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Islie:
PUNCH

Dem must chop money

Fahdiga:
It baffles me on how two lovers that danced together on their wedding day will suddenly become sworn enemies. this life no balance at all

My brother you see marriage wahala let it fly, you might not know what the man must have suffered and endured from the hands of the woman.
Na the woman part you hear.

Tbvxl:
I happen to start dating this girl late December 2020. We were so doing fine all through last month not until this February when I began having this premonition towards her. I'd notice anytime we are together she'd Always AppLock her Whatsapp,on the long run I found my way to open it and gosh I read all of her chat with 3 different guys . What I saw ehnnn almost had me run mad,lol ! . Just imagine the one I claimed to love sending nude to a particular guy(although we hadn't begun dating then), this same guy was asking if she enjoyed the way he bleeped her ,babe was like he didn't even try. On the long run I noticed they have been making out since long before I came into the picture. I was even asking her if she was single before we started dating she told me yes. Asked her her the last time she had sex ,she said some years back (2017) and some months and it's just been with the guy that broke her hymen. This girl is a fucking cheat and a liar. I have had the plan of taking her serious but trust me I will just act like everything is cool and do the worst to her in the Future.
She claims to have a bestie ,yet she updates the guys pics and names every now and then on her Whatsapp status not even me her BF. Why are girls like this? Why don't they like a honest guy ? I even promised the bit*h to be faithful to her and I will never double date come what maybe. Yet she betrayed my trust . To hurt me the most they have got intimate again this year . How on earth will I be in a relationship with a girl and another guy is straffing her?
I am thinking of letting her know about it but still if I should tell her ,she might want to break up with me . I just seen a reason why some niggars chose to be a playboy .
PS: I asked her about the supposed guy but she said they are just friends and nothing is happening btwn them.


What should I do guys?
Should I let her know about it that I read her chat or I just keep playing along with her?

From what you wrote you are the one dating her while she is not dating you.
Learn stop loving someone with all your hear of not it be lol be shattered .
Guy move on and see her as one of the people in your gallery .

fablouzLeged:
Pls I am 22 years of age a student but my damage hair is making me reluctant to even meet my Friends I am alway in face cap

It started in July 2020 when I decided to start bathing cold showers in the morning everyday and each time I enter the shower I always put my hair directly I will use brush and scrub my head hair because of dandruff I don't know that I was harming my hair I was doing that until one day my sister tell me am loosing my hair as I checked the mirror I was shocked and we are about to resume to school for that reason I started buying different oil ,and plenty hair products but no result



In early 2020 I have my thicker hair until July 2020 this thing Happen

I shave my hair but the back hair always grow fast and thicker


Pls help me I finished all my savings in buying hair products just to see quicker result but no its even started affecting my concentration in school I Always hide from my Friend s

My fellow nairalders please if you have any recommendation on how to revert my hair please help

Stop eating money trying to change nature.
My advice for you is to start cutting skin cut if you are too ashamed of your looks.

How do I save this

my sister please dont complain our president is doing well just be patient, when the prices finish rising it will start to come down.

this is 2021 miracle, well done ma.
let me hide my head before all this over sabi people say na genetic mutation.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

you want a genuine advice

kindly leave her and start something new.
You dont have to beg to be loved.
If she feels you are not her standard guy move on.
I know it might be difficult but you are doing yourself good if you drop her .

PissfulProtester:
https://punchng.com/police-probe-apostle-suleman-for-allegedly-sleeping-with-pastors-wife/

Attachment:
Suleman, Faith and Davids

someone slept with your wife you dey petition IG of police.
my brother let the woman go if and save yourself issues.
On the other hand of not allowing you to see your kids , na true you dey talk so?

Ghostrye:
Bros this your own stingy a pro max o

Haha bros we have to keep it real men are not smiling .

5hanklee:
This babe just sent nûdez to me and it's around 10.7m.b. Should I download it with my data or someone should on hótspôt for me?

Please I need advice from the certified stingy men.

Wait to see her then download it with her data.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

My brother this might not be as easy as you think but pray for God guidance.
First of all how do you confront the man that has been taking care of the young man since birth (what will you do or how will you feel if it is the other way around.

Secondly from your story the woman involved can do anything for a better life.
I think she dumped and had to marry the other guy because you might not be too well to do then. Now the reverse is the case and she wants to play a mind game with you and open office for your head.

Thirdly to me resemblance is the least thing you based your judgement on. Had it been she did not tell you the baby is yours you will not see any connection with the child even if you stand face to face with the baby.

What I would advice you to do if you really want to know the truth is for you to tell the lady involved to fix a date that you would come to their house to see the husband, she should also tell her own people to be there because you will be coming with yours and if possible the husband people too should be there.

Tell her on that day she would say it with her own mouth to the hearing of all present. From what transpires that day would determine the next line of action to take.

If she does not agree to this my brother focus on your family and be happy with your wife and kids that you can confirm that are yours .

May the Lord be your strength

nittly:
I opened a piggy vest app and I created my details for login, so it ask for BVN, I want to ask is it safe to put my BVN on the app for security purpose

It is safe so far and quite reliable .

Dissap:
Xup guys! Good night!
Silly me, huh? I don't give a fvck mehn!

Na so e Dey start.

When you see people without hear they tend to be scared of everything around them.
What Kukah said are they false or truth.
If false condemn him but if truth hide your faces in shame .

BabaOwen:
The Lagos Ibadan expressway, OBJ and GEJ kept on rewarding and starting the reconstruction of the road without nothing to show for it.

PMB has constructed a rail line from Apapa port to Ibadan.

ok noted but does that mean no roads where constructed by OGJ, Yar’Adua and GEJ?
You should know that most road construction kin Nigeria is always political .
Roads where better off under GEJ than Bubu.

BabaOwen:
As for me, he has performed more better than OBJ, yaradua and GEJ in terms of building infrastructure.

Please educate me on the places he has done what you wrote ?

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

My brother let’s thank God and have a thanks giving service that she left at her own will.
Your problem is half solved, as per your child when it’s time pickin go find him papa.
Go to her people and tell them what transpired.
Be very blunt and tell th you are not taking her back.
The essence is for them not to insinuate that you used their daughter for anything . When Gm going go with some elders in your family.

Start a new life and make yourself happy.

That’s true , married men keep more platonic relationship that’s single guys.

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

Abeg finish the story what is the reason she gave ?

Report his details to EFCC (The details you paid the money to)

PUSSYHOE:
Every guy feels this exciting, joy and enthusiasm before sex but immediately after, it is the opposite of all the feelings before it.

I ain't concluding, it may not be so for other guys. Even so Can someone explain why some of us few like that? Even with the girls I love wholeheartedly I still feel like that with them. is it a biological, psychological or emotional problem? and what is the remedy?

My brother after you accomplish a mission there is Ning else.
That’s the feeling .

PrinceOfEast:
My girl has 3 close friends, but, they is this friend of her's (Chichi) this gal likes me and do give me green light any time she visits me.

Last week i fvck shege commot for her body but i don't like her pussy, eversince that sex this bitch still want another taste of my Dick.

I don't want her to expose our act to my gal...i love my gal and i don't wanna hurt her.

Should i Bleep her for the last time and pursue her?

She do send me noods but i delete them immediately.

Help a nigga to decide please.

How I go help you decide watin you don do?

chiddyok:
You didn’t answer any question you ran to insults. Don’t worry, there’s divorce so I won’t have to kill anyone.

When it comes to age am older than you are,
I am talking based on wisdom and experience am not a social media bully, troll or warrior.
Am married and if you are, am older than you in marriage.
He staying with the mother or the mother staying with him is not an issue.
If you had said he does not have a trade or does not earn an income that would have been different but staying with the mum not an issue at all.
You don’t know what they might have gone through together .
I rest my case.

luxx24:
U r nt crious

I am serious and mean it even if it’s the other way round .

luxx24:
U r nt crious

For saying the truths or what ?

Your sister never ready marry.
She should try and know the reason why the guy wants it that way and try to reach a compromise.
The guy has known his mother all his life and there might be a strong bond between both of them., she cannot just come and destroy it because he wants to marry her.
That your sister will chase the guys family from him.

Your sister has pride let her keep it to herself .

dammywapes:
You can watch it on super sport 3 or on startimes world football

Not showing on SS3 just like yesterday own Arsenal Vs Man City

IrepChrist:
And many times it is concealed and done in secrecy.... Is it Godly without the Pastor's approval.... I need sincere responses...

Secrets are better kept within than without .

Nemere2020:
https://www.independent.ng/ize-iyamu-acid-oshiomhole-must-have-mistaken-me-for-another-dean-sagay/


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0wraFMeObM

Why did he not say this some years back when they where campaigning , ok it I was padi padi when it was APC against PDP

Slurity:
Hello Nairalanders, please I need your help concerning understanding the true deduction that was supposed to be deducted from my salary. I work with a private company in Lagos and I was happy when I received my letter of appointment over a month ago because it is more than double of my take home where I resigned from before joining the new company, But i was shocked when I receive alert of 30th last month noticing that a whopping 11.5% of the gross salary is deducted as tax and others that I will soon find out. Please I need your help to understand what is actually expected from a standard deductions before I face the HR and the accountant next week.

Ask for your payslip, it will explain a lot of things to you.
Get the Nigeria personal tax calculator out in the perimeters you will able to get the exact thing .