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its either you set the boundaries here or they will continue and never stop lynching on you. it might be hard for you at first however, you have to realize that if you continue playing along with their request, it will more harder for you to stop and they will continue playing on your emotions.

yes, they are your siblings but they are old enough to be responsible for their own well being. you now have a family of your own, who probably needs your attention most. if you definitely continue like this, it will most likely put a string on your marriage because your wife will definitely must have had enough of them.

Best: marriage doesnt come with a manual and nothing prepares or will never prepare you for the journey ahead. you discover and rediscover your own rules/boundaries base on what works best for you.

eddy1977:
i am just in a silly mood 2nite 

hehehe i believe you after this 

eddy1977:
i would

a rich older woman is prettier than a broke a$$ younger one.
even the    s   e   x   is good.

have u ever ffuuuckked an older clean and curvy woman?   mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

priceless

now add money to the equation?    mmmmmm  delicious   

keep an eye on your friend's relationship; if they split,would u please let me know  so that i  could also place my bid on this sugar mama.
dip her in honey and throw her to me 

ayettymama:

we no get am 4 eye dockor here oo, so berra mind how u shine ur eyes b4 they pop out

wetin man feel do nah

for now this one combined with mixing different colors of veggies is definitely working till she wakes up oneday and decides she no wan see dat "big thing" again, then i will have to shove it under her throat i cant just let her get away with not eating her veggies. when it comes to that healthy eating, it my way or the highway. me and her go put leg for one trouser

Iranoladun:
Good advice:
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Never relent in your culinary skills.

Always make sure his meals are ready the way he likes them!

This happen to be so true!

still rings true!

Fun way/idea to get your little ones to eat their vegetables.


we all know kids and vegetables cant be in the same sentence. its always a big fight for me to get my little one here to swallow hers.

so i came up with this idea


one day we were traveling and passing through all this roads, i suddenly ask her did you see that big thing there right now!? i acted as if it was this huge giant "thing", with my big eye surprise and bewilderment, she told me say no, you didnt! i asked her? still acting surprise, she anxiously and curiously asked me what was it etc, i described this "thing" to her and she became even more curious.

finally i told, do you know why you didnt see it? she no. i said to her because you dont eat your vegetables!. its only those who eat their veggies everyday that gets to see those kinds of things!. she was amazed and angry that she didnt see this "thing" 'cause of her stubbornness. when we got home, she wanted her veggies and since that day till now, it has been less of a fight and more fun to get her to eat those veggies.

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we have come a long way but still a long journey ahead of us

the social stigma associated with adoption is a big problem for many, both for the adoptive parent and the child alike.

if you already have family of your own, how will your adopted child feel as in being accepted especially when she/he wasnt a baby when adopted or even if she was and later find out? you will directly or indirectly create an environment where he/she will feel like an outcast? will your family and immediate family be accepting and supportive of your new child and your decisions?

are you willing to accept the responsibility of raising a child that is not biologically yours? will you be easily ticked off on everything?

do you plan on ever telling the child (if she/he was a baby when adopted), that he/she was adopted? if not, how would you handle the prospect of him/her finding out from others? and the negative stereotypes he/she will likely encounter?

bee444:
All depends on your definition of 'older women'. [b]What has age got to do with it? If men could marry women with the same age difference, what is stopping women from doing same? [/b]We've got millions of men out there married to women with enormous age difference,ranging between 18-20 age gap.

age definitely has everything to do with it. in probably most societies, its very much welcomed, praised and acceptable for a man to marry a younger woman. while its not case when it comes to women. society frown upon it, many with the question "what is this one doing with someone old enough to be her mother or grand mother" "what is she doing with a boy old enough to be her son" blah blah. while when it comes to men especially older men, many see it as being/playing "smart", you hit the gold when you carry/marry "dat young tin, dat fine trophy" etc.

it all lies with society and its double standard when comes to gender issues. supposing, this man definitely "love" this woman, he will most definitely face tough opposition from his family, many mothers wouldn't tolerate such marriage "i cant be alive and see you marry that woman old enough to give birth to you twice never", or is it the embarrassment he will likely face from his friends and strangers alike?

and then, you will have to face those with the usual question of infertility. how many eggs does she have left in there etc

we still have a long way to go.

hispinkolo:
From an aunt to me

If he slaps you,slap him so hard that he gets dizzy,run into the room and lock the door for one hour.do not take rubbish.


Grandmama:

Always keep an eye out for a man who respects you and listens to you.Of what good to you is a man who does not value or even listen to your own opinion.Allow him to think he's the man,we all know it is you that pulls the strings behind the curtain.

LMAOOOOOO

no matter ones opinion on it, one thing is for sure, she is very BRAVE enough to show those legs off in this our "hairyless" society.

its very interesting, have we become so accustomed to our selective attractiveness as a society, that certain things which shouldnt be an issue but a personal preference, have now become labeled as "nastiness" and "gross" and what have you, as if there was a law in nature which mandates hairless legs on all women or as if she was carrying a bucket of poo on her. lest we forget, it is just a hair. we really need to expand on our definition of this thing called "beauty"

for those of us who wax, shave, trim and double trim, we do so because, collectively, it makes us feel more comfortable, and "attractive" and i believe also, this is the same reason why those who dont wax, shave, and triple trim do the same.

shoulda posted it in the auto section.

anyways, your  professor made a very important point. you have to consider the benefits of having a car and its burden on you as a student.  if you do work part time, will the money you make be enough to cover insurance costs, bills at home, food, your personal maintenance, gas? what about the cost of the car you plan to purchase? the monthly payments? all this you have into consideration.

leave off this "big boy" mentality for now, cos if join the "big boy" club, you will definitely shrink financially especially as a student. which will be Double whammy for you. maybe after your internship/ when you get a better job, at least you can consider getting a cheap car that will take you from point A to B until you are well equipped financially.

i'did you continue managing until you are financially independent. continue saving, you will eventually enjoy/join the "big DANG club" not even the "big boys club" it can be a little Intimidating /embarrassing when 'em big boys pose around with their cars, but at least you are focused, you have a plan, you will eventually get there but not now. Good luck

sunboy:
Doctors in the house, is there any kind of test you guys can advice her to go and take, so she can be so sure that she's save for now.

is she using a postinor as a method of birth control?

Mother to her son in law:

"my son, i want you to take very good care of my daughter. Marriage is not and will ever be an easy journey. you will encounter many bad days, if not years in marriage, always remember the reason why you married her. i want to especially request of you something very dear to me, DONT EVER HIT MY DAUGHTER. I, and her father has been married for many decades now, we both had arguments and intense disagreements which are eventually inevitable in marriage and in all those times, he NEVER lifted a finger on me. i want to make you promise that if you ever hit my daughter, i will shoot you dead. mark my words. i dont tolerate and will not tolerate domestic abuse of any kind especially on my daughters."

Mother to daughter:

"Always honor and respect your husband and dont go looking for trouble where there is none.remember he is and always be the head of the family. never forget you place in the home, first of all as a wife and a mother. watch the kinds of friends you keep as a married woman, some will come to destroy, while you came to build.  always communicate with each other and try to settle things between you two amicably. dont forget to pray together every day. be a virtuous woman in your home, remember either of you is perfect, so dont expect perfection in marriage. Always remember this, compromise, patience, forgiveness, caring and preserverance,love and sacrifice. you both should always try to cherish each and every moment you spend together. i will always be here for both of you, if you ever need me"

H2O2:
. is an invalid response.

rotlmao!!! abeg

Lol and u still dey do am

its also the weak and innocent who always gets to pay

dry skin might be knocking in the near future

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oge4real:
@Jellybean,
Nice bra

close your eyes, who told you to look at side

arent you scrubbing away the natural oil too by spending too much tyme there?

FL Gators:
I think my shower takes a long time sef, thatz why.
Gotta scrub off the dead skin cell lol

FL Gators:
Yea it takes a while to style it after washing, but it last long.
Takes me about 1 1/2 hr to wash/ blow dry [thick hair]/ flat iron/ etc
But its worth the time jare

you get plenty time jare. u flatiron yourself? guess dats one of the good sides of short hair cos with a hair like mine, your hands and neck will sue for you for pain and damages afterward

FL Gators:
@Sissy
It depends on what kinda cut you have. Not too short, you can still braid it like regular hair. And it can get messy easily, but the messiness can look like a style lol

LOL i guess. dont think i will ever go short again even though, i sometimes still get longer throat when i see all this beautiful short hairstyles but dont think i have the patience for short hair

FL Gators:
Short hair is a bit easier to manage, but it can get ruffed up and messed up real quick lol

you think so? i always felt limited on styles when i use to have short hair. i feel very liberated in terms of style with longer hair now.

ThoniaSlim:
I have a long hair, but I'm so tired of spending money on braids and fixing weaves on. I'm contemplating going natural for a while.

but with natural hair, dont you still have to spend more money on protective styles like braids? and maintenance

just had to resurrect this thread

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i hate people who chew gums without consideration especially when they are in close proximity with you. sometimes i feel like slapping the gums out of them. piss ma arse off

H2O2:
To quantify that, if the level of wickedness in this man is that alarmingly high when he's upset - as this woman claims she's seen the good and the worst, she should take the initiative to leave now instead of being blindly in love. If the anger at its height has not driven her away by now, I really don't know what other answers she's looking for . . . other than the uncertainties within her that's causing her to have goose bumps or get cold feet. It happens to plenty of people. Nonetheless, she can either introspect and figure out what she wants like I said earlier, or she can simply end it now instead of both party wasting their time.

agree. the early, the better

denzel2009:
We didnt think much about why he left abruptly, on another day while he was news surfing and we had to watch another programme,we just thought of someone going to cook spaghetti again maybe it will work, alas, dad just vamoosed again. We were so happy doing this until one day we asked him why always leave the seating room, he didnt want to respond and tried to do shakara but finally confessed that he always feel like we are eating guinea worm  and he cant stand it.

God I miss my family,its always a funny atmosphere.

ROFTLMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

H2O2:
It's never been a do or die affair, but life's not always greener on the other side either.

got it. still doesnt mean one should be eating the dust either especially in this day and time

H2O2:
Meaning try to work it out and see if a change is possible. If it's a missing component that cannot be change then find someone else.

Finally!. the way constructed your previous statements, seemed as if you were onto something else. like it was a do or die affair.

spikedcylinder:
Her head like cereal bowl.

ROFTLMAO!!! . could imagine me drinking ma honey bunch of oats in it

[size=2pt]btw thanks of your help/response[/size]