Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.
My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)
All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.
Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.
The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time.Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.
Pls advise on what to do.
We are legally married.

My brother thank God you have found out.
If I were you, I will let her go and tell her never to come back to my house.
Change your pattern of hustle an pray for Baba God to butter your bread and give you tea.

Casdon5000:
Terrible experience with my Xiaomi note 7.
For quite some time now I have been using Xiaomi as my back up phone but I have come to notice that when ever I'm pressing my xiaomi note 7 sometimes I begin to have cramps on my hands, when I put it in my pant pocket, I start having some restlessness in my body, it's as if I'm reacting to something, my legs starts jerking, my backbone and leg bones starts hurts and even sometimes I begin to develop headache. I sincerely believe all this reactions are as a result of having my Xiaomi note 7 close by or on hold and this is beginning to give me serious concern. Sometimes I just don't want to believe it's the phone but when I don't have the phone, I don't have any of this symptoms.
I keep going to read reviews on Xiaomi note 7 to see if I can find anything.
Please I really want to ask here if there is anyone using a xiaomi note 7 and what's your discovery on the phone so far.
I like the phone and will not like to get rid of it for no reason but I just really want to know if there are something more I need to know. Health first anyway . I want your opinions for those using the same phone.

Did you tell your village people when you want to buy the phone, if not go and apologize to them.

mrAMG2:
Lol why are they looking like secondary school boys?

Because they are young�

kayusely70:
You should write petitions to ICPC&EFCC with documentary evidences.

Am not the complainant ooh.

Deathisfree:


You want them to post my funeral on NL after months. That wicked woman can do and undo.

Why I said that is for her to be on her toes.
Now if you tell your dad she will deny it and you have no evidence against her, but if you she know you saw her and still did not hear any quarrel from your dad she fears and respect you more.

Deathisfree:
Hello
I caught my stepmom sleeping with another man, my dad works in another state but stepmom didn’t know I caught her .i had to throwaway face and acted smart.

What do I do please ?

Next time make her know you saw her then act as if nothing happens .

Show his picture so we know him

timelessaproko:
Surprise! surprise, surprisingly the cash automated machines are now paying lesser notes than the 500 & 1000 regular notes.

As seen above, (see photo below) the Nigerian N200 are now being received in some areas at ATM point and that got me wondering if one is cashing twenty thousand Naira that ought to be 20 pieces of notes or 40 maximum if paying N500 notes but now that the Two Hundred Naira note is being introduced, what's the future for Nigerians in Nigeria?.
Kindly drop your thoughts below.


http://timelessaproko.com/2019/07/15/nigerians-shocked-as-atm-dispenses-lesser-notes-photos

My brothers, 200 naira no be money.
Sincerely even 100naira should be included.
Sometimes you are broke that all you have and need at a particular time is 400 naira but you can’t withdraw because minimum is 500 naira.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Don’t take a Greek gift if you don’t want to be part of them.

Sanjomi4real:

8-12 hours

So form this your estimation I need about 109 gig per month for an average 24 hours viewership .
Quite interesting

Sanjomi4real:
with 5gig ure done for a month since u don't watch TV 24hours. Doesn't consume much data brother.

This is for how many hours a day, since you said with 5gig am done for a month

When you say free is it really free?
I know data useage is involved and wil be more costly than the normal monthly chrges.
Please educate me

Deepfeel:

Just cause it's your house doesn't mean your guest should be uncomfortable in it,
People do all they can to make their guest feel at home in their house, you see people preparing specail meals they don't usually prepare just to please their guest you see people changing old stuff around the house replacing them with new once just to make their guest comfortable , so it's Simon's responsibility to make his guest feel comfortable in his home

So for your guest to be comfortable the person has to control your house abi?

Deepfeel:

Well you can give your mom or mother in-law sleepless nights in your house with sexual noise if you want but this mama don't like it and her daughter respects her mom so she won't do it

Na from clap e Dey turn to dance , one day the wife will come and say because she respects her mother so much that she wants something the way her mother wants it in the man house abi ? See let’s be realistic you can be a Lord and master in Simone’s home.

Omudia11:
I pity your life. Asking your MIL to leave your house? I pity your future wife. If you have no respect for your MIL is it your wife you'll have respect for?

Thanks for the pity my brother but get married first then you will understand the real meaning of pity.

Organs:



You are the one that is not reasonable here sir. In our African culture one of the shyness of marriage is the fact that everyone (brides parents inclusive) knows you're having sex. Then, you want visiting mama to be hearing: "yes!, yes!, oh my goodness, Bleep me baby, harder, harder..... and you will still wake up in the morning and you and mama will look at each other.....and mama and daughter will look at each other...and you think Apostle will not hear the bad bad things you do in zaa ozer room....diarisss God ohhh!!!

Does the African culture preludes the mother from respecting the union because she knows they are having sex.
Let me tell you if the mother should come in in announced and saw them having sex going by the African culture she has to apologize .
Let’s not use sentiments to make something bad good because it involves a mother inlaw.

gbosaa:


What cost? What phucking cost?? Do you how much the MIL saves them when both are out working, she takes care of the kids and probably most of the domestic chores??

The op needs to control himself or find a less intrusive way of having sex with the wife. Apart from the noise from his room, leaving the connecting door open when they are having sex is very wrong.

He should respect the woman and take his wife outside, do it when the woman has gone out with the kids or ‘hold body’.

Btw, he can still do it quietly under the sheet unless he sleeps on a dodgy bed.

Hmm Na wa ooh read the story and understand she came to stay for 8 weeks and not as a miss my brother.
So taking care of the kids was not mentioned the kids must be going to school or day care if we all should assume .

yeyeosoronga:


Will you say the same thing if were the man's mother?
If they cannot be more discrete when having sex, let them go to a hotel

You will pay for the hotel abi?

All because of sex?
Why should OP and wife be indulging in sex where their children can hear them in the first place? They then have a visitor, and still leave their room door open, with beds creaking and moanings everywhere. That's really disrespectful.
They should be more discrete when having sex.
I wonder if it were his mother that came to visit them in their home /abroad the advice would still be to send the woman away..

You will pay for the hotel abi?

Ana234:
What if the MIL is a widow?

She still has a house where she stays before she became widowed, but as I said we should not assume she is because the OP never said that.

Deepfeel:

The marriage is not a new one they have too kids already they might have had sex hundreds or maybe thousands of times can't he take a break for just 2 months? Are u say that man can't hold himself for 2 months if his wife is sick? all this has to do with maturity and understanding

Even if it’s 10 years marriage she should mind her business

Deepfeel:

I believe if her sons mother in-law says that to her son and she hears it her advice will be " My son she's not staying there forever so exercise patience, and I believe what she did here in her son in-laws house she will do same in her sons house too, she's just not comfortable hearing them disturb her at night with sexual noise, is that too much for an old lady to ask?

Yes it’s too much for an old lady to ask for my guy.
He should let them enjoy or have their privacy .

Deepfeel:

Why do u sound like her mother is just a nobody, haven't you ever conditioned yourself in one way or the other to please your parents? I bet the day those kids will hear their mom moaning at night with the bed shaking they might rush to the room to know why their mom is crying, don't you think they will find a way to condition themselves in a way the kids won't hear?

Never considered or said the mother is not important but she does not have to put conditions in someone else home .
No one will try that with her in her own house or her sons mother-in-law says this to his sons wife and she hears it.

Ikpongiton:
8weeks is too much abi ?when your wife put to bed ,what will you do,during the first two months of breast_feeding ?

My brother don’t imagine scenarios she did not put to bed following his stories.
Don justify what is wrong with another thing please.

Deepfeel:

She's not staying there forever just for awhile let's be humans for once, I personally won't feel comfortable having sex with my wife and she's moaning in loud tunes while my mother or my mother in-law is in the next room disturbed with the noise no it's not right, I won't even want to hear my next door neighbor disturb me with loud night prayers talk less of sexual noises

My brother 8 weeks is no joke.
Can she herself take that?
We don’t condition people to meet our expectations while we forget that they also have theirs.
If she feels disturbed let her go to the sitting room and sleep and let her daughter enjoy her marriage.
This singular act can cause a lot of issues in the house, we don’t do things that are wrong and blame the devil later.

Deepfeel:

Stop acting childish, the mother is just uncomfortable hearing the both of you f*ck noisily in the next room even though it's your house just respect the old lady this few months, you can have sex anywhere it must not be in the room at night, why not have some bathroom sex or kitchen sex, Biko it's an opportunity to spice up the sex exploring other places apart from the bed in the room

Please let’s be practicable in our advice, someone cannot come and tell you the conditions you operate in your house.
If she can’t fit in let her leave.

Who bears the cost my brother he should be man enough and send the Mother in-law to her husband.

fabianiyobosa:
Hotel or motel is not a bad idea.

But I doubt if your mother in law said that. Maybe your wife is too shy to engage in it when her mum is around.

miltonchux:
MARTIAL BED.
My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MALE READER:
I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.
My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room. This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.
My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?
I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all. What should I do?

Send the mother packing, let her go and keep the law in her husbands house.

czarina:
Why is this news

Because it involves snake.

Bizmagnet:
The pastor lacks descipline and he is greedy. There's no problem giving to a pastor or anyone in need but when they turn it to your responsibility, you have to stop the nonsense. Next time, tell him need money too when he calls.

Make the guy call the pastor now say him need money.
Tell the pastor that you need it to pray against police cases for the pastor .

mp3ree:
good day
i have an issue and i need urgent help.I just did traditional marriage to my girl friend ,found out later that she did introduction with a guy some weeks ago but later called it of two months before our traditional marriage ,also found out the ex fiance has been sleeping with even after she called the initial introduction off.up to the extent of sleeping with the guy four days to our traditional marriage.
am confused on what line of action i should take,she does not know have found out all this

please advice needed ,no insult.

Since you know and have evidence but have not fully committed yourself, brother eu for your life and forget the lady.
Thank me later

BathingSoap:
This might be a long read guys pls don't be angry with me. I have been a guest on Nland for a while but decided to create this monicker for this purpose.

So this all started when i entered the university in fact i'm now in my finals but as it is now i'm laying on my bed facing the ceiling and we have a test going on in class, i have missed about 3 tests since this semester started but i don't seem to feel alarmed by that, i'll probably have an extra year too the way i'm going but i can't just push myself to get up and read and to wash my uniform being a law student.

Now i feel this is partially because of the fact that i have come to believe school is not for me...i have never been a bright student right from primary school...when i entered the uni as a freshman i had the dreams every fresher had which is to come out with a first class and i worked very hard for it, went for night class every day without sleeping even for a minute, but any time grades came out i always come out at the bottom of the food chain.

I have tried hard to demystify the exact cause of my failure in academics but found no answers, could it be my hand writing, or i don't understand what i read or i'm not good in cramming textbook case laws and sections, or could it be because my brain is just not acclimatized to school and the rigours that come with it.

I have put in effort to handle all these supposed problems but none if them have come to fruition, even to the point that i bought a handwriting book to help improve my handwriting ...yeah i was that desperate



Reality dawned on me tho when my year 2 and 3 results were nothing to write home about...then i started losing interest...hardly go to class even though there is a test...i always say to myself stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results so if i can read and study so much without being able to secure even a C in my courses then i'd rather not try.

Its funny tho that in my year 4 i made more than half a million rendering freelance services to people online...this also fueled my loss of interest in school, I'd rather be committed to something that pays me. I feel bad for mum tho, she put in all this effort to make me learned and give me a good future and she has already started saving for my law school but i know deep down that i am a nut case and can't ever compete with my peers academically.

I have tried my best in fact i'm crying right now, school has always made me feel like a lesser human, i always come out last...i really don't know what to do with life anymore ...i mean why is life so partial and unfair, why can't i be like those bright students...

I brought this here because i believe my Nairaland family will help me get through this terrible faze of my life.

I'll really appreciate if more people get to see this

Thank you

Hmm what an interesting write up, I will start wit this adage;
“Believe in Gods first and in the abilities he gave you you can surmount your fears and achieve your goal”.

Now to the issues, it happens once a while for you to lose interest at a certain point in your education just because of some set backs. Remember that examination has never been the true text of knowledge. For you to write this well that means you still have something good within you in respect of education. I will advice you that you should look at improving knowledge than thinking life ends in grades you get in the university.
Remember Na who go war come back be hero no be who die for war.

Do better than your best and make sure you pass and don’t get worked up with the grade you have .
Don’t miss your text and make sure you write your exams. You should know before you get an A you would get a P, so if P is easy for you to get don’t kill yourself over an A but Pick you P with less stress. Don’t get worked up unnecessarily.
contact me on kanayo74@yahoo.com let’s talk.

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