TroubleMaker47:
In otherwords, ladies keep your options open till someone asks you to marry him

Yes, that's what it should be.

The man also.. until he asks a lady to marry him

As long as you are not sleeping with anybody, you can have as many dates as you have time for.

Feel free.
Meet people.. interact.. make friends.
Keep your boundary.
A serious man will propose and meet your parents.

Aonkuuse:


Source: https://salemgists.com/man-wisdom-joseph-on-the-run-after-strangling-his-wife-evelyn-alifiya-to-dath-in-abuja/

Lol..
Evelyn killed herself.

When we advise well to do women , not to settle for lazy jobless broke men, they will not listen.

A woman moves into a man's house after marriage, not the other way round.

A Nigerian man is not wired to love and appreciate a woman who foots his bills and feeds him.

As a woman who has her own money, what is most important is having a child, if you no see husband who matches your social class.

Do IVF and have your own child(ren).

But they won't listen.

See her looking happy like she hit gold, for pre-wedding picture.
Im sure she had started peppering single ladies and started marriage counselling.

No pity for Evelyn.

bepositive11:


Why is that? I don't think it's normal. You don't like orgasms?

That's how I am.
I don't like sex.
I don't enjoy it.
I struggled to do it for child bearing sake.. and I'm done.
So what's the sex for again?

Aloof:


It's because they cut your clitoris to size.

If not, na Konji for wan kee you.

Nobody will tamper with the clitoris of my daughter, them no born that person well, not even my wife.

My clitoris is intact. No cutting.
I am not just a sex person.
I was a virgin till my early 20s
I just don't like sex.
I feel it's something men use to humiliate women

Lies....

Sex is something I can live all my life without.

If not for marriage, which I'm struggling very hard to have sex with my husband, I would been happily celibate.

Mrshape:
The conversation was going well until I told her I am a teacher then the fast reply stop o only God know if she even block me. Lol I wan die for laugh.
Kings always be careful many of them no like u o them only like what comes with you

... And what does the girl do?

pocohantas:
Afang Soup In Three Easy Steps



How do you like it?
With shelled (Pic 1) or unshelled (Pic 2) periwinkles?

With unshelled periwinkles, it's no longer Afang soup.It may be Okazi but definitely,not Afang soup.
T for Tenks.

Olunmercy56:
what are you doing? I'm into business. Unknown businesses

2 things i promised myself.

1. Do not date/marry Igbo man
2. Do not marry a businessman (marry a salary earner).

Glad It worked for me

Idamond:


What will you advise the Aunt to do?
Copied

I will send her back to her father.

jaelz:
So a lady was actually fired in my office on Valentine's day after she did a public display of affection for her boyfriend who is also her colleague in the office, they are both younger staff and less than 12 months in the office.

According to her direct line manager her KPI's were low and she hadn't met any one of them since her resuming in the office asides the fact that she had a very lackadaisical behavior towards work and in general.

That's ideal.

She doesn't have common sense.

Office romance.

Lackadaisical attitude towards work .

Celebrating nonsense day of fornication called Valentine in a work place.. shows how unserious she is as a person

Op is just being typical.

Even the men condemning him here will reason same, if in his position.

All men fvck (or at least desire to fvck) their house maids.

They give vague reasons to justify it such as Op has done now.

Women shaaa..
Long epistle because of engagement.
If the marriage packs up now, she will start to shalaye

Physically challenged..
No source of income.
The best decision is to get pregnant, have a baby and start begging for alms.

What a life!

Minjim:
I know we all have the fairy tale dream of meeting the love of our life, falling madly in love, getting married and having kids. Some have even visualised the number of kids - two boys and two girls.

However, we must all face the hash reality that not everyone will get married or even have kids.
As such everyone of us must have a backup plan.

My plan has always been to adopt a child even if I get married , because obviously I'll be marrying in my 40's. So whether I have a child later or not I planned to adopt an older child like 8-10 years old.

So what about you, any plan B?

I'm married..

But before, I had planned that if by 35,I am not married.. I would do IVF to have at least 1 or maybe 2 children, work harder and concentrate on raising them.
I don't like sex.. so I can do well without it.

oyetunjibaba:


Sorry to ask o!
Are you a male or female?

Female, and so?

Semiaddict:
initially i fell for the trick of people trying to make masturbation look good.

I tried on my own to quit masturbation and the most I've gone is a month. I've been masturbating for almost 5 years now and I'm sick and tired of going back to my own vomit,anytime i finish masturbating i feel stupid and useless.

Masturbation has affected my brain capacity i failed jamb last year and I'm about to rewrite, I think quitting this dangerous addiction of mine is a good start.

Quitting porn couldn't help,
I'm alone i just feel the urge. Anytime i see a woman i only see them as sex objects,even masturbating to some family members which i one of the reasons i feel so dirty.
I need help.

Masturbation is better than premarital sex(with random people).. e get why.

I am a medical doctor.
I masturbated a lot while growing up , deep into adulthood.
I only had 1 sex partner , lasted barely 1 month and I went back to my shell.
I survived sexual tension by masturbating until I got married.
I still masturbate, though.
And I'm completely fine.

jesusjnr2020:
Sexual immorality has really destroyed the destinies of many anointed preachers.

May God deliver us from the spirit of sexual lust. In Jesus name. Amen!

Who anointed them?

Stomach infrastructure and Pe. Nis activities

ImoleNaija:
Sex for roles in acting,
Sex for marks in schools,
Sex for promotion in offices,
Sex for job offers.

The truth is that girls who are intelligent, hardworking & have dignity hardly find themselves in such mess. I've noticed that most bosses or lecturers only admire them from afar - they are always so cautious around such girls. I may be wrong though.

You are very right.

I once applied for a job with an International NGO alongside 2 of my colleagues.

The coordinator requested to have sex with us , before shortlisting us for the job.

I quietly pulled out.

I was qualified and could get another(better) job.
The other 2 ladies gave in .

They got the job.
I didn't .
I got another job and later left for the UK where I reside now.

Enugurangers:
Hard to believe that they did not detect this earlier on in the pregnancy.

A rich guy like Bovi should be able to afford a good hospital where this could have been earlier detected.

Thanking God for her life.

That's abroad... And detecting ectopic pregnancy is not a matter of good Hospital, the doctor must have a high index of suspicion.

In Nigeria,Any woman of reproductive age who has sudden onset abdominal pain , esp with dizziness or fainting... Is a suspected ectopic.

Next is to ask her last menstrual period. And do a Pregnancy test for her,if she unsure of it

Other modalities include bedside abdominal tapping with syringe.

Scan is too far.

Oyibo people wasted time.

Women do not value their lives, honestly.

After 3 children, why are you getting pregnant again?

Lucky her.. Ruptured ectopic pregnancy kills.

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Deductions from the story.

1. You are greedy.
2. You have no self worth
3. The guy is happily married to his wife.
4. The guy just wants to fvck you.

If you like, don't use your common sense

wildikeman:
Advise to the husband.... GO AND DO DNA TEST QUICK AND CODEDLY.

You are funny

99% chances that the couple did IVF.
Most likely because the man has fertility issues.
What is the DNA test for?

Oyolohi24:
You said it all, my case at the moment. Is just not easy. Quote author=spiceadole post=109651482]When a couple is trying to conceive for years.. And the man has not "thrown out " his wife, married another wife or father children outside but stay faithful and loyal in that marriage, just know the fault is from him (Male factor infertility)...
Next thing.. They save money and do IVF

A Nigerian man who knows he can father children naturally will not stay with a "barren" woman for years or attempt IVF.
Lai Lai.
Experience as a medical doctor taught me this.

Argue with your keypad

Are you male or female?

Maxymilliano:
I blamed the parents.

11years old is still a child, who ought to be undergoing basic primary education, which is free in all government schools across the country.

When you advise people to delay having children or limit the number of children they have, so as to be able to take care of them.. they will not agree.
Instead, poor people will be telling you that God will care for the children.

Why is an 11 year old not in school?
Just look at the dirty gas shop

When a couple is trying to conceive for years.. And the man has not "thrown out " his wife, married another wife or father children outside but stay faithful and loyal in that marriage, just know the fault is from him (Male factor infertility)...
Next thing.. They save money and do IVF

A Nigerian man who knows he can father children naturally will not stay with a "barren" woman for years or attempt IVF.
Lai Lai.
Experience as a medical doctor taught me this.

Argue with your keypad

faceland:
He looks like sickler.
RIP.

Yes.. He has the look.

AmazingELixir:



At least I hope he was able to impregnate her before his dismiss ....that will for sometime delay the woman reversal to .........

A reasonable woman will terminate such pregnancy and move ahead.
Husband of barely 2 weeks.
Then single mother(with all the mockery and lack of support ) for life.
Nope.. If she is my sister, she will not keep the pregnancy.
End it and start afresh!

AlhajiBitcoin:
He is a very stupid man.

So the girl would have accepted your invitation only because of food?

Idiot.

Later you call them hungry girls.

Ordinary food that N1,000 or N2,000 can buy, that is what he went to post on Twitter.

I entered one user friendly fast food joint, purchased chicken laps as big as turkey laps for N1k, 2 large beef at N600 plus 2 bottles of malt. It took 30mins eating only meat and 2 chilled bottles of malt plus one bottle water for N2,100.

I never knew food/meat can be this cheap in some eateries like that.

Nah him this mugu dey display egusi soup and semo.

You shall prosper in this life.
Cheers

It's not possible...
A man buys a bottle of soft drink for a lady , she is already owing him sex.


If you know you are not ready to have sex with a man, do not collect anything from him.
This is the advice I grew up with.. and I abided by it.


Let it not be that the 400,000 is a pathway for using the girl for money rituals ooh.. cos things dey happen

Fiscus105:


And if its natural death? The come back would be devastated

Only a fool believes that boy died from natural causes

Nonsense and protest.

Go juju and eliminate everybody involved in this mess.