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funkybaby:
Something I always hold on to :

Never hesitate to apologise when you are wrong. Sincere apology.

Secondly: be your partners/husbands best friend.

am loving this two!awesome!. the second one is soo true because love DO fade eventually especially when you have been in it for a longtime. so you need that friendship to hold on to and possibly rekindle the love. and yes we need to apologize especially when you know you're wrong but some people are so caught up in their little world that they find it very extremely difficult to let their guard down, swallow their pride and say "i am sorry".

chocomillo:
Best~ Treat your parents in laws as you would treat your own parents. Do not look at your mother in law as moster in law

nice nice nicie! but the first one, you got to admit would be a little hard for some folks to follow because some MIL are just pure devils . very hard to please. leaving many DILs with no choice but to . . . .

Bad ~ Always remind her who wears the pants in the family.

LOL very bad indeed!!!

[quote author=Temilade£ link=topic=401266.msg5584366#msg5584366 date=1267108285]When you are having problems communicating with each other, don't talk to each other to work it out. Silence is the best answer because y[b]our spouse doesn't give a flip to what you have to say anyway, so save your energy.[/b] [/quote]LOL

some women tend to be a royal fan of Mary Kay ?

ftmom:
Best - Always resolve issues between yourselves without third party interference/intervention

I'm a strong advocate of this, no point inviting other people's opinions and interpretations into your marriage. My position is, you found and decided to marry each other so you should be able to resolve your differences by yourselves

yes oo!!! dirty laundries should be washed and hanged inside the house.

chic2pimp:
Hehehehehe
Make una no mind Mama Gee oooooo

i would have liked her to explain her statement

Happy belated bday Amigoz

@post

Lovely, especially like the "images of a mother" part

@ Champie

I trust my Ebony. She's is protecting you from 'em girls!

@ Ebony

Dats even more sad '

chika98:
Never follow a man to fight anyone ie family members. Rather be the peace maker because when things go south; He'll side his family and so be the peace maker.

Most definitely agree !!! Oftentimes, some women think it's normal to fight along with your husband afterall, you're his wife therefore you both are in it together! Being the peacemaker sounds foreign to some women especially when the husband is involved.

chamotex:
I like this thread


LOL u sef

Please keep em coming I need advices too

@ champie Happy to have u back!!!

pls don't leave me again feeling  4ur absence

@ Ebony

Dats sad!!! Will you maybe bribe her to maybe pop in once in a while

Awwwww. . . .sweetheart I missed you 3much!!!

where have u been

stillwater:
Meaning, don't pretend to be what you are not just to get married. If you feel something is not right about the man's views or family or you feel uncomfortable about something, say it and do something about it. Don't ever pretend to like it.

So true!!!

hope you had blast!!! 


i have a 9yr old who already knows how to make pancake.  so i think it sort of depends on the kind food. under 11 should be generally a "fun cooking" activity.

[size=4pt]have u heard/seen 4rom Karma? havent seen her around in while. hope she is fine[/size]

he isnt sorry that he cheated. he is just sorry that he got caught sniffing through 12+ womens vagi[i]n[/i]a while feeling "entitled" to them

hes not done cheating. i bet if he can find another woman he would have a covenant with not to spill anything, he would go ahead and cheat once more.

[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=401266.msg5559233#msg5559233 date=1266813200]Best: don't involve any third party in your marriage and, especially, don't discuss your relationship's issues with friends (or anybody else actually), discuss them with your husband directly.

I can't say how many times this advice has helped us,  I have learned to be very secretive about our relationship, and always make sure my husband is the first one to know any of my thoughts or feelings concerning our marriage.

I would also add the same advice when it comes to raising children, two people are in charge of their education: the mom and dad, others should take care of their own business


Another good advice: there are no rules in love that can fit everybody. Make your own rules (with your partner), build your own relationship according to them. Don't follow other people's example (even if their marriage is great), it might not work for you [/quote]absolutely makes perfect sense!!!

Best: Respect and Communication always.  marriage without them is doomed

Best:  Never take each other for granted and TRY to never let the sun go down on your anger

Funny: When a man acts like a child, it forces his wife to act like his mother - and a man cannot make love to his mother. **you know the rest!**

Best: Endurance. no marriage survives without endurance.

Best:  forget about all those sayings that marriage is a 50/50 thing. marriage requires 100% from the man and 100% from the woman to stay strong   
           and last

HAPPY BDAY TO MY VERY SPECIAL SWEET DARLING EBONY


wishing you more fruitful years ahead and success in all you do

i hope say u neva finish dat cake oo, if not me N u go put leg for one trouser oo

chai!!!

sad. very sad

chaircover:
Do not let kids come between you and your husband. The kids will grow up and leave home and you will be left with your husband - Very Good Advise my late aunty gave me.

this one na super fabulous advice!!! has very ink of truthfulness written over it.

Bad advise given to me - No man is trustworthy, so make sure that you dont spend all your money on the home but keep some hidden away from your husband.

chai! LMAO women will not kill me!!! lol

Iranoladun:
"Your husband is always right" worst advise given me on my wedding day which turns out to be completely a farce! Husband should be treated like a King but not always right

ewoo very bad indeed lol. thought it was the wife who was always right

Tgirl4real:
Babe, as if u knew what I had in mind. I was planning to start a similar thread.

I will be married soon. Some of d good ones;

awwww . . .darling am very happy for you!!!   congratulation!!!
[size=2pt] when r u sending ma very special invitation?[/size]

Tgirl4real:
"don't share your family affair with a third party"
"Don't be stingy, make your resources available for your family i.e your husband and kids"

most definitely agree with the first one. so very super true! some couples dont know/where to draw the boundary when it comes to keeping some things to themselves and when to invite a third party. the only instance that requires the immediate attention of a third party is when domestic violence is involved IMO.  (2) stinginess in marriage that one recipe for disasters!

Bad ones that usually come from girlfriends;
"don't let your spouse know your income"
"keep somethings secret from your husband"
"it's not compulsory you make pounded yam for him. If he can't manage poundo yam, buy from the nearest eatery" 

na wa oo for the first two.  last one got me LMAOing

gtoundnuts

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=401266.msg5548856#msg5548856 date=1266623008]If you eat your flesh in marriage, you should always wait for it to come back and bite you. [/quote]Lol. how does one eat their flesh in marriage? mamagee abegi explain na

[quote author=aloy-emeka link=topic=401243.msg5549010#msg5549010 date=1266625345]Many men sustain abuse too for the same reason. This really shouldn't be a gender issue.[/quote]its definitely a gender issue. while few men do sometimes go through domestic abuse, the great majority of the cases are women. it affects women most no denying of that.

Lets share the best and worst marriage advice you received, heard or gave.

For those married: can you share your best/worst advices you were given or gave

For those unmarried: can you share the best/worst you think you have heard or given to someone/couples





** the use of the word, bad and good is subjective here**

dis topic again?

@ topic when your heart tells you so

^^^^
very true. many women sustain abuse day and night thinking they are doing their children good by staying not knowing the emotional and psychological torture they are doing their kids.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=397798.msg5536234#msg5536234 date=1266481671]dem dey restrain breeze? [size=2pt]i am fine ooo, really long. what have u been up to lately? [/size][/quote]keep wishing, 1day de will come tru.[size=2pt] been extremely busier. hows life i treating u[/size]

we dont have kids yet and he doesnt wants me to get fat but he wants me to stay at home, doing what exactly?

definitely sounds fishy to me. if we have kids and he wants me to be SAH mom at would have been a different case.

and he doesnt want me to get fat but wants me to stay at home watching tv and gossiping or what?

very good. i hope her divorce and custody is fully granted.

good for her!

i wonda how hes doing now

it depends on who gives them the most attention and bows to their needs and wants.

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=236240.msg5508916#msg5508916 date=1266085650]What's the point of this thread? [/quote]you see no point in it still you blindly went ahead and resurrected it just to ask "whats the point of this thread" really how genius of you.