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Snipes009:
If it's still the same husband from the start, I think that man deserves a medal! Unless he's got kids out of wedlock during the course of waiting...

i hope u know that men too hv fertility problems. For every couple struggling with fertility issues, either the man has problems or the woman or both. It could well be dat it was the man who was the one with problems and it was the woman who was faithfully waiting and praying. It could still be her too. Just saying. I hv a friend whose marriage will be 9yrs this year, no child. This caused a lot of tension and quarells until it turned out its her hubby who is the one with issues with his sperm. Now dem no de quarell again... The guy has taken all sorts of hormonal drugs and injections. She even confided in me that a nurse at the hospital they go to, suggested she meets another man behind her husband's back that no one will know and that lots of ladies whose husbands hv fertility problems are doing it. Fertilty problem in a marriage is not easy at all

Chinwendym:
Go to the ivf/iui thread here on NL and see how many women have done this same ivf and it fails them over and over! Done in the best hospitals with the best brains that money can afford!

My sister na God do am for her period.

my dear ooo. U dey mind dem?

Mtcheeew.... even if na true, even if na yesterday e happen, honestly who cares?

Sirmuel1:
Can we just be quiet for a while?

aswear!

In short eeehh, i don tire for naija gist. D tin don de gv me migrain headache.

Nice..... Mnwhile, they just had to use their yellow and blue somehow...

I choose to follow Jesus, no turning back.

If in the end it turns out He wasnt real... I loose nothing,

but if He's real, u all who dont believe He exists loose ur life to eternal damination.

Who is wiser?

musKeeto:
Epic.

I tell u.

Everybodys talking about women loving money blablabla... So rich men who like marrying their childrens age, no casting for them abi? Is it truely hounourable the way these men go about marrying their daughters. What does a matured man who has a wife and grown up children and sometimes grandkids want with a girl or lady his children's age, talk more of wanting to marry her as wife. Is it hounourable? Or is anyone honestly goin to tell me its love. Abeg make una leave women alone oo, men ma de fall hand. If una wan cast, let it go round. As far as am concerned (even though these kind of marriages personally dont appeal to me) if society condone these rich men who pick young wives for what ever reason that appeals to them, then same should go for the young ladies who marry them for their money. Na one-one naa.

Someone once said... We are both guilty so dont judge me, I just sin differently than you.

Nigeria has got talent... Season.....

Na wa ooo, women don suffer. Shebi na man and woman i de see entangled together for ds picture.... Abi na for only my phone man and woman de show. See as ds babe don recieve nairaland bashing finish as if d guy was forced to do d thing.. (whatever it was dey were doing). If una wan tongue lash, make una tongue lash both of them naa.

At least they are now on nairaland...

jeff1607:
sister,i didn't say d sensation MUST be like peeing ooooo, is like wen describing paain, words aarent enuf to describe it. I only mention dat cos it's a bit close to dat, u know like wen u hold urine for aa long time n u finally release it.

sometimes guys are fooled by a girl peeing n they think it's orgasm whereas the guy might ve been putting pressure while thrusting, and dats y I also said dat thrusting doesn't always lead to orgasm but stimulation of clitoris, remember ladies differ, u only need understanding of aa lady to truly pleasure her.

My God u ladies are just too complicated to please, lol

lol.. U try sha but as a guy, i dont think u shuld attempt describing female orgasm. U are right about it being difficult to explain, even as a woman i cant really describe it well to u, just as u may not be able to fully make me understand hw it feels for a guy. Meanwhile, the peeing dat often happen just before or during orgasm is due to d uncontrolled muscular contractions taking place at dat moment which often cause d bladder to contract and release its content. With practice and experience a lady can largely control ds action. Theres a lot more goin on at dat moment and trust me wen i say its no where near being 'a bit close' to d sensation of releasing urine after holding it for a long time. As a lady i dont really know hw it feels for u guyz but i think its safe to say its equally intense if not more. As for us being too complicated to plesse.... Yeah... u gat dat right. . God must hv hs reasons for wiring us dat way.

sukkot:
I personally think you are wrong. its just that most times guys cant be bothered to go the extra length to make the woman orgasm due to various reasons like maybe she is not too fine so you are just there for your own pleasure or maybe the odor down there is not too pleasant etc etc. but trust me when a man meets a worthy babe ? he will make sure she cums at all cost. jus sayin. so check yourself before you wreck yourself

story!

jeff1607:
no mata how big or small your organ is,the females would still wanna experiment wirh some other guy.

try workin on your stamina and pre-intimacy esp with your fingers, even as small aa a finger is, women stil reach orgasm with just fingers alone.

even guys with huge joystick has never made any girl reach orgasm. 80 percent of girls or women may never experience orgasm, some don't even know how it feels, some think a lady must squirt even she reaches orgasm, whereas it's just d feeling or being pressed to pee.


work on your stamina n pre-intimacy methods, u could even last 3hours, most women won't get satisfaction from thrusting, somee just @ d entrance.

if all these don't work, look for a girl who dislike sex cos they aare plenty. #nuffsaid

my bros u are so wrong on the bolded. Most ladies do experience orgasm, just not during sex with u guyz, guess why, because truly truly, even though u maynot agree with me many of u have no clue how to bring a lady to climax. So we help ourselves(masturbate) mostly wen alone. Thats not to say ladies dont hv orgasms during actual sex, with experienced lovers, ladies do hv orgasms, but many just pretend so that their man dont feel bad about his innability to satisfy her, trust me, many times wen u guyz are doing sometin thats not pleasurable, some ladies just pretend to hav come, so dat u'll just get it over and done with. (this shuldnt b the case though, communication is key to good love making)
Bottom line is, we do have orgasms, plenty of it for dat matter, just dat its mostly not during sex with guyz. Cos many guyz are inexperienced in how to pleasure a woman, not neccessarily that they are bad in bedmatics.

About female orgasm being a feeling like being pressed to pee...... Oooooh booooy, i cant even begin to tell u how wroooooooong u are. .

Skanas:
*in flavour's voice* : e bi do sie ona'to darling -darling...e bi do sie ona'da I luv-I luv u....
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Wish u guys all u wish ya sefs finally...

Na so oo

Anoder blockbuster from NAIRALAND LIE-LIE STORIES PRODUCTIONS. Keep it up!

Boring thread... *yawns*

Donmams:
Dear Frank, your statement makes little sense. You starved your wife of sex for 3 weeks and she is so disturbed she had to attack you in this way.
However what i find funny is that your wife who u claimed is sleeping around suddenly turns around to retaliate for starving her of sex. I would think if she truly slept around she would care less whether u slept with her or not. Sex starvation would be the least of her problems.
It appears it is you who is the victim of your wickedness to your wife. You should come up with a better story.

my thoughts exactly.... Not excusing what she did though.

abdoolorunwa:
THEN SHE MUST HAVE A VERY GENUINE REASON.

Very true.

These kind of threads always intrests me. I shake my head and smile when i read certain comments cos i know dat most of the nairaland guyz who form hard men with their comments, are d very ones women control. Well nothing wrong in dat sha, we all can play make believe on nairaland, its allowed, but those who are actually married know its no longer as simple as ABC like in our forefathers dayz. In a good marriage where there is love and respect on both sides a man would respect his wife's opinion and wishes and vice versa. Only in a marriage that already has k-leg will a man b willing to quarell with his beloved wife over a friend comin into town for just two days. I have had to deny my sister from coming for hols one certain time my hubby wasnt in a gd mood and dint approve of her coming. I culd hv insisted and had a huge fight that wouldn't hv bn worth it, plus my sis wouldn't hv enjoyed her stay. My husband at certain points in our marriage has also had to gv up certain ideas and requests i dint approve of. Couples should just learn to love and respect each other thats all. More so, saying 'NO' by either party could also b a saving grace, not all 'NO' is said to be sturborn or to control. Some 'NO's have actually saved many families from trouble. Thats not to say that there should be no compromises either.

TeOwl:
Speak for yourself please... dont assume everyone is like you that would walk pass a NAK.ED and hungry child in your area... say you would have done it dont say ME and YOU... dont assume we are all like you....

on a serious note, I am not ds horrible person u are making me out to be. U hv just decided to twist my comment out of context. i dont know why u are taking ds personal, i dint specifically mention u. Wen i said 'me and u' I was referring to those insulting ppl dat may hv walked by, because some of dem may hv also walked by too. i actually said 'me and u' so dat i dont sound self righteous. I was encouraging us to stop insulting and just learn to be more kind from d story. I wonder what i wrote dat is so wrong. Since u obviously dont want to understand where i am comin from let me just lv it alone. Plz I am sorry if i annoyed u in any way. Take care bro.

TeOwl:
Please speak for yourself... some of us would NEVER had walked passed that boy without trying to help!

I remember some years back on a Sunday morning, I was strolling around my neighbourhood and I saw a girl of around 3 years alone on a lonely street and crying... immediately I walked up to her and started comforting her and I WAITED FOR OVER 20 MINUTES with her till her elder brother and sister came to meet us and I angrily shouted at the two of them for leaving such a young child alone...

So, just say that if it was you would have walked pass without helping... don't say ME and YOU!

years back?.... So d whole of last month u never walked passed any scruffy looking kid or person in need. Habaa, they are everywhere naa. Well i have made my point to those who understand my comment. I only said we shuld stop with d insults and just learn from d story. I have not said anyone is a devil, i also hv a heart and i hv also done and still do my own share of good but my point was that we can learn to do more. Since u are one of d righteous ones, more greese to ur elbow, allow us d sinners to learn... Mr 'I WAITED FOR OVER 20 MINUTES' .. see how u wrote it in capital.. Lol. for ur mind eeh, u did one big tin .

Many ppl here who are busy laying curses and blaming Nigerians for being the most wicked ppl are ppl the very one who still pass children like ds boy on the streets everyday and do nothing. Lets just bless the kind woman and pray to God to gv us her kind of heart and just maybe, the world will be a better place. Theres no need for all the insults and cursing because trust me.... Me and U would hv walked passed this little boy and done nothing. Stories like these are just meant to encourage us to be better ppl.

Tomorro now, he will release medical report dat she smokes canabis. Mtcheeew... Yeye boy

idealsico:
If you are waiting for lenten season before you do away with your sins then you are not serious. Living a life of righteousness should be a daily routine. You don't struggle to abstain from sin only for a season. What if God takes you life back before the season comes. Everybody will stand before God to give account of his stewardship on earth. You need to repent from your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and personal saviour. Except a man is born again he can not see the kingdom of God. If you repent genuinely, the Holy Spirit will guide you on successful Christian living. Take that bold initiative today. God bless you.

u are very right brother but the problem is that many people dont even understand what lent is. Its like when penticostals have for example a 21day revival programme just to win new souls for God and then to reach out to backsliding members to retrace their steps and be revived once again. But of course just like u would still have ppl who will be really touched and serious only for that 21days and still go back to their sinful ways after the programme, thats how u see unserious ones who just try to be righteous only for that lent period. But ultimately their are people who truly do repent during the lent programme and subsequently after, strive through the help of the Holy Spirit to live a righteous life that pleases God. The thing is just that some people are not just serious with their christian lives

Why do we hate so much. If u dont understand something just lv it alone or better still ask for clearification in an understanding and respectful manner. To all those making castigating comments about Lent and ofcourse making subtle refrences to the ways of the catholic church. Lent is just a period of retreat, a time to once again reflect on ur life and repent and retrace ur steps and make d decesion to live a holy life subsequently. No one has said its just a period u stay away from sin and den go back to dem after. Why would any church even preach that. Even in penticostal churches i believe there are certain revival programmes, crusdes and confrences organized occationally to win souls for christ or like a revival to get people who have backslided to reflect and retrace their steps. Thats what lent is for goodness sake. Its a revival program. Why cant we just learn to be tolerant, understanding and respecting of other ppls beliefs and ways. And we always wonder why the body of christ cannot grow. Sometimes i wonder why we get upset when muslims show dislike for us wen among us christians, denomination is against denomination. SMH. If we cant tolerate ourselves what do we expect from outsiders. If christ can love those who dont even acknowledge him as God, then who are we to continually castigate each other. My brothers and sisters, we may never fully understand each others wayz but we can tolerate and respect each other and lv judgement for God.

Wow.. Thats great. Congrats to her. But hope it wont degenarate to posing nudde and sleeping with managers and agents to get ahead... Cos if that will be the case, ee go better to just de sell her bread oo. Better to earn an honest living no matter how little than to loose ur integrity for riches of this world.

taurus21:
Chewing and slurping noises gets me really angry and someone close to me is guilty of this habit and not aware that I can't stand it. Now the problem is, how do I tell the person without hurting her feelings? And is there any chance that this habit be can stopped?

honestly if u guyz are close like u said u were, telling her shouldnt be a problem. If u are finding it difficult to point it out, then u guyz arent that close. Just politely let her know about it, be sensitive in ur choice of words. Truly if this is a close friend like u said, she shouldnt be that hurt. Mnwhile.... Bear in mind that in true friendship, sometimes we just have to tolerate certain habits. My hubby is a nose picker, (only wen we are alone though) i hate that thing with a passion, i have politely made it known a zillion times and begged him to do it in private, but the guy picks his nose anywayz. We go just de gist, he go just de look me de pick eem thing. I hv learned to live with it. Am sure there are certain habits of mine he has also overlooked. Thats life for u.

ChikezieU:
You missed the line the op is not against educating girls, moreover he said "most of the girls"... Not all

i dint miss anything. I know exactly what op is saying. His argument is that it becoming more of a waste of money to educate a girl since 'most girls' (whatever u guyz mean by dat cos i dont agree) will still look for rich guys to marry instead of being self reliant and make their own money. My argument is that there is more to education dan ending up being rich and all that. If we hv to ask dat ridiculous question op is suggesting we ask our female children b4 we decide and make up our mind whether to give our daughters education (so that it doesnt end up being a waste of money) then the same should be asked a male child too, cos as much girls who are out there looking for money with their 'bodies' after their parents hv supposedly wasted money to train them (as op put it), are also many guys who are also graduates looking for money who have resorted to 419, yahoo-yahoo, armed robbery, pimping, rituals and lots more. So i can safely say dat educating both males and females have the same risks and problems. Ur Male child who u spent money to educate culd still end up useless. The quest and obssecion for wealth is another issue on its own and it affects both sexes. The last thing that should be on the mind of a father or mother before carrying out any duty as a parent is ur childs gender. Just do ur duty as a parent, pray for ur kids whether male or female to make u proud, leave everything to God and hope for the best.

God! What did i just read? I cant believe that In this age and time, young enlightened ppl like the op and those liking his post are of the opinion that educating a girl child is a waste. Plz parents, if u can afford it, educate ur girl child, theres more to education than ending up with a good job and getting rich. Infact may i use this opportunity and medium to celebrate my Dad as i always do, everyday of my life. We are 6 girls and our only brother who is the last and the only one still in uni. As a matter of fact we are the ones paying his fees now cos we hv asked our parents to relax and enjoy themselves. We are all graduates and am proud to say we are all outstanding in our various fields, some of us are professionals some are not, but thats not even the remarkable thing about us. I bet u, u would never meet a group of beautiful, smart, witty, confident sisters with very high self esteem like us. Infact when our husbands come together, the unknowingly talk endlessly about us and compare us like its a game of who married the smartest sister. I thank God for our parents that believed in us especially my Dad who never considered us lesser humans because we wr girls. We are not rich (that kind of world definition of rich) our husbands are not rich either but our parents are reaping the fruits of their labour. Even my uncles hv made envious statements to my dad on several occasions. I can tell u that he raised better children and is a prouder father than most of them who had more of boys. My friends always say that i cant hv a conversation without mentioning my dad, and its true because i just cant stop celebrating the man.

Abeg give ur children, whether boy or girl the best education u can afford, make una no mind op.