₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Really sad! The man must have given up from the time he decided it best to sell all he had back home so he could get out of Nigeria. For any human being to settle for a life as a cleaner, rather than go back, tells of how resolved he is to take what he has now over what he used to have.

I hope he gets his asylum if he can.

Can anyone really get to that point. . .  I mean give up and be willing to settle as a cleaner in a foreign country?!!

I honestly don't want to believe it.

MrCrackles:
SISIJINX: I understand your student visa has expired since 1999, is that true? if yes, you are liable for removal if they catch you oo!

What?!! You Promised, you wouldn't tell anyone!!

That's the last time I share my secrets with you.

H2O2:
 too bad this rogue was not taught a severe lesson  

Haba now!  

chamotex:
That finger print was to check for any criminal record though

But he is now in the system! It will come out when he files for papers, especially now that he ran away instead of reporting like they told him to.

MrCrackles:
Tope i hope you have sorted out your papers, i know your visit visa has expired since 2001

Chamotex, your au pair visa has expired since 2005

IBK your transit visa is not eligible to work with in a chicken factory in Croydon


Debosky, i know you must be shitting yourself naw as per you came via Calais in a tomato lorry

You guys have been warned, immigration is on the prowl and they would weed you guys out!

Rotflma!!!!!

DavidDylan:
He's lying. Its a trick to perhaps seek assylum . . . why didnt he declare this when he first landed in the UK?
Working as a cleaner . . . for how long?

Exactly. . . the story was for show.

tpia:
eyah.

I hope that blonde immigration officer or one of her family members wasnt dumped by a naija guy? She was so antagonistic though I know she was only doing her job. She seemed more militant than the others.

na wa for immigration problem sha.

Rotflmao! She is just probably fed up with the whole thing! Did you hear say. . . "We know how it works" It is so sad, if only our people will see they are better off in Nigeria. . . there has got to be something better than cleaner work in Naija now? And like David said. . . he can't get his papers now, so what's the point?

chamotex:
The guy allegedly sold his family house/land. That's not a good father/husband to me.

Thats if its true though

He is probably doing this for his family.   I doubt his family property story is true. He's probably doing it for asylum. . . the Indian Immigration officer said the chances he'll get one based on that story is very small.

~Sauron~:
This is hilarious. . . . . . . . . . .
UK immigration officers are TWATS. . . . . .Harrassing innocent Naija men because of expired documents.

Lmao! Innocent Naija man? Ay!

Seriously though. . . this is someone's father and husband oh!

It's sad!

My thoughts exactly. . . The weeping at the end just gets me! I mean Nigeria is not that bad! He is a cleaner in the UK for goodness sakes! I'm sure he can do better than that in Nigeria.  

Watch UK Immigration officers rustle up illegals

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God help us!

KarmaMod:
Gosh I heard that things werent easy in the UK but I didnt know it has gotten THIS bad. Rofl  

Hahahaha! Do you think this is why Hanni is defending this move soooo. . . . gbim gbimly

Isn’t the beauty of a wonderful (dating) relationship based on the fact that you can both retire to your separate quarters at the end of the day?

Why would anyone want to live with a guy when they don’t have to. . . I mean all that togetherness before marriage?  

I say wait until you absolutely, can’t escape it, you have no choice but to live together to. . . You know live together.


@ Topic
Seems to me the guy wants a flatmate to share the bills. Tell her to tell him to put out an ad in the papers. . . I hear it's not expensive.

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AMAKAONE:


All the people saying forgive him, pray for him and all that, ahn ahn,
notto mention those saying she's maybe not as attractive as she was before, and similar rubbish

The man is abusing the woman and all you can suggest is forgive him and pray for him?

The man is mentally and emotionally abusive.
Why must it always the abused woman's fault?

Why should the abused woman wanting to walk away from an abusive relationship , and that is what this is, be told "Marriage is for life". So she should suffer under the abuse till what happens exactly? Till she has a nervous breakdown, commits suicide, kills her son, when will you think that she has endured enough from this man?

Don't you know it. . . You are not a true, proper, loving, saintly Naija wife until you die for the sake of marriage.

All sorts of sensless responses to this thread. Imagine. . . excusing cheating by saying ALL Nigerian men cheat and she better get used to it, like HIS mom did. If someone else says that now, they will all yell generalization! I love how they use the "it's in our blood excuse" when it's convenient for them.

As one love ends, another begins!

The universe knows how to balance itself! 

PurestBoy:
I do not agree with those at they are inhuman act from any man

But why now. . . Isn't that the next logical step after the gift buying you suggested earlier?

but do you think fighting back or packing out of the house will change the man?

So she sits there and keep buying him gifts right. . . I mean since it's obvious he isn't going to change.

Oh well, I sure hope she has Kenneth Cole or is it D & G on speed dial! https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/65.gif

Africankel:
You don't talk like one of us,

How can you not see what you do when you make statements like that??!!

Pastor Chris loves you

I think the OP will much rather JESUS loved him instead of Pastor Chris

PurestBoy:
What do you think she can do? cheat back? Tell us your opinion on this matter

My opinion? Oh let's just say I am no expert like you. I'm still waiting for the part where you tell her make her bed ready for her husband and his girlfriend to carry their loving or maybe she'll just drive him to his girlfriend's home, wait in the car until he's done, drive him back home, draw his bath, feed him and cap the night off by giving him a massage?

I don't get the topic

What's nubian mean?

PurestBoy:
Sis, I must tell you to show him more love and give him more sex, buy him gifts you know he cherishes. I guess these should help, Just give a try

Let's see if I have this right. . .

ACTION                        REACTION
He cheats on her - She shows him more love.
He cheats on her - She gives him more sex
He cheats on her - SHE buys him gifts

Is that so? Gotcha!

Thanks.

PurestBoy:
@poster,

Leaving your husband is not the solution as you may jump from frying pan to fire if care is not taken but I suggest you seek your Pastor's help to counsel your randy husband.

I'm sorry but what does that mean. . . jumping from frying pan to fire? What exactly is the frying pan and what is the fire in this situation?

ROTFLMAO!! Kobojunkie owns your behind!!!!!!

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enitan2002:
@ sisi jinx,
it is your type i love so much, you don't get carried away and ready fully to take any action.
They tend to live in a crazy dream that will never materialize during this life or even after.

There're some mistakes that should never happen in a relationship, if it does, it will never be the same again.
And it is infidelity

LMOA! Thank you! You are too kind!!

I want to be clear, mine won't be a case of willy nilly pack and go. I'll make sure I have real evidence, I know for sure he is cheating before I carry my Ghana must go and. . . .GO!

And all that "there is something wrong with you that's why he cheated" crapola they use to brainwash these women is NOT working with me coz I know ME. Sure I have some wahala somewhere but him sticking his thingy in anything and anyone isn't my fault. . . after all, I didn't make him a dog who can't control his impulses!! 

enitan2002:
@ poster,
can you see what am saying concerning women encouraging such degrading acts, you can read from the last responses, women have really lost their focus, am not sorry to utter that statement.
What the hell has to with the innocent child in this case, there're so many children who grew up without the love of their father, and they made it successful, e.g Ben Carson (famous neuro-surgeon) lacks fatherly care, you can see what he's made up of.
IOt is better for a child to grow up without a father, than growing up when a useless one is around.

Prayer don't change those that are not ready to change, and the funniest part is that people of such kind are very religious, they beleive that by going to church regularly all their atrocities will be forgiven of the previous week, and they go into it the following week. So the next sundey they go for cleansing, the act just keep up going all that way round.

Ladies, put yourself in the shoes of men, you catch your wife cheating on you, what will you do? be sincere with yourself

enitan2002:
@ hotpot,
the lady in question has already made a decision, and by his special grace, she'll survive the trauma the man put her into.
I wish her from the depth of my heart, the strength to be able to live her live as she has dreamt of, which is to be happy.

@ dontexe,
egbon, bawo ni, gbogbo yin pata ni mo miss ooooo, bawo ni iya ye, shey o wa pa sha? mo ma wale laipe yi, titi bi ose kan ati abo si.


@ nomanicole,
women as well as men are the architect of their own misfortune,
making a mistake once don't describe you as being stupid, but making it and still don't want to admit, and thinking things will change without an extra effort from you, makes you the dumbest fella.
The poster admitted, but she aint going back, and am in support.

enitan2002:
@ nomanicole,
There're some positions I find myself in, that i don't care about what the other person have to say or will say.
And by the way, with the condition we are in, there's no way we can get the other person's view.

Infidelity has no basis of any kind.

If the relationship has been cut off before the act, i don't see any thing wrong there.

What is it that your hubby must have done for you to cheat on him/her?

enitan2002:
Well i grew in a family, where this kind of issue never get to occur, so i really want the kind of life i grew up with to also be the same for my children.

I guess those with different views don't see anything wrong with it at all, because that is the type of lifestyle they are grew up into.

Heavens Please us!!!

Sir, i think it's time for you to drop the charade! Surely you don't expect us to believe you are a Nigerian man with all this SENSE you are spewing? Come now. . . we are not that dense! Now confess, where are you from and where did you get the name ENITAN?!!!!  

Seriously though, if you decide to start a religion of your own, just know you have an instant follower!  

Once again. . . THANK YOU FOR MAKING SENSE!!!!!!  

enitan2002:
@ poster/all,
what i hate most in any form of relationship, whther dating/courtship/marriage is infidelity, i don't really condone such an animistic behaviour.
And I blame women totally when this happens to them in marriage, they would have seen such traits in their man during courtship or even onmany occasions got caught, but all in the name of getting married and having a prefix 'mrs' or 'age is no longer on my side theory', they overlook it and console theirselves that 'he'll change when he's married', but things get worse in marriage.
So my sister, quiting such relationship saves you a lot, premature death (Hypertension, Heart Failure, Depression e.t.c), the man doesnt really worth you, with a little patience you will arrive at your destination.

Tjose men on the forum,
I don't really think there'd be a character in a woman that warrants her husband to be cheating on her (i.e if she is not the promiscous one also), if there exist between them open communication, i don't think both parties will find it difficult in talking out their differences, that is the beauty of it all.

I take Men infidelity and women infidelity equal, no one is greater than the other

@ poster,
you've made the right decision, i wish you strength to be able to get over with the problems he's caused you.

While I take issue with your putting the blame solely on the women because they should have seen the behavior during courtship, I'll still say. . .

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR SHOWING US THAT THERE ARE MEN WHO DON'T LET BLIND LOYALTY TO THEIR SEX STOP THEM FROM SEEING REASON!!!!

Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!!!

bawomolo:
what exactly is prayer going to do in this case?

Praying for HIM to change now!! They keep praying and praying and praying. . . looking for the answers to their prayer in the day he walks into the house with flowers in his hands and declare. . . "Darling, I will never cheat on you again, I am a changed man" and they live happily ever after.

Yeaap, they wait for this miraculous event, totally oblivious the real answers to the prayers where they are being shown honest to goodness reasons for them to pack their kaya and jet out of there before he completely destroys their life.

Let us Pray!

bawomolo:
sisijinx is a tribalist?

Errr. . . Duh! I can’t believe you still have to ask!!! Haven’t you noticed all the tribal bashing threads I’ve opened? Okay, okay maybe you missed them because they are under the names DeepZone, RedHotchick and any other asinine names I can come up with.

Well now you know, so stay tuned for more bashing because my day is never complete until I’ve made derogatory and baseless comments about other tribes! 

*Gasps*

Doyin!!!

Why. . . I never!

H2O2:
Attention LovePeddler

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KarmaMod:
actually it was called "Nigerian Girls are Dirty" specifically Yoruba Girls

of course none of the guys remember that

of course they don't. https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/29.gif

Ebony-Silk:
Sisikill, oya come here and tell us more jare.
My sister in the Lord.
How stingy is your husband, H202?

Moi? I'm an innocent oooh https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/5.gif

They are only stingy to their wives, they are not stingy to the mistresses and this is why you never marry a Naija man, just be his mistress and not the one who gives it up oooh. Make sure you never ever, ever give him what he wants because it is the hope that you will. . .  that keeps him doling out the cashmoneykudiowo

He says LIFE BAN on a girl talking to her ex. . . The same person who says  the girl should forgive and forget her boyfriend's cheating. Rotflmao! Hannibal, you are one in a. . . well actually, you are typical!  


@ Topic
There is a reason they are EXs.

Obama's Use of Complete Sentences Stirs Controversy

In the first two weeks since the election, President-elect Barack Obama has broken with a tradition established over the past eight years through his controversial use of complete sentences, political observers say.

Millions of Americans who watched Mr. Obama's appearance on CBS's 60 Minutes on Sunday witnessed the president-elect's unorthodox verbal tic, which had Mr. Obama employing grammatically correct sentences virtually every time he opened his mouth.

But Mr. Obama's decision to use complete sentences in his public pronouncements carries with it certain risks, since after the last eight years many Americans may find his odd speaking style jarring.

According to presidential historian Davis Logsdon of the University of Minnesota, some Americans might find it "alienating" to have a president who speaks English as if it were his first language.

"Every time Obama opens his mouth, his subjects and verbs are in agreement," says Mr. Logsdon. "If he keeps it up, he is running the risk of sounding like an elitist."

The historian said that if Mr. Obama insists on using complete sentences in his speeches, the public may find itself saying, "Okay, subject, predicate, subject predicate -- we get it, stop showing off."

The president-elect's stubborn insistence on using complete sentences has already attracted a rebuke from one of his harshest critics, Gov. Sarah Palin of Alaska.

"Talking with complete sentences there and also too talking in a way that ordinary Americans like Joe the Plumber and Tito the Builder can't really do there, I think needing to do that isn't tapping into what Americans are needing also," she said.

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