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grandiose4ever:
Hello everyone,

I have begun to think about getting married.

But for some reason I don't fully understand what to expect or what is fully expected of me as a man in the area of finances.

So I'm asking the following questions to matured married men and women to get clarity?

In your own family

1. If the wife is working class, Is it expected that the man pays 100% of the rent?

2. If the wife is working class, is it expected she contributes towards children school fees or the man pays 100%?

3. If the wife contributes financially, is there an expectation that the man does chores? (Ps I don't want to do any chores in this life apart from occasional cooking lol).

4. If the wife contributes financially how does it affect the decision making in the family?

The last question is ONLY for married men who share bills?

5a. Do you feel respectedby your wife when you share bills with her?

*5b. If you don't share bills with your wife and she keeps 100% of her earnings to herself, what do you think is the purpose of a woman working?

I'd appreciate if the mods can help me get a wider audience by putting on front page. Thanks!

Why are you thinking of marriage?
It has been agreed that men have nothing to benefit from getting married.
You lots say something else on social media but in reality, you are doing another thing.
Na you sabi sha

stasius:
Nairaland doctors say you have HIV.

So I hope you are satisfied now.

Better visit a hospital oga! Nairaland is not a hospital.

I am a medical doctor and if a patient presents to me with such history of diarrhoea, I will suspect HIV immunosuppression and screen him for HIV.
It's as simple as that.

dominique:
The depravity and perversion of Nigerian men is getting disturbing. May God's protection be upon our children especially daughters

It's really scaring.
Even in this UK, they get into trouble so much because they have zero control over their sexual urges.

Men and always bragging about their sexual prowess/escapades to the point of making careless offensive remarks concerning minors and vulnerable people under their care.

franchasofficia:
I support this post with 30 Lieutenant Yerima the Wike antidote.


No condom, no sex after couple are done with childbearing, you get too much sense Doc

Needful precaution.
Since the male gender have sworn they can not respect their marital vows and stay faithful to one partner.

LilMissFavvy:
I pity w0men wh0 lack direction. If a woman was married for years, has children and left her marriage for good reasons, why then should she bother about remarrying? Maj0rity 0f men have n0thing good to offer, they are like a cur$e. I always tell myself that if for any reason I become divorced, that I will never remarry again.

Financial Independence is important, if a woman is able to foot her bills she can always live a peaceful life with her kids only. I'd rather be a single mother living with my children,, than live with a cheating hu$band, infact his mere $ight w0uld irritate me.

The only thing about marriage is having kids who knows their father and roots.

Women who divorce and remarry esp when they had children already are nothing but idio..ts

Towma:
I work in Healthcare and have seen and heard cases of men transmitting incurable diseases to their wives because of their sleeping around. This propaganda of trying to force women to forgive cheating husbands is nothing but pure evil.

If as a man you cannot masturbate your excess sex urges instead of cheating on your wife, then make sure you inform whoever you want to marry that you believe it's your right to cheat so she can know what kind of selfish bastard you are before marriage.

I am a medical doctor and it's very painful seeing women being managed for all sorts of sexually transmitted infections esp HIV .
This is why I insist on "No condoms ,no sex" with my husband after I completed child bearing

There is no reason to have unprotected sex with a man, if not for the purpose of procreation.

For me, if he refuses to use condoms, no sex.
Las las, na him go cry cos he needs the sex more than I do.

No

xx1v:
Use the VFS at Opebi, Ikeja.
Select 12,1pm as your preferred time.

Enter libra from benjack stadium road to jibowu, Lagos.

There are hotels at the jibowu park where you can sleep. Next morning, navigate your way to vfs ikeja. Zero charge.

Vfs, presidential hotel offers only premium. Hence, the additional charge.

My cousin boarded Libra from Stadium road . It was a night trip.. she arrived Jibowu, Lagos at about 9am.
Paid for 1 hour at the hotel upstairs in Young Shall grow park where she had her bathe and changed her clothes.
Then off to VFS Ikeja for her biometrics which was scheduled for 2:30pm

She finished the biometrics, returned to Jibowu park and joined Libra back to Port Harcourt that night.

She got the visa and is here in the UK with me.
Will stay till after Christmas

LINSAR:
Thank you for your contribution.

I'm not sure it is normal not to like sex, except you were circumcised.

I'm not circumcised.
Sex is not just my thing.
I'm not a fan

Size matters to some women while it doesn't matter to others.

While most women seems to like big sizes, few including myself prefer smaller size.

For me, I don't like sex.

Why should I enjoy a huge rod ramming into me?

My husband is quite small... He used to have this low self esteem about it but it doesn't matter cos I don't care about Bleep.

Stolen:
OK LET US SEE WHERE REGINA IS HEADED, WHICH OF THOSE PEOPLE CHEERING HER WILL ACTUALLY MARRY HER OR WILL IT BE ANOTHER NOLLYWOOD STORY LIKE OTHER NOLLYWOOD ACTRESS.


I MEAN IT IS NOT LIKE U ARE NED ONLY WIFE.

Dey play

Men dey wey don mount dey wait make she free from this marriage.

Trust Nigerian lustful men.
Before you know, another wealthy man will marry her

kenn4rill:
That should be in there dreams, Nigeria health workers are one of the worst people on earth.

While in Nigeria, my life was pathetic... Seeing so many patients from clinic to ward. Poor pay,terrible work environment.Disrespectful and ungrateful patients. I hated being a doctor.


I relocated abroad and life started to make meaning.
I am happy to be a doctor.
I am happy seeing my patients.
I am fulfilled.
Excellent work environment
Better pay and renumeration package
Health insurance for me and my family
Top-notch security..No fear of being kidnapped.

I wish every doctor hoping to japa the very best of luck.

Nigeria doesn't deserve medical doctors

God forbid!

Ibtxxo:
Today makes me 41 years old.
I have been jobless since I finish school.
I have never work in my life.
The only work I did was teaching in private school for years with peanut.
I decided to resign and sold some property I got from family.

I am just tired and i need direction to manage this money before I waste everything.

Please make una advice me.

Please don't consider marriage.
Invest the money and face front.
Marriage is not profitable to men.
Don't ever think of it.

tiswell:
Or imagine say na woman placed a guy on salary...

Very few stu.pid women can do it.
Later, they cry

Berankis:
I won't encourage you to live alone if you don't want to. But why not go for Nigerian girl. Most especially, someone from your tribe. You see these things we down play are very important. Though, no relationship may be perfect but at least, save yourself some differences by settling for someone of same cultural background and other things can be worked on... Na wetin me I do and I no regret am till date.
I prefer Nigerians to any other people of this world. I go for my tribes' people first, if not available I go for the next group I love and then the last. I don't like white people and any other people for relationship matters.

But it's still your gender that demonize Nigerian ladies.. They say foreign ladies are better

themanderon:
I wonder how you guys choose to cohabit with animals. Take the policemen to your house get your properties and flee from that jezebel before she ensures your deportation.
Someone has all these terrible traits so what are you doing with her? Because she probably offers free sex.
Flee before you regret your actions

She probably doesn't ask him for money unlike Nigerian ladies who are said to be money conscious and greedy.. making sex transactional.

Baba is enjoying free sex.

[quote author=Bigdickmoney post=137349937][/quote]Nigerian men have agreed on this platform that Nigerian ladies are the worst thing to happen to men worldwide.
And that foreign ladies are the trophies.
This, it is impossible to believe that a Kenyan lady who is also British can become a problem to a Nigerian man.

I live in the UK too for about 6 years now.

Baileyz101:
That wehrey fit no dey help him manchis ooo... Omo wehrey.

Him manchis no get towtow and bwess

Had to be a man giving a lady.
Imagine just relocating and his fellow man even begs him for assistance for once , Baba will fold.

Bigdickmoney:
I’m Tired Of My Girlfriend Here In The Uk , She Frustrating Me. She Is An Alcoholic

I have been dating this lady for two years now here in the Uk I’m Nigerian and she is from Kenya. Have only been in the uk for 3 years, and she been here 20 years. She is an alcoholic and alcoholic is affecting her day to day life as she can’t even work or get things done. She lives on benefits.

Each time she drinks she becomes violent and fights me. we live together. Most times I have to run out of the house. I’m the one paying the rent.

2days ago she got violent and hit me several times. The neighbours call the police and I was taken to custody. Now I am out and afraid to go back to the house cos I don’t want to go to police again cos I don’t want anything to affect my dbs.

I’m squatting with a friend. Though her name is also in the contract of the house but I’m the one paying. I can’t even go home now as I’m afraid don’t know what to do. I’m no longer interested in the relationship. But I’m afraid to go to the house even though police didn’t restrict me from the house.

This is not possible.

A Kenyan lady cannot behave like this.

It is Nigerian ladies home and abroad that are bad for dating and marriage.
Op,you are lying.


Team foreign ladies.

You never see anything.

Now na morning

symbianDON:
FG didn't threaten them with no work, no pay like they did ASUU?? Wow!

Doctors are already used to working without pay.
"No work, no pay" threat cannot work.

Many doctors work for 3-12 months without receiving salary when they first assume duty in government hospitals

KingAzubuike:
Tinubu is not ruthless enough. As they are going on strike, they ought not to be paid salaries too. Nobody will beg them to come back and work.

Why leave patients to die all because of your own personal interests.

6 months of total shut down without salary won't kill.
Nigerian doctors work for 6-12 months in the worst of conditions without salary.

I have 2 colleagues in my house now who visited to write their exams in the UK.

They will stay back and enjoy the strike holiday.

Working without pay has been the norm.
"No work,no pay" is a bonus.

In the quest for wealth, these people don't exempt their family

They say "wife is not family".. no wahala.

Even their sister too?

Damnnnnnn!

SpencerForbes:
Only the spirit could have shown you this. Most of them just don't vibe with their native name, even if it means Jesus is Lord. They rather go by Lord Jesus. Quite a funny bunch, really😂
🚶‍♂️

I know.
I am from Akwa Ibom.
All my 3 names are native names.

tobeezman:
I met this fine geh at a tech event in Lagos.
Before the event started, we had a little chit-chat and mehn, she was exactly my type. Beautiful, intelligent, confident, and we just clicked. You know that kind of connection that feels like you’ve known someone for years? Yeah, that was it.

Throughout the event, we kept vibing, laughing at the same jokes, sharing ideas, everything just aligned.

At the end, I asked for her name she said Linda.
Cool name.

Then I asked where she was from, she said Anambra.
My eyes lit up. I’m from Anambra too!

So I got curious and asked, “What village?”
She mentioned it and boom, it’s in the same local government as mine. I was like, “This is fate.”

Everything was lining up perfectly.
She was single, I’m single, we shared interests, goals, and background… until one tiny moment changed everything.

She gave me her business card and I didn’t see a single Igbo name on it.
Both her first and last names were English.

When I got home, I texted her, I asked, gently, “Don’t you have an Igbo name?”

Her reply?

“I don’t like my Igbo name, and I don’t like speaking Igbo either.”

That one message drained everything I felt for her.
Instantly.

It wasn’t about tribal pride or anything dramatic, it was just the realization that we might see identity differently.
Because for me, being Igbo isn’t just where I’m from, it’s who I am. It’s the rhythm in my thoughts, the tone in my laughter, the root of my values.

And when someone rejects that part of themselves, it feels like they’ve rejected a part of me too.

So yeah… I ghosted her.
Not because she wasn’t amazing, but because something in me went cold.

You haven't met Akwa Ibom people.

Mark Sunday Timothy
Peace Peter Joseph
Joy Simon Samuel
Gift Ezekiel Jonathan
Etc.

They don't like to bear their native names.

Lol

Nigerian men want to have sex as soon as they meet you but don't want to be billed.

Very funny.

There was a time .. in my state, if you go to market to buy grains for example rice, beans or garri , in cups.. You may have bought 10 cups only to return home to find out what you actually have is less than 10 cups. .. be sure you bought it at an Igbo store and the trader played that cheap sharp trick on you.

What they do: They will swiftly use the measuring cup and be scooping the grains into the nylon bag, counting 1,2,3... And while you look on or away, a little distracted, unsuspecting, they will turn the back of the cup , scoop "nothing" and put it in your nylon.. 4,5.. then add the real 6,7.. another fake scoop 8... And so on.

E go be you like film tricks.
But that's the Igbo trader for you.
Igbos are always ready to cheat you to make the smallest profit.

In as much as the lady has apologised due to social media pressure, she didn't lie.

Igbos cheat too much .. they are cunny and dubious in the name of business.

That's their nature.

I learnt this at 15 : Never accept anything from a man if you know you won't sleep with him.
Men can never give even water to a lady free of charge.
There is always the ulterior motive of bleeping her.

Unfortunately, some ladies have refused to understand this nature of men because of greed

He must have gone to fvvvvck his sugar mummy.
Charge and bail is not profitable

pappilo:
Better HIV than cancer.

As crazy as it sounds right now I'd choose H.I.V

Unfortunately, HIV is a risk factor for developing cancer.

You obviously don't know much about HIV

Over speeding kills