₦airaland Forum

Warfibabe:
yea right! I'm sure the parents placed her on a diet from the breastmilk they feed her with, and probably took her to the gym too!

iranu!




happy birthday cutie tiwa!

pocohantas:
LOLL!!!!!!
Churchill seems to be the only one that doesn't know Tonto despite dating her before marriage. Tonto no too well oooo!

She should be seeing a therapist, not attending church programmes.

selflessmaya:
but if women cannot be blamed, that means these men have to face reality and accept that in most cases they're the problem. and they hate being held accountable. mommy told them that they're so spesh-al

delishpot:
I can call it koran if I want na. At least you are a slave who loves her chains. Good to know otondo, it can be called koran too.

delishpot:
Why would it bother me if it doesnt cause harm. Tell me, do you think boko haram is a terror group if they kill only christians who openly reject islam and mohamed? Me I do not support organized religion.

delishpot:
Sweery, No one is feeding me bs, the north is doing well to show me who is boss when religious intolerance is concerned. Maybe you are a yoruba muslim(looked down upon by the hausa muslims incase you dont know) hence you never heard and that is why the hausas dont consider you guys true servants of the koran.

majekdom2:
anyman that cannot realise a woman willtell or help him heal his weakness is not fit to be the head. Again, I tell you most times this issues are about the lady and not the man. I can tell you boldly from experience

majekdom2:
Yes, I did. pls see a counselor. you will keep on till you end in a valley because you do no trust yourself and your instincts. No man gets successful if he does not believe in himself. Pls, see a counsellor

majekdom2:
A few women that understand men are enjoying their relationships whilst some that claim to be 'I know what I want and doing' are either getting divorced, getting dumped, single and brewing hatred for men and vice versa

majekdom2:
obviously, where the problem is coming from. Pls see a counsellor

selflessmaya:
lmao u dont have what it takes to make me feel insulted. like.. ever!!! moreover, when one replies to bish bye, they're mad pressed. so stay as mad as i made u or reply again just to tell me u aint mad. as! if! haha

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majekdom2:
Mosttimes, the things he expects you to say yes to are even things that matter in your life, if you ask me, I will give th0rough thoughts before saying no but women let sentiments cloud their sense of reasoning. For a financially weak man, yes there may be storms but a woman should be able to tell a 'MAN'. he doesnt have to be dangote before you think you can listen to him but at least above you or trying to be. Marriage is like a Business. most institutions in life are run like a business check around. Business is not always about a CEO, or a Line managers Decision. I have been in a company where the CEO had to listen to the advice of a very low staff. One soldier never wins a battle. saying NO without proper thoughts is one reason relationships have problems.

Gwaihir:
I agree with you madam, yes no one is perfect and companionships are so she compliments/completes you. I believe the rib out of Adam should be figurative enough for any reasonable man to understand.

Why i pointed that out was because the start of your post appeared combative with derision. Approach is the key thing madam and patience, if after all that, you can go ballistic all you want.

thesuave10:
I'm lecturing you not arguing. You don't know what you're saying

thesuave10:
Submissive means to yield or accept to a figurehead. Don't be an ignorant îdiot

supersystemsnig:
I mean mistrust has done a lot of damage to the younger generation...Everyone is quick to mistrust one another so fast...

Gwaihir:
You welcome.

Erm madam, small small, we all want marriages to work no need to appear combative. It is enough to trigger an ego tirade from a man speaking on "a man not financial responsible bla bla" statement in your previous post.

thesuave10:
There's a balance in the way you submit

ibkayee:
Lol it goes both ways my guy, men aren't perfect either. Lol like I said, it's up to the couple to set the dynamic they're comfortable with (whatever that is, it will differ) and keep to whatever their part of the bargain is and also, let's be honest

, a lot of Nigerian men's ideas of being submissive aren't always as civil and 'collaborative' as you've put it, so I can see why women would be averse to it.

Also don't expect the person to change if that's not how you met them. As for Chris and Dami I don't know what exactly happened with them

supersystemsnig:
If we do too much second guessing we become stuck in our tracks. Hence the need to trust and follow, and whatever the aftermath both parties bear, carefully guaging decisions and consequences and taking low risk decisions.. The truth is knowledge has made relationships difficult...itwas way easier back in the days... Also, not being questioned, but rather correcting in love, working together to maintain harmony, balance and moving forward... these are elements necessary in my own little knowledge for relationships to work.

Gwaihir:
Perhaps subsmissive is a wrong word, compromise is the right word.

thesuave10:
That is your problem. Saying yes to everything is now foolishness. There's a balance and flow to the whole thing.

supersystemsnig:
Sterope, this is not what we mean by submission. This is something else


Submission implies trust.

It implies safety, i.e am i safe in your hands.

It implies reliability. It implies even when i make the right call,will you give me time to turn the page over.

Submission doesn't imply blind leadership.

At times, you may play a role in decisions, or rather many times... But will you let me take the lead? Will you allow me lead?


Can my authority be trusted without been second guessed at each turning?

It means i know the way, trust and follow me, trust my judgements, but doesn't mean you don't have a voice or can't help me when i make wrong calls


If we shout at each other, because we consider ourselves equals, it means two separate will exists in the family hence ship wreck, just my two cents ma...

delishpot:
I can swear that no pastor has ever told me or suggested I kill any Muslim for being a non Christian. I can swear that none of my pastors has asked me to not make friends with a Muslim. I can swear that none has ever told me to tighten any grip against Muslims in my place of work. Can you swear same?

ibkayee:
I sha want a partnership, not a 'leader', though there's nothing wrong with that type of arrangement if both people are ok with it and are actually keeping to their part of the bargain.

Problem is when the people fixated on their women being submissive aren't doing the work to actually deserve it.

I wonder if they'd set this dynamic from the beginning or if he was hoping she'd change once they'd married. Anyway submission is subjective, I don't know exactly what his version of it is

delishpot:
Simple question wey I ask. Did I say I did not know what he did? I only said I wonder which religion the people calling for burning and destruction come from. It's a poll which religion do you think they represent? Swear by your Quran, that no Muslim leader has ever mocked Christians and invited violence in your mosques and gatherings? Swear that NO imam has ever spoken negatively in a way that means hatered towards Christians to your hearing.

delishpot:
I clearly talked of the violence threatened there not wether the country is Islamic or not.

delishpot:
Let's take a poll..,....those who threaten violence to burn his churches are from which religion? ....