₦airaland Forum

Ashirioluwa:
I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

..which is very fine.
A lot of guys I met went their ways.
I didn't feel bad about it. I didn't beg any of them.
Your stand is valid.

Kenobsky:
And the good news was that you are not a virgin.

I didn't need to be a virgin to decide what I wanted to do with MY BODY,who I wanted to share it with,how and when I wanted to.

79733139:
If all what you have written are true, and with the tone of your writings, you aren't really sexually attracted to your husband (I mean the type where you just want to get bûtt nàked and make love spontaneously to your man) and he doesn't really know how to seduce women. You marriage seems to be 100% logical... which is usually the case when women don't have high sexual attraction for their husbands.

The most important thing is that I have children and I'm happy.

YoshihideSuga:
This is fair enough, but to realise that you're the same woman who refuses to have raw sex with her husband and even deny him sex is surreal.

I'm done with child bearing.
I cannot risk being infected with incurable diseases.
Married men, especially,are not faithful.

Negroid001:
Lol. You did not marry as a virgin. You dey give advice. What you gave out for free in your final year, one sharp guy chop you for free, you come dey give standard wey you no match up to.

You're a comedian.

Yes, I didn't not marry as a virgin and I'm proud of it nevertheless ,that the second man who saw my unclothedness was my husband.

You don't know my story, so continue laughing at my comedy.
Clown!

gassbee:
did u sleep over at his place during courtship

No
Visited him twice.
Once in the company of a couple who were mutual friends.
The other time was alone,after our introduction. Spent few hours and went home.
I lived alone, he never visited me in my house.
The few times he visited me was either in my parents' house or at an older cousin's house

Gotocourt:
That Gee really wanted to marry you 😍 but dude was relieving elsewhere 🤷🏿.

As long as he was not using me to relief himself.
Because even if I allowed him to, he would still sleep with others if he wanted to. Then , if I catch him, he will proceed to rub it on my face, boast about it and mock me.
Shame and low self esteem will finish me.
I will begin fighting other ladies .. "Leave my man alone" gang
All that drama,not for me please.

Negroid001:
What if you were not sexually compatible?
Were you a virgin?

In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

6 months is more than enough to date and marry for someone who wants to marry.

It's different from people who want boyfriends and girlfriends.Those ones can go on with their 5-10 years or more relationship,studying their partners like undergraduate and master's degree combined.

Good luck to them

Julibet:
I'm surprised you were not angry with his clap back because once a man says no spending, ladies immediately blackmail them and say 'if you love someone, you'll want to take care of the person'

Why should I be angry?
I had met guys who didn't agree to "no sex" even when I accepted they should not spend on me.
Finding someone who agreed to my condition was perfect.
I was working and spending on myself.
I didn't just want to be passed around in the name of relationship.

IamAsiri:
Na broke people you fit use that one scare.

And greedy ladies who are not contented.
When I met my now husband, I told him NO SEX and he said NO SPENDING.
Perfect!
We maintained it like that.

We got married 8 months later.

stan4b:
If no sex before marriage, then no spending or billing of any kind before marriage. Case closed.

That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

bukiah:
Your decision is good. God has forgiven you..but you are old.enough to marry. Pray, look.for a reasonable girl and marry her. Age is no longer on your side

What do you mean age is no longer on his side?
He is a man, not a woman.
He is just 36.
At 70,he can still marry a 20 year old lady and impregnate her.
Man is always the prize.
Men don't age

goran3310:
Marriage is not a guarantee of absolutely anything.
And freedom is a very relative thing.
My girlfriend is taken not because she’s married to another man, but because she’s in a relationship with me.

"Taken" does not mean "Married".
Your girlfriend is still single.

[quote author=zoomzoom post=139148410][/quote]Sorry ooh.
At least, I don't have to go on strike here begging government for months to do the needful.
Again, nothing really concerns me with Nigerian elections.. Between, who is Governor Amuneke?

Daguccizgreat:
Once of the zone b elements around talking trash. Peter is a thousand times better than your druggie president whom you support

I don't know about that.
I don't support any politician.

PO is not a saint.
Doctors in Anambra state went on strike for 13 months when PO was Governor.

Nothing concerns me with Nigeria elections

Very true.

I remember on my introduction day, an aunt asked me "where does your husband live?"
I replied "I am not yet married oh. I'm still single". Everybody including him laughed.

I get really surprised when I see /hear unmarried people say they are not single simply because they are in a relationship.

OpSystem:
Women can hold body more than men, yet your folks videos are rampant on the internet masturbating with with the likes of fingers, cucumber 🥒, carrots 🥕, and various sizes of s*x toys.

intimacy gadgets, you typed.. Why can't men also use intimacy gadgets instead of resorting to rap.e?

UnknownQueen:
Very good, this one can brag himself to jail where assorted beans and dodo plenty well well

This is Nigeria, he may not even go to jail or can reduce his term.

UnknownQueen:
Why is it hard for a man to hold body unlike the women folks

Why why why

Because se. X is always a trophy for them, something to brag about.
Se. X is the only way a man can humiliate a woman.

Se. X is always a trophy for men

They brag about sleeping with married women.. all the time

helinues:
What can other countries buy currently with their highest denomination

See, you opposition should stop this hatred arguments with no meaning.

The global war that have been going on for years is it only Nigeria that's affected?

Average daily minimum wage in Ghana is 21GHC but barbing alone on average saloon is 50GHC. Average restaurant with decent meal, you will have 150GHC

£50 is the highest denomination in the UK.

£50 can buy about 45L of petrol
My husband and our 2 sons can have their hair cut for £50
£50 can feed a single person for up to 1 week
£50 can buy new clothes and shoes
£50 can cover a decent outing.
£50 can do a lot.

I really wonder how Nigerians are surviving.

It's pathetic

The boy looks too smooth and round for a footballer.
Reminds me of Eden Hazard.

Engineerfavour:
She did not make it,but the baby did.
I don't think any woman can replace her in my heart forever

Wife is not your family member .
Wife is very replaceable and can be duplicated.
The most important thing is your baby.
So rest and stop sounding emotional.
Makes you a weak man

Engineerfavour:
My condolences to her husband and family,what I went through because of my wife I will never wish my enemy
She was in coma for 1 month,I spent more than 10 million naira,but I thank God for everything today 🤲🤲

What's husband's loss in this? Wife is not family.
Her demise is a loss to herself , her parents , siblings and most importantly, the innocent babies who have entered this wicked world without a mother.

Husband will remarry ASAP and move on.

A doctor undergoing specialist training in obstetrics dying from obstetrics complications.. in her own very field, in her work place surrounded by her seniors.
Such irony!
She had saved many ,e reach her turn--Disaster!

Why vaginal delivery for triplets?

Immediately I found out I was pregnant with twins, I knew I was going to have an elective CS.
This is so sad , honestly

Wotowotoman:
If you are not hit on by men, it means you are not attractive. Not just unattractive but below average, because even average women get hit on everyday. This is sad but the simple truth

Yes, I am not attractive.
Let me not be attractive.
I enjoy(ed) not being sexually harassed by men and I do not dress or give men the opportunity to hit on me even when I was single,how much more as a married woman?

My husband is the second man I ever dated and he married me within 8 months.
When we met(he was a senior colleague),he asked some of my male classmates about me..and he was told "If you want to sleep with her,she won't agree.It won't work but if you want to marry her,go ahead."

Let attractive women continue to be hit by men.

That's their business.They have strength.

After my first baby, I visited the gym for about 3 months. I joined a group of women who exercised mostly by dancing.
No man approached me ,I didn't approach any man.
I'm very surprised to read that the married women go to gym to bleep.
I have ALWAYS been of the school of thought that men cannot make advances at a woman or flirt with her except she gives them the chance to.Only the thing you allow and tolerate happen.

The only time I remember a man tried such nonsense with me was a patient's relative who sent me his nude picture one night.The idiot wasn't even smart enough to cover his face.
By the time I was done dragging him,he saw his life flash before his eyes like a movie.

Even if they swear for him,he will avoid married women for long ,if not for the rest of his life.

For me, infidelity only occurs in marriage.
And why should anyone date for 8 years?

Bahamas95:
I don't agree with you at all!

Society also label and call men all sort of names when they get to certain age and still unmarried.


* If he's struggling they would mock him that he isn't capable of taking care of himself and he's talking about marriage.


* If he's doing well financially and decides to stay unmarried they'll say he's a ritualist.




Etc

Which society mocks men for not getting married and at what age?