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Health / Re: Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC by Shinatu: 12:49pm On Dec 13, 2010 |
Arlington, Praaaaaaaaise the Lord. I have been waiting for this good news and it has come at last. I am very happy because I strongly believe this will be a big encouragement for other ladies whos faith the enemy is attacking. Please I want all TTCs to go back to read all Arlington's posts to see all she had to go through so that you will be convinced that there is nothing, absolutely NOTHING that God cannot do. This is the beginning of many more great things to happen on this thread. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Why African Marriages Can't Survive In The West by Shinatu: 9:26am On Dec 07, 2010 |
yankite: @Yankite You are very articulate to me! especially the boldened part. This is the main issue. |
Travel / Re: Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 1:53pm On Dec 03, 2010 |
^^^^^^^ Thanks, that's a way to go. |
Travel / Re: Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 8:27am On Dec 03, 2010 |
still hoping to hear more from you guys. |
Romance / Re: Why African Marriages Can't Survive In The West by Shinatu: 9:13am On Dec 01, 2010 |
'I know the bills are shared back home, especially if the woman has a good job. What I am saying is that no man in his right mind should expect a working woman to also take on fully the responsibility of housekeeping cooking, tending to the kids, shopping, driving the kids around going to their PTA, active in kids education and school without the guy really doing anything other than getting home from work and watching soccer games. Here the guy is expected to pitch in, cook sometimes, help the kids with home work, keep the house wash the bathroom etc. If you expect your woman to work 9-5 deal with commute and do all other things necessary to keep the house going alone, you better look for SUPER WOMAN.' @yodiyokun That is exactly what they are looking for! sit a young man down in Nigeria and ask him what he is looking for in a woman, the list will be endless,you will see that only a 'super woman' can fit in. I visited a Church at a time that they were having a so called 'family service' the pastor was talking about how to sustain a home and was highlighting the roles of the man and woman. He was through with the roles of a man in 2minutes but went on and on about the roles of the woman, the height of it for me was when he then emphasised that if by any chance the man cannot perform the only role(provider) he (the pastor) has attributed to him, the woman should be ready to take it up if she can without any complaint or show. Nothing was said whatsoever about the man helping out woman in anyway. |
Romance / Re: Why African Marriages Can't Survive In The West by Shinatu: 8:52am On Dec 01, 2010 |
Quote from: abeg-abeg on Yesterday at 05:54:14 PM African marriages can't survive in the west cos the average African man is an illiterate or permit me to say[b] (an educated illiterate)[/b] who does not understand what it means to be the head of his family and likewise the woman a helper. it will take decades for the black man to come to terms and understand what the word HEAD and HELPER means. thereafter, he might act on it justwise: @Justwise I think you got this person wrong, he/she is not talking about what is taught in School but the acquisition of the right understanding /knowledge of marriage and he/she made that clear. |
Romance / Re: Why African Marriages Can't Survive In The West by Shinatu: 5:21pm On Nov 30, 2010 |
yodiyokun: @yodiyoku, This does not happen in many homes in Nigeria anymore! The bills are shared now but the woman roles are still the woman's roles not be be shared if the woman wants to stay married and does not want to be called all sorts of names. |
Fashion / Re: Wedding Gown Maker-ibadan by Shinatu: 10:06am On Nov 30, 2010 |
Wonderful people of ibadan, I need information on places to shop for shoes,bag, lace & other nice things this December. Sorry for coming here, I started a thread but I am not getting much response and I can see a number of people who know about Fashion in Ibadan on this thread. |
Travel / Re: Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 9:56am On Nov 30, 2010 |
@Kollymercy, Thank you very much, I know New Gbagi, I'll definitely be there. I am just afraid of buying things I'll later find on everybody in town, so I was hoping of getting to know one or two exclusive shops in town. |
Travel / Re: Nigerians In Ireland,how are you Coping With The Recession And The Eu Bailout? by Shinatu: 8:26am On Nov 26, 2010 |
^^^^^^^^^ E yaaa! that is sad. Similar to our experience here in Nigeria when the Stock market crashed, many people are still in serious debth. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 7:56am On Nov 26, 2010 |
Thank you Chaircover, will check that out. Other ones? |
Travel / Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 8:53am On Nov 25, 2010 |
I plan to do some shopping in Ibadan when I get there in the next 3-4weeks. I basically would like to buy shoes, bags and Swiss lace. I used to know a shop at Adamasingba Stadium but I have been disappointed with the things I saw there in the last two years Please good people of Ibadan, suggest some nice places I could explore. |
TV/Movies / Re: Suggest Me A Nigerian Movie Please by Shinatu: 1:34pm On Nov 23, 2010 |
Secret Scandal. Not a fan of Nollywood myself, but my sister sent this to me as a 'must see' and I think it was worth the time spent. |
Fashion / Ibadan People, I Need Help! by Shinatu: 9:13am On Nov 22, 2010 |
I plan to do some shopping in Ibadan when I get there in the next 3-4weeks. I basically would like to buy shoes, bags and Swiss lace. I used to know a shop at Adamasingba Stadium but I have been disappointed with the things I saw there in the last two years Please good people of Ibadan, suggest some nice places I could explore. |
Family / Re: Why Do Men Divorce Their Wives After Becoming Rich? by Shinatu: 2:57pm On Nov 01, 2010 |
~duchess~: It is difficult to be 'faithful and supporting' to a man like that especially for a long period Everything you do to him will be 'because he does not have money' you cannot even be yourself, you will have to be watching out for his ego in whatever you do. He already will feel like a failure and you are the only one available for him to still exercise his authority on, so when he is rubbished outside, he wants to come home and mend his pride at your expense. If it just the two of you, no problem, you may be able to cope for some time. But when you have a family of three kids you have left the house since early hours of the morning to cater for, caresing someone's ego will be the last thing on your mind whne you get home. Any single slip you make (which every human can make when stressed/overburdened) will never be forgotten and will definitely be used against you when the dough arrives! So women please pray that your husband will not be in this situation, it may take more than an Angel to satisfy him 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Soft-spoken 18-year-old American Wins Miss World by Shinatu: 8:04am On Nov 01, 2010 |
Saecula: My fears exactly, normal has become abnormal! |
Nairaland / General / Re: Lottery:why Do Winners Squander Their Earnings by Shinatu: 4:45pm On Oct 29, 2010 |
leftone: True Money managemnt is a skill that is developed gradually in the course of someone's career Once this skill is not developed as it should,one will remain poor no matter the amount of money that comes once way except one pays for the service of someone who has those skills and allows the person to do what he/she is good at. It just happens that most people who take time to play the lottery have not been engaged in activities that would make them develop these skills, that is why they have plenty time for lottery playing anyway! |
Religion / Re: Why I Took 65-year Old Wife, By Kumuyi by Shinatu: 7:54am On Oct 29, 2010 |
^^^^^^^^^if this is true, why a 65yr old lady? |
Family / Re: Women Who Earn More Than Their Husbands! by Shinatu: 3:31pm On Oct 07, 2010 |
buzugee: Exactly!!. What do you expect to happen under closed doors when one person is combining the only one role she knows husbands to have with her own plenty roles? so you see, you are out of the scope of my contribution, how many husbands in Nigeria do you think have the same expectations of a wife as you? To say the truth sha ,some men personally do not mind o , but the fear of what their friends/society/inlaws will say will not allow them lift a finger |
Fashion / Re: Whats Your Favorite Lotion Or Creme? by Shinatu: 8:51am On Oct 07, 2010 |
denzel2009: you will not kill someone with laughter. You people's sense of humour is unbeatable on Nairaland. |
Family / Re: Women Who Earn More Than Their Husbands! by Shinatu: 8:39am On Oct 07, 2010 |
buzugee: :@buzugee I made the first statement in my post for a reason, the example you have given is outside the scope of my post. Come to Nigeria and see women struggling to take care of their families and also struggling to make the broke husband look good so as not to be called a bad wife. A couple of people have mentioned on this thread how they grew up in this country with thier mothers earning more and nobody ever knowing. Please let me ask you a question, if as a husband your wife cannot perform the generally perceived 'wifey' roles for 3years, will you be able to be so niiiiiiiiiice as not to show any form of irritation? |
Family / Re: How Can You Tell A Good Man? by Shinatu: 2:05pm On Oct 06, 2010 |
^^^^^^^^ So it is the fear 'shelf life' that makes women become mumu? If not for that, many men will remain wifeless. |
Family / Re: Women Who Earn More Than Their Husbands! by Shinatu: 10:45am On Oct 06, 2010 |
I do not know what obtains in other societies but in Nigeria, a woman earning more than the husband is in for a stressful life. Our men are not trained for such a circumstance. It is never understood in this country that when women earn big, they actually work for it like men do, they probably work in a very challenging and competitive environment where they exchange there time, mental/physical capacity,intelligence for the big renumeration that everyone is enjoying including the husband. It is only behind a successful man that you have a woman (taking care of the other family issues, allowing the man to give his full attention to being succesful) but behind a successful woman there is nobody!. When she cannot take it anymore and starts to complain, then she has become proud and the question people will ask her is if she wants to turn her husband to the wife because she earns more money? A woman who earns more than her husband should be ready to be a superwoman and only God can help you with the load you will carry. Men who are breadwinners, most times carry only the financial burden and they are allowed to remind you once in a while that they are not 'plucking the money from the tree' but the day you as the breadwineer/higher earner mistakenly grumble, you have started 'disrespecting' your husband. 1 Like |
Family / Re: To Choose Btw Son's Birthday Or Step Son's School Fees! by Shinatu: 10:48am On Oct 05, 2010 |
Damoche10: No he does not .Now he knows that saying something (declaration of love) and actually facing the practicality of it in real life are not the same. |
Religion / Re: Whats So Bad About Celestial Church Of Christ by Shinatu: 6:20pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
Poster, many have made some claims and you have told them they are ignorant, since they have never been part of the Celestial church and I agree with you. Some other people have narrated their personal experience in the Church, are you saying they are still ignorant?. I want to add my voice to those with some personal experience, my mother was a lace senior elder sister one thing one thing until I got rid of her Sutana.I was tired of, -Do not wear red clothes - do not eat snails -do not eat palm oil -do not come to church during your period -u have to take a bath after your period to start coming to church - tie crosses to a candle stick and put under your pillow -drinking Miss Paris (perfume) and water -'abo' and bathing at a T-junction in the middle of the night - lying in the middle of lighted candles until they burn out She has two siblings who are founders of Celestial churches in Ibadan and the regular 'ise' in those people's houses were typical of people in bondage not the 'he who the Son has set free, is free indeed' that I later came to know.John 8:36 Those 'ise' as far as I am concerned are practices of spiritism and have nothing to do with the Holy spirit. I remember a time when a lady approached a shepherd in a Cele church we were attending then to trap her boyfriend into marriage, the congregation later found the girl sleeping in the Shepherd quarters and got angry, I later found out that the reason for the anger was not because the girl came to the church for such a request but that the shepherd did the 'ise' to favour himself! I remember asking my mother (I was in form 3) if God answered such prayers, even as young as I was I knew something was just not right All founders of Cele branches I knew in Ibadan were polygamist, with two to three wives living in the Pastorium. (I can mention their names and parishes but I choose to respect their privacy), some may not be alive now sef. Well, as you have earlier mentioned , maybe those that I met were the bad eggs, but if that is so, combined with other people's experiences already mentioned on this thread, the bad eggs in the Cele Church are not 'few' at all! Hebrews 7:18-19 For there is verily an annulling of the former commandment because of the weakness and unprofitableness thereof. For the law made nothing perfect, but the bringing in of a better hope did, by which we draw nigh unto God. We are not Judaist (not sure if that is the right word-pple who practice Judaism), we are [b]Christ[/b]ians. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Man Beats Wife To Death During Domestic Squable by Shinatu: 4:49pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
greateros: Clap for yourself. pa pa papapa pa! |
Fashion / Re: Pls Save My Marriage Now by Shinatu: 2:57pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
gbolahan1: I had to go back to read the post after reading your response and I still cannot find where the poster said she does not want to do what the husband says, as a matter of fact, the objective of her post is to receive suggestions on how to look good without wearing trousers! |
Fashion / Re: Whats Your Favorite Lotion Or Creme? by Shinatu: 2:49pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
denzel2009: Check yourself out in a few years to come, I am not sure you would love the 'wonders' then. |
Fashion / Re: Whats Your Favorite Lotion Or Creme? by Shinatu: 2:47pm On Oct 04, 2010 |
denzel2009: |
Crime / Re: Gay Pastor Escapes Mob Attack In Lagos by Shinatu: 3:24pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
Uyi Iredia: pick up homosexuality ke? Noooooo it's in the genes and you cannot help it |
Music/Radio / Re: What Are The 50 Greatest Naija Songs Of All Time? by Shinatu: 10:22am On Sep 24, 2010 |
You people are too much! I am seeing songs that I had long forgotten on your lists, all the way to the Lijadu sisters! I am almost moved to tears. I recently went out of my way to get old Obey and Sunny songs Somebody even remembered this song when the going seems so tough, many many ppl will run away - [b]cant rmbr the artist's name[/b] I never liked the song but it was everywhere! @Taliban Are into music? how could you remember all those beautiful songs? You will not believe that I was in the video of 'higher higher' and cannot remember the name of the girl that sang it too, I was surprised that you even remember it. People, please keep them coming |
Celebrities / Re: I’ve Been Totally Faithful To Joke–olu Jacobs by Shinatu: 1:29pm On Sep 21, 2010 |
Surprisingly, I read it and I am glad I read through to the end,, because the last set of paragraphs are almost the most beautiful piece I have heard from a Naija man in recent times. |
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