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TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 10:03am On Apr 17, 2023
Guruindahouse:
If whatever you purchase are not being used at your job(in your company), that's a crime.
If it's registered in my company's name and not used for any other purpose, it's not a crime.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 8:04am On Apr 17, 2023
sukkot:
hehe bro you know I just busted you right lmaooo
The above is to let u know not only doctors are living a good life here.
I never told u my cousin is a doctor, where is the lie? Read well.
U sha want all naija to believing suffer life in UK. How does that help u. I hope u know that's the pull me down syndrome killing Nigerians.
UK no good UK no good. Yet Indians have bought up everywhere, they are the highest income earning ethnic group in UK even above white British.
They've completely taken over the lucrative IT industry in UK.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 8:04am On Apr 17, 2023
sukkot:
all those things you mentioned if I reported you to the government that you are fraudulently doing these things to avoid paying tax would you be arrested ? Yes. So yes it’s a crime. You have to be a criminal in the uk to thrive
No it's not. I fill it as holiday expenses under my company's name. You entitled to go on vacation fully funded by your company.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 6:58am On Apr 17, 2023
sukkot:
brother let’s do the math on it . A consultant or top doctor who is salaried in a permanent role earns 100 thousand pounds a year. Taxation is 40 percent on this type of salary so take home is 60 thousand. Now as a doctor with all the vaccines you have to take that weakens your body with age coupled with the age at which doctors finally are done with studies coupled with ageism in the uk I put it to you that the average working lifespan of a medical doctor is 30 years. So 60 thousand multiplied by 30 is 1.8 million pounds lifetime earning. Now you said it’s possible and you know doctors with 600k houses ? Mortgage with all the interests over 30 years you end up paying three times the house worth so mortgage on a 600k house is 1.8 million you will end up paying. That’s your whole lifetime salary without paying other bills and buying food etc etc . So it’s impossible on a doctors salary to be able to afford these houses you are mentioning. Unless the doctor has a doctor wife but that’s never the case. Almost all doctors have sit at home take care of the babies wife. And so I submit to you that on a medical doctor salary the most you can comfortably do is a 300k house.
U not in any position to tell me about my earning. Focus on your new life in naija. All the best.
N.b- the person with 600k home is not a medical doctor. The couple are nurse and IT specialist living in London.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 6:57am On Apr 17, 2023
sukkot:
oh ok as per the bolded, so you have gone up and down this thread yabbing people like us giving the reality on the ground that it is possible to work all your life in the UK and be broke unless you find ways to do crime ( yes trying to beat the system is criminal ) but now you have somehow eventually come to the same conclusion after all your grandstanding. See folks ? This is the unravelling of a liar. But I give you credit for at least finally admitting the truth
There are LEGAL loopholes that helps reduce bills and tax. Claiming holiday expenses while filing your company tax, is it a crime? Buying property in your company name as a way of claiming expense, is it a crime? Being paid under umbrella for your locum job, is it a crime?
Guy u left already. Focus.on Nigeria and enjoy your time with Tinubu govt.
I give balanced analysis of every situation, unlike u that's all tales of woes and regret.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 1:18pm On Apr 14, 2023
Bacteria8:
Hi brother, thanks for standing up for the truth here.

I would like to indulge your experience, pls sir.

My fiance is already in the UK doing a living-care job. She earns a little above 3k/month.

I'm also planning to go meet her by next month all other things being equal.

I have a BSc in Political Science and she has BSc in Computer science.

As young couples ready to work our asses off for a better and brighter future...
Pls advise sir, what kinda career path do you think we can pursue both in the short term and long term. Thanks brother.
I generally don't give advice on travelling out but my 2 pence is this.
UK is going thru economic meltdown at the moment. So things a expensive and hard. But there are still jobs and opportunities.
U have to work hard and be smart to achieve breakthrough.
Pls focus on IT, go for certification in IT courses eg project management. IT is a great economic cushion in this period. Your wife can go into coding since she has computer science background. She can easily earn 400 pounds a day in that field.
Finally, not everything Sukkot said is wrong, don't come here thinking u will be able to build house in maitama or banana island. Don't come here thinking of becoming a billionaire that will be throwing money around in naija. If that's your intention pls don't come.
UK isnt build for such, in fact most western nations apart from America is strongly socialist.
U can attain a solid middle class life here easily compared to Nigeria. Find ways to beat the system albeit legally otherwise u will use all your money to pay tax and bills.
Good luck.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 7:48pm On Apr 13, 2023
sukkot:
yes we know there are drug dealers in the UK too. Dem go soon catch all of them . You know the mortgage on a 400k home is like 1.2 million pounds. So to get 1.2 million pounds while working before tax you at 40 percent tax would be earning like 2 million. And that's just for housing. Basically what you are trying to tell me here is that the lifetime earnings of a British medical doctor is like 10 million pounds. That's a lie. Like I said they would soon start catching all the Nigerian drug pushers in England lol
U don't know UK. Done talking to u. Bye.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 12:39pm On Apr 13, 2023
sukkot:
too many liars on this forum. provide receipts. show us ownership papers of a 400k pounds home then we can talk, i got receipts of my first ever house in england. show receipts or hold your peace
This guy na clown. I didn't even read this until now. So u think Nigerians don't own 400k houses in UK. Come to Sheffield and will take u round estates filled with Nigerians with houses worth 400k.
Note- this Nigerians are not medical doctors.
My cousin in London is trying to move his mortgage to a house worth 600k.
I repeat, u guys that came in 20yrs ago really didn't have a clue how to build wealth. Reason for your myopic opinion.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 12:32pm On Apr 13, 2023
Guruindahouse:
Boss, can you tell me the name of that nurseries in London?
Why should I reveal personal information to u. Is this forum not suppose to be faceless?
Its not even my personal information. I have mine out, if u not satisfied with that, I can't help u.
Christianity EtcRe: I Need Interpretation Of This Hadith by SIRTee15: 9:36pm On Apr 12, 2023
TenQ:
Allah says three in the Qur'an, Muslims some how made it five
That's the problem with Islam and Muslims. They run to hadith when they need to cover the inadequacy in Koran but deny same hadith if it's embarrassing and hide under the Koran.
The funny ones are those who bragged they are not koranist and they hold hadiths at the level of Koran. Ok show them embarrassing text in hadoth- they tell u it's weak. Bunch of confused people.
One was asking me to show him full detail of jesus childhood in the bible, when I challenged him to also show me the childhood of Muhammad in the Koran he ran away.
Christianity EtcRe: I Need Interpretation Of This Hadith by SIRTee15: 7:46pm On Apr 12, 2023
ictplotter:
In conclusion to you, hadith is not fundamental or compulsory in islam. Hadith is just supplementary . What is compulsory in islam is the Glorious Qur'an, which are direct words of Allah the almighty. Which Allah the almighty decree to guide against human error and input not hadith. So anybody can fabricate hadith and qoutes it to Bukhari collections and it becomes popular But not authentic .
Hadith ar narrations which people reported that they heard the prophet "peace be upon him" saying.
So at today hadith narration are grouped into three, the authentic hadiths, the weak hadiths and the fabricated hadiths.
So the complete and the compulsory standard and practice for Muslims is the Glorious Qur'an, so there is no serious problems anywhere in islam because hadith is not compulsory on Muslims but the Glorious Qur'an. So judge islam base on the Glorious Qur'an which are the direct words of ALLAH THE ALMIGHTY.
ok then tell me how many times I should pray in a day according to quran?
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 3:26pm On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
locum is not a job. you are just filling in a temporary need
There are people on locum jobs all their lives. As I said, understand how the system works.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 12:29pm On Apr 12, 2023
Treadway:
ok. I know what locum is. So are the majority able to do locum on the side and still keep up with the shifts and demands of the salaried job? I ask cos in Naija it ain't that easy
Its your choice if u want locum or salaried. U go for what's convenient for u or balance both based on number of hours u put into salaried job.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 12:27pm On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
see the difference between you and I ? I am very sensitive to the economic plight of many people in this country as well as the globe at large. There are many people in need. And I am a very spiritual person if you go through all my posts. I do come and catch my fun but ultimately I am all about spirituality and because of that and also knowing the economic plight of many ? When I come on forums like this or even in real life I always try to keep a very humble profile. I am a very humble person. But in actuality all these things you are bragging about I have done it and it’s nothing. I bought my first house in the UK in 2002 in the north of England. A place called Preston. I have worked locum as an electro-cardiologist. I have worked in many NHS hospitals as well as with BMI healthcare. So all these things are nothing. And I still put it to you that the money while it may sound like much to someone coming from a poor background like yourself ? To me it wasn’t that much. Keep in mind I have friends And family members who were in naija who just a trip sponsored by the company they work for , like say a one week trip they give them Esther codes, which is payment for the trip , of like 20,000 pounds. 20,000 pounds for a week conference in the uk but a poor man like yourself is masturbating over 40 pounds per hour. Now you see why we are different ? It’s the background. I don’t see any salary in the uk as great because truly ? It isn’t.
I'm not here to brag but to correct your disinformation. U are the one misguiding people about UK.
Now if it's true u bought your first house in 2002 in Preston, is that not a good investment. I'm sure u would have almost pay it off. I'm not sure if Preston is a high valued area but collecting rents in pounds and spending in naira is a wise economic decision.
So why don't u allow others to go n try their luck. Instead u come to nairaland all the time to make it seem like UK is a disaster that immigrants will forever regret.
Property is the wisest investment any immigrant can have for himself. Return back home later in life and enjoy the proceeds of the investment in local currency. Meanwhile your kids already have an edge over there colleagues in case they choose no to return. U do t need to stress yourself over old age or govt paying pension. U also don't need to disturb your kids over what to eat.
Your estacode comment is meaningless. exept u saying every tom dick and Harry Nigerian picks 20k pounds estacode working for company then I don't know how that helps the common man u fighting for.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 12:09pm On Apr 12, 2023
Treadway:
although I dey vex for Egbon Sukkot at the moment, you and justwise have not in any way weakened his argument with your responses. Sorry. The article he posted is as recent as they come and talk clearly about 'majority' in a clear sense, hence, why there is a freaking strike. It does not mean some doctors don't earn more than 14, it simply means most earn close to that, hence, the strike by the MOST. Simple sturvs bro. Some FMCG pays some Head of Sales 1.8m monthly in Nigeria, and some pay Head of Sales 70k monthly. I cannot now, bring screenshot of the ad that seeks to pay that Head of Sales 1.8m as the standard in an argument. The article Sukkot posted shows clearly the pay range of the majority except you are saying th y are striking and shutting things down cos of three or four doctors.

Before some babies come say I am putting compatriots down, edakan na simple discussion and analysis I join o. T for thanks.
If u don't know, ask questions instead of forming what I do t know. There's a difference btw salaried job and locum job. That's the difference.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 11:56am On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
just read the article bro and enlighten yourself

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/junior-doctors-14-hour-truth-29676907
Another one from my e-mail. Now that we've clarified doctor's salary in UK.

Now explain to us how u lived in UK for 20 yrs without a house to your name. Houses were fvcking cheap then. All u needed was 5k to own a house.
So how come u never bought just one, even if council house. Were u blowing all your money in clubs or spending on girls. Did u send your kids to private school or what?
Tell us your mistakes so others won't repeat same mistakes.

TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 11:42am On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
i see you are still pained by the yoruba defeat. you will be fine.
I'm Yoruba myself so that's a lame punch. Find something else. I just don't deal with an economic extractive political thief like Tinubu
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 11:39am On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
and you that know jack about the UK didn’t know doctors are all over the place demonstrating against their low wages but you are here lying that doctors are getting big bucks. We know the liars who have never been to Ghana talk less of the uk. Read the article

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/junior-doctors-14-hour-truth-29676907
I dont need u to tell me what's going on in my profession.
Besides, I'm beginning to suspect this Sukkot guy, he may actually be a troll who never lived in the UK, for him to keep repeating this article says a lot.
Now let me ask u a question to know if u actually lived in the uk. when people in UK say they going to their SURGERY, what do they mean? Where is SURGERY and who works in SURGERY?
Besides u are yet to explain to us how u lived 20 yrs in UK without a house to your name. Like 20 good years and u couldn't raise 5k for 'help to buy'.

Anyway below is from my e-mail today.

TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 10:36am On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
people like you who have never travelled before will come here with your grandiose delusions lying to people. Why do you think NHS doctors are on strike ? Junior doctors are paid 14 pounds an hour. Read the article here
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/junior-doctors-14-hour-truth-29676907
U don't know jack about UK. No wonder u ran away. The only thing to boast about after spending 20 yrs in the UK was a British passport and possibly a fake British accent.
U don't understand the system, instead of u to ask people for help u came here talking trash.
Your Asian mates that came same time u arrive already own an estate in same UK.
How can u be in the UK for 20 yrs without a house to your name. Even if it's council house, u couldn't buy. That's lack of foresight.
Imagine u bought a house few yrs after u arrived at around 60k (houses were cheap then) and manage to pay off half of the mortgage. Imagine selling it now for over 300k ( average price of houses in London) or renting it out for 1k per month. Imagine collecting 900 thousand Naira every month from UK. I'm sure u won't be bitter about UK like this. On
U came here posting regular salary of junior doctors with contractual hrs of 34 hrs per week. Ever heard of locum jobs, I was earning 50 pounds per HR as a junior doctor in nhs. Some nurses earn 40 pounds per HR working as banks or agency.
U don't even know some care jobs offer up to 800 to 1000 pounds per week.
Travel to the north of England and see what naija GPs are pulling in per week. 5k per week is regular stuff.
I'm not even talking about IT or healthcare professionals since we know they are well paid. I'm talking about people in regular professions who have redefined their careers to escape the 9 to 5 trap to become financially independent. I know a couple in their 20s who bought their first home in London 2 yrs after both completing their PhDs and getting a job.

Well it's good u left, at least Tinubu is now president, he will find juicy appointment for lazy yoruba youths. Sha make the best use of the opportunity. Una lamentation is becoming irritating and embarrassing.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 7:56am On Apr 12, 2023
Rilwayne001:
Council tax, market levy is different from personal income tax.

I’ll not sit down here and argue with you.

Have a great day.
Tax is tax, u pay tax out of your income. The fancy name given to it is inconsequential.
Lagos business owners are subjected to multiple taxations by different revenue agencies. Go to alaba and ask those traders their ordeal with Lagos state govt, U will write a book. Right from apapa exit gate all the way to their shops in Ladipo, it's taxation galore.
Why do u think APC govt is very unpopular amongst traders and business owners in Lagos- taxation without accountability .
If not for the senseless Gbadebo guy with his oral diarrhea, APC was a goner in Lagos.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 5:51am On Apr 12, 2023
Rilwayne001:
Most registered company don’t pay tax here, except for the big companies.

And nobody will hold you if you don’t declare your company tax return here.

In the UK, even if you don’t make a dime from the company in a year, you still have to declare tax return. Other you get penalties that’d warrant you to pay fines.

In Nigeria, I’ve never seen self employed people declaring tax returns. Over there, in so far you’re not working in a company where tax is being deducted, you have to declare your tax return year in year out, otherwise, you pay fines.

You only are exempted from paying tax if you’re making anything less that £12k in a year. And £12k cannot even be enough for the bills you’d pay through the year.

I repeat, we don’t pay tax at all here if you know how the tax system works in the UK.
U are very ignorant of the country u live. U said self employed don't pay tax. Go to alaba or Ladipi market n see how Lagos state govt tax the hell out of those traders. From omo online, to touts, to local govt council. Yet Lagos state revenue office will still come n collect their own. I've not mentioned hotels, restaurants, eateries, supermarkets etc ask them wetin dem eye dey see from tax revenue officials.
You guys paint a rosy picture of Nigeria to deluded Nigerians living abroad. That's why a lot of them that return home eventually run back after seeing reality.
TravelRe: How Do Families Pay Tens Of Millions To Japa Without Getting Ulcers by SIRTee15: 5:21am On Apr 12, 2023
sukkot:
brother, even medical doctors are not well paid in the UK talk less of security. Let me break it down for you. They pay about 15 pounds per hour if you are in London and cheaper outside. Let's say you can do 60 hours a week that is 900 pounds a week or let's say 3600 a month . It appeArs like a lot if you convert to naira. But you live in London and don't spend naira. Ok so you are at a higher tax bracket which is 40 percent so you take home like 2700 a month. It's London so your rent is like say 1000 if say you are single and no family and managing a small one bedroom. So that 1700 left. Council tax is like 150. You left with 1550. Let's say your utilities 300 a month you have 1250. Transport lets say 200. That's 1050. Phone and internet lets say 100. That's 950. Feeding let's say 400. That's 550 left. Clothing and haircut and miscellaneous like eating out and sending to naija etc and buying naija foods let's say like 300 a month. You have 250 left. Young guy you want trip woman to movies or go pub to drink pints of beer etc let's say 200 a month. You have 50 pounds left. Now this is calculation for single man. If you have wife and children may GOD help you is your cAse lol

just checked the hourly rate in london. its 12 not 15. so i was being generous
U don't know anything about doctor's salary in the UK. Some of my colleagues paid corporate tax of 50k to HMRC working as a GP. And if u know anything about company tax, what he paid wasn't 18 % of his company income.
New generation of wealthy migrants are emerging in the UK, it's not what u left behind when most naija migrants were illegals or low skilled hustlers.
The average price in my estate is around 400k yet we keep seeing more blacks everyday at the bus stop in the estate.
Nigerians are following the Asian route of self independence rather than the 9 to 5 job synonymous with Nigerians in the past.
My aunt has 4 nurseries in London and she's yet to stop. Her friend has a care home in London while another of my colleagues own one here in Midlands.
We now actively encourage solid middle class amongst us to buy 2nd or 3rd house in the UK rather than building in naija. Virtually all my friends have kids attending private primary schools, it's the in thing if u can afford it.
Give it 10 years, we will change the financial demography of blacks in the UK.
U guys that came in 20 years ago did a terrible job in attaining financial freedom, u guys were probably carried away by the good roads, 24 hrs light or maybe the women; while the Asians silently took over. Now compare achievement within the Asian and black community.
An Asian friend of mine has 7 care homes in the UK. Tell me how his generation will suffer in this UK.

It's not all your sob or regret story. Recent migrants has will have their own challenge no doubt.
Overall, UK is not for the weak. U have to be hardworking and smart, but it's rewarding if u know what u doing.
One of my church members who is a carer and hubby a security guard both build 4 houses, an event centre and a hotel in Ibadan area within 10 yrs of coming to uk. The man now spend more time on naija while the wife is still here. Now tell me how they will regret relocating to the UK.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 12:36pm On Apr 11, 2023
BloomingDale:
Oga, go and sleep. You are the one stressed out by Andrew Tate or whomever he is to make you happy. I’m not bothered. Just living my life. No man or woman outside yourself can make you happy. Develop yourself to the extent that only you can make you happy. That is the highest development of self. Traveling abroad and looking for wives or husbands won’t make you happy. Las, las, we came to this world alone and we will all depart alone.
Oh so u know all these but was urging the poor op to become a slave to his wife. Will that make him happier or more depressed?
Sincerely women need to be slapped with the hard truth b4 they start making sense.
Op learn from above, confront your woman with the hard truth and stand your ground. Stop being a pussy in your own home. You are the one with balls not your wife.
Even those of us living abroad don't take this nonsense from our wives not to talk of u in Lagos. It's either she behaves or we dissolve the union.
It's your right to be happy, dont let any marriage or woman turn u depending on medication to be happy- depression is real.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 11:45am On Apr 11, 2023
BloomingDale:
Only the losers are traveling out. If the man is playing his role it makes the woman naturally feminine and loving. If the man ain’t, the woman becomes masculine and defensive to protect against the source of constant irritation. Imagine a man cheating and you expect the woman not to put up barriers to protect herself. You a crazy sonafabitch.
Haha!!! losers like Andrew Tate? He won't even look at u twice or bother talking to u.
Who mentioned cheating here? Did the op made mention of cheating? Of course that's the strawman argument crazy feminist like yourself hold on to justify your promiscuous lifestyles and irresponsible behaviour; thinking men will put up with it.
How can u love a woman who wants to continue her rebellious ways even after marriage? Best to kick her out. And that's what white men are doing now- thanks to Andrew Tate.
Is it not korra obidi that thought her American husband will put up with her whoredom because he's white. Laslas the marriage crashed and the man called her a hoe in front of her children.
Continue your irresponsible behaviour, the rain will surely fall on u hard when it's heavy. No woman can escape it.
Brittney Reiner is now crying of being abandoned as a single mum after rail road over by multiple basketball stars.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 10:48am On Apr 11, 2023
BloomingDale:
The world is changing. You better move with it or forever be left behind. Use that natural dominant instinct to compete with the white man, not your wives. No one likes being a slave disguised as a wife.
Tell that to the white men travelling to Asia and South America to get a wife. They are sick and tired of brainwashed western women and their whoredom.
The world isnt going to change marriage institution. It's women like u who should receive sense and understand the role of women in marriage which is submission while the man should live his wife.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 10:06am On Apr 11, 2023
BloomingDale:
The problem with you men is that you don’t appreciate what wives do. Do you know how tasking it is to look after children, especially the mental effort it requires. You have to be constantly on alert to make sure they are okay, and you guys have not made it easy by preying on children. Imagine being in a state of constant adrenaline all the time. That will drain any human being. Then you now add household chores on top. Well, the woman has checked out.

The husband should better stop doing the bare minimum and start helping the wife with the household chores, even if it requires going to the market to buy the food ingredients, getting the laundry prepared for the house-help or wife to do, cooking everyday things like rice, yam, eba if the wife makes the soup and stew etc.

I’m pretty sure If the husband is as stressed as the wife he won’t be thinking about sex all the time.
U claim the man should go to the market and cook. Did u read where op said the wife mocked him for doing just that??

U just talking nonsense since the beginning of this thread. U are nothing but a jealous home breaker. I doubt u have a man in your real life.
U don't know the purpose of marriage and lacks the intelligence to understand the special role of man and woman in that institution.
Toxic feminism will only breed rebellious men. If u think men will cower to disrespectful wife, u must be joking.
That's why the likes of Andrew Tate are becoming popular on social media- because he ignites that natural dominance instinct of men in marriage.
Now even western men are demanding virgins and mocking only fans girls calling them 'only for the street'.
Western men now talk about passport wife- travelling to South America and Asia to get a wife.
If u like continue to support rubbish and see the man that will put u in the house as wife. Loneliness is real and trust me, u dont want to be lonely as an elderly woman- it's a miserable existence.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 8:56am On Apr 11, 2023
jesmond3945:
you dont ask for respect, you earn it.
Op doesnt buy gift for his wife
He doesnt help in the house except to surprise the wife
He doesnt Bleep her real good
Common no woman will respect you. Women respect actions you take to make her happy and not your earning power.
If u think gift will change anything in that house, then I guess we done. Bye.
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 10:14pm On Apr 10, 2023
jesmond3945:
like i said you are not doing your wife a favour by helping in the house. Your talk of surprising her by helping her in the house is just being naive to say the least. It is your house, it is your food. I am not saying you should not provide or drop finances. However, that you are providing finanaces is commendable. Your wife is doing same. If you divorce your wife now, she would assume responsibility over the house immediately. So is not a big deal bro. If you can help in the house, if not continue to provide for the family.
I am sorry she insulted you for going to the market. However, you are going to the market for you, for your kids, for the kids, for the family. You are not doing your wife any favor by going to the market. If she insults you for doing the right thing call her to order.

Continue ironing, is the right thing to do. If she deliberately leaves your clothes in the basket, then she is unhappy with you. Put yours in the machine, when you see hers, you leave it as well.

I told you, there is nothing like roles. She is earning, you are earning no big deal. This is the modern world. She is ambitious. She is doing it for the kids. If you complain about it too much, she would leave you and she has her own money.

You have to change your orientation about things so that you enjoy your marriage.
Then let her leave and see how easy it is to raise kids all by herself. Let's stop giving excuse for rubbish. That woman is killing that marriage.
All this modern woman thing is not helping marriage in anyway and that's why people like Andrew Tate got huge followership on social media.
Get it right, a man wants RESPECT in his home. It doesn't matter if the women earn and supports the house. If she doesn't respect her husband, she puts that marriage at risk. Lack of respect from his wife kills the dignity of a man and makes him naked.
Modern woman in marriage only exist in western marriage and that's why their values are falling apart. Their women are shamelessly into only fans while the men are into same sex union.
Women should understand this, a marriage will only work when the woman is submissive to the man, in return the husband loves the wife.
The op marriage is only a matter of time, the rain will eventually gall. Meanwhile, the children are growing up and will notice how the mum treats their dad. Do u think they will respect him?
FamilyRe: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 9:30pm On Apr 10, 2023
dawnomike:
your problem must have started from your courtship... Anyways, the way forward is what matters.
Her matter has no solution but on your own part, irrespective of the salary, buy her gifts!!!
And u think gift will change anything, someone that earn close to a million.
The way forward is for op to admit the marriage isnt working and declare it to his wife. Then he should offer marriage counseling. If the woman refuse, then I really dont see why the man should continue to be with a woman who doesn't want u.
TravelRe: Thinking Of Relocating Back To Nigeria From Canada by SIRTee15: 2:07pm On Apr 09, 2023
datola:
Na aje butter them.
If he's ajebutter, then he should ask his parents to send him the school fees.
This guy is not from any elite wealthy family. He's just lazy with entitled mentality.
PoliticsRe: Lagos Ranks First In Health Outcomes In The Last 5 Years by SIRTee15: 10:29pm On Apr 06, 2023
razzydoo:
Same everywhere in the world. Both US and Uk inclusive.
Pls remove UK. Thank u
Christianity EtcRe: Another Christian Hypocrisy!!! by SIRTee15: 12:14pm On Apr 06, 2023
AntiChristian:
No, that's what you think in your head which is against reality!

Thank you Zaddy!
U are boring today. Next time bring up something more interesting.

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