₦airaland Forum

tpia1: you're welcome.

i think tbaba was just shopping for compliments, na wa for una, like say una no know say una be hot cake.

just "dont near" our "ogling" christian girls abeg.

before you know it, they see a muslim man, they have fallen in love and converted.

LOL @ "hot cake"

well, it is permissible you know, but we've got our pious Muslim sisters, so we'll try not to go near the ogling christian girls...

Seriously though, a convert is a good thing, only when the person is sincere and convinced about the truth and beauty of Islam.

Inalillahi wa ina ilayhi raji'un

This is really sad, just few days to eid. Our military sometimes act irresponsibly, i await their official response though, the culprits must be brought to justice.

Thanks tpia1 for sharing those poems, at least it seems to have dismantled the AAMM grievances

tbaba1234: Looks like last night was layl latul Qadr, did any one take note of the sun rise this morning?!

Rayless and diffuse in many parts of the world.

And Allah knows best.

Subhannalah! i never even noticed, may Allah grant our prayers ameen

maclatunji: In case you did not know, tpia is a literary icon.

By the way tpia, I am looking to work with writers, are you interested? The same applies to Sino and whover else is interested.

Bro, I am interested o, but i still dey gather liver...

lanrexlan: Ipalemo ni o,may Allah in his infinite mercies makes us witness this eid and more eids to come In sha Allah in good health and sustenance.

Ameen ya rabba l 'alameen

Polygyny vis-à-vis Houris In Janah

I believe it is safe to state that majority of women in the past, especially during the time of the prophet, had no issues with polygyny, they were already involved in it, it was part of their culture, I don’t think there is any report of a female sahaba going against it. Be that as it may, Islam placed a stringent clause to going into polgyny, and restricted the number and prohibited the abuse that was prevalent. I believe the then Muslim females would be forever grateful, judging with what was obtainable prior to the advent of Islam, to them, Islam is a life saver.

Now, in the present, it is still permissible (Mubah), but not obligatory (Wajib) so you are at liberty to choose what you want, there is absolutely no sin on you if you do not want polygyny, you can discuss this with your suitor, and even put it in your marriage contract.

A Muslim honours his promise, but we know things may not go as planned, thus, the allowance to seek divorce if she cannot stay in such a relationship, but I repeat, A Muslim keeps his promise, as not keeping your promise is a sign of hypocrisy and hypocrites are punished with hellfire. Therefore, a man who promises not to take another wife, but wants to take one, first needs to discuss with his wife, and as such, there would be a reason for his wanting to take another woman, coupled with the fact that it is absolutely prohibited for him to be “playing away match” doing this makes him committing adultery, and punishable under the shariah law. We should all remember that Allah is aware of all that we do.
There are genuine reasons that can come up, for example, if his wife becomes ill or sick, and cannot live up to her responsibilities as a wife, if the wife did not give birth to any child for the man, etc.

If the reason is not genuine, the wife has the right to seek for divorce, and his judgment is with Allah (SWT).
Ibnul Qayyim wrote:
“If it was made a condition (during the ‘aqd) that the man not marry another, then he must abide by that. Once he does marry someone else, she has the right to end the marriage.” (fiqhu sunnah)


On the houris in Jannah, the Qur’an never mentioned numbers, but rather than dwell on who get houris and how many they will get, why not let us dwell on the following:
"Gardens of 'Adn, which they shall enter, and [also] those who act righteously from among their fathers, and their wives and their offspring..." [13:23]

"They and their wives will be in pleasant shade, reclining on thrones." [36:56]

"Enter Paradise, you and your wives, in happiness" [43:70]

"There they will have all that they desire - and We have more [for them, i.e. a glance at the All-Mighty, All-Majestic." [50:35]

So what do you want oh my dear sisters? You want only you and your husband/man? Allah will fulfill your desires, even more than anticipated, me personally, I want to be with my wife in Janah to live together for eternity.

But guys, how much are we bothered about how to attain Jannah? What deeds have we really sent forth? Are we Muslims in all our affairs? Are we really confident of attaining jannah, that we are not really bothered about our deeds, but rather asking what is our reward, how is it going to be, is Allah Just giving this or that, etc. have you stopped to ask yourself, if I die today, what do is my status with Allah? We will all die, we will all meet our creator, we will all give accounts, each and every man and woman.

Know these issues raised are part of test from Allah, it is an opportunity to see the truth and acknowledge it, and establish our resolve to be Muslims and nothing else!

Allah said:
“Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried?
But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars”. (29:2-3)

The Prphet was reported to have said:

“Indeed, the merchandise of Allah is expensive!
Indeed, the merchandise of Allah is Heaven!”
["At-Tirmidhi", 2450 - Saheeh].

If you are having doubts, always remember Allah is closer to us, ask Him for guidance, wake in the early hours and call Him with His most Beautiful Names, He is the only one who can answer our prayers and grant us our heart desires, then talk to your fellow believers, be in the company of the righteous and before you know it, the doubt fades away and what replaces it is firm faith and gratitude to Allah. As Allah (SWT) have said, verily, the plot of shaytan is weak.

I pray Allah (SWT) continues to guide our hearts, make our strengthen our faith, and protect us from the whispers of shayatin. Ameen

In the Name Of Allah, the Merciful,

I think people are over thinking these issues here; Islam is more of maintaining justice, irrespective of the individual, it is a practical religion, it is not dogmatic, nor expects a blind faith from its adherents.

We must first acknowledge that God who created us know us more, and He definitely created us differently, but yet, he legislated laws to guide us so as to curb excesses, and for people not to take advantage of others.

I must first explain that these laws fall under a spectrum of judgments, and thus we have,

1. Al- wajib : Obligatory action that must be performed
2. Al – Mustahab: recommended action that should be performed
3. Al-Mubah: permissible action, neither encouraged nor discouraged
4. Al-Makruh: disliked action, which should be avoided, but not in strictly prohibitory terms
5. Al-Haram: unlawful action strictly prohibited.
Most important thing for a believer is the wajib, as well as engaging in enough mustahab and if he/she likes, engages in mubah, but must avoid Haram at all cost, but can still find her/himself in the Makruh once in a while. While still looking at these classifications, we must understand that there are the fundamental aspects of the deen and there are branches which borders on social relations and the likes.

As I have previously mentioned, Islam came as a universal religion, relevant to yesterday, today and tomorrow, that is why for example in dressing, it is basically about rules of what constitute unclothedness, revealing and what is prohibited, rather than modeling a particular culture or people. Once your dress conforms to the rules of Islam, then there is no issue, even in terms of gender specificities, it was about females not imitating male and vice versa, thus Arabs, Indians and Pakis put on Wrappers (Iro in Yoruba) and it does not negate Islam in anyway, but such cannot be put on by a Yoruba man because dressing as such depicts imitating a woman.

Islam integrates into any culture, but only prohibits what constitute polytheism and disbelieve, and what would cause harm to the individual and the society at large. It is basically meant to emancipate man, to create a just, equitable and peaceful society.

Now, I think people like projecting their own prejudice or bias, without really understanding what Islam states, and with what we know of the prevailing dominance of the male folks in our society, it always seems Islam favours the male more than the female, I strongly disagree, both have their advantages and their disadvantages, yet, both have the same opportunity to attain piety which mandates Allah’s reward both in this life and the next. For example, a man is expected to participate in Jihad in repelling evil and establishing justice, but the woman is exempted and her own Jihad is to go on Hajj.

When we are looking at male and female relationship, it seems people are not looking at what is obtainable realistically, one thing is that, we cannot compare our parents time, with ours, our mothers were trained to accept everything in the home for better for worse, they dare not go back to their father’s house, so they tend to stay in an abusive home, no matter what the man does, they would stay, they would be patient and I can boldly state that, in most cases, these women always reap the benefit of their patience and perseverance. Allah never let the works of one who patiently preserve go in vain.

What does Islam says? Firstly, a man has no right to abuse his wife, physically or verbally, he must treat her in the best manner,
Allah says: “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought” (Ar-Rum 30:21)

The prophet was reported to have said; “The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.”(At-Tirmidhi)

What does finding tranquility means? What does best to your women entails? Are men obeying this? If your wife is not pleased, not happy, and always sad, haven’t they issues with their faith? Do we see marriage as a religious responsibility?

This is one of the obligatory acts expected from the husband, he must treat her right, and he must fear Allah in dealing with her… this leads us to the emphasis of the religion in choosing your partner. Note, it is not that you are not to look at other things, but once the religion is certain, it becomes easier to correct a spouse who errs, and not only that, you complement each other in achieving the ultimate reward which is Janah.

What is unfortunate is that, majority of us are deficient in the religion, so anything goes, we lack the proper understanding of our peculiar responsibilities, and this affect both male and female.

What is obtainable now with our generation is that females are now being aware of their rights, they want to be independent, and want equality and what have you, you see career women here and there, they want to compete and make their voices heard. I believe this happened because of the abuse men had put women through all these years. Unfortunately, they have gone to the extreme and returned to Jahiliyah (period of ignorance), and in turn have even become worse than what was obtainable in the recent past, they think religion (Islam) is restrictive, hence should be done away with, Women are now objectified; they still remain a slave to the man’s desires. The evidence is quite obvious in our society.

What does Islam says? Islam had never deprived any right of the female from inception, it liberated the woman from the shackles of slavery and being regarded as unimportant possession, tbaba’s post quoted some notable quotes in this regard, Islam recognized Woman as human, gave her rights, gave her status, and gave her honour.

Islam wants to maintain the structure of the society, it wants progress, and does not want unnecessary hiccups, thus, there needs to be control, check and balances so that, one group does not oppress the other, there should be tranquility and order.

Islam gave the right for a woman to work, but this work should not conflict dangerously with her responsibilities at home, so she needs to discuss with the husband, and they find a middle ground, a way to support themselves, such is also expected from the male, or why else does Allah states partnership, tranquility, love and mercy between spouses? A man who does not discuss with his wife is depriving her one of her rights, who would such man say he is emulating? A responsible Muslim man would not say you must not work without making her wife see reason to why he says so, and not only that, must provide all of her needs regardless she works or not.

Such is also for a man too, his work must not conflict with his responsibilities at home, he must find a way to manage his work and home, and he needs to discuss this with his wife also, there must be communication. I read about Umar(r.a), the second caliph, when he was passing by a house where he overheard a woman whose husband was away on Jihad saying, and if not for the fear of Allah, her bed would have been warmed by another man, as such, he asked how long can a woman be without her husband and which she answered that it varies with different women, some a week, while others a month or even more, and after which Umar (r.a) legislated all married men not to stay more than 4 months while away on Jihad.

The Prophet said:
“When a husband and wife look at one another (with love), Allah looks at them both with mercy. And if the husband then takes hold of his wife’s hand, their sins will fall from their fingers.”
["Al-Jaami' al-Sagheer lil-Suyooti"m 1977 - Saheeh].
Subhanallah!
See brothers and sisters, the more you study Islam, the more you see the beauty and the simplicity, it is not in any way hard or harsh. I don’t know, but it seems to me that people are only talking about worst kind of men, not true Muslims, who know their responsibilities to Allah, and there fellow human being.
Do you know that the Prophet (SAW) said, “A Muslim is one who other Muslims are safe from his hands and tongue”? Imagine, this is what is expected from a Muslim to another Muslim, how much do you think is necessary and expected between spouses who are Islamically joined together in marriage?

tbaba1234: Now, that Sino has written a poem for sisters, (clears throat)

In the spirit of fairplay, (coughs) it is only fair for one of the sisters to write a poem, telling us how awesome muslim men are....

Thank you
AAMM

(Association of Aggreived Muslim Men)

Signed

Tbaba
Chairman

Never knew there is an association o, this one you are coughing and clearing your throat, are you fearing ni?

deols: This is one of the most beautiful things I have read. Thank you

Alhamdulilah, glad you liked it and you are welcome.

Assalam alaykum, the piece you are about to read was inspired by one of deols post, it is therefore dedicated to her as well as the esteemed Muslimaat of this section.

I hope it resonates with you all, and i pray the effect creates that which would be pleasing to the soul.

Allah's pleasure should always be sought, He is the Comforter, and the Cherisher of His beloved.

The Muslimah

Normally, I wouldn't do this,
Perhaps, I should face my work & mind my biz
But I’ve come to know you
I have always known you all my life
The Muslimah, my sister, my pride

How can I be gleeful, when you hurt?
Your tears shed never goes without thought
I dare not look away when you are down,
I have been trained to comfort, and treat you like the queen you really worth

I should never be harsh, nor should I be too docile
I should always be just, and fear Allah in my dealings with you
For If I don't, then I have failed, and I fear Allah's rancour on my soul

When I think of your boldness, I remember ibnata Imrana, the mother of Isa alayhi salama
When the Angel came bringing glad tidings
She was bold, an epitome of righteousness
How can I give birth to a child?
No man has ever touched me, she charged
But such is the way of Allah, The Supreme, The Sublime

And when I see your steadfastness, I remember Sumayah, the first martyr
She gave her life for the deen, she never learnt about Janah,
She only surrendered to the will of Allah
Is Allah not the only one that can reward such a sacrifice?

And when I witness your love for Allah,
I remember the wife of Firaun
Who gave up the dunya for the akhira
Build for me a home in Jannah
And save me from kufr were her lofty words
Words that resounds at every corner of the world and shall remain so till the end of time

These were the iconic women of the past,
And you are the icon of our time
The generation behind thee shall learn
Learn of your boldness and your righteousness,
Learn of your steadfastness and your ultimate love for your Creator.

I am always proud of you
Any day, anytime and anywhere
And so thus I plead,
Never be fooled by the fleeting world's lure
Nor the sweet whispers from the lips of callers impure
You shall remain my sister, the pride of the Ummah
And I'll continue to love you for the sake of Allah

^^^You watched the video of BH?! I have seen enough, i don't want to refresh those gory images ever again!
BH, ISIS are fitnah of our time, may Allah save us from this fitnah ameen.


What a cute baby, lol, no o, i just can't, she is too wonderful to compete with

I have this quote and feel compelled to share it...

Hafiz Ibn Taymiyah writes:

“Its narrated from Abu Hanifah that disbelief (kufr) is not a reason to kill someone and a person is fought for his muharabah (war against the muslims), so the person who is not a fighter should not be killed”.

(Al-Sarim-Al-Maslool 247)

One wonders why people try to deliberately misinform others about Islam, and scholars of Islam

Empiree: I really dont know if i can. Too xpensive to watch. My heart was beating faster. My eyes blink every millisecond as i watch she-camel delivery. And my wife, i would probably faint.

, chai! see our Men oooo...erm, e no go easy o, but i go try, at least i have sacrificed and dissected enough rats, lizards, spiders, cockroaches and what have you

^^^ Subhanallah!

I have seen a sheep (ewure) give birth, it was quite an event, in fact, almost the whole street witnessed it, there was no help or assistance as seen in the above video though, it gave birth under a bus, then the owner came to take them home...everyone was just praising God, and the women empathized with the poor ewure as it cried and cried until the it gave birth.

So Empiree wont be in the room when his wife gives birth abi?

@ kemiola89
Jazakumullahu khayran sis, what a refreshing reminder

uplawal: That means there are somethings that go up the sky that dnt come down,apart from what He sends from the Sky,So Isaac Newton maybe wrong here,Allahu Alam.

lol, nah, i don't think Isaac was wrong, he was basically stating the laws of the physical realm, while that Allah is describing is of another dimension, the spiritual realm.

Allah's Rahmah be with you tbaba for sharing this...

There isn't much to be so endearing to a believer in this life, i guess when you haven't gotten to that level of detachment from this world, and embrace true spirituality, you just keep falling and pray you get up stronger...the task always seem difficult, i don't know if it is due to temptations or just that one haven't yet seen the simplicity and tranquility in attaining spirituality.

Iman increases and decreases as rightly stated by the Prophet (SAW), i remember telling my friend who asked me for which prayer i wanted since he was going for itikhaf and i wasn't, i told him my faith is like the light from a candle stick, i am running with my candle stick while covering it with my hand for the severity of the wind around me is much and might just blow it off, then, i lose both worlds (audhubillah!). Now i remeber your tafsir of surah fatha, the need to continuously seek guidance, no safe lavel...

May Allah strengthen our faith, and not place upon us burden beyond our faith and capacity...

I believe you haven't finished right?

deols: I cant give replies to all the posts but i have to say these.

*I don't think that the mesaage of Islam was meant to be vague, and not understandable. It is wrong to want to push things under the carpet uaing fear as a mechamism or by trying to claim that we dont have the capacity for understanding them. I think there is a reason the Quran explains jannah to us- so we would work for it. You cant tell me that its explanation is not good enough anymore and that the human nature isnt good enough to give an understanding.

True, but not everything can be explained, there are just some things beyond our understanding, and most of these things, have little to do with our responsibilities in this life to our creator. The Jannah example is a good one, we know Allah promised us Jannah, He promised we would be pleased therein and even though with some hints to what is inside, He still said, there are things just beyond our scope, and what we know of Allah, is that He fulfill His promise, and He said He would never deprive the reward of an obedient servant, male or female.

deols: I also noticed that many of the replies did not look at my concerns. Giving vague and indirect answers are not helpful in any way.

tbaba1234 said something about men who dont have enough resources but go into polygyny. The thing is, there is no law that says they MUST have enough resources. They dont even need to LOVE their wives/love them equally for that matter. One could be favoured and the others were expected to just accept.

Actually, there is a law, and this is basically a fiqh issue, and it was what i posted earlier based on the maliki school of thought. And this happens to be part of the wajib aspect of ploygyny.
Who said you don't need to love your wife? there are reports of the prophet(SAW) in regards to love for Khadijah(r.a) and Aisha (r.a). Allah categorigally stated that love between spouses is one of his signs, so love is an integral part of marriage.
The reality of polygyny, is that you cannot be just in terms of love amongst your wives, and this is excused by Allah in Qur'an 4:129, this should not be mixed with the condition of justice in Qura'an 4:3. The former is explained interms of love and intimate relation, while the latter is explained in terms of provision and security. A good exmple is the love of the prophet for Khadijah(r.a), relative to others.

deols: There is a hadith I know of where a man was said to av gone to the prophet, complaining that he was impoverished. The prophet told him to get married. He went back after a while and the prophet told him to get married again. This is the hadith poverty-stricken people quote for engaging in polygyny.

LOL @ poverty-stricken people...there is also an hadith that states one not capable of marrying, should engage in fasting...we should know that hadiths are not looked at in isolation, tbaba made good points i regards to hadith.

deols: Still, the fact that some other people got married to children does not make it right. I believe that, someone providing us with the best of examples would give us something that is the best. I dont know if this point is misunderstood or if people are deliberately ignoring it. And if the prophet's message or example was only for the sunny regions, then u are against the belief that Islam is not a religion of arabs.

The best of mankind, Prophet Muhammad (SAW) married a mature Aisha (r.a), the condition for marriage is maturity, stated clearly in the Qur'an, what age each civilization and society defines as mature for marriage varies. Our reality is quite different, we cannot possibly pass a judgement based on our present civilization. If you were present during the time of the Prophet, you would be married. i remember talking to my mom about marriage and she said during her time, a girl who marries at the age of 18 or more is considered marrying late...

What i can say in regards to marrying a minor in our present reality is that, it is not acceptable, our society still see them as children, they still need to go to school, get a degree and get a job. But still, there are other society that does not see them as such, for example, i know a man (non Nigerian) who married a 13 year old as a second wife, i find it rather disturbing at first, but later understood that was the reality she was brought up in, now she is a mother, and i see her frequently without any issues (apparently). Personally, I cannot marry such, what can I possibly discuss with a 13year old?! How do we even relate?

deols: Please I did not plan to argue these points, I was in fact hoping that you would tell me things that would make me feel better about my faith. Please, you should not give me responses that insult my intelligence and thereby make my situation worse. Thanks.

I acknowledge these issues need to be adequately discussed and explained, there are lots of misconceptions, and there is lack of adequate knowledge and understanding in our society to dispel them, so many individuals, especially women are suffering silently, though Allah will reward them for their patience and perseverance to remain true to the deen, we still need to let Muslims know and practice Islam appropriately.

Sissie: there is no punishment either for a monogamist who decides to divorce his wife and marry another.

Indeed, but if i am not mistaken, divorce is said to be highly disliked by Allah even though permissible, then if so, divorce should not arise from flimsy excuses like she doesn't know how to cook or she is dirty

I agree with onegig on the need to go to the shariah court, but really, all that could be avoided, if each party has a good understanding of their responsibilities towards each other, and especially, towards Allah (SWT).

We might not have a hadd for divorcing for flimsy excuses, but if the man, due to is want to divorce his wife for no just reason or wants to marry another, makes life unbearable for his wife, such that she wishes to seek divorce as stated explicitly in Quran 4;19, then indeed, he has committed a sin and will be punished.

I don't believe Islam allows changing of wives like changing a TV channel, and that is why it becomes necessary to assess who ever you want to get married to and not just jump into marriage for the sake of it.

lanrexlan: e-pain or e-heartache developed by hatetheist I guess.
Salam Alaikum Waramatulah Wabarakatuh brother Sino,ramadan mubarak.

LOL, at this rate, these discoveries must earn a Nobel prize o

Wa alaykum salam habiby, Ramadan mubarak to you too, a de ku ipalemo eid.

Jazakumullahu Khayran baba11 for this beautiful thread.
The Prophet (SAW) said:
“The flesh that grows (on a person’s body) from ill-gotten gains will not enter Paradise, it is more deserving of being touched by the Hell-fire”. (Imam Ahmad)

Barakallahu laka brother, a very educative article.

I enjoyed reading the cartoon too

Unbias: I once opened a thread, Prophet Muhammad and the Jews. The wave that swept NL lately did not return the thread.

On that thread, only a Muslim Nairalander was factual that Allah has tagged them enemies and that they remain his enemy for that reason. He even quoted additional verses in the quran to corroborate the ayahs and hadiths I had ealier quoted as justifications for the enmity.

Those talking about Islam saving the Jews and history are either intentionally avoiding the truth or trying to discourage the existing feud.

It was Muhammad who created this sheer hatred for the Jews because they rejected his prophethood and theology, hence they became serious threath to the proliferation of Islam during its emergence. There are evidences from Islamic trilogy and other Islamic literatures to support this claim.

Note that no one has responded to the video. Many apologists know this but will defend the prophet as usual.

So upon the education Muslims gave you on that thread, you are still parroting the same thing?!

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Na so you be?!

All this ignorance you are shearing...

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Ma sha Allah! I've the video of the 2009 edition (the Nigerian reciter part), won by a Nigerian too. Allah has blessed these brothers with a beautiful voice and powerful retentive memory, unlike me

Any link to download the video?

Following...

Now don't be lazy bro

May Allah grant you strength. Ameen

On Polygyny

Firstly, this issue is always based on lack of proper understanding of what Islam really teaches, people only look at these issues based on a very myopic perspective, we don't always see the big picture.

This goes for the men who think yeah! It is permissible, and for the women who think this is so unjust. i'm going to dwell more on the male cos they've been missing the point for a long time now.

one thing we must understand is that, there are some issues that the society plays a huge role in what is prevalent, and Islam, did not come to destroy peoples culture, but rather, Islam came to address the true worship of the creator, as well as reforming the society, thus, anything which does not negate tawheed and not explicitly prohibited by Allah in a culture, is not haram.

Arabs, as well as many other cultures, were polygamous, it was the norm, there were genuine reasons and there were non-genuine reasons also. Men were known to marry up to ten women and even more and treating them badly, Islam came to put a restriction and conditions to marry more wives.

As already stated, the issue of marrying more than one wife, is not obligatory, it is only permissible, the verse of the Qur’an which talked about this permissibility, was also talking about orphans, and not usurping their wealth. The tafsir of this ayah discuss many difference of opinion in regards to the reason for the revelation of this verse, and notable of them is the one by Aisha (ra). She said this verse was revealed in regards to a man who had female orphan under his care, he became fascinated by her wealth and beauty, and wanted to marry her without doing justice in terms of the mahr, so the verse prevented such a nikkah, and instead of that, the man should give what is expected or stead, marry someone else.

Most men do not know the gravity of taken a single wife and being unjust to her; talk more of marrying more than one. Allah placed being just to an orphan (in terms of their wealth and wellbeing), and being just to your wives in the same category, this means the gravity of sin(in case of injustice) is the same, and what we know as punishment of the injustice to orphans is hellfire.

According to Maliki school of thought (which I believe is the Nigeria’s prominent madhhab?), being just to your wives is explained in terms of spending and security, and this is based on the status or condition of each wife, if she is from a rich family, then you must be just in that respect and also in terms of other needs. This justice is a condition which is wajib (obligatory), and one found not being just is considered a zaalim who cannot be given the position of Imam or accepted as a witness. If he denies the fact that being just is wajib, then he has three days to repent or else he becomes a kaafir.

I look at these conditions, and seriously, it is beyond intimate gratification, the permissibility, is not in any way favourable to the man, the men who think such still have a long way to go.

I have never come across a hadith that the Prophet encouraged his companions to take a second wife, and indeed, among the companions, we have those who married only 1 such as Ali and Abu hurayrah.

Fulaman198: God said they are. Equal in what sense? Being physically stronger than someone does not make you superior. I am most likely not to brag, physically stronger than most people here (men is whom I'm referring to). That does not make me better than anyone else.

If we really want to understand equality, then we should be able to make specific definition we are looking at. Islam states that human being are equal based on origin, but differentiation came up so as to be able to identify ourselves and be able to see our differences and appreciate what Allah has bestowed upon us, thus, we have nations, tribes and ethnicity, gender, strong, weak, rich, poor etc.
Still, all these differences does not matter, does not make anyone superior to the other, except in the case of piety, which only Allah knows of, and every individual has equal opportunity to achieve based on the specific roles Allah has stated clearly in His Book and related to us by His messenger (SAW).

Looking at the purpose of life according to Islam, even though we can conveniently explain all what Islam preaches logically, the most important thing is to worship Allah, and attain his favour, so it really does not matter who is given what right at the end of the day, since this life is just a test.

tintingz: Did Jesus himself love the Jews?

No bro, the question should be, who do the Jews love?

Fulaman198: You contradict yourself when you say equity and justice, not equality. Equality is about having just treatment. Equality is about having equal rights and privileges hence the word.

Let us be honest with ourselves, the Qur'an although a beautiful book shows favouritism and bias towards men and against women. The Qur'an is not the only holy book that does so. One must wonder why? Is it because most passages are written by men instead of women? Why can a man marry up to 4 wives, and a woman can't marry up to 4 husbands?

I could go on all day but I would probably get on people's bad side.

If equality is what you seek, then you should begin your query from creation, are men and women created equally?

abuhalima: Bro Sino, its good to have you back...

Thanks bro, Alhamdulilah.

deols: Thanks.

That is like the case we read of at the Family Section.

But do you really blame some of these ladies? Pressure to be married and unsuitable Muslim suitors are some of the things I have heard of o. Maybe the Muslim men they meet dont meet their criteria and the others do.

To me, the only excuse worth considering is ignorance, anything else is self desire.