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tnerro1:
That woman forming like a man should stop deceiving herself, she has no connection to that baby, even if she go don DNA , na nil result she go get, na one man and the one wey get Bella get that pickin. Dem for just adopt and stop the pretense. Any way sha, the other one should also get pregnant next, so she will not be taking care of another woman baby, she should also have and take care of her own, no cheating

IVF is more advanced than you think.
The baby can have a connection with her ,if they used her eggs for the procedure and transferred it to the other lady to carry the pregnancy.In that case,the baby shares same DNA with her.
Can be done vice versa.

They are legally married.
Any child the other lady births by law also belongs to her.
In some countries,the govt even pays fully or part for it.
Surprising? Yes!
But that's the reality.

Gippeum:
Okay, so like me now that has recieved the collection notice but has no refusal mail it means its been approved?

99.99999999999999% chance that it has been approved.
It's the same thing that they sent to my cousin and she got the passport delivered to her today via courier.

I will book her flight this evening.
By God's grace,she will be in the UK by this time next week.

VISA ALERT

Biometrics : 12/09/25 @Ikeja
Decision Mail: 2/10/25
Passport returned with visa : 6/10/25

It's a visit visa for my cousin to visit me in the UK for one month.

This man will not rest o.
He will go hunting for another lady to marry.

Men desire marriage as much as women but will be forming they don't like marriage and have nothing to benefit from it.

May the soul of the deceased rest in peace

Funny how two women have achieved pregnancy within a very short time.
While heterosexual couples may battle infertility for years.

2 ADULT women decided they want to be together,hence saving men from the disaster of being with them,afterall men say women esp African women are the worst choice of partners.

Why the hot male tears everywhere?

Thanks to IVF.
Without having sex with a man,a woman can have a baby.

mascot87:
Why you married him or why he married you? Is this girl okay?
Mr Eazi is the one that choose you and you accepted. Choose your words wisely

See your life.
Even your fellow men don't completely agree with you.
Pride is the problem of a lot of you

Marriage does not favour men.

Men don't have anything to gain from marriage lol.

Yet they are thanking Jesus for finding a wife..

Clowns

gift2xl:
Why is it that every woman want to feir, both the one's i know that were born chocolate.

I'm dark skinned and proud of it.
I don't want to be fair

That means they will run tire.
Most men abuse and insult women

What exactly is wrong with working 9-5 that it is so demonised?

isyourboy:
We have been together for 3yrs (2 in marriage). We’ve been having some patch ones lately due to finances. Which I told her I’ll sort it and get her the money she want to use. I’d have borrowed but no one did.

Lately, our landlord son is around. He just came back from the Netherlands as he’s been living there for years. My wife started moving very close to him (between we live in a large compound and my landlord has a whole section of the storey building to himself while the tenant share the other two storeys). She got his number and they started chatting on WhatsApp. Will see her giggles and she told me the guy is helping her find free school in Europe.

I had no idea they were sleeping with each other until the beginning of this month. When I knew and asked her about it, she got angry. But i saw a text where she was begging the guy and saying sorry he couldn’t penetrate well. That was the second time they were having sex from the chat. Now she’s angry and went back to her parent house saying I connived with the landlord son to ask her out and accuse her of infidelity.

Mind you it’s been months we last had sex. Which was mainly due to my financial condition.

Is it okay to call her parent and ask them to beg her, at least she can come back home

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Imagine

I thought it was agreed in this group that cheating wives should be thrown out and banished.
How come your wife even left your house and instead of celebrating,you are sounding so sad and even contemplating going to beg for her to return?

Men shaaaa.

They brag a lot on social media but when reality hits them,they become timid.

Cos what is this?

Tufiakwa

CorperKola:
This is stupid advice bruh
Or Incomplete advice at least

Dont chase one woman to the exclusion of all other women who could also be good for you is not the same as dont chase women . Its crazy advice !!!
is it woman that is now supoose to come and toast you by herself

Na woman suppose dey toast man.
7 women to rush 1 man as man is the prize.
Women cannot exist with having a man..so wait ,let woman come toast you

jaxxy:
Do you meet someone today and talk about marriage 2moro? U have to date them 1st.

U wooed her but did she accept ur advances and date u? Leysdown be practical and realistic b4 blaming anyone for what they know nothing about.

There is no law that state if u woo a girl she must accept and tell u she will marry u even b4 dating u.

Man is the prize.
So if a man woos any lady,she must accept and even start pressurising him to marry her.
It's unbelievable that this lady didn't do so with Op.
I feel his pain

City92:
Anybody can pay bills the man the wife it doesn't matter if the wife is more important then it's fine for her to pay the bills she can help you out so that is love

Who foots the bills calls the shot.

Basic123:
The Medicine own is scary.

For every 5 new house officers there are 4 females and 1 male

The reason is because there is no money in medicine.
Men are therefore shying away for studying medicine

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Mariangeles:
It does.

She should've mourned her late husband for a year at least.
In respect to his memory and his family.

Lol.
How many years do men mourn their late wives?

God knows if my husband died ehn,I will try and remarry in 6 months.
9 months is too long even

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Something is wrong with you.
If this table turned,you won't find anything wrong in your brother remarrying within a month of his wife's death.
People like you will make excuses like "He needs a woman to take care of the child" Bla Bla Bla

Abeg free that woman.
Your brother is dead and gone.

Let her remarry.
It's her right.

Her DM must be full by now

She will cash out


Nigerian men can sell their destiny to have sex

This is how they brag on social media that they don't benefit anything from getting married but in reality,they are taking wives here and there.

People that kneel down to beg for sex...They will continue to kneel down to propose.

Social media and reality are two different worlds

Gradually,deeper life is trying to adjust and fit into today's modern world.


Meanwhile,John Kumuyi is a carbon copy of his late mum.

I'm sure he will still be missing his mum...Wasn't long she passed on,his father married his side chic.

May her soul rest in peace

occfx:
LOL, but the truth of the matter be say you no trust the man. It's better safe than sorry. I dont manage a cheating partner even with my condom. Any sign of cheating, just go and continue with the person though, different scenario for women.

Na very big mumu dey trust preek.

Even the owner of the preek no trust himself.

Divorce is not always as easy as people paint it on social media,esp when children are involved.
There are men who even low-key put up with cheating partners in reality but on SM,they let go ..Lol

occfx:
Through out my youthful adventure... I didn't risk it. Condom or no sex. I fear any type of STI as hell. See me suffer because of 5 mins enjoyment. Any man who does that is foolish. Why I don't pity anyone with STI.

The painful part is that these careless people go on to infect their innocent partners .

I am a medical doctor.
I have seen women in their 50 & 60s even some in their 70s taking HIV medications.
Husbands are mostly late as a result of HIV complications.

New infections are being recorded in young wives during antenatal visits,delivery,routine screening.

It's pathetic.

I laugh at people who say it's okay for a man to sleep around as long as he is providing.
I work and I also provide.
A man will not infect me with HIV or any STI for any reason.
We used to have regular screening in the first 3 years of our marriage.
Luckily for me,2 pregnancies..3 babies(including a set of twins). Since then,we use condoms or no sex.

It's been this way for over 5 years.
We are good.

occfx:
Only a foolish man sleeps around without condoms.

Most men who sleep around do not use condoms.
If they do so at the beginning,along the line ,they stop and go unprotected.

This is why STIs spread.
This is why side chicks get pregnant

He married an older woman but still died before her.

He didn't live long to have increased sexual urge while his wife would have become too old to satisfy his urge..
They even had 2 children and could have had more if he didn't die.

So old woman fit born pikin?
Well, maybe because she is white.

This life no get manual sha

DrAkpa:
I hope you realise you are putting him at the risk of contracting prostrate cancer? You women just take selfish decisions without realising how it affects the other party. If I were your husband, I won't even touch you again, condom or no condom. I will just simply marry a second wife. No time for non. Sense

Everybody is free to take whatever decisions they want to.
Emphasis is on personal health.
Life is per head.
He is free to take another wife,he knows.
It's his call.
I have gotten what I ever wanted in marriage.
I don't need anybody to infect me with nonsense in the name of nonsense sex.

Meanwhile,men are also selfish.
Anybody can be selfish.

DrAkpa:
Your husband must be very unfaithful and promiscuous for you to have made this comment. I feel ya pains.

Well,on the contrary,I have not really experienced his unfaithfulness.Maybe he is just smart to cover his tracks.
All men are unfaithful and promiscuous.
They say it rains everywhere and brag that men were not created for one woman.
Prevention is better than cure.
I have taken my decision and he is cooperative.
I can do without sex..He cannot .

If he must have sex with me,he will use condoms PROPERLY or forget about it.

occfx:
How una dey manage this thing... The feeling of sharing fluid with your spouse is out of this world. The good thing about me is I don't love two women at the same time. I don't know why. Before I love another person, I must fall out of love first.

But the consequences of sharing this fluid is too much especially when both of you are fertile. You go born tire

I'm not worried about fertility.
I had a bilateral tubal ligation during my last delivery.
My scare is getting infected with STIs.
Men claim they are polygamous in nature and cannot eat one food everytime.
I love myself and I want to be alive for my children.

2mch:
Always, always wear a condom. Once your spouse starts cheating, abstain immediately for your health and life. Chances are they are cheating without condom. Their cheating partner probably has several other partners they are cheating with, unto not putting their eggs in one basket. So, save yourself. There is no obligation to kpai in a marriage.

True that.
My husband and I use condoms PROPERLY,if we must have sex.

We hardly get intimate though and I'm okay with it

No condom,no sex.

Marriage will not end me

The moment I finished child bearing,checked myself and free from all STIs,I started insisting on "No condom,No Sex".

It's not me that one man will infect with HIV and other STIs simply because we are married.

I cannot live my life taking medications because of another person's stupi.di.ty.

He will contact his infection and suffer it alone.

If he is not using condoms,he should leave it.

I can do without sex all the rest of my life.

Sex is not oxygen or food

Chai...so a Nigerian man can marry a girl he met in the middle of the night in the club?

Like night club?

I don't want to believe this.

Never!

Proudlyngwa:
Do men love
Am just hearing that for the first time

I'm surprised .
Sounds ridiculous.
Men love?
They must be weak men