They say 'Warri no dey carry last'and it is indeed becoming the first failed state i.e Delta
It is only God that saw us through to the new year-
It got so bad that leaving your house became a great risk, you could not be sure of returning
if you were not picked up by kidnappers you could be on the way of an armed robbery attack and hit by stray
bullets like many others

Richvkunt:

@OP,
I warned you!This is the last place to come for advise.For those attacking my advise to the OP,please understand that the advise was meant as a kind of SATIRE to show the OP the kind of dumb advise she was likely to recieve on this forum if she decided to bring her hubbys dirty linen to air on NL.
On the other hand I also hoped she would pick some relevant pieces of information from my advise and hopefully discard the irrelevant  portions of the advise.
MORAL OF MY ADVISE:Give all attention to your husband and see if he will have time for internet love.It is a pity that even some of the most cerebral posters for whom I have the utmost respect decided to mis understand my points or for reasons best known to them refused to understand what I was trying to say.
OP-please go and communicate with your hubby.It is the height of all insults to your marriage to bring your husband to this forum for every Tom,Joystick and Harry to have a go at him.A word is enough for a wise woman!

As for the feminist cabal,stop giving poor innocent women advise you will not give your selves.While you are at it spare a thought for your fellow woman in distress-Some of the responses on the  thread  about the woman appealing for help on the family forum are sickening-the lady is only asking for a cot for her unborn baby,if she had exposed her husbands affairs on that thread,I am sure most of you would have been advising her to divorce her husband.

How does she do this, considering all she has in her hands? work, school & home mangaement? Is she a super human being?

@Chaircover

You sound like she is to blame for working to keep her home while her husband does nothing.
Should she sit at home and not feed her children until the husband brings something?

Well I do not know how it works in Obodo oyinbo but here in Nigeria, hunger will waya her and the children,the Landlord will throw them out and the children will be sent home from School.
I see that happen here from time to time, had to bail out a family with such a problem last month, the Landlord was about to throw them out, when this happens the woman is most imparted as the husband can dissappear in the name of going to look for money.

I have seen some posts about Visafone's 3G super performance in Lagos, but mine is frustrating me or is it my location (Warri)?

Women are still virtous even today.  What we detest in our women is onlly a reflection of our own immorality and perversion for their bodies.  We demand it, they supply it!  We can influence the manner in which the exchange occur simply by modifying our own approach and approval.  Women are fine, men are just bad and hell bent on staying bad!  

@Negro_ntns

You are the best

pato405:

just ask yourself how many women wed today as virgins? how many will luv a man irrespective of his poverty stricken status - if he is poor? how many remain faithful after tieing nuptial knots? how many would give a soft answer to a provocative question/wrath?

women of today strongly believe they know tooo much!!!!!!!!!!

@pato405

Let me throw more light on how marriages were conducted in those days
In Africa men of small stature found it difficult to get  women to marry why?

They were considered not to be physically strong and therefore would not be able to adequately protect their wives in time of war and would not be able to till the land to feed his family.Right from that time the attraction has always been who would provide these things, although the mode of provision has changed (i.e big stature no more necessary as this will not automatically lead to better protection but money to build high fences,acquire MOPOS or to fly the  family out of the country may do this)

As a matter of fact it is civilisation which is gradually eradicating polygamy that is making some men to be able to get the women they desire to marry, in those days these women would simply prefer to be 2nd/3rd/4th wives of men that could provide these things leaving the unfortunate man to settle for any woman left.

This is interesting, the woman good comes back from work, attends to the home well enough to be able to put  food on the table and she still cannot have two hours to herself to unwind?
So when in her life will she be able to relax and do something she likes? I guess she  is supposed to sacrifice the little little comforts & pleasures she can squeeze out of working and managing the home . Her own happiness is ofcourse very irrelevant in this matter.

tatiana009:

At least they gave something, some people yarning here haven't even given 1 sweet out. No matter their reason at least these women will eat for even 2 weeks. If every Nigerian gave even 1day's food to the poor to eat no one in this Country will go to bed hungry. You are never too poor to give someting it's not until you have millions. Let's all do our own bit instead of complaining about the rich and government everyday. If you cannot give now even when you have billions nothing will change. These guys have at least done something

Thank you!

^^^^^ Is that not 'Ekuru'?

Wahala dey. Dec 7 was the wrong day to have been Intimate without protection if you did not want a baby.
Unfortunately you may have to wait for 2weeks before you are even able to do a home test

^^^^^^I guess so too.

fm7070:

Maybe you don't understand patent laws properly.
[b]Once a particular product has been registered under patent law which covers the taste, content, and so many other things about the product, it has become illegal for anyone to produce similar product.[/b]For Instance, the St Louis Cube sugar: That shape has been registered. Except you come up with another shape.
Indomie Noddles: There are other noddles, but the taste of Indomie is unique
Coca Cola: Even if the owner of Pepsi have the formular for coca-cola, they dare not produce it or else, they will go bankrupt as a result of litigation from coca-cola.
One thing we should pray for is unique Divine Ideas and inspiration that will be a landmark for eternity.

Not that I know so much about patent law but from the little I know, I thought a product could only be patented for a specified period after which competition can start or is the thing forever?

humblebee:

st louis sugar, this one especially

The sad thing for me is that it is made in France!

mamathrice:

Hello guys. Can you please advice me? I went to renew my visa and I was turned down. I went again a month later, and got turned down again. It was my fault. I lied when I got the visa that I wasn't pregnant. well, i was and I had a baby in the US. Now, it keeps coming up that I lied. Both times, I told them that I didn't know I was pregnant but they didn't believe me. My people are telling me to try again for the third time, and this time, to tell the truth and say I'm sorry I lied. Will it make any difference? Or will I just get turned down again and permanently blacklisted?

How did they know you had a baby in the US?

I looooove this place, am full of respect for you gals & guys

^^^^^^^^^^^^^thought so too!

Ndipe:

You and your spouse have spent thousands of Naira educating one of your daughters in medical school. After graduation, the newly minted medical doctor becomes engaged and right after marriage, announces that she will be a stay at home mom either because her husband is well-off, or that a woman's place is in the house. Will you get angry at the 'waste' of resources on her behalf or would you simply say, "It's her life, my spouse and I have fulfilled our duties in making her a literate?"

I'd like to know your viewpoints on this subject.

I believe the poster would like to know what you would do or how you would feel as the parent, not as the husband of such a woman or the woman herself

As for me, I know I may not be able to do anything about it if that is what she wants but I sure would feel that I have wasted resources as I must have sacrificed some personal comforts for her to acquire the knowledge.

Pain:

While I may agree that such an incident is not far fetched with Nigerian graduates, I sincerely doubt the information coming from the Nigerian Police.
The guy may have been a graduate of English Language probably with a pass or third class, but trust Nigerians especially the Police to always garnish their gist in order to make it more sensational.

, such a person should still be able to express himself/spell 'encounter'

dare2think:

Nice to see the other White lady give that young man a hug.

That's humanity right there.

Why wont White people descriminate against black folks when we ourselves descriminate against eact other.

Take a look at the tribal threads.

We can point the blame finger at the White people all you want but the tribalism going on amongst black people is even more pathetic and shameful.

Ghanaians vs Nigerians, igbo vs Yoruba , Hausa vs igbos, hutsi vs Tutsi  and so on.

God bless you!
A clear case of not 'removing the log in your own eyes before pointing out the speck in another person's'

Happy birthday.

I sincerely understand how the woman that wants to sue the hotel must feel.
I attended a conference at Abuja about 5years ago and was lodged at Sheraton.
It was the same period with the full Gospel Business Men fellowship Convention and as a member I decided to attend the meetings in the evening after the
business conference. On the way back one evening a couple shared my taxi back to Sheraton since it was crowded and was difficult for them to get one

To my amazement, at Sheraton gate, I was asked to come down from the taxi to allow the couple to continue that I could not be allowed in!  I had to show the gateman my room key  before he believed I was staying at the hotel, I think I even had to show my ID card. The couple did not have to answer one single question.

The annoying thing which I told the man was that guesst are usually asked to drop their keys on their way out, what if I had dropped mine?


That means I would have had to stay at the gate untill he could confirm taht I was truely staying there?

ofcourse the couple and the taxi driver went on and on about why the hotel had to do it,like many people are doing on this thread but they were not the ones being harrased so they had no clue what it felt like

I think some products for hyperpigmentation have been reviewed in previous pages. Nadinola is effective for quick short-term use, get rid of the pigmented area and stop. If it's on the face, Makari Caviar Face-lightening cream does wonders. [b]Obagi products work too, but given that they're touting hydroquinone, too dressed up and pricey jere.[/b]


Thanks for the details on Makari products.

I had to go back to search for this post despite the fact that I could barely spare the time.I know there has been a general warning against hash products on this threadwhich i greatly admire.

However what[b] I[/b] see from the above post is a recommendendation backed up with a warning.

Thanks mad max, i had to scan through the thread to see if I had missed anything
The other products recommended contain hydroquinone, I would very much love to stay clear of that

I am taking a look at makari, the beautifying milk seems not to have hydroquinone or harmful steriods

proO1:

Well I have to concede that you're both right; a man is nothing without his ego. But the point I was trying to make was that most women like to have their cake and eat it too. Since it is ok to marry a gainfully employed and well-to-do man, then it should be okay to 'submit' to him as the 'head' in the marriage, rather than talk about equality and 50-50 and all that poo that hypocritical feminists often shout about. That's that. Anyways.

To be honest I would rather die a bachelor than enter into marriage without any source of good income. Women will always be women. No matter how 'good' or 'holy' she claims to be, she will definitely disrespect her husband if she's the breadwinner. Worse is that she would expose his 'uselessness' to all her close friends, sisters, cousins, colleagues, etc. . .making the husband a butt of jokes on account of his supposed 'laziness' (women always equate a man's poverty or unemplyment with laziness). A man is better off dead than putting up with a wife who pays his bills.

It is not by force to marry. If a man doesn't have up to a certain threshold of regular income or stashed up money, then he should not even contemplate marriage. This is unnegotiable.

Funny thing is that it is even better for a jobless man to marry a jobless woman rather than a woman who earns an income - at least they are better off living[b] on charity. If they are both jobless, at least their mutual joblessness would be a common denominator (lol), and the wife would not disrespect him as much as she would if she were the one paying the bills. It is better for both of them (and the kids, if any) to happily die of hunger (lol), than for the wife to provide food out of her own earnings. You may call this viewpoint extreme, but I tell you it is preferable. A woman who pays the bills and puts food on a man's table would be worse than Lucifer on the day she suffers a 'brain-touch'. She would fling her husband's boxers and singlets out of the window, leaving him unclothed, and daclare with fire in her nostrils - "afterall, I bought every single thing in this house including your boxers" For real[/b].

This is the reason why a jobless man will try all he can to bring his wife down because he wants them to be on the same level so that there can be 'respect'. If he is not successful, he will simply take up a knife and hack her down as someone has earlier mentioned.

Do not let us decieve ourselves with talks of love, our men are simply not cut our for this kind of arrangement, a woman with a jobless man will havve to do double work to keep that marriage, or she should pray that it is only for a short while before the 'grace' runs out.

proO1:

I don't understand this question. All the female loud-mouths who shout about equality in marriage should rather answer the reverse question: Should a Man marry a Lady who is Jobless? I'm sure most people wouldn't see the big deal in that. . . "as long as he loves her". In fact that question would even be seen as ridiculous and needless. Double-standards, right? Go figure.

Will the man be ready to take up the role a jobless woman married to a working man wouldnaturaly take?
Noooooooo! I do not see that happening in this part of the world, she is expected to bring the dough and and still do all the supposedly 'woman' duties
or she becomes a bad wife lording it over her husband
Who you wan kill?

@Mad max

It is a sad thing with these fake products, i just got the Jergens lotion for abt $5 in Walmart, which will be about N800N@160, it is sold for about N1800 in Naija, which should not really be a big issue if you are getting the real thing but then you are not sure you are!


Please What is the best online shop for meladerm?

xxxx

The family section has been invaded by Aliens!

''My first daughter is getting married next month. I was already dreaming of a bride price of about N3.5m because I have all receipts for her education plus professional examinations and got an accountant to work out the interest (she is actually an accountant herself). But the young man was lucky because when I went to my Dad in the village to ask what the family takes he gave me a list and behold I saw Bride price is fixed at N35000. So I guess I will have to grudgingly allow these lucky guy to pay just N35000. Or do you think I should appeal against these 'outdated list'? After all what can I buy wit 35k? And I was thinking of changing my car!!! ''


@ XTfield,
You have only considered the physical cash, you have not asked the mother to try and monitise the emotional and mental investment. when I hear a man tell his wife how he paid her bride price anytime there is a disagreement, I just look at him and wonder how much he could ever have paid, even if you hire a servant/house help for life it will cost you far more than what many people have mentioned here

I believe bride price payment is only symbolic.

If a guy is finding it this tough,now we see why some seriously born again sisters have to lower their standards to get married.
I have a couple of female friends in their early forties who are in this category, these ladies who were Christians from youth, not 'Aristo' turn 'born again' to look for husband type, simply want to follow the scriptures

Apart from the premarital sex thing, there are a whole lot of other values that should be shared.

A pressure cooker would do the magic

Abali1:

Some of the man's story may be true. But what am finding hard to believe is that the guy get common sense.

Now look at it this way;
First you married a lady, later you started having problems with the lady and she barred you from coming to the family house in London. Next you found out that the reason for barring you to visit is because she has a live-in-lover at home.

Secondly, you married another lady and got separated from her (AKA divorce ) no reason was given, except that you guys are still friends and it was easy to go separate ways because there was no child involved. Then you lived as a bachelor for some time.

Finally when you were posted to Kenya, you decided to go back to your vomit wife, because you feel that she deserve the new status as the mother of your children.

Abegiii, the man just they waver like ship wey dey for hurricane. Since he knew that the wife is a trouble and she was bold to bring in another lover to live with her in their family house, is that not reason enough to divorce the woman.

Why are we even taken panadol for this man's headache.

Thank you Abali, the man's story makes him look like he is dumb and I am sure no Nigerian man can take 1/10th of all he said he has patiently taken from the woman!

A woman brought a lover into the house, banned you from visiting and seeing your kids and you still called her up when you became an Ambassador because you 'thought the honour was due her'?

Tee_Jay:

For it to work at all, they would need to put up a significant amount to deposit to cover damages et al; knowing the way landlords work in UK, they are keen to take the deposit but very unwilling to return it when the tenancy is over. By the time our people finish with that apartment almost every appliance would need to be replaced, not to talk of the bed after the kids don wee wee on it, (just joking)

Really? very interesting opinion of Nigerians revealed in this statement
May I ask what informs this opinion, or is it just by a general observation of 'your people'?

^^^^^^

Although you may be able to get the passport in two days if you expedite depending on your location but from what I know the BC will take between 5days to 1 1/2 weeks.