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ikihealthplus:
Sorry for the long read,

I finished service Dec 2017 and got a job in the state I served, was excited and told dad, dad told me he doesn't like that one that he wants me to work in a firm (he has some contacts there)

Although I knew the Gen. manager Coz I worked with him in 2015 for a few months. Meanwhile dad got a job for my younger sister in that same firm. I told dad that I won't want to wait beyond February since he was certain I'll get the job, he assured me. January passed, met the CEO and he said he'll get back to me in a month's time, prior to meeting the CEO, I had already called the manager and told him that I'm almost done with service, he said I should come meet him in January, old dad, my dad said I shouldn't meet him that I should meet the CEO, so I obeyed. So when I met the CEO, he called the manager in my presence, I had this awkward feeling but I kept my cool, the manager told him I've worked with him before. So they said they'll get back to me. a month passed and I kept going to and fro to hear their feedback but nothing was forthcoming,

Met the GM, he told me March but no specific date and told me the salary I was to be paid, I was OK with it, towards the end of February I sent an email to the CEO that I haven't heard from him and got no reply, had to visit the firm. Met the GM and he said I should meet the CEO, while waiting to see the CEO, he told the security man to tell me to see the GM, he was told I've seen him and he told the security to tell me to go home, I got sad and told dad that I'm fed up that I need to go to where I'm needed not where they think they're doing me a favor, dad sent and called both GM and CEO an SMS and calls resp but got no reply.

Meanwhile I travelled to go and secure a job in the state I served, my sister now called me that the GM told her to tell me to come see her, I felt awkward Coz I chat with him on WhatsApp and visit him often so why wasn't I called directly? I came back, went straight to see the GM and he told me the CEO has changed his mind about my salary that about 33% was slashed from it, that I should start with it.

Meanwhile the other job I got was a better offer with good incentives, dad wants me to work in that firm but I told him I'm not accepting the job but he's insisting, pls I need your advice Coz I need a place where I can work with peace of mind.


Please, help me push it to FP

Listen boy! A man does not take directives from any other nan on how to live his life, even if its his father. Plot your own course.

The author is asking human rights groups to take the issue up instead of filing a class action lawsuit.

Nigeria and Nigerians.

teebaxy:
na xo, man need to enjoy his money while he is alive as their is no male child to preserve the Name of their family

What you are saying here is that the preservation of the name of the family will enable the man to enjoy his money when he is dead.

Its not by force to comment.

odiereke:
Good at his profession

Hellooooo.... he got caught!

But it'sjust a temporal ban to quell some issues.

Nairaland has started being clickbaity.

Alright.

Odiegwu.

We shall see who is fooling who.

blackbeau1:
yes I have. Two diff versions. He can choose one

No. You merely the restated the problem in different terms. The two different "angles" you presented are actually conjunctive parameters of the problem. You have to look at them as being the different lines of the same angle and then give a piece of advice that shows which direction to take. After all, the OP already knows that 60 k is nothing which is why he is considering not taking the job and he also knows there are no jobs which is why he is considering taking it.

Anyway you've tried in your own way.

Bro the answer to this question is very simple. Sit down and carry out the following exercise:

Step 1.

Tabulate the costs involved with moving to Abuja, including rent and feeding and everything else. Compare with your salary. Can your salary sustain you in Abuja? If yes, move to step 2. If no terminate immediately. If expenses are matching your income then ask yourself if there are any intangible benefits to be had here. For example, what will you gain from the training? Is the firm a prestigious one? Are you likely to get a promotion any time soon?

Step 2.

What are the opportunity costs of moving to Abuja? What will you miss out on? How might these other opportunities compare when you perform the basic financial analysis carried out in step 1?

You now have enough data to determine whether the move is financial okay for you, and whether or not it is the right move for your career.

No one can answer these for you.

blackbeau1:
Depends on what angle you are looking at it from. In terms of accommodation and transportation and cost of living in abuja, 60k is going to constitute a problem for you because it's nothing .from that angle,I'd say don't do it
But looking at it from the angle of ' no jobs in naija', I'd say go for it

Do you think you have actually given any advice here?

but what is funny enough about the fact that the guy is late now?

These look like the same pics that were posted here last week concerning an attack on the same Rann

It's quite unfair really. How can some soldiers be at the battle front for two solid years? What is the rest of te army doinng? Dancing python dance that could effectively be delegated to MOPOL.

This country na wa o... The people that sent this boys to the front for years are comfortably at home eating three square meals and fucking their wives at night while our boys are treated like grains of sand.

MonPro:
Sharap, you are talking to someone whose uncle is a Capt in the US army.

Do you zoogerians also fire live bullets at the depot during army training?

Ridiculous.

1. You said Nigerian soldiers are cowardly based on the fact that they ran from live fire in battle and then you said that cowards are weeded out at Fort Lauderdale. Now if cowardice is defined by one's actions by running away from fire, how does one spot cowards in training? How does your bolded question have anything to do with what we are talking about? Have i asserted that Nigerian soldiers are less cowardly than US soldiers?

I don't want to get too involved with you because i understand that you are only reasoning from your level but it's basic logic really.

2. US soldiers, and every soldier runs from time to time depending on the conditions. When outnumbered, you retreat or run if you prefer to put it that way. I have a personal friend (US coast guard) who was deployed in an active combat zone and many of the stories he told me involved how they had to run when outnumbered. Incidentally, that is the actual reason why military training comprises of so much running.

3. Your uncle is a captain doesn't mean you are anything.

MonPro:
They cowards can now come down to south to beat up unarmed civilians.

In the Chinese and Russian army running from war is punishable by death.

In the US, cowardly soldiers can't make out of training in Fort Lauderdale.

Do they fire live bullets at Fort Lauderdale? If not how exactly would hey be able to tell who and who is the cowardly one?

Stop talking about things you have no knowledge about

BankeSmalls:
Is there no law which states that private citizens can acquire licensed guns in that country?

Nigerian police should first repel that law in the national assembly.

Then we can talk about the money you paid to pick the guns from the police, the money should be refunded to citizens with interest.

I'm aware there is a law permitting licensed firearms so the police have no power to issue any directives contrary to that. These fellows need education on their roles really.

AishaBuhari:
Waiting for the guy's side of the story - Not in a rush to draw conclusions yet

You guys are really amazing. I've just been looking at all the comments with a mixture of irritation and amusement. I mean is it that you people cant read or you lack comprehension?

The guys side of the story os right there in the post!

He is unaware that she is living in those conditions and he does give her money. He may be being shielded from her due to her character, for the sake of his career. Period.

Why must every woman in particular, learn how to code? Why not every African? Every Nigerian? Why just women??

Dalby:
The woman l married

I'm so sorry bruv. This one is the reason why i'm still single... keep your head up bruv.

NaijaMutant:
This bokoharam war has becomes a needless war



Can't we just ask bokoharam what they want and just settle them make everybody live in peace

Are you living under a rock that you don't know what boko haram wants?

Ok let me enlighten you! Their goal is to islamize the entirety of Nigeria as a caliphate under the rulership of abubakar shekau. Wanna revise your comment??

She can sue probably just not for provocation...probably she can sue for nuisance though her chances of being successful would be 0-5%.

livebynite:
Should I Break Up With Her, Serious Advise Needed

I am in a bad situation and I need advice please
My gf Tinuke I call her tintin for short, has been the center of my world but for some time now certain things have me worried
We started dating 2 years ago then we moved in together after the sixth month, we do everything together at least whenever we can.
To be clear I am not a jealous person but somethings have really got me worried.
1. When we met she told me she has lots of guys as friends, and that she used to be a tomboy, even at work she has only guys as her friends, She works in KFC as a checkout girl.

2. We once went to her secondary school reunion and there where over 50 guys there and she was the only girl! I had to ask her if she went to an all guy’s school and she said these are the boy friends of her class mates that the girls will soon arrive. They never did she danced with every single guy there, but at least she introduced me to her 4 school sons and 3 school fathers who took care of her during her high school days. The only thing that bothered me about the night was she kept sitting on the laps of a particular guy who seemd way older than her to have been her school son back then and for some reason they were whispering stuff into each other’s ears all night.

3. I work with an importer as his wharehouse manager and sometimes I have to sleep there whenever we are doing stock taking and I have come home twice to find her with one of her school sons shirtless in my house and she says they are doing interview preparations (She has a big heart and loves helping people) so I can’t fault this I just always caution her to tell these guys to not take off their shirt in the house, yes granted the house I hot as we live in a self-contained. But they usually drink up all the garri in the house it’s so annoying!

4. We once went to see her uncle she grew up with somewhere in Ikoyi and when we got to bourdilion she had to call several times finally her uncles driver came to pick us, I had to wait in the security house while she went into see her uncle for over 5 hours and they didn’t even offer me ordinary water? I was so pissed.

5. KFC really stresses her out, she works even holidays, and every night around 10 her boss has to call and she has to give him reports sometimes he calls her to come back to the branch for random stock taking or reconciliation though he usually comes to pick her himself and is kind enough to send cool looking guys to drop her off the next day.

6. Another issue is that sex between us is so bad, as in every time we make love the song deep and wide constantly comes to mind, she says its the stress at work that makes her kitty so wide, I mean it is wide!! One can easily build a two wing duplex and still have space to park ten cars in there. We have had several talks about her quitting this job but not just because of how it affects her body but I have seen several nudes pictures of male organs to some rich customers sent to her, I was very angry but she explained that I shouldn’t that she always blocks the numbers.

7. Recently I came home and I found an empty condom wrap in the toilet seems it was flushed but didn’t go, she said she wanted to ask me who did that, and what really got me angry was I saw a plate in the sink with remnants of garri and milk, I was saving that remaining garri she said her school son dropped by for tutorials, I have wanted her in the past about using up the garri in the house for these guests, now I think this has gone far enough. AI am seriously thinking of breaking up with her. I need a woman who can manage our resources not waste! She is a truly wonderful person with a big heart but this wastage has got to stop. I love her but this thing is driving me nuts!!
Please mature comments only

So after all this, its garri that is making you mad?

oh my days.

the guy can't play football abeg... watched some of his videos. He's awful

Justbeingreal:
What a show

a show of shame!

thesicilian:
After selling weapons to the terrorists you now offer to help the government and people they are terrorizing thus getting paid both ways.

When and where has Britain sold weapons to Boko Haram?

buffalowings4:
Life is lived but once

You don't get to re-spawn after death like in video games.


Confronting an insane guy with a semi automatic all alone?

Sorry I will pass.

I have kids I want to see get married.

I want grandkids to hold in my hands

I have a wife I'll like to keep warm every night

They say life isn't a bed of roses
But these are moments that make it worthwhile.

I die today confronting that loose canon
Before the end of the year there will be another even bigger shooting
So what's the point.

If you cant do the time don't do the crime. Simple.

Why allow the government expend tens of thousands of dollars training you and arming you, then a further tens of thousands of dollars every year paying you a salary if you cannot apply your training in a one on one situation wherein you have the advantage because you know where the shooter is but he can't see you, in the interest of saving the lives of very young children?

3 sets of frog jump is not too grievous a punishment if we have to be objective. She was in an army school and that is par for the course in such establishments.

For once, this is nobody's fault.

You want to be rich?

Either get a very high paying job or start a business. Very few people can successfully save up while living in poor conditions and i don't advise it either. Life is about balance.

So with the little money you have i would say look for either a skill or an idea that is unique, and use that to start a business of your own.

Ishilove:
People say Edo girls fly at day time but just ignore them.

Edo people are generally easygoing people. They don't make trouble, don't find trouble, don't give trouble, unambitious and have not contributed anything meaningful to the growth and development of the country

People also claim the headquarters of witchcraft is in Edoland (first class azeh ) and their women often knock off their wealthy husbands in order to inherit his riches. Whether this is true or not, I am in no position to confirm or refute. Once again, IGNORE THEM.

They do not demand for an arm and leg during the marriage processes, and unlike certain parts of Nigeria, you will not need to break your bank to marry one of theirs. You will find that they will make most agreeable in-laws.

However, If you are a religious person, pray to God for guidance before settling down with your partner because love, good and evil does not know race, ethnicity or gender. With God, you can never go wrong

As a very longstanding member of nairaland this is unexpected of you. The man specifically asked about the wedding not about your thinly veiled prejudices.

The hustle for likes is real abi? Hope the few you've gotten made it worthwhile for you.

Donald3d:
All female battallion
But is that necessary ?

In not even sure it is necessary to have females in the army in the first place. If they really want to serve they should go and join the police and being doing soft work in non-active roles.

Cromagnon:
yes
So that all feminist nonsense will stop

How will this stop the feminist stuff? You think these ones will ever see the border of Sambisa?

greatcrown:
Who is fooling who?

Initially the story was denied.

Now they are pinning it to a passenger.

I don't blame you, I only blame the regulatory agency who cannot act until presidency sneezes.

I hope everyone will avoid the airline like plague.

I just wonder why taking responsibility is a big thing for Nigerian institutions!

The very first press release from Dana stated that the door was tampered with. Don't know which denial you are talking about.

phrancys001:
Still don't get it was the airplane door an egg shell that can be easily dismounted?

Not an eggshell but obviously it should be relatively easy to open since it is an emergency door we are talking about here.

IdeyFindWife:
multiple layer encryption and other high-level anti-hack safeguards are needed or Black Hat hackers will soon have a field day

Bruv you think the nerds over at WhatsApp haven't thought about this?

WhatsApp is already the industry standard for encryption, so i can imagine now that they want include financial dealings they will step up even further.

That someone has never had a dick inserted into her vagina before does not mean she has not seen many dicks or even had shoved down her throat.