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Family / Re: My Husband Thinks I Lied 2 Him About My Virginity Bcz I Didnt Bleed The 1st Time by soulglo: 5:19pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
jaelz: Tell your husband and your friends to pick up a book and stop embarrassing themselves. Some people do not even feel discomfort the first time they have sex. In fact some women are born with no hymen at all. Hymen is just extra meat that covers some part of the vaginal opening. And a lot of women lose that "extra meat" over time. You were almost a grand mother when you lost your virginity so yours probably wore of a long time ago 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Soldiers Rescue 14 Pregnant Teenagers, 8 Children In Abia - Photo by soulglo: 5:14pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
Can they start showing us this people shackled like animals and thrown in jail. It is one thing to keep exposing these facilities but we never hear what happens after. Who knows they pay somebody and move to the neighboring state and start exploiting people again. Show us these animals being sentenced to life in prison and lets see how they suffer in prison. That would serve as a deterrent. These people have regard for the law. In fact no regard for humanity. |
Family / Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by soulglo: 5:09pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
edwife: You walk into someone's kitchen and start cleaning up I have heard it all lmao 1 Like |
Family / Re: thank you by soulglo: 5:03pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
mutter: I too agree that most marriages can be saved but when it comes to abuse we have to take a step back and pause. Divorce is harder than most people think BUT we owe it to our fellow human beings to let them know that divorce does not equal death but staying in a volatile marriage can very easily equal death. We can never downplay physical abuse. Under no circumstances. Any type of abuse is bad and verbal usually leads to physical. You are right OP is probably in her husbands arms........ until the next slap. Anyway I'm done writing chapters. I understand what you're saying and you understand what I'm saying. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Is My Wife A User?? - Advice Please by soulglo: 3:35pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
donpeey22: First of all she has one butt not two . Secondly, she's not the one sitting at home, he is. He has said he lives of handouts from his family and rental property he inherited. I am assuming that there have been times he could not make ends meet because they needed to get handouts from his family. Do you think that she would really want to go out everyday and run her businesses and raise kids if she had the option? She's does not feel financially secure in that relationship and so she knows she has to go out and work while he stays home because as he admitted, he has no desire to work. The problem her comes from her very abusive nature. Her husband clearly has low self esteem and rather than look at that part, she has focused on him being this "poor little rich kid". She sees her husband as a spoiled brat and treats him like an unwanted child. I don't think that people like the OP's wife can change. Abusive people are just toxic. They need a separation to reevaluate but if the OP rushes into another relationship without fighting his demons he might regret it. He needs to live like he has no mummy to run to when the going gets tough. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by soulglo: 3:26pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
aisha2: But why should she mention what transpired between her man and herself. I would certainly treat someone I have a relationship with different from someone I simply do not know if I walk into the kitchen and she's been through my things. Ring or no ring. This is not about the ring and not about kitchen power but I'm sure you already know that |
Romance / Re: She Has Never Received Anything From Me !! Could This Be Love? by soulglo: 3:21pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
2undexy: You're getting cold feet because she's not using you as her personal ATM? What will it take to change this mindset in today's Nigerian man. Would it make you feel secure if she was indebted to you in some way? Is that were your confidence lies? You need to work on your mindset. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by soulglo: 3:12pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
aisha2: This has nothing to do with "kitchen power". It's common courtesy. Is the guest a child? If she had a baby that needed a bottle and maybe she needed to heat it up or the host slept until 1pm and she had children to feed, or she is diabetic and has to eat at specific times etc then exceptions can be made. I can never walk into a hosts kitchen to help myself to anything if I have not been invited to do so. It is rude. You're opening up cabinets, rummaging through the refrigerator etc. It's a gross invasion of my privacy. If this was a wife or partner that the couple had a long standing relationship with then it's a different story. This was a girlfriend that they had never met. Her comment about the man not getting a hotel room further proves that she has no manners whatsoever. |
Family / Re: thank you by soulglo: 2:59pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
BlackLeopard: It shows a lack of intelligence. When people start to talk as if being physically strong makes them superior all I think about is a chimpanzee standing in the corner beating its chest. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: thank you by soulglo: 2:54pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
mutter: You did not have to tell me anything. I simply deduced. What is more dangerous is you are likely in a situation that is difficult to live in but not steering women away from making the same choices. Instead you berate women in that situation or you try to convince them that these abusive men are not so bad. You are the dangerous one. I am happy I made that comment so that some of these women can go back and read your posts and then pretty much scratch off anything you have told them concerning their relationship. Every human being deserves a partner that loves and respects them but you on the other hand go out of your way to romanticize abuse in marriage. People like you make women stay in these horrible situations and when they get seriously injured or even killed, it is your type that will make comments like "I told her not to do this or that anymore", "she was very stubborn" etc. Don't expect any gentle words from me. You don't have to tell your business but you could be honest so other women can learn and not make your mistakes. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: The Role Of A Father by soulglo: 6:52am On Jan 20, 2015 |
He taught me how to pray He taught me discipline He taught me to take pride in my work He taught me to take responsibility for my choices He taught me about God He taught me how to love He taught me to think He taught me to stand my ground He taught me to take risks and not be afraid (He always says "Heaven is your limit" not the sky is your limit ) He taught me by example My dad is awesome oh |
Family / Re: Shared Domestic Responsibilities Vs. Having Househelps by soulglo: 6:43am On Jan 20, 2015 |
I'd rather have a housekeeper so I have more time with my husband and the kids. The help is not just the help for the woman but for the family. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Reasons Why Many Guys Insist On Getting Into Ladies' Pants In Relationships by soulglo: 6:37am On Jan 20, 2015 |
Rapists Anonymous |
Family / Re: Acne And Depression :: Think ,i Have Lost The Battle by soulglo: 3:46am On Jan 20, 2015 |
Your depression is not from the pimples. It's likely from the ridicule you get from your mother about them. You have to filter all that out. My best friend had pimples all through high school. They did not clear up until her 20s and right now both the pimples and spots are all gone. You could try proactiv if you have access to it. Otherwise, try to do some basic tests to figure out if you have oily, dry or combination skin and then do basic care based on the result. Good luck |
Family / Re: My Wife Hates And Starves Her Stepchildren by soulglo: 1:57am On Jan 20, 2015 |
alutacontinua: True. There are even children who have this same issues with their own parents. You have husbands who come on Nairaland to complain that their wives do not contribute a kobo to the homes needs but sponsors all her siblings through school. Adults who are so resentful of their fathers "training" everybody's child in the family and now he cannot afford to help them out with their own school fees. It gets stretched when it becomes step parent or in laws. Let's just try to be objective is all I'm saying. She might have been spiteful at times but I have to say I cannot respect someone who would date someone who does not accommodate their kids much less marry the person. |
Family / Re: My Wife Hates And Starves Her Stepchildren by soulglo: 1:52am On Jan 20, 2015 |
crackhaus: That using this particular excuse tells me he is full of shit. He could have said she's difficult to live with. She's violent. She's financially irresponsible. She's an unrepentant adulterer. I would buy any of those but not this one. Keep in mind that I personally think that NIgerians make the worst and most dangerous step parents I have seen. So I am not saying that she's an angel. I'm just saying that if he actually came to the court and those were his specific reasons for ending this marriage then he is full of poop. |
Romance / Re: Introversion Is Destroying My Relationship, Please Help!!! by soulglo: 1:14am On Jan 20, 2015 |
crackhaus: It's a 4 year relationship. Wow. I don't know about this but if you have been with someone for 4 years and are not married and he has these serious issues with the very definition of you then maybe it's time to reevaluate. |
Family / Re: My Wife Hates And Starves Her Stepchildren by soulglo: 1:11am On Jan 20, 2015 |
crackhaus: This is possible but what good parent would stay married to someone who truly starved his children. He married her in 1996 when she was just 19. Being a 19 year old step mother is a tough job. Especially when the kids are old enough to understand that this woman is taking the place of their mom. It was his responsibility to make sure that the young woman he married and his young defenseless children had a healthy relationship. I'm not really sure why a man with children would think that marrying a 19 year old is a good idea. She's barely an adult herself. A 19 year old in 1996 is very different from a 19 year old in 1945. He was obviously not thinking about his children when he made his choice. It is crazy that after spending her best years raising the kids that now he finds fault in what she spent all those years doing. If you are a father then think about coming home from work and seeing that your children have not been fed all day. Would it be something you would ignore for 18 years? Most men will say no. I would believe any other excuse but not this one. They are not getting along. He wants a divorce. He should just say that and not use this excuse. It's lame. |
Family / Re: Help!!! Before He Hanges Himself by soulglo: 12:51am On Jan 20, 2015 |
His absent mother is not his problem. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is not the answer. He can investigate the disappearance of his mother much later. He should focus on getting some stability in life for now. Keep encouraging him but do not help him stay in his world of self pity. He does not need pity. He needs a reality check |
Romance / Re: Introversion Is Destroying My Relationship, Please Help!!! by soulglo: 12:45am On Jan 20, 2015 |
Awwww. I feel bad for you. An introvert is an introvert but I think that you should take sometime and study your husband and he too should take his time studying you so that you guys can come up with a system that will work for just the two of you. I don't see you as boring but I think you should find something that interests you. Something you can be passionate about. You say you are excited aboutplanning your future. Find something related to that that you and your husband could plan and work on together. Maybe you guys can spin that into something you could enjoy together. Also, you might not be an expressive person but everything becomes a habit when you keep doing it. That is the definition of habit. So tell him you love him. If you have to set an alarm to tell him then so be it. Give him a kiss after your prayers at night. Initiate sex. Just keep doing it until it becomes normal to you. I think your husband is being hard on you because having a boring spouse is not the worst thing that could happen but since he has told you what his issue might be then I think you should step out of your shell a little bit. |
Family / Re: My Wife Hates And Starves Her Stepchildren by soulglo: 12:15am On Jan 20, 2015 |
She's 37 and they have been married for 18 years. The kids are all now adults and it is not he wants to divorce her for starving them? |
Family / Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by soulglo: 12:13am On Jan 20, 2015 |
I personally cannot walk into anybody's kitchen and start tinkering around. Hopefully your husbands friend marries her and really enjoy her mannerlessness. Since right now he is endorsing her behavior 14 Likes |
Family / Re: Nigerian Lady Dies From Injuries Sustained From Beating By Husband by soulglo: 12:07am On Jan 20, 2015 |
The first time he looks you in the eye and punches you should be the last time. If he can do it once he will do it again and again and again and again. There's never any excuse you could ever make up for him. None. Every single one of these women did not die from the first incident of physical abuse. Which means that they had the chance to leave but for whatever reason did not. The two who died last year in Houston have even had the police come out to the house to save them but by the time the police started filing charges the women changed their minds and dropped charges and kept living with these men. The sad thing is after they are dead, their female children will carry this hate with them to their relationships. The boys usually end up being abusers even though they hated what their fathers did. So tell me, what is the point in staying in a violent relationship? It cannot be because of the children. These stories just make me mad and sad. May her soul rest in peace. 4 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: How To Avoid Paying Tax In Nigeria by soulglo: 11:46pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
Middlefinger1: That's the problem. It's not about tax evasion. It's about reducing your tax responsibility legally. The topic in misleading |
Celebrities / Re: Muna Is Dead: Fellow Actors Confirm Death by soulglo: 11:45pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
Oh my God. This is horrible. May his soul rest in peace. Amen 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Reasons Ladies In Diaspora Should Marry African Men by soulglo: 11:42pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
orble: SMH. Really? Just keep having kids because you can? Have them and let them die from starvation or lack of health care because their parents cannot afford to pay for healthcare. This is your argument in favor of the superiority of your culture? 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Reasons Ladies In Diaspora Should Marry African Men by soulglo: 11:39pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
MissMeiya: I don't know were NIgerians get this idea. Come to middle belt America (the heart beat of America) and you'll find that in most homes the man brings home the bacon and the wife handles the finances. The men do not automatically interprete that as "this is my house" or "I'll send you packing". As for NIgerian men being better lovers........ rotflmao. Please abeg. I can't laugh. 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Is TY Bello The Nigerian Female Celebrity With The Most Beautiful Natural Hair? by soulglo: 11:33pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
Orikinla: Hmm. She really knows her hair then. To have natural hair and keep it as straight as Michelle Obama keeps hers most of the time is miraculous |
Family / Re: thank you by soulglo: 11:21pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
fem29: She's not a man. She's a woman in an abusive relationship 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Is My Wife A User?? - Advice Please by soulglo: 1:55am On Jan 18, 2015 |
troy20: You nailed it 1 Like |
Family / Re: thank you by soulglo: 1:52am On Jan 18, 2015 |
dinachi: If you had a penis, you would not even know what to do with it. Maybe if you behaved like a man whatever unlucky woman who falls into your net would give you some good sex. Until then keep humping the couch in your living room cause I know that is the only action you could ever possibly get. Follow some of the good men on nairaland and learn from them. Your partner might pity you and maybe let you rub her back. Silly thing. 10 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Hon Patrick Or Wole Soyinka? Who's Got The Larger Vocab? by soulglo: 11:15pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
Darkrebel: Anybody who is intimidated by his English is probably is not comfortable with their English. He does not come across as brilliant at all. Watching him talk is like watching a baby who's learning to walk. He looks like he could seriously injure himself at every turn. He needs to relearn how to speak in English or just stick to Bini or Esan |
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