The expectation is that the husband will bear it. Now ask yourself , is that fair?

Klass99:
. This is one of the reasons I smile and shake my head when people want to kill themselves over the fact that they don't have children or they haven't given birth yet after a few years of marriage.

These parents you say should not stay with their married children beyond 3 days for a visit and should not stay beyond 1 week in case of a health challenge are the same people who were there when you had nothing, when you were a baby and helpless, they could have crushed you or mistreated you, but no, they did their duty by you and they did it well too.

While I think I understand your view, these sort of rules only make sense for extremely troublesome parents or in-laws who like to cause tension or drive a wedge between couples with their blood is thicker than water mantra, a toxic attitude etc. Not all parents are problematic or bad, neither do most deserve this sort of treatment from their own offspring. Like seriously, what the hell?

Some of you married folks on this forum leave me in shock and awe with your take on issues and it amuses me to no end when you guys turn around again to ask others if they are married or even call them kids because of a difference in opinions.

may God bless you beyond your expectations

frozen70:
I understand how you feel about her treatment to your mum and eventually she passed on because she didn't get the care you have planned for her due to your wife refusal to cooperate with her

Now it's her mums turn, just allow her to come the one let her provide her needs while you focus on the family needs as usual

What she denied you off is what she is requesting your approval to get, such is life

Your refusal may react to another thing

Women and manipulation .

EriMma1:
I would have told you to do what is in your mind but then, it wasn't the mother who offended you but your wife. Besides you had the choice to let your mother stay with you but you succumbed to her will and let her will prevail. So don't treat the old woman badly because of her daughters sins.

Forgive and let the old woman come. After all she would be the one to do all the care job, not you.

see manipulation as its peak

Nigbati opin aye bade

Nice

NewDelhi:
Who can relate ?

lmao.
Maybe he think say nepa fit take the light by the time he go off the gen.
It’s been awhile bro,
from Ashewo thread

This ops needs to be arrested, you didn’t post the complete video

Lol. And guys Dey die for that same pussy.

Fhucked one girl last year , I had to tell her that I’m not satisfied with sex and that she oozed. Her countenance changed throughout that day.

The next time we met, I fingered her and stylishly put the finger in her mouth. She sucked it. I did it for like 4 times and she gladly licked it


I was satisfied and we got down to biz. After we finished I jokingly commended her Pussy and she was like I embarrassed her the last time and she cried when she reached home. She said she asked her mom on what to do and she was told to squat on warm water mixed with salt.


I laugh tire.


So as a guy, if a lady smells bad during sex, embarrass her. If she values you, she’ll amend.

narite:
Sometimes in life great things appears right in front of us, something so great that could forever change the lives of those around us. The sad thing is that Emotions cause us from seeing this great things when they appear. Blessings always come in disguise, mostly in the form of loss. it will happen to every one of us. A time will come in our life when there will be something wicked we have to do to transform our live; only you will know when the time as come and what the wicked thing is, every human will experience this thing probably once in their lifetime. This wickedness will come in different form, I tell you doing it won’t appear as doing something noble at first but down the line years later you will look back and you will be filled with tears, glad that you did because if you had not, your life would be completely different from the one you are currently living. it takes wisdom to sail through this powerful moment. This moment can ruin your life or can profoundly make it beautiful.

The people insulting you have let their emotions over taken their logical reasons, they are talking from an angle of sympathy they have for the first guy, it could have happen to them to, they are angry and felt exploited. If only humans could get rid of their emotions, having no deep attachment towards anything and doing things just for the sake of doing it and not because they feel there is something waiting for them, they will avoid going through some needlessly suffering in life. @op The situation your sister as found herself could be, no no. Not “could be” but a blessing for her, the first lover and the new man. I hope she does not fall to the den of emotions and make a right decision.

hmmm.
You’re completely right sha.
However , I’ll advise every man out there to build their own life first.
And when you make it to the top , settle with someone in your class( taste) , don’t be clouded my love and emotions.

UnusualEmissary:
EDITED!

Who is the better man amongst the two of them?

I'm talking on the basis of who your sister should make her husband. Getting married to someone shouldn't be a matter of favour or reward. A person has to be fit, qualified and show enough potential and promise before he can become a husband.

The first guy has contributed to your sister's life, no doubt. And she can always show gratitude towards his efforts and repay him back, maybe not in the same way he helped her but in other ways that can equally benefit him. But not with marriage as there are certain requirements to consider in a man before we can agree that he becomes a husband to a woman

So aside financial capacity, considering all the other qualities necessary for a husband and father to possess, who is the better man between the two?

I don't know everything about both of them but at least, I know this.

The first guy impregnated your sister and they have a child out of wedlock (your sister has her share of blame too). The second guy is taking a more honourable step by declaring his interest in marriage to your sister and seems serious about it.

In this regard, the second scores quite higher as he seems more responsible and upright.

That's definitely not the only thing to consider but it's part of it.

So don't attach emotions to the matter. There are certain criteria and requirements to look into before accepting that a person should play a certain role. So simply consider/assess both men and choose which one is more suitable to become a good husband and father to her children.

If the first man happen not to be the suitable one, considering how much he has contributed into her life, your sister can consider making up for that and everybody moves on.

only an ingrate will make this kind of statement .
Na your type Dey make person fear women.

Greatblackpimp:
I rented my first apartment at 21 and didnt become sexually active till 24. I also bought a car early in life and I hardly drove it or carried ladies in it. I am not religious by the way. I am 36 now. Get rid of your myopic way of thinking. Some people value their privacy and peace of mind alot.
I dont see why a grown man of 23 will be living with his parents ...in a sane economy people get married at 23

there’s difference between reading to understand and reading to argue.

We’re saying the same thing in different ways. Re read what I posted.

whichway007:
i made the greatest mistake in life,i married a financial disaster

how

Societies blame men for this kind thing and I don’t like it. This is a decision of two adults

EriMma1:
That's their cup of tea. Abstinence still remains the best.

A man should be forced to marry any woman he impregnates first to teach him a lesson. So that in his next life he'll learn to control himself.

Some men don't like to listen to advice when you try to caution them to lead a decent life until they fall into a ditch. Then you see them trying to get off the hook. Na lie. Make e hook them there.

My ex thought he was doing me. We had a little misunderstanding. Not really a misunderstanding like that. We just stopped communicating for a while. You know this issue of "he didn't call me, I won't call. She didn't call, I won't call. It lingered for a while and me as a fine girl wen I be, I just blanked him. No be woman dey find man abeg.

Do you know this zombie started sleeping with anything sexable? To the point of sleeping with an old lady that sells palm oil, Maggie, crayfish and those kinda stuff haha... For someone who claims he's a fine boy with his Americana lifestyle. ** men don't have class when it comes to konji**.

The next thing, nwanyi crayfish don carry belle. Hahahaha...
The mugu wanted to play smart. E hook am. For two good years he didn't go and do anything on the womans head.when the baby boy arrived, he looked so much like my ex. As in.... Chai! I don laugh Taya. Even after the baby was born, aboki still dey zuzu. He didn't want to marry iya elepo.

He now remember fine girl. He came to my place. I was just laughing at him. He was still trying to form Americana. I just dey laugh say see this nwanyi crayfish husband. He was now discussing marriage with me. I just shook my head. Men!!!

After one year of not returning his calls much following his visit to my house ( in fact I told him I moved so he'll stop coming around), uncle finally succumbed and married the woman. Now, he's making life miserable for the woman.

Every time, the lady is posting one sorrowful text or the other about relationship on her Facebook status. The guy is taking out his frustrations on her. The last time I checked my nwunye dim, she was looking two times older than my guys mother. No jokes. Just that I can't post her pics here. Chai...

I'm happy he ended that way. Let him live in regrets for the rest of his life for his lack of control.

Many men have lost their happiness this way and many will still lose if they continue sleeping around like untamed dogs.

why are you monitoring the their lives?