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Some ignorant Christians will be dancing azonto over this thread unbeknownst to them that China also persecute Christians.


You will be healed

She needs help

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These responses seem doctored


Some men definitely feel entitled to a woman's body. They see it as a right if which denied, entitle them to degrade the woman in so many ways including rape.

Who is this one?

introvertme:
exactly,I was looking for her silly comment

She defends nonsense den claims she isn't feminist

cc pocohantas, if the victim had been a woman, the threads would have been filled with ‘What did he do to her?' or ‘men and their basket mouths'

RIP to the dead boy. I hope the baby mama finds kirikiri calming.
Their poor child is going to grow up fatherless and motherless.

One wedding is enough joor. Make it strictly by invitation to know the number of mouths you will be feeding.

MrBigiman:
I have a heart felt question to ask, can one conduct a wedding ceremony with 500k in this recession. Kindly advice and give a Bachelor a reasonable break down. God bless.

Very normal to a certain extent. No one is going to put a gun to your head and ask you to have bdsm with your wife. There are some things you might like and she wouldn't, we cannot all be the same.

You are either young or stupid (apologies) but you really need to grow up. Your outlook towards marriage and women is appalling, it won't end well if you think you are special or deserves special treatment because you have a penis. You are not!!! If you are not careful, be ready for a miserable married life and a miserable old age. It doesn't end well for peeps like you even with a penis.

itsRhamzy:
BDSM normal? That's so ridiculous.. Ain't no way I'll engage in such a thing with my wife when I'm married.. Thank God my religion permits me four wives.. Just in case any idiot wanna feel smarter than me to the point of cheating on me. I'll make sure I get a kid or two from her then she's out.. Straight up. No tym for nonsense. Haba, with all these sad news I'm hearing errday, I'm not so sure I'll settle down with a single girl cos it seems everybody don spoil finish for this country..

You will be fine

Icon79:
Have you tried it before? Did you enjoy it? Anyway, there's only one way to find out.

Since your profile indicates you're a woman: send me a plane ticket ....I will be down where you live in a matter of days. I will get my handcuffs, my metal chains, my koboko and my other regalia ready. And I promise you, after spending one weekend with me, you'll never go near BDSM again. Promise


O pari

Let me save you some trouble.....You cannot convince me

I have already given you my opinion on it. If people choose to be extreme about it, good for them. It doesn't mean that it is inherently a bad thing.

Icon79:
I can't remember the article where I read it, but I heard it on a good authority that, on average, 1,000 men die from BDSM every year. This doesn’t include women and it’s only the statistic for the deaths in the United States. Seems pretty alarming, doesn't it?


According to the article, the main cause of death of BDSM participants is something called “breath play”. Breath play is the act of restricting your partner’s air. It’s dangerous, because there’s no way to be sure of when it becomes too much for the sub. It’s also dangerous because it can put the sub into cardiac arrest very easily. Breath play is dangerous and the main cause of death within the BDSM community. But other things can cause death too. Fire play, it can cause the sub’s body to go into shock. Cut play, it can also cause the sub’s body to go into shock by too much blood loss.

In an article published by ABC News last year, entitled, "Love Hurts: Sadomasochism's Dangers," discusses a 67-year old man who was rushed to the emergency room after losing consciousness in a sex club. He had passed out during an S&M scene that involved him hanging by his arms from a cross, and the damage was so severe that it took him a few days to regain consciousness. The article discusses how lucky the man is to be alive, and goes on to talk about the more unfortunate individuals who have died while engaging in S&M practices.


O pari

Dude, you are preaching to a wall

Icon79:
Bia, doesn't it seem odd to you that there are people who want to be mercilessly whipped, uncomfortably chained, caned with metal chains, or otherwise tortured just for the purpose of sex? What kinda pleasure is that

Listen, the fact that many people do it doesn't make it normal. I was just watching a TV documentary about John McAfee, the original owner of the McAfee antivirus. This man relocated to the small country of Belize, hired some small girls (many of them teenagers) ....pay them a lot of money and sponsor some in college just so they can live with him to defecate inside his mouth! That's his own kink!!

I am not making this up. You can google it .... the title is: Gringo: The Dangerous Life of John McAfee. Is that normal as well?

And by the way, I know that BDSM can be a sign of demon possession because I have known people who were previously into that bondage but the urge totally stopped after they were ministered deliverance. Have a happy Sunday!!!


O pari

No, I don't. BDSM can be very safe just like evryday activities. If participants choose to be extremely extreme, good for them.

By the way, they are not demon possessed. Pain has always been synonymous to pleasure for some people. We can't all the be the same.

Icon79:
Do you know how many people who have died through BDSM?


O pari

They are actually very normal. if not more normal than your average peeps.

Icon79:
Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. Or in a layman's language = Rough Sex. . And I mean, extremely rough sex....not just pumping hard. Some folks even go to hospitals afterwards. You need to watch the movie Fifty Shades or Grey or you can read the book.

And based on my personal research, most people who are into BDSM are demon possessed. It isn't a normal sexual act.


O pari

I can't believe we are just getting this

Statistic does not always reflect fact.

Men may outnumber women but there are more marriageable women than marriageable men.

ibkayee:
Lol I am telling you!

Why do you think I gave up on his issue?

pocohantas:
READ EVERY SINGLE THREAD ON BREAKUP BY NAIRALAND GUYS...

THEY DON'T EVER MISS THIS LINE

"AFTER EVERYTHING I SPENT ON HER...I DID MY BEST TO MAkE HER COMFORTABLE"

Read the following comments from NL [m], come back and read their comments here.

I have heard you.

humilitypays:
ewo, I don enter 1 chance today o. I am not a sexist o!!! I love women, including u typing....i come here to unwind and to read about ipod and Buhari lol

Then read romance stories to catch up with what's up in the society and love kini.

Of course if the girl decides to quit, he will feel bad emotionally but never financially I meant ok.

But girls don't breakup or quit with good-looking, financially able, educated, wise and smart guy na. Ladies dump mostly dumb, dull, shallow, unkempt broke guys

The first guys I described do the dumping, while the ladies in their life pray daily not to lose them to cutier, hotter, sharper chicks

Women discuss too. They discuss how stupid men really are, how gay the most heterosexual man is and how men suffer from inferiority complex. They talk like you do. Everyone talks, not my business

1) He would still cry. Blue sea or not. If he cared for that relationship, he will care about it if she jilted him

2) Financial status does not matter. If there was a relationship, he will care


Loving women does not stop you from being a sexist.

You can spare me the usual trash about not borrowing a dime from a woman. Men can be vengeful too but then it would be easier to remember a vengeful womab than vengeful man. If you borrow and you are rude about repayment, you deserve what comes to you. You don't act entitled when you are a debtor. You can be an egoist when you arein debt.

humilitypays:
Me and my friends discuss women cunning nature....we laugh about it...we are well aware of it. I even reminded him that when he messaged me to help him do the transfer, he laughed that if she decides to do that, she will be the one loosing because she will miss a lot na lol

A man only cry for what he spent on a lady if:

1. He never swimmed across the lady's blue sea lol, of which no soji guy will spend on a girl that much when he has not crossed the Atlantic Ocean lol

2. He later became broke and the girl ran lol....but as e be now sha, na only God and death fit make person go broke sha‎


Now to your calling me a sexist, lol...I am not o, cos I love women so much lol, but I think the lady must have‎ unknowingly insulated the guy or made him feel regret borrowing from her....women and their money be like monkey and banana, u don't touch women's money o....i don't ever see myself accepting a dime from any woman; God won't let me lack to that extent, God abeg o. I don't even consider women rich enough to help a man no matter who she is....women (be it your girlfriend o, fiance o, wife o) money should be avoided by any sane man who want his integrity in tact!

You are being sexist and you know it.



Now, you are confusing yourself. He borrowed the money. The money as not gift or a romantic gesture. It was a debt like every other debt. Don't confuse the two.

Your friend did a charitable act. Good for him.He is a caring guy, I appaid6 him for that. However, you can't conclude that he would move on if things do not work out. People do not move on like that, man or woman. There are more threads on this forum with men crying wolf because a lady that have sent on jilted them. I am not a woman behavior. Men are as guilty as women. You don't need to have a penis to see that.

humilitypays:
Believe me, for the guy to have stopped calling her like before being his girlfriend, fiance per se, she must have knowingly or unknowingly insulted the guy because she lent him money. You should know your sisters very well na, they can't fail to scream to heavens anytime they spend their kobo on their Nigerian boyfriend; it's not new.

And why this sounds funny to me is because as we speak, a close friend told me to transfer around 650k to his fiance, guess what for For her family house rent that expired and her dad couldn't pay cos he has not been paid salary since April. He even added extra money to what she demanded....and don't think my friend is a mugu...nope, he is a soji guy but he's doing it out of the love he has for the girl and if she decides to fuckup tomorrow, he will smile and move on cos we do know about all those shit.

But it baffles me when Naija ladies give a Meagre from their kobo and make so much noise about it to make it look like Nigerian guys are all scammers or bad‎


....and where Nigerian ladies meet all these their broke, senseless, classless boyfriends that disgrace other Nigerian men's awesome image is what I don't know

True. It could be the manner of apporach but before we starr blaming money lenders, the duty to communicate should be on the one who borrower not the money lender.

I hope they settle the issue amicably..

thesuave10:
Meet him personally plus the guy said he will pay back and didn't give her a specific time which is understandable Cuz business can be unpredictable. Do you think the guy is not feeling pained and agree that he can't meet up to what he said. What if he doesn't want to hear her sad voice because he knows how bad it will make him feel and he'll feel disappointed in himself. She should just give the guy time and communicate properly with him cuz only heaven knows how she has been "communicating" Immee listen again

Good for you if she can have yours. That is you. You are different. Besides, You already told her you would return it. She was expecting you to return it at that particular time. She mentioned it. If that was not enough for you to realise that she wanted her phone back, you should blame yourself. It doesn't mean that she does not love you.

EMMAUGOH:
And pls when people are in love what does it entails... Since she can have mine and I won't disturb why would having hers become a problem.
If she can share what she have with me, that's the essence of two becoming one in the first place..

LOL a man is good to share but when it comes to a woman.. We lose common sense

So far she claimed she as tried her possible best to talk to with him and he has refused to communicate . What else would you advice her to do?

thesuave10:
Agreed.. But he may have his reasons which I'm as much as it is inappropriate they stand a chance to be very understandable .the issue is that how she wants to handle it is fûcking absurd

I am not going to judge because I feel there may even more to what she has written however whether or not he has made the money back, he should have communicated that to her.

thesuave10:
She's insinuating that he has made the money back. She's not sure for a fact

Why don't you read the op's post again? It doesn't seem like you have the ability to understand what you read.

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

If you were more than the phone, you would have returned it at the agreed date and time. You wouldn't have borrowed the phone to begin with. If you also had any shred of humility, you wouldn't have taken offence over a property that is not yours. If you had integrity, you would have kept to your word.

A girl does not need to be above 30 to NOT be a prodigal child. It is her property. She can shout from morning to night over it. It is none of your business. Please return her phone to her.

EMMAUGOH:
This is exactly how girls above 30yrs behave.... Mehn if am in the guys shoe I will do same.. See the way u reduced the guys Wort to 500k...cant go into marriage with a girl like u.... Nagging about her money all over you all the time as if my worth is not up to that..
That's how a girl borrowed me her phone and when I fail to return it the time I told her she started all this my grandma want the phone, it's my aunt own this and that...

Mehn after that her worth reduce drastically.. This was a phone that was lying on her table before.. And come to imagine what she thinks when she says she loves me.