₦airaland Forum

Yankee101:
Very important topic
Some men go into marriage and sink, never to rise financially again
You were managing, suddenly you want to marry, pay heavy bride price, borrow for a lavish wedding, do honey moon and kids follow immediately. No time to rethink your job, business or consider returning to school because you've got mouths to feed now
Treat marriage as a business startup. Do you have a long term plan? What will your partner bring on board? What's your prospect of growing your income as your family grows? Do you have emergency savings?

stagger:
OP,
If this is an attempt to ridicule the bible, then this has utterly failed. Many of you do not even understand what the bible says on many issues and it shows with all the shallow statements we see here.

Not every woman is wife material. Therefore you cannot expect to obtain favour from God when you marry a woman who is money conscious and contributes nothing to the house.

Secondly, any man who cannot sit down to analyze the conditions of the country and make adjustments to his life will put himself and his family into a lot of suffering. We live in a country where the best jobs are reserved for the children of the who is who. Look at all the politician today. Look at the NDDC guys including Cairo Ojuogbo. Cairo has been in politics since the late 80s. He is well connected. How else could he have got the job of NDDC Director of Projects? Where are his children?

Now ask yourself: what chances of securing a good job does the man you picked up have against the children of Isa Funtua, Godswill Akpabio, Cairo Ojuogbo, Timi Alaibe, all the generals who served in government under IBB and Abacha, etc, etc, etc? ZERO!

So why is the individual still looking for a job? What kind of job? A N50,000 job? Where will N50,000 go in Abuja?

In Nigeria of today, any average man with no connections who is still thinking of getting a good job is a dreamer. Such a person is better served starting a business, or learning a skill with global acceptance that can be used in the freelance community, where merit is still the order of the day. You cannot be looking for a job in a country where meritocracy has been sacrificed on the order of mediocrity, nepotism, tribalism and outright social injustice.

Las las, a woman can decide to bang her way to a job and up the ladder if the worst comes to the worst. Do men have such options except you are a gay who is lucky to meet another gay he can service?

These are the issues any man who is in university should start settling before attempting to jump into a marriage. The bible is very clear: he who does not work shall not eat. If you drag a woman into such a situation, then you will have to endure whatever you get out of it.

Championxxx:
Thanks I agree with you because he promised to settle me when I am 25 years old with a huge amount of money to start up my own business and then he changed his mind that he has had spent a lot of money during his wedding and building his house that he don’t think he will be able to settle me again in 2 years time that I should wait when I am 28-30 he will give me double of the amount he promised me . But the way things are going I don’t think I will get anything from him I can only leave for the village I don’t have any trusted friend to stay with in Abuja I also don’t have any money to rent my own place , village is my only option . Yes he is my blood brother we are 5 in total 2 boys and 3 girls he is our first born and I am the last

paulolee:
sexy looking fish..

Aturitoroman:
Happy birthday to Bale, He turns 31

babytoun:
for those who know the country's no 1 banker got his second term easily because "everybody" up there know his ability to "fix" things

azvm:
no, it's not Crackhaus.
not really or i don't know where they are. being introverted and shy i don't date nor attend social events

xcommando:
Pls don’t ever try that, that guy is using you to cruise don’t be surprise he has a family.

doremi123:
Baby biko, I kneel down beg you, don't try it. I repeat, DO NOT TRY IT.

Angelacruz:
Babe abeg i take God's name beg u,block dat guy in every possible way.He is married n wat to scam u of ur money n valuables.He is an ingrates,a thief,an internet fraudster etc.If u dnt give him a strong warning n block him,it will definetly end in customized tears.The handwriting is on d wall n it's clearly written.Please move on.HE DOES NOT LOVE U,HE IS an INTERNET FRAUDSTER.Pls be wise dis is Nigeria

alexistaiwo:
If he is to be deported from Dubai for fraudulent practices since Dubai doesn't have any extradition treaty with USA, the legal process should have been deporting him back to his country of origin and have the FBI pick him up in Nigeria.

Originalsly:
El Chapo was snatched. From a case I know.of....this is how I figure it works. In the case I refer to... a drug dealer was arrested in one country and he was.being deported to his country if origin. Shielded by his home government... and wanted by the US..... he was not flown directly to his home country.... but put on a transit flight that stopped in a country that has extradition agreement with the US. He was snatched in transit and ended up in the US. Can this be the case with Hush?.... sending him back to Nigeria via the U.S?

oteneaaron:
The earlier you realize that everything happening is all about the MONEY

No one really cares, it's always about how much "they" can make.

Work hard, pray hard, and hopefully you will save enough to leave this God-forsaken country.

Sometimes I wonder with the way things are going, how will the next 10 years look like in this country?

nazablossom:
Zambian people go hear am. Accesspuppi

yanabasee1:
Magu on fire!!!

sterlingD:
Let me not say anything yet

emmabest2000:
Police is your friend

Marry police

cremedelacreme:
What is exactly wrong with these Chinese
SARS---China
Corona---China
and now this

Don't they have other meat in China except snakes,rodents and frog