₦airaland Forum

See dem , forming big boys. We d babes know hw far naa, but no wahala shaa, afterall we dont mind wen u guyz form big boyz in public, wen d chips are down, we know u all are babies.

Women don suffer.. Abeg no b only women de lie about age oo. I remember in Uni all those small boys in d same department be forming big boys acting and claiming they are waaay older dan u. Always telling to shut up and calling u small girl. Meanwhile some old pot bellied papas are wearing body hugging tops, neck chains and sneakers be forming dey are young... All of dem na lie lie too naa

nice..... Its not d gift dat counts its the thought that matters .

I wonder wat guyz mean wen dey say "she will b a liability'. Whether we like it or not, one of the main duties of a husband after being the spiritual head and the protector is to be d 'primary provider' of the family. Not dat a wife cant help, dont get me wrong, but i dont think guyz shuld place a womans financial status any where in d top of the list of qualities of a wife. OP pls assess their characters and other important qualities a good wife shuld have. In a good marriage, a woman brings to d table, much more dan financial help. Husband and wife have dia different God given roles, so in my opinion, that Labake mismanaged her bizness and has no savings or that Shalewa has a good Job and is financially stable shuldnt b criteria for discarding or choosing either of dem.

dabriggs:
Some people expect us to behave like Europeans.
but we are Africans. we are Nigerians.
There are so many reasons people behave the way they do. People line up before boarding so that they can find space to put their carry on bags.
They rush out of the planes because of immigration wahala at the airport. The heat and queue alone. The stress of getting your luggage etc.
There are many reasons why we behave the way we do. And these things make us special. We must not always judge ourselves by silly European standards.

Here Someone asked me why I love signing anytime I pass by. The tradition is that they all put on head phones. I hate head phones and they are risky in traffic. Lots of accidents and near misses occur due to the use of earphones here. Despite the good traffic and pedestrian safety provisions.
I told him it is a thing I learnt from my parents. It is African. My mum sings when doing the lundry, my dad hums a tune. Infact at times they both sing the same song. It is not to impress anybody. Call it slave mentality bla bla bla. It is something that makes me happy. I sing songs that give me hope and encourage me. Besides I told him I see a lot of them sing out loud even with the ear phone on. So why should mine be different?
While I am learning to observe and respect their norms, I cannot wait to come home and sing to my hearts content.
. By the way my screen savers and desktop photos are only beautiful sites in Nigeria. Fellow students see it and ask ''Is this Nigeria? It is beautiful''.

nice... I also love d little things that make us who we are. It actually amuses me and kind of makes me happy. I alwayz wonder why it annoys some ppl. I argue with friends all the time wen dey complain about naija.

NwaNimo1:
Why are they not burning the Nigerian flag?

Israel and the UK didn't massacre their people on this occasion . . .

i was about to write d same tin oo... I hope its not fake news. Seems absured dat they are burning uk and Isreali flags infront of Nigerian embassy. Doesnt make sense to me.. Or maybe naija flag scarce to get for there, or i am missing something.

So who will call Dangote and his truck drivers to order. The rate of accidents involving his trucks is on the increase everday. Thank u Jesus for saving my husband from a terrible accident last month involving d same Dangote truck. God plz protect ur people ooo.

A lot of ppl just comment on nairaland after reading topics instead of reading d write up. All of u talking about workers salaries yet to be paid, d guy building d statue is not the governor neither is he even in the government naa... Haba. He is just a devout catholic that feels like building a statue in the catholic church of his village snd i believe he is free to do whatever he likes with his money.

Fanirandele:
you are right however i think Nigerians are very hypocritical with the whole take the baby to the Orphanage . How many of you here have ever adopted a child from the Orphanage or are planning to do so? If more people adopt that would encourage women who can't take care of the babies or rape victims to have the child and drop them at Orphanages because they will be sure that there is a better chance of them getting adopted and having a good family life.

while i agree with u on the fact that adoptions shuld b promoted, its my opinion that whether ppl adopt or not is the last thing on d mind of the one who finds herself with the option of aborting an unwanted pregnancy. She culd care less whether ppl are open to adoption or not. Abortions are mostly chosen out of shame and stigma. Even wen u beg ladies not to go ahead with their decision to abort and assure them dat their baby will be taken care of, they would rather still go ahead with the abortion if they have the funds and means to do so, than endure the 9months. Most who end up not goin through with it, either do so out of not having the means or funds, out of fear, or concience. My point is dat d percentage thinking about d possibility of giving up d baby for adoption is very minimal, so in as much as i also encourage that we promote adoption in Nigeria, it will still hv little or no effect on reducing d prevalence of abortions. Remember, even in developed countries where there are very good orphanages and adoption is very well practiced. Abortions are still the order of day. *shrugging my shoulders*

Cheiii, see white chair... I just de imagine wetin ds chair go look like after one month in my house with my area scatter kids. Dem go use am do tie and die.

Whats d big deal about dem not being able to remarry sef... Millions of widows never remarry for goodness sake. Abeg ds is not news

Na only for naija car dey b like one big tin.... SMH. A serious 26 yr old dude abroad with better job go just sling eem laptop bag across eem shoulder ride eem bike or take d bus or train to work mnwhile naija 26 yr old who might still be searching for a decent job and probably still doesnt hv a worthy accomodation to lay his head will own a car dat needs lots money for fuel and maintenance. I tire for naija mentality.

Wetin man go do to satisfy man. SMH... So this baby fairness and beauty don become wahala now...
Like say she dark and ugly now.... Na d same pply wey de complain say na because d pikin fine d governor and eem wife adopt her, go still write.. "So of all d fine children for d ophanage na ds wowo pikin dem see." na wa oooo... I tire for humanbeings

Why dont i believe ds story?..... Not that it isnt possible oo, but some ppl just enjoy and take pleasure in reading d numerous comments dat follow their made up stories. Its also kind of a high.

Invaded her house at about 10pm... Does she live alone? Am just asking oo, cos shes just 16. I tire for some stories on ds nairaland. Well nothing is impossible in naija.

The way the Abachas suddenly resurfaced into Naija limelite eeh... Na wa oo. I swear for some years i totally forgot about dem, and all of a sudden. .. they are everywhere.

This "End time" comment never tire una? Na wa oo, the thing isnt funny anymore naa. It used to crack me up until it became overused. its time to come up with something else...

Why is it so hard for ppl (especialy men) to believe that there are women who truly dont mind being unmarried?

My comment is for those condemmig the use of househelps, well, while having househelps are risky, its really hard to do without dem honestly, moreover whats without its own share of risks. Just as there are bad househelps and bad madams, there are also many good ones and good employers. Everytin in this world has good and bad. We dont throw away a whole crate of eggs just because we stumbled on a bad one or even a few bad ones. I believe a lot of househelps especially those from very poor homes who are lucky to hv good employers have had better lives than they would hv ordinarily had. So we shuldnt just condemm d whole process. Its all about luck shaa. Whether adult or child help, proffessional or u proffessional, its all about luck. There are evil adult nannies out there as well. Women should just be careful, cautious and prayerful. My girl has bn with me for close to 5yrs now. Am not bragging, but i believe she would hv probably left by now if i wasnt treating her right. And i honestly believe we have bettered her life. I dont want to start saying we did ds or did dat for her but she stays with us like shes a relative. I must confess she too has bn good evn though we also hv d regular madam/househelp moments.. U know hw teenagers are. Honestly i dint expect her to stay this long, I alwayz expect her not to return anytime she travels to see her ppl because dats what many of dem do, they keep jumping from place to place, but am alwayz suprised dat she alwayz comes bak, i guess she would rather stay with us dan in her village. (We hv bn to her place, we went to see her mum shortly after her cousin who was my sisters friend brought her to us. Kai, ppl are suffering oo abeg.) I would do the same too, if i were in her shoes. Well like i said its all about luck. If a househelp, (especially those from very poor background is lucky to hav a gd employer, its usually to d househelps gain and same goes for an employer whos luck t get a good help. Well, am enjoying her while it lasts cos of course she wont stay forever. Thank God my kids are growing and will be able to take care of themselves and d house very soon. .

Dinocarex:
This came out like 2002 na. Take us real back mehn!!!!

exactly, i was wondering too, cos i cant remember takin that gsm drink. Maybe my younger ones did.

Eyaaaa, smh.... Sorry guyz, marriage is much more than sex appeal. Whats so special about a lady wearing bum shorts cooking. There is much more to marriage than that.

Qualer:
she is 33, it's normal human nature. you don't expect her to look like she diid 15years ago! Somebody wey dem born the year she won her crown is almost out of secondary school... it's called time and it will happen to you and everybody no exception!!!

thank u oo, i keep wondering at ppl who alwayz say someone is gettin or looking old whether we are supposed to just remain d same year after year. Na wa ooo

[quote author=SaintHephzibah post=40279752][/quote]my bros thank u oo, i keep wondering at ppl who alwayz say someone is gettin or looking old whether we are supposed to just remain d same year after year. Na wa ooo

otiigba1:
Yep! Same way i bought three piece of lands for 600k in some bush some were and my uncle thought that i am crazy, people were just going there to shi!t and bury their dead and throw away rubbish, now 2015 banks businesses are begging me to sell to them for 12 mill naira.

And is the same uncle of mine who is my agent now.

yes oo my bros, just like my hubbys friend thinks am crazy the day i went to show both of them the plots i bought. I bought mine just 150k each. I was so discouraged after dat visit and hv bn thinking about selling it off. But this post just gave me hope. I will just forget about it for a few more years, who knows what that area may turn out to be. Already i noticed a big secondary school just started around there. Thats the only building existing there for now. And a major road was being carved out along it by the previous governor, hopefully this new one will continue the construction. And am even lucky my plots are not far from the road. Am super excited right now.

Wow... And i was thinking of selling some plots of land i bought about 4yrs ago, d tin dey one kind bush area like that, was wondering wen dat area go begin develop. This gvs me hope oo, cos i noticed one secondary school just started around there recently. I will just forget it for another few years and see. Hopefully by then my land go don appreciate and may be a gold mine for me. . I bought it for almost nothing oo. Why am i sunddenly gettin excited... Lol

SIRTee15:
all the above u mentioned are spirits.
stay away from them as much as possible.
any drink with alcoholic content greater than 20% must have been distilled and is not a wine.
they offer no health benefit.

thumbs up!

Perfectwazobia:
EVA wine , Chamdor wine etc are red grape wine and not juice .Proof me wrong,the fruit of the vine use for the Lord super when fresh is nonalcoholic unless it is left to ferment .
Why do we have alcoholic and non alcoholic wine in the market.

there is nothing like non alcoholic wine my dear. Its ppl, especially in naija dat use dat phrase. Check d bottles, its always written red or white grape juice. Its only on the alcoholic bottles u see red wine, or white wine etc. Once it says wine, it contains alcohol

LEGALAide:
Remember too that john never shaved his hair.
Hope you don't shave yours.
Just asking Mr. Man.

... That was so funny.

raayah:

What's your opinion about single fathers?
Its very sexist placing blame to women when we have men walking away from their families and leaving their children behind. A man will decide to impregnate a woman and leave her to cater for herself and kids . Yet, the society won't let women who have decided to pick up the slack left by these irresponsible men REST. Behind every single mother there is an IRRESPONSIBLE AND ABSENTEE FATHER. Why can't men decide to raise their kids , since they want a child with a male role model so badly.

I apologize for my rant but the sexist talk on nairaland gets to me a lot. A lot of men who have no idea about women and the oppression they face in Nigeria just come to nairaland and talk off hand.

my sister d sexist talks also gets to me. My sister had to lv her abusive and violent husband. He wont only abuse her but d kids also. He wuld slap, kick and fling d little ones at the slightest provocation. He wuld refuse to pay schl fees or medical bills just to upset and punish my sis cos she wasnt workin and he knew ds alwayz made her frantic, i guess it was part of his emotional control over her cos she had to alwayz cry and beg for d money. She finally got d courage to leave. Now she has a good job and the kids are better taken care of, they are happier than we remembered them, I remember they used to just sit around sad, moping and dint talk much then. As sad as it sounds, in my opinion, dose kids are having a better life without their father. I know dis is an isolated case but there are so many similar situations where one of d parent had to like u said, 'pick up d slack left by the other'. At the end of the day, even though i personally agree that both parents in a childs life is the best, the fact remains that its very possible for a single parent, most especially a single mother to successfully bring up emotionally balanced and well behaved kids.

I laff in spanish... All of u asking op to hire good lawyer, shebi na d money wey op no get to buy better brand of paracetamol eem go take hire d lawyer, abi d lawyer go do d case pro bono? Hahahaha... Na naija we dey ooo, d case fit reach 3 yrs oo, nothing concern lawyer o, eem own na to de collect eem appearance fee. OP abeg just thank God, throway d yeye tablet for dusbin.

Guyz... Guyz, haba, he probably dint re-read what he typed. He probably meant to write
I am now at camp, Thank u God, he just missed the T in 'at' and added S to his 'thank'. These things happen naa, even as am reading our own comments i hv spotted so many typo errors as well.
Meanwhile... Even if he actually doesnt know hw to write or speak English properly, asking if he is employable cos of bad grammer is very funny, because we all know how it is naija, gettin a job has largely nothing to do with ur command of English.... Some gradutes with good jobs cant write English well, some who can speak and write it excellently are still carrying their worn out files around. We all know that its either u are one of d few lucky ones who get employed on merit or u are one of d many with long legs.... God will help us.

Honestly instead of wasting precious time in school only to cheat to pass exams.. why not pay less to learn a trade or a skill and if u put ur mind to it u will be perfect in a shorter time than years u wuld waste trying to acquire fake education. Naija na wa oo. Some people hav time to waste shaa. My greatest admirer is a classmate of mine who actually dropped out of school due to learning difficulties. She was like abeg instead of wasting time cheating in exams make she kuku go learn catering. We thought she was kidding and after our first year she never came bak. She spent d remainin years in a catering school. Omo today, with my Bsc i no see her back oo. She is a very successful caterer. Well renowned. She even has a catering school in addition to her two top notch full african cuisine eatries. She recently started a bakery too. I de always marvel at her story.