You may have a condition called PCOS( Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), which has to do with hormonal problems. Are your periods regular, have you gained weight recently? If so, you may have PCOS.

Regarding the hair, the best way to treat it is with Laser hair removal( ND Yag Laser is said to be the best for people with black skin, because it is long range and would not affect the outer skin layer, other lasers may burn the outer skin), shaving and hair removal creams leave you with bumps and skin irritation. There is a cream called Vaniqa, but here in the UK it can only be prescribed by a Dr.

Do a blood test to check, as PCOS is linked to infertility. Take care.

Lawyer, God bless you real good.

Yes, churches have pre marital and marriage counselling, but in my experience they shy away from talking about some things e.g improving your sex life by giving details of exactly what to do, domestic abuse and when it is neccessary to separate to name a few, plus they cannot cover all issues.

This is what I am talking about.

I have heard all sorts of horror stories of marriage that could have been avoided if only people had taken thier time to assess the potential marriage partners before committing.

For example people giving birth to SS children, because no blood test was done, in law, sexual and financial issues, the list goes on. Why is it that people spend years training for a profession but neglect to get information and training for marriage that impacts the rest of their lives?

I attended a marriage course recently and what I learned astounded me and changed my negative attitude and beliefs in marriage, it ultimately has improved my marriage even though I have been married for nearly 8 years. I recommend this to everyone.

Would people be interested in attending pre marriage training and marriage courses if they had the opportunity, I know I would.Tell me your opinions.

Marriage is not a joke, and this is why it grieves me that a lot of us go into it unprepared.

This issue should have been discussed before they got married. This is tricky because the chickens have now come home to roost and it would be extremely difficult to remedy the situation.

My advice is to sit with the husband and discuss the matter, let her explain in a calm voice the negative effect this is having on her and ultimately the negative impact it would have on their children. The smart thing to do is to give him an acceptable alternative to his mother living with them; also she should seek help either from a marriage coach or counsellor.

Most importantly she should start praying.

Poster, God bless you for this article.

It is good to be married to Jesus, who is the bridegroom of the church.

The first thing a person needs in marriage is reorientation, I say this because when a wife sees her wages as 'my' wages, there will be issues. She may have earned it, but it is for the family and the same rule applies to the husband. In marriage, I believe there is no thing as my money but our money.

We will all agree that we had pre concieved ideas before we got married, my advice is that a good wife must know and understand her husband, if he is wasteful, it is advisable to talk about this and agree a solution between them.

My advice is that both husband and wife put their money in a joint pot and allocate it accordingly e.g
10% to tithes
40% to rent/mortgage, needs, food, travel to work, general daily living expenses, clothes, church offerings ( if you spend more than this, u may be living above your means)
20% savings (for a rainy day/ emergencies) The rule of thumb is that if you lose your job, you should be able to survive on this 20%
20%(specifically for your children, school fees and savings for their future)
10% benevolence ( this includes inlaws and charity)

God bless you, people like you are rare. Nicely done.

I would advice you try professional counseling, from your description of the situation,your wife has built a wall around her to protect her from something and only her would know what it is.

Or she went through a past experience that has made her the way she is, I believe she loves you as she has 2 children with you. There are unforseen issues that need to be dealt with.

Look for her comfort zone and when she gets there, ask her without any accusation in your voice what the problem is, let her see that you are desperate to make the marriage work.

Continue praying and be patient.

One thing to bear in mind is that, all u need is for the right guy to come along, every experience is useful, believe me.

Forget these guys, this behaviour is an indication of the way they would treat you when you are married and I'm sure you don't want that.

Also be honest with yourself and do a SWOT analysis, check whether there is something that makes them cheat on you, it may be difficult but remember that you are the common denominator in all the relationships. If you honestly do it, you will be better and wiser for it.

Be patient, the right guy will definitely come along. Good luck.

The first question to ask yourself is 'why do you want to stop helping her?' and be honest in answering this question. If it is because things are difficult for you financially at the moment, then it is ok to tell her that you can no longer assist her.

If your reason is because you do not know her or get anything in return, then it is wrong. There are several people in the world who sponsor other people through their education, you may be doing this for the future of your family.

The other issue is to ensure that she is not taking undue advantage of you, if she is not, please do the best you can for her ,as this may be an opportunity to lay a foundation for future blessings in your life and it would be a shame to miss it.

Both types have their pros and cons. Arranged marriage is different from forced marriage. An arranged marriage just means someone else(usually family) found and introduced the person to you, both parties have some input in the whole process, they are allowed to meet and court before getting engaged and I believe either party can say no, but I must concede that it may be difficult to say no if all the people involved keep applying pressure on both parties.

The main pro of arranged marriages is that both sides are so intertwined that it makes it a bit more difficult for either party to misbehave, but like I said earlier individual experiences differ. There were several arranged marriages in the bible and they lasted. It is equally good to marry for love, but I prefer an arranged marriage because you have detailed information about the person, his family, health issues, family history etc.

But forced marriage is a no no for me.

I would advise you to first ask God what u should do.

From my point of view as a human being, I would  suggest you take the job and go for a an online masters degree where you only travel abroad 2 or 3 times for a few weeks for part of the course. This would mean that you have your job and you can take a holiday to go abroad for your masters without losing your job.  In effect, you would complete your masters and hold on  to your job, this may be a win-win answer to your dilemma.

I would start by saying that if this is the true version of events you are a victim of domestic violence/ abuse and you are not at fault no matter what anybody says. The person who abuses another is the one at fault, is it ok for me to kill somebody because they abused my mother? No, I will be sent to jail for it, or is it right to defraud someone of their money because they are greedy or have too much money anyhow? Wrong. So please do not let anyone tell you that it is your fault, that is rubbish.

I deal with victims of DV and it always starts with one incident and escalates further. I do not advocate that you divorce your husband, however you must recognise that this is a serous matter.

I am not of the opinion that you apologise and leave it at that, if you are a Christian apologise for the way you spoke to him but insist that he seeks counselling either from a professional or the church.

There must have been traces of this in his character before you got married but you probably ignored it, I am telling you for a fact that unless the Holy Spirit gets a hold of him, this will continue.

Please start to pray and seek help from a TRUSTED CHRISTIAN( no need confiding in someone who will tell the whole world your biz or does not have faith in God that he can heal your marriage)

God bless

My honest opinion is to ask yourself; how mature is he to handle this information I am about to give him? If you can't tell him because you know that he can't handle it,do not give it unless he asks, and when he does ask, it may be wiser to explain to him that it may be better not to talk about it.

I believe that it is imperative for the survival of a marriage to tell each other everything, but unfortunately, the world is not perfect. I know of husbands who beat or have even divorced their wives because of the information provided by their wives.

I don't think there is a uniform formula for every marriage, the decision should be tailor made to each individual marriage, but it is better to be open about everything than not.

I apologise that I did not reply sooner, I have only seen this today. My email is sholeybee@yahoo.com.

I am in total agreement with Fashola on this one; we all have to pay taxes. In other countries people are not only jailed for tax evasion, but their assets are frozen and sold off to set off against the tax and they are made bankrupt in extreme cases, there was a celebrity made bankrupt recently by HMRC in UK. Nobody is above the law and so it should be in Naija.

I just hope the taxes obtained will be used for the right purpose and will not end up in someone’s pocket.

The first thing is that you must Love the Lord God (not your pastor) with all your heart and the next is that you must honour your parents otherwise you may die young. The bible says Love your neighbour as YOURSELF. Note the word yourself; if you love yourself your studies will be important. Does God want you to excel in your studies, ABSOLUTELY. The Bible talks about moderation, balance activities in church against the other areas of your life.

Do you still have time to pray to God and spend quality time with him, which is more important than 'church work'. I am not saying do not be available, because someone needs to do the work but it must be shared amongst several people or they employ people to do it.

I have had some experience of this sort in the past. It does not only affect students, sometimes even marriages may nearly be wrecked because of this kind of issue.

I responded to an article on Nairaland a while back and said that I had unforgiveness in my heart; it was because my husband was following Pastor everywhere to the detriment of his family, my marriage nearly collapsed, but thank God he has resolved that in my home.

From my experience 2 things will happen, you will either leave Church or quarrel BIG STYLE with your pastor. It happened to me.

My advice will be to talk to God about it without any ill feelings towards your pastor. I did and I tell u within 3 days the matter was resolved. I will advice you to be firm as well, tell the Pastor No when you mean No and don’t feel guilty as long as GOD does not condemn you.

You see when I went through this interesting episode of mine, I started to question a lot of attitudes and behaviour in the church, my sister, there is Nigerian Christianity and there is Christianity. A lot of things in our churches are  just tradition, when u attend ‘oyinbo’ churches it is not like that. I have also seen Redeeemed churches (including the one I now go to) that are very organised and no one person is saddled with unneccessary responsibilties, everything works like clock work and the people in the church are so happy that it shows.

Do not forget that Jesus washed the feet of his disciples; he did this to lead by example. If you look in the bible, work was divided and not just put on the shoulders of one person. U remember the story of Martha, who was cooking when others were listening to Jesus, go and read the bible and see the answer Jesus gave her.

Have you heard of the term ‘Spiritual Abuse’; this is happening in the church a lot.

Make sure you do what you have been assigned in your department to the best of your ability and any other thing you should ask the Holy Spirit whether u should do it, you know the bible says God loves a cheerful giver, anything you give to God by force he does not like.

Do not complain or gossip about your pastor, this is extremely important. Even if your pastor is wrong, God will judge you for it. If you feel it is too much for you to handle, ask God whether you should leave the church because it is better than to imbibe the spirit of 'Absalom'.

Also, the advice of your parents is very important.

Hi everyone.

A lot of people have returned to naija from all over the world and it is making me think of coming back home. But my problem is that I fear they may kill me in Naija because of the type of law I practice. I deal with matters relating to civil justice and rights of people e.g with housing, debt, domestic abuse, human rights etc.

I will want to challenge the govt for unlawfully evicting people or some shylock landlord who sends his heavies to evict a poor family or the idiot who abuses their partner.

I don't think I can stand back and watch while people are treated badly but my husband is a banker and has been offered an extra fantastic job in one of the banks.

Should I stay here, shuttle between here ( Jand) and naija or come to naija with him? If I can't practice law, it would be too difficult for me.

I need honest opinions about returning to naija, I am not concerned about light and security ( It is God that protects)Are the people who have moved home truly enjoying themselves or do they regret it?

I am interested in standard of living, school for children etc

Carmelily,

This is my point exactly, if the 30% of Nigerians who have, start to help people like your friend, then she would be more productive and in turn help others, the others hopefully would in turn help others and the chain continues.

It is a total misconception that people outside of the country are doing better, I have seen people in England who live in houses with no central heating and no hot water, people who live on the streets, the difference is people are always ready to help. HUMAN KINDNESS. We can moan all we like but WE have to start thinking differently and help ourselves.

I know of a charitable organisation that helps accident victims on Lagos- Ibadan expressway, that is something useful, can they use their money and time for other things? CERTAINLY, but they have chosen to use their money and time for this project . It is a matter of choice.

By the way I hour walk is not a big deal to me, it is good exercise. But I get the part that it is because of lack of finances. You have to learn to think positively, if your friends for instance thinks 'thank God that I still have legs to walk and I can exercise and keep in shape, she will start to feel less upset about the whole situation'.

If we keep saying we are disillusioned, when will things change? There are worse nations and people survive, we HAVE TO, I do not mean to rubbish the sufferings of Nigerians, but no one will help us we do not help ourselves.

Look around you, the world finances are collapsing, countries will now be thinking mainly and probabaly only about themselves. We owe it to ourselves to solve our problems.

Carmelily

I do not mean to insult you, but this is the type of attitude that brings a nation down. I once attended an underprivileged hostel to paint the walls; this did not require a lot from me neither will it from anyone apart from your time and willingness to be of help to a fellow human being. I went with a lot of my colleagues and by the way we are all 'high flying lawyers' ( I do not mean to brag, but what I mean is that we are time constrained due to the nature of our very demanding and ever busy jobs). There is always something you can give, time, money, knowledge, skills, encouraging words, leading by example.

This brightened the day of these kids, who in turn will not feel like the society has forgotten them and may deter them from engaging in criminal activities, a lot of people engage in criminal activities because they feel the society has let them down and that there is no hope for them.

It does not take a lot, KINDNESS goes a long way. The main problem we have in Nigeria is what is called 'hardness of heart’; human beings are not seen as human beings. What I am saying is that anyone and everyone can do it.

If 50% of Nigerians do this, the problems are half solved. Think about it that way. I apologise if you feel insulted, I mean no offence

May I suggest that we all start to do something no matter how small. I appreciate the way people feel about the whole situation, but let's be honest no matter how much and how often we complain it cannot change the situation.

Things to consider

Training young children in your area for free
Donating your used clothing, books, shoes etc to local children
Donating raw food stuff to families you know are suffering
Investing money in local traders biz, e.g pepper seller, meat seller etc. I can hear people saying NO WAY, who can I trust. We have to start somewhere
Visiting hospitals and donating baby clothes, paying off a new mother's bill.
Digging a well in our village
Opening a library in our old school
Teaching people to draft a CV and how to conduct themselves at an interview for free.
paying for a child's education that you may not really know but their plight has come to your knowledge
Visit homes where we know that there are disbaled or sick people there just to help them clean, wash clothes etc. Even just visiting and cahtting to them may be all they need.
Donating beds, duvets, story books, body creams( u know that cream you bought that did not suit you and u want to throw away), to shelters for drug addicts. prostitutes, orphaned childern etc
Volunteering to go to the market for a vulnerable adult that lives next to you
Raising money in your office for people who need surgery but cannot afford it.

This christmas is a good one, buy a very nice and useful hamper for that woman that stands in front of your office selling boli or soemone else, it would make their christmas.

So many other things I cannot think of right now. 

Imagine a scenario where  a driver hits someone because the brakes are bad, if we knew about it before hand and could afford to sort it out and did nothing we are as gulty as the driver. I am not saying encouraging people to be irresponsible, but people we know are genuinley trying but can't make ends meet.

How many of us volunteer our time to our churches, mosques etc.Think about it
I hope this makes sense

May I suggest that you pray for God to reveal himself to your friend and answer his questions.

If someone feels the way your friend does, u may try to answer their questions but I doubt it would resolve the matter. Furthermore, with some of the questions he is asking, only God can answer it correctly e.g why did he create satan when he knew that he would fall? No one knows why, it is not recorded in the bible.

On his question of why no christian has been able to prove conclusively that there is God, can anyone (especially him) prove conclusivley that there is no God?

One thing though, no matter how he feels he will see God face to face one day. Because someone cannot see air does not mean that it does not exist. Pray for him

I would advise you to inquire of the bank whether it is compulsory to wear a suit. If it is, there are suits made of good quality light material that you can buy. Another trick is to put on the suit at the gate of the branch, leave it unbuttoned until you are called in for your interview, that way you reduce sweating.

Likely questions
1. Why do you want this job?
2. What experience do you have that you believe would be useful for the job
3.If successful how soon can you start
4. Give examples of team working, solving problems, working under pressure, organising and prioritising your work, dealing with difficult clients/ customers or team mates etc
5. what is your weakness and strength
6. What motivates you and how do you describe success
7. What do you know about the company
8. Are you willing to travel
9. Tell us about yourself, any hobbies and why do you think you are the best for the job
10. Do you have any questions ( I will suggest you ask questions relating to the culture, ethos of the company, targets etc) Don't ask about salary and how quickly you will be promoted

I am sooooo shocked that some people are saying that these people should be happy they have a job, or that the bank is doing the right thing. It is a real shame that the mentality of some Nigerians is warped. Goodness gracious me.

Why should you tie someone down to a job for 2 years, they may sign a contract which I am not saying is wrong. But if they wish to leave, let them go but there should be a reasonable penalty for breaching the contract e.g the amount spent on training is paid back or their last months salary is held back, but not tying them to the job with no way out, Are they in a cult?

This is a basic and fundamental human right as enshrined in the convention of human rights FREEDOM TO LIBERTY(Liberty is generally considered a concept of political philosophy and identifies the condition in which an individual has the ability to act according to his or her own will.)

Very soon other demands or shall I say Commands will be made on these staff members and beware other banks may soon follow if access bank gets away with it.

You see this is where we Nigerians tire me. It does not take a lot to alter the minds of the management.
1. Let everyone who banks with Access bank, tell them that they would withdraw their money and bank with another bank, if they don’t stop this stupid and unreasonable demand
2. Staff members should refuse plain blank or go on strike
3. Shareholders should tell them that if this madness does not stop, they will sell their shares and oust the director or someone in mgt.
3. Let some members of staff sacrifice themselves and let others support them (financially, emotionally etc) while they fight the legal battle on behalf of everyone.
4. Let everybody downs tools, believe me it is not easy to find staff immediately and their biz will suffer as well.
5. Tell the story to the media (BBC or CNN Nigeria will be interested in this type of story) let the whole world know how some greedy buffoons behave, they are no better than Mugabe.

What about DEBT, they want to put people into debt. This is causing a lot of problem in the western world now. This attitude of ‘BUY NOW AND PAY LATER’ has forced people to become bankrupt, commit suicide, lose their homes, biz and families because of debt.

How can an employer UNLAWFULLY DEDUCT your wages, it is an offence. If this is true, this really offends my senses as a human being, this is why I find it hard to practice as a lawyer in Nigeria, because I may eventually get killed or jailed. Access bank is a real tyrant. I hope the management team visit Nairaland and read what people have to say about their tyrannical and unalwful activities.

Only in nigeria. I want to believe this is untrue. How can any employer force you to buy a car whether you need it or not, it is unlawful, unprofessional, unacceptable and morally corrupt.

My sister addiction to you is not a good thing. One of the definitions is 'The condition of being habitually or compulsively occupied with or or involved in something'.

Imagine if all he thinks about is u,  he would have no time for work and to earn money, no time to carry out his duties as a father to your children etc.

I would suggest that instead, you pray for his undivided love, attention and devotion. If u are a christian, I would suggest you study Proverbs 31 and the Story of Delilah. Yes Delilah!! She was quite smart.

I would advise that you alert them and return the money. Believe me you would have opportunties later in your life to earn double, triple maybe even 1000 times that money. Remember, you will either continue to be in the job market or run your own biz, whatever u choose, if people hear about this incident, they WILL NOT TRUST U.

Its not worth it for your future's sake, what if you contest for a public office, or you become an MD or your biz bcoms known worldwide? lesser things have crippled people's ambitions and their biz. Someone, may publicise the incident to the world.

Although legally, if your employer made a mistake paying it to your account, nobody has the right to remove it forcefully. But the other side of the argument is that you may be asked to prove where the money came from, and God help u if someone chooses to send EFCC to you, claiming u got the money thru unlawful/ illegal/ terrorist activities.

IT IS SOOOO NOT WORTH IT. In a few years, when you r making seriuos bucks, this money would seem totally unremarkable to u. You r the only one who can do the right thing. I hope u make the right one.

everyone has focused on Sunday church. What about all the other services during the week? If people are saying Gamine needs deliverance for missing Sunday church, can we honestly say we attend all other weekly services faithfully and see them as equally important, because they are. i believe mid week bible study or night vigil is as important as sunday service.

this has been my point, we see sunday service as ' a place to show' almost as a ritual but forsake the gathering of the brethren on other days.

i say again that it is better to go to church than not to go, but we must not become legalistic, so my conclusion is to love God and all services of the week will be important to you.

I have noticed with sadness that a lot of us have had one negative experience or another in churches, I therefore thought that, if we would all pray for the Body of Christ and church leadership daily for the next 1 year, I believe this will change.

The bible says that there is the power of life and death in the tongue, let us pray for the life of God to come into our different churches.

Acts 2: 42- 47 "They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43Everyone was filled with awe, and the apostles did many wonders and miraculous signs. 44All the believers were together and had everything in common. 45Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need. 46Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, 47praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved".

Let us pray that our churches will return to this type recorded in the bible passage above.

Indicate your interest

God bless us all.

@ Wokeyim   if you look at where God gave the commandment about the Sabbath day in Exodus 16:23- ‘He said to them, "This is what the LORD commanded: 'Tomorrow is to be a day of rest, a holy Sabbath to the LORD. So bake what you want to bake and boil what you want to boil. Save whatever is left and keep it until morning.'
Is 58:13  SAYS ‘If you keep your feet from breaking the Sabbath and from doing as you please on my holy day,if you call the Sabbath a delight and the LORD's holy day honorable, and if you honor it by not going your own way and not doing as you please or speaking idle words’

Both passages do not say YOU MUST ATTEND CHURCH ON SUNDAY. The important thing to God is that you honor the day by not going your own way and doing as you please or speaking idle words, Did you know that some people attend church to go and sell their wares or advertise their business or network. What about speaking idle words on the day?

The only passage that God warns about the Sabbath day does not even have to do with not attending church- Jeremiah 17:27 ‘But if you do not obey me to keep the Sabbath day holy by not carrying any load as you come through the gates of Jerusalem on the Sabbath day, then I will kindle an unquenchable fire in the gates of Jerusalem that will consume her fortresses.'

Do u also know that Sabbath in the bible is actually sundown Friday to sundown Saturday as given in the bible and still observed by Jews.

I would reiterate that there is no excuse not to attend church, but the bible never said it is COMPULSORY to attend church on Sunday, if it does please provide me with the bible passage. What I advocate is going to Church on any day (including Sunday) and as many times as you wish a week, because you love the Lord. I actually believe that it is better to attend church rather than stay away, but lets us not forget that serving God is about pleasing him, 'without faith no one can please God'. If you have no faith and you attend church you are wasting your time. My main gist is that YOUR HEART TOWARDS GOD IS THE MOST IMPORTANT and would lead you to enjoy worshipping God both alone and corporately.

You mentioned that prior to living on your own you rarely missed church, I believe this is one of the causes of not feeling like attending church, If someone has been going to Church out of a sense of duty or compulsion, they are more likely to fall off the wagon. This is why I am saying that we must all have a relationship with Jesus so that attending church will not be an issue.

Re monoty of physical things, that cannot compare with spiritual things, you can bear the monoty of physical things because you know this world is temporal, but for me if my spiritual life is static, there is a problem. The bible talks about renewing your mind daily and maturing, these are continuous processes.

You said no matter the church there will be fullness of joy, there can only be joy in the presence of God, so if God is absent in a church you will never have fullness of joy, no matter how often and how much time you spend in it.

I do not normally put up posts, but I am passionate about encouraging children of God  to study the bible personally in order to show themselves approved.



@ Gamine- I would advise that you speak to a member of your church who may be willing to do this, if you have no friends. You may be surprised that if you bring this up with one of your friends, they may also have the same issue and would be willing to partner with you to achieve this.

You also mentioned that your focus is making it big & moving on to the next thing, this may be the cause of not feeling like attending church. God may not have priority in your life, deal with your relationship with him and rededicate your life to him and start to study the word of GOD not out of duty but because you love God and want to spend time with him. you know when you are in love with someone, you want to be with them all the time, ask God to increase his Love in your heart, you will see that suddenly you would not only want to attend church but also talk about him to others. Will pray for you

Gamine-We’ll try and deal with each one

One, the church I’m a member of is really far away

The bible says that those that are led by the spirit of God are called the sons of God (Romans 8:14). Did God lead you to this church or did you just go because it is a popular church or someone invited you or you just found yourself there? If not, now is the time to ask God to lead you to a church that will be spirit led. If a church is led by the spirit of God, then you will surely be blessed there.

Two, the church I have to attend now, I don't do anything I just go to church, praise, pray and listen then I’m back home.

Eph 4:11-16 says- It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers, to prepare God's people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

Ask God to direct you to a department to join, I believe that once you do so, you will start to become more excited about going. You know that if you are involved in building your house ( employing the architect, builders, carpenters, buying the materials and over seeing the works etc), it’s different to buying a house that is already built. With a project you can impart your ideas into it, but with an already built house, there is very little you can change. Joining a department may be an opportunity to impart your ideas and knowledge of the Word of God into the church and into the life of others.

I know someone who goes to Prisons to witness to people and when they are released, they follow him to church and he follows them up. This makes it impossible for him not to attend church.

Three, it doesn’t get to me; it’s like I’ve heard everything they already have to say.

There may be something that has recently happened to you that may be making it difficult to receive the word of God, remember I told you that I was bitter and unforgiving at a point. My sister, unforgiveness (which is a sin) can block your spiritual senses.
It may also be that you need to go to a higher level of walk with God and your Pastor’s preaching may not do it anymore. You need to ask God, what shall I do?
Isaiah 44: 18 says ‘they know nothing, they understand nothing; their eyes are plastered over so they cannot see, and their minds closed so they cannot understand’.
I Cor 2:14 ‘The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned’. It may be that you are battling with questions in your mind that make you question what your pastor is saying. There are a host of reasons I can think of, but ask for God’s wisdom. James 1: 5 says If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

Please understand that I am not saying that you are spirtually dead or foolish, I am merely stating that it MAY be a reason.

I just don't know maybe I was just being lazy at the time.

I believe that you have identified something here, if you feel you are being lazy, (a) Pray for the strength of God I Peter 4:11 says If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.
Also find a true Christian who attends the same church, who will call you to remind you of church (my very good friend and  my family do this to me) they are all Christians. This has helped me a lot. At times, she would even call me in the middle of the night to remind me to pray.

Now some prophets/prophetess on the thread are talking Demon-possession.

Ignore such comments the bible says ‘looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith’ Hebrews 12:2. DO NOT FORGET THAT CHRIST IS YOUR JUDGE AND NO ONE ELSE.

Lastly guess what ‘You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you’ Phil 4:13.

God bless