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tbaba1234: JazakAllahu khair, I just want to say one thing:


We gave them clear proof in matters [of religion]. They differed among themselves out of mutual rivalry, only after knowledge came to them: on the Day of Resurrection your Lord will judge between them regarding their differences. (Surah 45:17)

Just like many statements in the Quran, this is directed to bani israeli but easily applies to muslims. I argue that we can simply replace bani israeli with 'you who believe' in many places in the Quran and it will be true, given the state of the Ummah.

When knowledge becomes a market commodity and everyone is looking for his market share. Scholars bashing scholars out of an urge to dominate. I have seen long articles written just to bash anothet scholar. Saying things like 'He is a deviant, don't listen to him..' . What ever happened to private counsel to a muslim brother.

I have had to send a mail to a popular speaker once because I felt a lot of backbitting was taking place on his facebook page. Alhamdulilah, it stopped.

It becomes a competition and it is not pretty.

May Allah make our knowledge beneficial and not a source of rivalry.

Wa iyakum my brother, it's really saddening, this rivalry amongst scholars. Its been a dangerous trend for the past 3 to 4 ramadhan now, amongst notable scholars in Lagos, scholars publicly antagonising each other on tv, the most painful aspect is that their students are also following suit. You would see it in their reaction when their sheikhs make reference to the other groups, making crude remarks and the likes, it's really pathetic, and you would ask yourself, why all these?

If you've ever been at the centre of a 'cold war' so to speak between rival groups, i tell you, you would feel like never trusting anyone, the magnitude of dirty plans and attacks could make one loose faith. You just wonder where is the Islam, do these people really know or just don't care.

Well, at the end, all will be judged by Allah. My motto has always been,"just do your thing for the sake of Allah(SWT) and help as many as you can to understand what Islam is all about."
Ameen to your prayers, May Allah continue to guide us.

deols: I need to save this page.

Thanks Sino.

Alhamdulilah, you are welcome sis.

falansa: still waiting for suggestions. Engineers pls help me out

It is always good to test every aspect of your electronic devices at least during 1 week of purchase cos there might be factory faults.

Your best option is to take it back to where you bought it from, it should still be under waranty.

^ Ameen Wa iyakum bro.

In the name of Allah the most beneficent, the most merciful, peace and blessings of Allah be upon the noblest of mankind, Prophet Muhammed (SAW)

Knowledge in Islam, is a concept that is overwhelmingly important, from inception, Islam has placed emphasis on knowledge and learning. The first 5 verses of the Holy Qur'an revealed to the Prophet (SAW) depict this, Allah (SWT) Says;
"Read in the name of your Lord who created. He created man from a clot. Read and your Lord is Most honorable. Who taught (to write) with the pen. Taught man what he knew not. (Al-Alaq 1-5).

There are also numerous traditions of the holy prophet Muhammed (SAW) which also stresses the importance of knowledge as well as seeking knowledge. The prophet said 'seeking knowledge is obligatory on Muslims both male and female' he also said, 'whoever goes out to seek for knowledge, such a person is on the path of Allah till he returns'.
These are but few examples of how Islam places emphasis on knowledge and seeking knowledge.

Some Scholars have been able to classify Muslims into 3 categories in terms of knowledge, the first being the scholar, the second a student of a scholar (i.e. student of knowledge) and the third is the questioner (i.e., not a student but one who asks questions about religious matters).

The category which concerns us the most, I mean we the Muslim youth is the seeker of knowledge i.e. a student of knowledge. How do we become a student of knowledge or what are the etiquettes of being a student of knowledge.
Below are some etiquette which I have come across, which have been passed down from righteous scholars, they are pieces of advice for the youth seeking knowledge.

1. Intention
In every act a Muslim undertakes, there must be an intention, the Prophet(SAW) captured it lucidly in his hadith which can be found in the popular 40 hadiths of An-Nawawee, he said,’ verily, with every action is an intention, and each man shall get what he intended...'
A seeker of knowledge must make his intention pure, he should seek knowledge for the right reasons, he shouldn't seek knowledge for fame and fortune, for the prophet (SAW) said 'Perished be the slave of dinar and dirham, of qatifah (thick soft cloth) and khamisah (money and luxurious cloth), as he is pleased if these things are given to him, and if not, he is displeased. Let such a person perish and relapse, and if he is pierced with a thorn, let him not find anyone to take it out for him'. Bukhari

Narrated AbuHurayrah The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If anyone acquires knowledge of things by which Allah's good pleasure is sought, but acquires it only to get some worldly advantage, he will not experience the arf, i.e. the odour, of Paradise.(sunan abu daud)

Allah Says “Those who desire the life of the Present and its glitter to them we shall pay (the price of) their deeds therein without diminution. They are those for whom there is nothing in the Hereafter but the Fire: vain are the designs they frame therein and of no effect are the deeds that they do!” (Hud 15-16)
Shaykh Muhammed Abdul Wahab named a chapter in Kitab Attawhid regarding this above verse, entitled; ‘A person's seeking the world through his deeds, is a part of shirk'

You should always seek Allah’s Pleasure; Allah would take care of you.

2. Knowledge should be sought to lift ignorance off oneself and the society. As Muslims, we have been praised by Allah in the Qur'an as the best of creation; we command good and forbid evil. Allah says: “Ye are the best of peoples evolved for mankind enjoining what is right forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah.”(Al-Imran 110). A seeker of knowledge must have this at the back of his mind.

As a student of knowledge, you are meant to be a lantern, a light for yourself and others to see the path towards Allah. You need to rid yourself off ignorance first, before you can rid ignorance off your society.
Ridding the society of ignorance is part of your obligation, for with that you would be free to practice your religion in peace; an Arabic poetry paints a good picture

‘Prepare a fire (light), for verily the night is cold
And the wind (that blows) oh one who prepares the fire (light), is a severely cold wind
Perhaps, a man who walks by would see your light (from the fire)
And would invite a visitor so you become warm (liberated).’

A good analogy to describe the importance of lifting ignorance off the society can also be illustrated by the story of a double-decker boat, the people in the lower deck need water and felt since they are closer to the water, they should drill a hole in the boat, if the people at the upper deck do not inform them of the danger and persuade them not to do so, they all would drown. If you, a student of knowledge do not spread your knowledge and teach people the right way to Allah (SWT) then, the consequences would be devastating.
3. Acting on the knowledge is obligatory. As student of knowledge, you should act on the knowledge you acquire, what would be the benefit of knowing so much yet you don't practice it? Allah likened the Jews who were given the torah and they didn't use it to donkeys, Allah said 'the likeness of those who were entrusted with the obligation of the Taurat but who subsequently failed in those obligation, is as a likeness of a donkey which carries huge burden of books(but understands nothing from them). How bad is the example of those who deny the ayat of Allah. And Allah guides not the zalimoon.(Q62v5)

Abdullah Ibn Mas’ood said, 'we used to learn ten verses from the Qur’an and we would not go beyond them until we comprehended them and acted upon them'

Narrated AbuHurayrah The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) used to say: "O Allah, I seek refuge in Thee from four things: Knowledge which does not profit, a heart which is not submissive, a soul which has an insatiable appetite, and a supplication which is not heard."

Narrated AbudDarda' The worst of men in the eye of Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be the scholar who does not derive benefit from his knowledge. Transmitted by Darimi.(tirmidhi).
You need to talk the talk and walk the walk, you need to practice what you have learnt so you’ll practice what you preach.

4.No to At-Taqlid, Blind followership. The prophet (SAW) has advised us in his last sermon, he said he had left the Qur’an and his sunnah for us to follow. A student of knowledge must understand that anything that go against Allah's book and his messenger is false and should not be followed. Imam Ash-Shafii said, “The scholars are united, past and present; that whosoever has a sunnah of the messenger clarified unto him, then it is not permissible to abandon it for the sake of anyone else's word.” A student of knowledge must be careful not to fall into blind followership, as the result would end in error as the saying goes, 'if a blind leads a blind, they both fall into a pit'

Being a student of knowledge also means that you are a custodian of the Qur’an and Sunnah, it is your responsibility to guard them jealously, so be careful of those who introduce new things into Islam.

5. Be polite and humble, Do not over magnify people.
Humility is the hallmark of a student of knowledge; you shouldn't seek knowledge to show off or for respect and status. You should be respectful to the scholars and do not go overboard in terms of respect and praise.
When you correct ignorant people, you should do so in the most respectable and polite manner, you shouldn’t be condescending and dismissive, remember, if not for Allah’s favor, you might have been in his shoes.

6. Be focused
Learn to plan your time, set goals and limit distractions. Be eager to learn new things only after you have fully understood your previous assignments. Being focused enables you not to overburden yourself with irrelevancies and too much work, you can’t learn everything. Remember, your primary purpose in life is to worship Allah (SWT).

7. Good manners and relationship with other student of knowledge. You should be sincere with your fellow seekers, engage in discussion and debates that will broaden your understanding, abstain from lying and deceit, it kills the heart and makes one loose his rewards with Allah (SWT).

Narrated Ibn Masud I heard the Prophet saying, "There is no envy except in two: a person whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the right way and a person Whom Allah has given wisdom (i.e. religious knowledge) and he gives his decisions accordingly and teaches it to the others."(Bukhari)

8. Be careful of wicked scholars, the prophet (SAW) said, 'what I fear for this ummah is the wicked scholars'.
Their outward appearance depicts righteousness, but their inner self is filled with evil, they manipulate the youths for their selfish desires, they wine and dine with the corrupt leaders and the wealthy in the society. It is very difficult to know they are deceitful, always double check fatwas and opinions of scholars, remember point 4, don’t be a blind follower of a scholar.

Narrated Hakim ibn Umayr A man asked Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) about evil. Whereupon he said: Don't ask me about evil but ask me about good. He repeated this thrice after which he said: Behold, the worst beings are the wicked among the learned ones and the best are the virtuous among the learned. Transmitted by Darimi.

9. Be prayerful. Dua is the weapon of the believer; use it as much as possible on your path of knowledge. Wake up in the early hours to supplicate, always wet your tongue with the remembrance of Allah.

“I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assemble better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.” (Hadith Qudsi)

Allah (SWT) is sufficient for you.

10. Patience and perseverance.
Gone are the days of cane and merciless beating, well, maybe some little ones still get it these days, also gone are the days of no ending sojourns on land and sea just to learn about an ayah or one hadith.
Our generation has been blessed, there are better avenues to seek knowledge, we can sit at the comfort of our homes to learn, even with that, there are challenges and difficulties we face which are quite different from that faced by the earlier generation.

The path to knowledge can be tedious; Allah would test you but be patient. Allah (SWT) said 'Do people think that they would be left alone because they say we believe and they would not be tested. (Al-Ankabut 2).
When you patiently preserve, then you would be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour in this life and the hereafter. Allah (SWT) Says “And be steadfast in patience; for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish.” (Hud 115)

You should know that seeking knowledge is a lifelong process, the prophet (SAW) was reported to have said, 'seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave’.

So no matter the difficulty you face, never give up, you have to continue the struggle till your last breath.
May Allah (SWT) Assist you on this path you have chosen to attain the goodness of both worlds Ameen.

Wa ma Taofeeq illa bi LLAH.

Alveez: please house can someone here help me , my system usually go BLANK these days and d screen goes black then comes back on again after few seconds. and a warning message will appear when its back on that..........."Display driver stopped responding and has recovered"

please what can i do about it to stop this anormally. thanks so much in advance for helping out.

Did you update your drivers recently?
what was the last thing you did/installed that you can recollect before this problem started?
if your answer is yes to the first question,
Try this,roll back driver
*right click on my computer
*click on manage, on the right column, click on device manager
*go to display adapters and expand, then double click on the displayed name or right click and select properties
*a window will pop up, click on the driver tab
*then click on roll back driver.
*follow the instructions to roll back driver

OMA4U: 1.yeah, Installing window. 2. All the function keys 3. We were unable to install window, because we need f2 to go to set up. 4. Run memory test, and not check disk.

Thanks. I really appreciate you and the valuable time you use in solving my problem. More blessing, bro.

deji2009: try the fix's from previous post and have you tried installing windows with a usb external keyboard

I definitely suspect the keyboard here, one of the function keys or escape would be the culprit...
i suggest he should replace the keyboard.

Donsammi: Onegig ,deji,briqht & de rest.... like seriuz play.. My friend's pman brouqht a new mini sony vaios laptop frm abroad...to my surprise wen he boot it. it was operatinq on andriod os no windows [shocked] ....can i install window7 /xp on it? It has 1 terrabyte HDD(1000GB) 4GB RAM .... Itz sony vaios white in colour

deji2009: What is the exact model of the laptop ?
Have u tried doing some research on Google ?

I was not quite sure that laptops are being shipped with android, but was thinking towards such lately...
anyways, as deji asked, the model of the laptop would help, i believe if it carries an intel processor or amd, with x86 or x64 architecture, it would definitely run a windows and with the spec, even windows 8.

i just stumbled upon installing android os on minilaptop hp, and the os is named Android-x86...i'm not sure if this is officially from google, but since android is open source i guess anything goes...
i think you can learn more from here...
http://www.android-x86.org/

onegig: am willing to help him if if can just post a pic of his receipt and the laptop . Drop your email after then. Am going to send it to your email.

Yep, i support this, he can send you a pm and then send you the details if he doesn't want to put his details on here.

superted87: Pls gurus I need ur help.......I can't remember ma password... Its running on windows 7 premium....ve tried all means possible bt ve nt been able to login....I nee solutions

Eyah, poor you, and you didn't creat a password reset disk?

Well, i think it's against the policy here to give you steps on how to crack passwords, for one reason, how do we know the system is really yours...

My advice, go look for a techy with proof of ownership and solve your problem...

And google is your friend

deji2009: This very g ( ood sino, but reading from your previous post
earlier on, I would advice not to ask a user to take
laptop memory out or any other components. taking battery out
is okay. you could have done better by sticking to the atx rest
instead of taking the memories out. This is not a criticism, just an
advice. I try as much as possible to be careful. Thats it.
I look forward to reading your future post and have to say you're
doing well overall.

Deji

London

Thank you bro, i'll be much more careful next time.

I must also say, i have learnt alot here, from techys here and most especially you.

Keep up the good work.

teknology: thanks dude thats what people have been telling me that i should try the ram stuff but i dont know where the ram is located can you please just tryna tell me

Okay, it's very simple, you just need to be very careful.

Unplug your system and remove the battery

Usually, the memory compartment is at the underside of your lappy, just try to locate a cover at the back of your system with a screw.

Unscrew and remove the cover, you should be able to see the memory module, one or two..

Make sure you properly ground yaself by touching a metal surface properly grounded(i hardly remember to do this lol) before you handle the memory

Push the lactch sideways in opposite direction, and carefully lift the memmory a little bit and slide it outward, removing it from its slot.

Yep, thats it, you've successfully removed your RAM, putting it back is also easy, just slide it back the way you had brought it out making sure you align the groove properly and push it down gently until the latch snaps.


If this looks daunting, find a computer technician.

teknology: lol okay whenever i plug in my charger it starts to charger but when i try to boot it on it fails to start and the screen is always blank

Hmmm, i'm quite not satisfied with this info, anyways...
check if your charger is ok, or get another one to confirm...

Try a hard reset,
*unplug your charger
*remove your battery
*remove any peripheral devices
*hold your power button for 60seconds
*then power up your lappy again

If no joy,
Try this if you know your way to the laptop's RAM i.e memory.
Get a working RAM(from a friend) to swap with yours and see if it comes on
Or if your system contains two, then try each one separately

If no joy,


Get your system to a techy fast!

christochrist: I installed Photoshop CS6, without knowing the license key of it and i have less than 2 days for the trial to expire. Is there anything i can do or can someone give me the license key for it. Please

It's agains the forum rules to give out license keys...

You can always purchase online, or better still, go to computer village.

teknology: Guys please my lenovo t60p is not booting can anyone figure out the problem for me

You have to provide more info, we ain't wizards here lol

Tell us What really happens when you put on your system, does it display anything? Is the fan rolling? What about the lights(power led,hdd), does it come on? Does your system give a sound when you put it on? Is there an error message? Does it try to boot and then shows a blue screen?
you can see there are loads of info you need to give plus your system spec too and operating system you are running.

Now fill us in...

Asomat: pls hw can i make a windows 7 software genuine when i dnt hv its product key. Pls help.

Where did you get your software? Perhaps you go back to where you purchased it for help.

Normally, your produck key would be included in your windows 7 package.

Hmmm, very interesting story ma sha Allah

I once thought lowering my gaze means perpetually looking down on the path that i walk. Fortunately for me, before i could start practicing my understanding of lowering my gaze and put myself at risk, i came to know it means to avert ones sight from what is forbidden to look at.

Even those without Islam but do have a sense of modesty and respect for the female kind do lower their gaze.

Yeah it's a challenge to these kind of females, a good man who just ignores you or shows no sign of interest in all your 'advertisement' can be demeaning #Fact!


May Allah make it easy for us ameen.

tpia@:
i'm not advocating positive thinking [i'm not into that, especially with negative thinking reigning these days, much better to acknowledge that than live in denial].

what i meant is what you say or believe will also affect your interaction with others.

for example, going back to the post in question [sorry to bring it up again], if you have the mindset that daughters will give you stress, its likely they will, since you will relate with them in that fashion.

let's say a woman has bad experiences with or hears bad things about men and relates with her sons in a manner that reflects her negative opinion of the male gender. Chances are she will do so even without meaning to, because she feels a bad vibe when she sees men, her sons included.

hope you get my point? Not sure if its clear.

Its not positive thinking, but your own perception of how you want to view something.

I think it's the same thing, our thoughts are the foundation of our perception or to better put, they influence our perception and hence our action.
"For every action, there is an intention and every man will get what he intended..." Prophet(SAW)
"The ancestor of every action is a thought"Ralph Waldo Emerson...We can easily say, we are what we think.

I do understand your point, and it is very true. I am going to stress positive thinking cos of your statement "i'm not advocating positive thinking"

My initial thoughts were negative, which affected my perception of female children, all i need to do is to change my thought patterns to positive to get the right perception, like Mac said, i should look more at the prospects rather than the challenges of raising a female child.

My perception(thoughts) would affect what happens to me and how i would react to them, which is the basis of the law of attraction, like attract like...

As a muslim, i understand this natural phenomenon perfectly through the hadith of the Prophet(SAW) when he said, "Strange are the ways of a believer, for there is good in every affair of his and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer for if he has an occasion to feel delight, he thanks (God), thus there is a good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shown resignation(and endures it patiently), there is a good for him in it."

A person who thinks positively would show gratitude when good comes his way, and will show patience during adversity, he is perpetually in good spirit. Positive thinking is not running away from reality or not acknowledging the negativity we face, rather it's a better option than dwelling on the negative things that befalls us which would in turn affect our perception of things and lead us to live a wretched life.

I like the fact that they are not compromising on their deen, they could have easily blend and give excuses...

it always delight me when i see them do the sajdah, this is very inspiring ma sha Allah.

deols: From this, I know that you got what I am driving at.

and still, I disagree with your method. Maybe I should already let go but pardon me pls.


Education wise(madrassah inclusive), I dont see how a girl doesnt have what a guy has. In fact, I believe that they have equal opportunities. Now, we may be talking of different environments. so, that'll pass.


As to giving the girl more attention, with it, we'll end up having a future of responsible girls with no equally responsible men to match.

It is already happening.

I heard yesterday of a family who wouldn't allow their son marry a particular girl because she's been coming to sleep with him in their house. All the while that she's been coming, they didnt complain. Marriage comes into the discussion and they realise that their irresponsible son deserves a responsible girl. It is now generally acceptable that a girl is the one who must be chaste, must be respectable, must learn to cook, etc while the boy looks on or plays on or becomes an NFA member.


My point remains that, whatever training, attention, madrassah fees, etc that a girl is getting, a boy should also be getting. It should be seen as a normal thing to get among the children and not what a girl gets and a boy doesnt deserve.

I do appreciate your perspective, i think we do agree to a greater extent, so its all good.

My fears are natural, i now understand, sincerity and giving the best at my disposal not forgetting the prayer factor is all i need to do as a dutiful father...

I look foward to having both male and female children, righteous and dedicated Muslims in shaa Allah.

deols: Even though I have an understanding of what you are driving at, I still don't see the 'daunting' part.

Let each of the childr3n know what is right and what is wrong.

Let them all have good education.

Dont discriminate while bringing them up.

I stated all I did, not because I thought it was what you meant(and is d reason I asked in a question format in case it was what you meant) but because I see it happening a lot.


You mentioned that a girl cannot be hafidh, for where?

I think believing that a female child is limited and will have limited opportunities is a big problem. If they don't already have the opportunities, they can be created.

Deols, it's not about discrimination, but understanding the differences between a male and the female child and giving the appropriate attention to them. I think we the muslim males should be complaining sef, there is no promise of paradise raising the male child na, mothers are meant to be honored three times more than the father, paradise lies at her feet.

No doubt, they both need adequate education and the need to know the right from the wrong, but the females need more attention and care, did you not read my quote about training a nation by training the female child? have you heard about girls with daddy issues? Why is our society going south morally? We all know that mothers play a big role in the family.

My reasons, are quite beyond what you stated, but true, it happens a lot. Boys or girls can equally bring shame to the family.

I didn't say females cannot be hafidh, what i said was that most females do not go beyond learning how to read the Qur'an, we can do a little survey, in your street, how many muslim females are graduate of a madrasah idadiyyah?

I agree with your last point, although i don't see her as being limited, rather i see her as being neglected and not adequately catered for, hence the need to dedicate more resources in training the female child which makes it a challenge quite different from the male child.

tpia@:
well, you know the expression you used- "give you the creeps", has a different meaning from just being scared.

I know, that was why i replied you with the meaning i was referring to which is fear.

tpia@:
and, i initially thought you and deols were posting in conjunction with each other until i noticed her agreeing with me and even mentioning me by name. That means she is really disturbed and angered by your post, just saying.

lol, why do i get the feeling that my post do not go down well with the females? Even after i concluded it with my new mindset...

tpia@:
if you were christian, i would know how to address your post, but since you're not, I'll just say,

dont let your destiny agree with what you're typing.

meaning should your destiny agree with what you're typing, would that be a good or bad thing.

for example, say instead of:




you typed:




which do you think would be better.

i dont know if you're indian, hispanic, middle eastern, or some other nationality, but the context in which I'm typing is assuming you're nigerian.

I understand you perfectly, i cherish positive thinking and i'm also an advocate for it, even though i know my destiny has been sealed, only prayers can change it, the reason i am praying and continue to pray that Allah Blesses me with righteous children (prayer is also positive thinking).

omo naija ni mi o...

^ you welcome.

tbaba1234: Raising a girl child could be a daunting challenge especially if you are looking at it from a guy's perspective.

By the time a girl is 12-13, she is already been chased by older boys and grown men. Particularly if she is pretty. A boy at this age is still a kid, for him maturity comes a bit later.

I understand why parents focus on their girl child sometimes unfairly but it is motivated by love.

This post was orignally meant for the parenting thread but I brought it out here. I would write about raising kids on that thread when I learn more, from a Quranic view, in sha Allah.

True talk my brother, parents can be overprotective, you can't really blame them, its the way things have turned out to be.

I'm seriously looking at it from a guy's angle, maybe when i get married it would be balanced lol.

I'll definitely follow the thread bro, may Allah bless your efforts ameen.

Sissie: Which state are d beneficiaries, I mean which state are you going to buy the books and stuffs.
Am trying to understand better, the chairs and canopy is for what and refreshments.

We starting with Lagos, then other states would follow in sha Allah

Canopy and chairs for volunteers, the pack will be distributed in the open, there might be need for some interfaith interactions, also, the old and the weak would make use of the shade and the chairs.

Refreshment is for the kids.

Alhamdulilah!
Allah's Blessings are bountiful, of which is guidance and success, may He guide everyone who as contributed and make them attain success in this life and the next ameen.
Thank you all!

deols: Like tpia asked, why should the female give you creeps?

Does it stem from the thought that the male child is easier to train because

*even if he dresses indecently with tight fitted trousers or saggy baggy ones sweeping the floor, it doesnt matter as much as a girl not wearing hijab. People don't see what the boy does or don't care or think it doesnt matter.

*and even if he goes on having illicit sexual reactions, it doesnt matter either as his virginity is never to be proven at any point in time.

*and if pregnancy does come into the question, it doesn't tell on him unlike the girl, who'd have to take the 9 months course or have her life disturbed.

etc

Well, these kinds of thoughts don't help either and are a disservice to the male folks. It makes parents focus so much on the female child, as she is d one who must not break thereby neglecting the male ones.

My fear is borne out of my experiences i had and some that i am still having. I'll be equally saddened if my male child exhibit any of the above character(a'udhubillah), and like i posted earlier, females are a target, which makes their case special and demands special attention.

There is a standard i look forward to, a muslimah in every sense, and for me to train her to that level, looks daunting.

I don't think we really focus on the females negletting the males, it's on the contrary, a female would only go to madrasah and learn how to read the Qur'an and thats all! Only few go further, the reasons are complex, some of them are disheartening...

I wish all men can be like the Prophet(SAW), and some of my fears would fade away, but the reality is horrible, some men are wolves in sheep clothing and there is little i can do about it...

deols: Every of life teachings is important for the male and female children and training neither should be creepier.

I understand your point, i wish i can easily see it that way, i know there are challenges in training a male child, but the ones i see for the females is quite greater, and i can only pray to Allah to make the task easier for us ameen.

tpia@:
Why should female children give you the creeps?

Na fear o, whether you like it or not, females are like a target. The prophet (saw)(if i'm not mistaken) said train a boy and you've trained one person, train a girl and you've trained a nation.

With the way our society is going, women being objectified, a play thing. I think i have good reasons to be scared.

Now i understand its worth it, i'll have to give my best to my children(male and female) and pray Allah makes them righteous and coolness of my eyes.

tbaba1234: Awesomeness!

^Exactly

'say: "If the ocean were ink (werewith to write out) the words of my Lord sooner would the ocean be exhausted than would the words of my Lord even if we added another ocean like it for its aid."(Q18vs109)

As we study the Qur'an more, so do we have more explanation and understanding. Subhanallah!

Sissie: https://www.nairaland.com/1347088/muslim-sisters-circle I have decided to create one oh, my very 1st thread, not sure how it works thou, @deols

BarakaLLAHU fihi!

@talk2me006, bro, please leave alexis in his delusions, as you can see, he has no respect for our revered personalities, it makes no sense engaging him. Don't let him take you down to his level. Assalam alaykum.