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yemisolar:
If you were my sister, I would tell you to stay with someone who is stable and has future plans for you.

For starters, relationships can create a blind spot with one such that there are some things (good or bad) that it takes outsiders to see. Especially if more than one person is saying the same thing.

For me feeling/ chemistry is a dime a dozen that is, it comes and goes but love is a decision. Also, as you grow older, things that excite you about life changes and so is your needs in a man. In the next 15 years, you won't just be looking at someone that is handsome and makes you laugh, you will need a good father to your children and someone your family and friends will respect.

As for his 'traditional' side, this is a function of where he is coming from and how he was raised. But all of that can be adjusted with right the attitude and presentation. Generally, when a man knows his wife respect him, he is more favourably disposed to listening to her. Actually, women who understand that wield a lot of subtle power than even they know.

As for the new guy, the question is, would you feel the same way about him as you feel now in 10 years time? The answer will tell you which choice to make.

This is not about you staying single till your fourties or the difficulty of marrying from another tribe, it is about making a choice you won't regret.

My 2 cents

Lukewarm, best advice here. Take it.

Reading through your story, both of you are "traditional", the problem is overfamiliarity and curiosity of something/somebody new.

popoolaRofiat:
Do you want your children to learn foreign Language like French?or you want to improve their level of French speaking and understanding?Or you as parent want or have any French project you want translate to English then call/whatsap on these number
08039274818
08149240862

Always put location. Not all of us are living in your neighborhood

Most of the tribal bigots on this forum are usually bush people either still living in their villages or only just arrived Lagos. They are ignorant, discriminatory and angry never-do-well. Imagine, the silly ones on this thread.

ImaIma1:
Who have kids and work 9-5?

Off course there will be some like that. But even a Creche and after school Centre is help. No one can do without one form of help

That's not really help, if you are paying for their services. It's like saying your kids' school are helping you

Jbaks44, does it work for the face? I have facial hyperhidrosis

Im in Lagos

ImaIma1:
Everyone needs help whether from domestic staff or family. I met someone who said she wakes up by 3.30am latest to prepare her kids for school and cook before going to work.

How will someone like that get enough sleep and not break down. Help is necessary

Not true. I know quite a few who don't even allow family to come around because both parents are dead, talkless of a maid.

Peace and love fall on them

Florblu:
Well! Maybe I'm like you but not as bad as you're because I don't delete their numbers just that they may never hear from me again.

Do away with "all I need is God " and "I don't need anybody to survive" theology

In 2018, I made sure I came down from. my high horse because I believe PRIDE is a contributing factor to this disorder. I became consciously humble to people I meet(not to the extent of tolerating silly opinions though)

I don't think it's pride. It's rather a mental issue preconditioned by several severe and acute life disappointments and it is the only way some of us can continue to survive without committing suicide. So, not pride at all

krissconnect:
Hy, sorry to bother you, I don't know if anyone of you here is peculiar with my situation. I tend to give up on people easily, like a minor misunderstanding with the person, I clear their memory from my head instantly and it never comes back.

My 5 yrs old gf broke up with me earlier this year and I acted like nothing happened, I didn't even reply her breakup WhatsApp message.

I have a friend today and next day, I quit them and it doesn't even bother me. Since I'm growing older, it's started to bother me and I'm deeply worried prior to my relationship life.

I met a girl last week and cos she couldn't reply me on time on WhatsApp, I deleted her number and everything. It happens to me every time.

Pls I don't think this is normal, I need help.

This is me.

I used not to be like this. But with many years of disappointment I have become so. I don't see it as bad as I think it makes me have peace that i so much deserve. I don't trade my peace for anything.
Even at work, i do my best and give my best, no eye service and i give no fvck. If you take me for granted, i consciously dismiss you completely from my affairs, so much that you would be wondering how we were once close.

Nothing is wrong with you. At least you are not keeping grudges or malice. You only need to deliberately seek out people who will not take you for granted and are not toxic. Most times, they can't be more than one or two. Keep those ones by all means.

What is Ijebu Garri? Una dey crase

Na Garri Ijebu we dey call am o. Op, please modify

Gracesofar:
Try those yellow buses referred to as danfo and edit your post

Lagos bus drivers use their brain. The drivers of white buses with 2 blue lines in Ibadan have 7 lives.

Orpe7:
Some Nigerians cant just see good road for eye and not try and kill themselves.
Good road and u see some driving 160/180 na craze dey una head.
Some deserve the bad roads if that will male them drive with sense.
Bad tyres, bad breaks yet dem go dey over speed.

Nothing sweeter than speed on a good wide road on a sunny day. Hehehehe
160 yesterday from Abk to Lagos on the good portion.
Good roads don't cause accidents, potholes, impatience, bad vehicle, bad driving and lack of concentration do. This particular accident might have been caused by dodging potholes, or one-way driving. So, if you know the route well, you will know when to speed and when not

asuustrike1:
Are you sure? Hasn't it be changed to June 12

Democracy day has been changed to June 12, but handing over will still be May 29. The constitution has to be amended for that which I doubt, will be supported. Handing over in some states is not on democracy day. In other words, it's not compulsory handing over is done on democracy day.

My point is that whenever there will be handing over of the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT to a new one Or swearing in of the incumbent, the FG has the perogative by law to declare a public holiday. This year 2019, May 29th will be a public holiday. No public holiday on May 29th in the next 3 year.
June 12 however is a statutory yearly holiday.

Kelamma:
Oga are you a political somebody that they are mobbing you? Are you sharing money? Are you an APC agent buying PVC?

Abeg

He's a special adviser to a gov

Why is no mentioning Mr Ibu, Aki and Pawpaw

modestbrowser:
I didn't swallow my saliva.... N I brushed my teeth and tongue afterwards

Please come and suck my toilet bowl, only don't swallow the saliva. Mumu

I can't just imagine how pained Amosun would be after losing big time in Ogun politics. And I have the feelings that he would mastermind some assassination and that he would end very badly.

Harzontorh:
YOU CAN TAKE IT THERE BUT IT HAS A LONG PROCESS OF GETTING REQUIRED DOCS AFTER YOU HAVE LANDED (WHICH I HAVE ALMOST NO IDEA)

OK. Thank you.
I've decided to remain here

However, I will visit during my vacation. I hope to do a 3month French course before then.

May 29th is a public holiday but every 4 years whenever there is handing over of one government to another

Nice thread.

But it's colder in Russia and parts of Canada

She's beautiful. I hope she wins and make history

Read this thread


https://www.nairaland.com/2971152/how-open-business-name-cac

What is wrong with the way she is dressed?

I'm really sorry for this generation with all manner of perverted thinking.

When we were small and we went home for holidays. All our cousins and uncles and aunties all crash anyhow anywhere in the night after all day fun walking upandan our home town.

I've slept on the same bed with female friends, cousins, nieces, aunts, sisters, my mother and even my grandmother, even church sister. AND NOTHING HAPPENED AND NOT EVEN THE THOUGHT.

With the way this perversion is paraded, it is hard to do that nowadays. Just the thought alone isn't pleasant.

The reason why there are frequent incidences of perversion is because of Nollywood and irrational sexual discuss on Social Media.

Elements of truth, surely

Nmahgood:
Some people be making new year resolutions since time immemorial yet nothing changes...
I personally don't see any big deal in it, I just set my goals for the year and work towards achieving it..while I'm at it,I don't forget to have fun...life's too short mbok...

Abi o, rightly said.
Leave all those goals aside o, let's have fun together already

RihannatOlosho:
it works the other way na, you have to pay me instead, don’t worry I don’t charge much.

Hahaha na me go work, na me go pay again??

RihannatOlosho:
I feel so hоrny, who wants to come work night shift on my pussy.
Lagos residents only.

How much will be my wage per hour?

All those our brothers and sisters hustling in the abroad working 3 jobs with no accommodation will not like this post, op.

Infant, dem put toothpick in their teeth dey watch una somehow.

Driggs, dont be stup!d. That's a girl to wed already. She looks like a girl that would catalyse your ambition and it's better you start a family real quick. Maybe two kids quickly, raise them early and start enjoying together.

Reason for selling? What docs?

There's "This house is not for sale" on the building.