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first things first, get yourself tested within few those days

i dont get your question?

r231:
the pastor that is suppose to join the couple together has a diff opinion on this well he said that its not right in the eyes of GOD and i am trying to understand what that means.

very interesting. many pastors/priests share the same belief as your pastor.  i will tell you an "interesting view" of a particular religion concerning your question.

for the catholic church tradtional marriage is no marriage at all. living together after traditional marriage is considered co-habitation. if they marry traditionally, they are not supposed to live together. thus before marriage, no pre-marital sex. co-habitation before marriage is a forbidden practice in the eyes of the CC(thus the reason why living together after traditional marriage is not encouraged) and many priests even go as far as requesting that the couples live separate if they have been cohabiting before the wedding takes place.

however, the question now is how many people actually practice this "belief"?  very very very few if any, i tell you!

anything for them

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=375208.msg5303465#msg5303465 date=1263341246]Fathers are mostly dictatorial and great disciplinarians.
I think you should get used to him afterall he's your father.[/quote]"dictatorial and disciplinarians" cant be in the same sentence my dear. there are very two different categories. there is a HUGE difference between the two.

and being his father doesnt mean she shouldnt be allowed to breathe and be her person

4838 views and counting Lol

i think he just got in with the wrong group of "family" while in school and cling to religious extremism for whatever be it they promised to offer him or what he lacked. more reasons why we need to look out for the kinds of "friends/company" our children keep, you cant always protect them but at least . . . . .

chaircover:
If you really love your wife/husband, then you will love whatever belongs to him/her be it a child, mother, sibling etc

but you know sometimes those "step sons/daughters" can actually tear a family down

List three characteristics that all living things have in common

darosha:
d word marriage is vry complex,but 2 my own opinion i bliv d major cause of broken marriages is as a result of lack of respect on d part of d ladies.most of our mothers got married at a tender age and are still happily married. if ladies cld swalow dier pride i bliv marriages wl strt workin of fine.

here we go again

Welcome back Tgirl4real!!! we missed your presence. happy new year!

Tgirl4real:
Though a bit late. Can we discuss Abdulmutallab's issue. I think his parents should be blamed partly 4 his actions. But his upbringing also determines what he becomes.

you really think so? could it be that since he was sent to an out of the country boarding school during his formative years and somehow lacked the parent to child interaction or the father-son interaction that could have helped shaped his person contributed to his extreme views? maybe his interaction with strangers  and his mingling with the wrong groups of "family" while in school at such a young age shaped his beliefs? in one of his online posting, he claimed he was lonely and had no one to support him, one may argue that his parents were so much focused on his educational betterment that they forget about his personal developments too especially as a young man? and maybe all the attention/support he needed from his parents/family especially from his father he got at the wrong places? or maybe his coming from a large family of 16 kids contributed also? maybe his parents didn't really have that time for individual attention since they had so many children? these things are possibilities/assumptions.

supposing the assumptions are true there are still many people who have had rough/very hard/bad background and still never resorted to any kind of extremism?.

chaircover:
No - My kisses are for me and me alone; not even if they are fake screen kisses

LOL that one na ur only concern

[quote author=Aloy.Emeka link=topic=375208.msg5265200#msg5265200 date=1262849994]Because potential suitors will think she is a LovePeddler and she left home because she wants more space to invite different men into her house for occasional sleepovers. Nigerians reason in mysterious ways so, BlueDiva knows what she is talking about.[/quote]abegi jor, find me another reasonable excuse.

BlueDiva:
Madam expatriate, In Nigeria it's improper.

Mrs refugee, in my own Nigeria its very proper. simple question "what is improper about it.?" what has "expatriate" got to do with it? realist ke, idealist ni.

@ Silk

i like your unique color! very cool

[quote author=!amebo no1 link=topic=373105.msg5264247#msg5264247 date=1262826739]good point Sissy, but the fact that he is her husband does not mean he is her first love [/quote]Okkie maybe not their "first love" per se but the person they fall/were in love with before kids came

i think also its has something to with our mindset. some nigerians/people will see things with such names as inferior in quality just because its has a "native" name to it. i always hear people say, that shoes made in a city(forgotten which city its) in nigeria is inferior which have prompted many shoemakers in that city to start using "made in china, italy"etc label just to sell market while in reality those "fancy"shoes are actually made in nigeria.

i however, dont see the big deal in them using foreign names for their labels, as long as products sell. . . .

try as much to resist the itch to scratch the blisters might/will pop and leave scars to help with the itching, any of the ffs will help

get calamine lotion and put on it

take an oatmeal bath. look for oatmeal soap, like aveeno Colloidal Oatmeal soap or make your own.very effective

Benadryl Itch Stopping Cream

get any Hydrocortizone Anti-Itch Cream

get a prescription of Oral Antihistamines

get a prescription strength anti-itch cream/lotion

cut your fingernails short if you must scratch

finally do try to protect the people around you, especially kids and pregnant women remember chickenpox is contagious especially during first few days and until the all the blisters are crusted.

BlueDiva:
However,
It's improper to be unmarried and living alone when you're in the same City as your folks.

What you need now is to think of settling down.
I know that may not be soley in your hands right now, it's one of the ways out.

how is it improper? she is almost 30 not 21 or 17

and i think your last advice is very wrong. she shouldnt consider marriage as a way to get away from her father. marriage shouldnt be an escape route to ones problem. she has to find ways to deal with the problem before thinking of getting married.

yes, some women do often neglect their "romance" after having a kid. their priorities change and their child become their utmost priority. which is very  understandable, chasing a toddler around, housework and stress is enough to stop the romance machine engine, however, am of the believe that a woman should at least try not forget her friend, and first love, her husband and his needs too.  its very doable.

Gabry:
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i miss you die ooo

am fine ma sis.

latch:
Of course there'll be a mix, so I suppose youre talking about who has the higher percentage.

[b]Obviously this'll depend on whose sponsoring your wedding. If its the parents it only makes sense to respect their wishes. [/b]Then again, if you need to recover your wedding costs, then parents friends would be rather important.

it doesnt matter IMO. just becos your parents are sponsoring the wedding doesnt give them authority to dictate what gets done or not. its her wedding. she still have a say. since there is limited space on the invite list, i believe still she should compromise with her parents on the number of people to invite

no it doesnt. if that was the case, we would have definitely less cases of married men/women cheating on their spouse.

just find your own place and live your life. i see no reason for such treatment from your father, coming back by 9:15 isnt a coming back by 12am. you are no longer a teen or teenager that should be controlled and monitored and being close to 30, youre old enough to stop living with your parents and find your own place. and which society says a woman cant live on her own?

however, i do sort of understand the attending of  different church by the same members of a family in the house. so, your father might feel you disrespected his faith by attending different church while still under his control. in-short to end all this he say, she say, find your place or try to discuss issues with your father in a kind manner

H2O2:
Then both should mutually understand and agree to work together on home upkeep.
And I wouldn't use the word "required". Both the man and woman should be considerate. Wife should not feel inferior because she washes her husband's clothes. Husband should not feel belittled if he has to pick up the kids from school.
I will remain under the impression that there are some responsibilities better suited for women, just as there are others more suited for men.

like the woman washing her husbands clothes? lol

@ post

i see nothing wrong or big headed in a woman washing her husbands clothes. this kind of things are stuffs that shouldnt be mapped out but done without thinking too much into it. or maybe coz laundry is just one of my favorite chores.

H2O2:
To be fair, if a man is solely responsible for providing financial stability in his marriage, the wife should be ready to do the more menial tasks around the house.  Male traditional role begets female traditional role.

what of situations where the woman and man equally contributes to the financial stability of the family, should the woman still be required to wash her husband's clothes or should everyone wash theirs?

how you can compare the need for a man to provide for his family with whether its necessary for a woman to wash his husbands clothes?

havent you heard of men who washed their own dirty clothes and still provided for the family?

compromise with the them i'd say. since there is limited space, invite those who mean the most to you and your family not just anyone you call friend" or your parents call "friends". and dont let your parents overshadow your decision, always bear in mind, its your wedding not theirs. its a time for you to take the wheel

longest time how are you ma little sis

MrPrsdent:

y u dey pop ur eyes

To just allow myself to breath more

^^^^^
thats why i said "supposedly" hes infected

ubiaa5:
Barb o,fix o its still a silly reason to file 4 divorce wont the hair grow back.

it doesnt matter. you cant just divorce someone over a hairstyle. doesnt make sense