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Family / Re: Post-childbirth Outing by Shinatu: 8:52am On May 18, 2011 |
You can go anywhere you want with your child at anytime after childbirth as long as you are both medically fit. |
Family / Re: Why Are There So Much Pressure On Girl's In The Family? by Shinatu: 1:54pm On May 09, 2011 |
Nekai: Because it is beleived that the wife should tolerate all his shortcomings, it is the female child that should develop good characters in order not to be a failure in marriage. Have you ever heard where a mother / father shouts on the son that a particular character he has will prevent him from getting a wife to marry or that it will make his wife to leave him (as the female child hears all the time)? |
Celebrities / Re: Dbanj To Marry Genny In August! by Shinatu: 1:15pm On May 05, 2011 |
Another case of Bobby Brown and Witney Houston? I wish her the best if this is true, she'll need all the goodluck she can gather |
Family / Re: Husband Abused By Mum-in-law Right In His House by Shinatu: 1:55pm On May 04, 2011 |
The MIL really lacks self control and at her age, that is very sad. |
Family / Re: Deleted by Shinatu: 8:41am On Apr 29, 2011 |
XX01: I totally agree! |
Family / Re: The Kind Of Husband I Have by Shinatu: 1:25pm On Apr 19, 2011 |
chaircover: @Chaircover I am also of the opinion that much emphasis should be placed on the background, I see it becoming an issue in many mariages. The background is not just having money, that is why being a millionaire overnight does not take your background away from you. People of similar background seem to value the same things and have similar expectations in life which could make them more compatible than those that have very different backgrounds. She could have also married a garrage tout and be receiving the same treatment the Minister's son could give her, so it is not the money really it's the 'background' |
Family / Re: Must My Wife Decide Or Suggest ? by Shinatu: 3:49pm On Apr 14, 2011 |
spyder880: @Spider880 lol.You made me laugh with this. But what do you do when you see all what you have worked for about to go down the drains because of his 'ignorance and self belief? |
Family / Re: Liability Wives by Shinatu: 8:38am On Apr 14, 2011 |
Blazay: I come from a similar family too and I have found out over the years that in this situation, it is never 50/50 as you said it, the finacial contribution can be 50/50, but domestic is never 50/50 in most cases. You will slave away to bring the money home to be spent but you will carry the pregancies and do the sleepless nights yourself, not to talk of many other things that the man will not do, at least not in this sector of the globe that I live in. I can just imagin my mother inlaw arrive for a visit and I remind my husband that it is his turn to go to the market and cook dinner, after all I just paid the Children's school fees as agreed! |
Travel / Re: Please, How Reliable Is Wakanow.com? by Shinatu: 10:26am On Apr 13, 2011 |
The fact that they are unable to deliver the exact fare quoted on their website gives a bad feeling. or are u given the option of buying the ticket online immediately at the specified fare? |
Health / Re: Many Black/nigerian Men Are Suffering From Mental And Psychological Issues by Shinatu: 2:23pm On Apr 12, 2011 |
Interesting, |
Health / Re: Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC by Shinatu: 10:06am On Apr 12, 2011 |
abiop: Abi? It is a great thing the Lord has done Congratulations Ejademen! |
Family / Re: Help Me Out: Children School And Children Hospital In Ajah. by Shinatu: 12:15pm On Apr 11, 2011 |
Greensprings is about 800K for a year. |
Properties / Re: Plots Of Land In Warri by Shinatu: 2:59pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
Consider DDPA former bendel estate, there are still a few undeveloped plots bing sold by the owners from time to time There is also the NPA land on old Airport road that were sold to individuals a few years back, it ia good location and there may be some people selling 1 Like |
Travel / Re: U.s. Visa B-1 Application by Shinatu: 2:34pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
damola1: I am not sure about the highlighted part. I never had to send anything to the embassy for my B1/B2 visas. It was only presented at request during the interview.Well maybe the procedure has changed sha, you know how these people change things every now and then? |
Travel / Re: Bonny Island, Nigeria-The true island of rivers state by Shinatu: 8:53am On Mar 29, 2011 |
@ijaw girl Thanks for sharing, it's indeed a beautiful place. it's the news of violence coming from the South-South that scares people really. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by Shinatu: 5:34pm On Mar 25, 2011 |
dayokanu: We are the same people who will condemn and be ready to crusify the woman for neglecting her 'roles' as a woman. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by Shinatu: 2:19pm On Mar 25, 2011 |
It is a pity that we sometimes find it difficult to be objective because of our position on some matters, let me give an example of what happens at my place of work, I live in Nigeria anyway so for people who work and live in other parts of the world it may be different, I do not know. Anytime I need to go on a course out of the country or even out of town, I develop a headache and it is the same with other female colleagues of mine, I will need to ask for the course schedule for the whole year and see what run of the course would have minimal impact on my family if I attend, will need to check the school schedule, check hospital appointments, check the whether (if it will be during the raining season when there will be many mosquitoes thereby needing extra anti malari care or during Harmattan when cough & Catarrh will be the issue) and if it falls within the period that I am having house maid challenges, then wahala dey When I eventually get my acts together to go for the course, I make use of every tea break to call home and I am asking 1001 questions on the phone at the ame time It is not the same with my husband or my male colleagues, you can tell them there is a training in Kafancha tomorrow and they carry their bag (probaly packed by the woman)and are set to go why? There is a woman at home (even if she is working) to bother about all that! and someone thinks the woman has not contributed to the man's success? There was a time my house help left all of a sudden and there was no one to stay with my son after school, I had to make do with just anybody I could find because it was a peak period of activities in the office, I could not put in my best because I was not settled, but the moment a trusted family finished her exams at school and took over in the house the difference was clear, I had so much peace of mind that I could stay in the office late and deliver quality work, I compensated the girl well because I knew she contributed to my achievements at work that year. Even if the man is super rich and can afford to hire the best of nannies and house maids, the peace that comes with knowing that the mother of those children is in charge cannot be bought, except the man it is type who believes that children will always survive anyhow. |
Properties / Re: Property For Sale In Ibadan by Shinatu: 11:07am On Mar 15, 2011 |
There is a 3bedroom Semi detached bungalow off Lagos-Ibadan Express Rd, the other side of Ashi for N200,000 per anum. |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedure? by Shinatu: 10:28am On Mar 15, 2011 |
dancewith: @Dancewith Thanks. Please, do you know if the $7,999 was for the hospital delivery alone or for both the Doctor (Antinatal care) and delivery? dancewith: I know two colleagues who have also had normal delivery in Houston at about this cost. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: On What Condition Will You Leave A Woman? by Shinatu: 12:09pm On Mar 14, 2011 |
''JUO, I don't care if she has a local government area of kids for me, if she sleeps with any other man she's gone. As for the poor hygiene, I'll gladly avoid her like a plague. Sue me. U marry wife U no go enjoy am? '' Wow! like buying a car? Thank God a bride price is only a symbolic token where I come from, so no man will see me as an acquired property that has to be thouroughly enjoyed! |
Travel / Re: Give Birth In USA: Cost And Procedure? by Shinatu: 10:48am On Mar 14, 2011 |
NYC may not be that expensive depending on the Hospital. There are a few Non profit making Chritian hospitals e.g St John's Episcopal, you could walk in and ask to discuss with the Finance Manager, ask for a discount since you will be paying cash, you can then pay 50% of the agreed cost upfront and the remaining just before leaving the Hospital. @Dancewith, Please do you have the name of the MD hospital? 1 Like 1 Share |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Happy Women's Day To All Women In This Forum by Shinatu: 2:49pm On Mar 08, 2011 |
@Poster Thanks, just came back from an outreach organised by women in my place of work, we adopted the theme 'Educating the girl child' and visited two Schools in our locality to inspire young girls. You will be shocked at the various challenges these girls are facing. It was an eye opener for many of us. |
Romance / Re: Wetin Women Dey Contribute 4 Relationship Sef? by Shinatu: 9:22am On Mar 08, 2011 |
dowjones: @dowjones Ironically, many women are asking themselves the same questions these days about men, if not for societal and religious expectations, many women would choose to simply visit the sperm bank! |
Crime / Re: Bizzare: Education Minister's Son despoils Six Months Pregnant Woman In Dad's Hotel by Shinatu: 12:54pm On Mar 04, 2011 |
pro01: Good points! |
Crime / Re: Nigerian Man Shoots Wife Five Times In Atlanta, Georgia by Shinatu: 1:28pm On Mar 02, 2011 |
^^^^^^^^ Why the man no do the Nursing himself? 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My In-laws Disrespect Me A Lot As Well As My Wife by Shinatu: 11:19am On Feb 28, 2011 |
Sweet T: @Sweet T , I agree with you completely. However,they are like that because that is what they are taught to understand, the only thing the the Nigerian society expects the male child to do is to provide for his family while the woman does all other things, if the man should assist in anyway she is constantly reminded that the man is only helping her,so many Nigerian men are useless without a job . In a marriage like any other relationship, it's give and take, when you cannot bring anything to the table, even the nicest of personalties will find it difficult to tolerate you after a while. I remember there was once a thread where a working mother was complaining about her inability to keep a househelp and that her husabnd did not have a job, while Nigerians in the diaspora were asking her why she needed a househelp since her husband was not doing anything at the moment, Nigerians in Nigeria were asking why she should turn her husband to a househelp because he did not have a job! |
Family / Re: My In-laws Disrespect Me A Lot As Well As My Wife by Shinatu: 2:35pm On Feb 25, 2011 |
dayokanu: That's exactly what the inlaws were trying to tell him |
Family / Re: Children Were Beaten And Kept As Slaves In Pastor's London Home (pastor) by Shinatu: 2:16pm On Feb 24, 2011 |
aisha2: @aisha, Yes, I have done all that you have mentioned above to a househelp from a less priviledged home as hard as it may be hard for you to beleive ( from your previous statements). I did not put her in a public School, I put her in a private school (although I do not pretend that my child would go to the exact same school) and I know a couple of my colleagues/friends who have done the same. I do not intend to do it again, as you advised ,I prefer to get a paid help with clearcut TOS (terms of service). I have found out it is a daunting task, the child already has a mindset and the parents are more interested in the Yam, oil and money they are able to get from you than the bags of books they see with thier child. I remember what I had to go through when I wanted my ward to repeat a class, I had gone through one of her homeworks with her and realised she needed to repeat the class if she would pass WAEC, her parents just could not buy into it, after all ,exams are not so hard to pass in Nigeria. So if anyone comes from the village, I will help by any amount of money I can afford to give them, let them go and take care of their children themselves. The sad thing is that these children need more counselling than their parents can give! I am sorry for the long epistle but I just wanted you to hear from the 'other side', I hadly see badly treated househelps these days (in Nigeria) even the paid ones are allowed some degree of dignity. People are now challenged by the word of God they hear in their places of worship especially the middleclass. |
Family / Re: Deleted Post by Shinatu: 1:01pm On Feb 24, 2011 |
obowunmi: Her situation is worse than that of a single mother's, a single mother has only what you have mentioned above to worry about, she will always have her husband to contend with, his ego and his desires, if they are in Nigeria it is even worse because the man will be get people's sympathy by telling them the wife has stopped caring for him because he lost his job.! That's why some women wish they were widows, at least they can get help and sympathy from people around them. |
Travel / Re: Your First Visa And Interview At An Embassy by Shinatu: 12:13pm On Feb 07, 2011 |
aniffy4eva: I loooove this.Thanks for sharing, wish many young people could see this, better to spend your time on acquiring the skills that will take you all over the world than to waste your time hanging around embassies. I beg hail your mama for me, tell her to continue to enjoy the fruit of her labour ojare! |
Travel / Re: Pregnant Traveller To The U.s by Shinatu: 2:41pm On Jan 28, 2011 |
@missojugo, Please do not forget to share your experience at the port of entry with us when you are through, it will be usefull to some of us. |
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