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She could have lied about everything. I am not going to deny that.

OR

He also could have lied to you too. A successful career or ability to shower gifts does not render him incapable of commiting any act of violence.

Prognose:
quote author=Kulas post=59855173]it is sad we hand down judgment without hearing from the other side. i know both paul and golda. they were classmates in UNEC. he was the president of the law students whereas golda was one of the academic back benchers of the class. paul lost a year because he organised a protest as president of LAWSA for shift in exams which the school interpreted to mean that it was because of his then girlfriend later his wife Golda. it is funny people addressing Golda as a lawyer cause she never graduated from Law school having failed woefully since Paul was not in the set with her.

they married against every persons advice including his parents cause my guy was in love and despite stories of runz activities following Golda, he shut every person up. Golda worked briefly in Econet in customer care centre answering calls before she was fired due to low productivity bordering on her attitude to work and since then has not worked anywhere in the last 13years till date.

how did they get to this point? Paul became successful having worked as head of Legal in two big companies in nigeria, built a duplex in awoyaya and about 25 one room ensuite for tenants. he against every advice relocated the parents of Golda from their two bed room apartment at Ojo Oniyun st, Ebute Metta to his house wherein they lived with him for more than five years before Goldas father Damian died in February of 2016.

he bought land and built a one story building for a school named Rapid academy which she handed over to Golda to manage which she still manages till date. he bought a school bus and threw an opening party for school which most of his friends attended. it is to my knowledge that in the course of the marriage he bought two SUVs for Golda. a Toyota four runner and a Nissan Pathfinder which she ran aground.

what was the stress in the marriage? bad mother and bad female friends. Golda's mum despite her saintly appearance harboured dark thoughts for the marriage as she believed that the son in law is not doing enough because of the perceived misconception that he is wealthy and encouraged the daughter to ask for more.

Also having a school to run and Paul always on the road and out of Lagos created room for Golda to acquire friends both male and female that became the downfall of the union. she became something else and sought for ways to obtain from him to meet up with the status of her new found friends. Paul believing he is meeting with his family obligations faced estate development business to the annoyance of the wife. sadly, at this point the marriage has broken down and in order to avoid issues of domestic violence, Paul moved out of the house in March 2016 and till date despite renovating the house has not spent a night in it.

Golda seeing the turn of events believing as a beautiful woman and quack lawyer can over reach the husband sought the help of police all in a bid to get money out of him. She reported several matters to Elemoro Police Station, Ajah Area Command and finally to the Commissioner of Police without success as all advised her to make peace with her husband having found no fault in him. she went to welfare and without being given opportunity to be heard, welfare took the matter to a family court who probably having being compromised issued a bench warrant for the arrest of Paul on the first day the matter came up on a false criminal charge brought by Golda since Paul was not in Court. He came to court and the bench warrant was quashed when the allegations were found to be untrue. Not relenting, Golda intensified effort using highly placed boyfriends to convince the magistrate to deal with Paul. Another false allegation was made in June 2016 of cutlass chasing in the house which Paul left since February and pronto without agreeing to hear evidence from adults present, she sentenced paul to one month imprisonment at Ikoyi which he served. Whilein prison, Golda packed out of the house without leaving a pin. My Guy came out after a month and instituted a divorce proceedings at the customary court which the court granted despite Golda forging a marriage certificate which purports to have been done at Ikoyi Marriage registry. the marriage was disolved in February 2017 and my guy is picking pieces of his life. Golda took the four children and threatened to change their surnames because my guy is an only son and she feels she can get at him through the children. She filed an action for divorce at the High Court which she abandoned when Ikoyi registry wrote to the customary court that the certificate is fake.

this story was first carried in 2016 only for Golda to call PM News again to carry the story as if it just happened just for the purpose of destroying his reputation knowing my guy has interest in 2019 political activities.

PAUL HAS NEVER BEATEN, SLAPPED OR TOUCHED GOLDA IN THE 14 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. HE NEVER TOUCHED A CUTLASS LET ALONE TO PURSUE HER WITH IT. IF GOLDA CAN SWEAR WITH HER LIFE ON THIS, LET HER DO AND LETS SEE IF NEMESIS WILL NOT CATCH UP WITH HER.

GOLDA YOU CAN TRY BUT YOU CANNOT DESTROY PAUL CAUSE HIS HANDS ARE CLEAN WHERE YOU ARE.

Being the only husband or father of children does not give anyone a licence to treat others horribly. Those tiltes become useless and irrelevant when such man acts like thug. Call it whatever you like, if he acts like a fo.ol, he will be treated like a fo.ol. no woman in her right mind would want such a fo.ol around her or her kids. Gone are the days agbayas use those titles to oppress other victims, it is not working anymore. Find another way.

Could you please pray that it happens to your sister or your daughter, since you know the best thing to do in this scenario, I am sure you would be able to advice her well.

alagba333:
Adding insult to injury.... D family will never know peace wit d court sending d man to jail... I hope d woman is happy dat her only hsband and the father of her children is now a prisoner... Now she is jobless and she went to that court for peace but see d end result...too bad!

Keep changing narrative, lying about what happened in the past. Thank God our mothers are still alive.



You are right. My marriage, my business.

Iamzik:
Keep denying the fact.
You can bury your head in the sand all you want.

Since you will not listen to sound advice, you can do the below:
Be rude and disrespectful to your husband. Be impatient and unloving to your wife.
That will give you a very settled home.

Your marriage your business

People love sob stories

They want to see a woman who stayeed by her husband's despite his financial status. They don't want to see a woman who made a commitment and stood by it. They don't want to see a woman who was as poor as her husband.

Ibkanney:
This article potrays a wrong information, for the record, I use to attend the same church with the guy and his family in the early 90s and his family most especially his father is VERY WELL TO DO. He and his siblings went to BOWEN UNI, so dont paint the pix of the guy had NOTHING.

Keep pulling up facts from thin air. Co.pareing apples and oranges seems to be your thing. It is not mine.

1. Domestic abuse has always been the norm not the exception until the past few years. Respect or not, your grandmother or greatgrndmother was battered by your grandfather or great-grandfather. Go ask around. It was part of life for them, it would be unusual for a woman to complain about abuse unless it was the extreme kind. So yes, women respected their husbands and they still got the cane in return.

2. You cannot compare the cockroach population to that of today. The population has grown tremendously. I don't think I need to expantiate.

3. We didn't have much divorce primarily because of the backlash from the society. Nowadays, people can't be bothered. They have aspirations and there is no way in hell society is going to stop it. Given what these women went through, most of your old respectful women would choose divorce if they had the choice. You need to hear then when they lament and it is that same mouth that they will use to insult women who choose not to suffer like they did.

Basically, you cannot tell me life then was better for women because they respected (whatever your meant by respect) their husbands. You know nothing about them or their lives. You have chosen the narrative that even your father and grandfather would disagree with. I didn't choose mine, I heard and read mine from people who would tell you to your face that there is no way a man won't beat his wife. You read that right.

Iamzik:
Case closed since you can't answer the question.
There is nothing defective here.

Contemporary Studies have shown that domestic violence and divorce have increased tremendously over the last few generations.

Do you ever Ponder on what could be responsible for this worrisome trend?

It is lack of respect for the marriage institution.
Men and women think they can marry and then live in the marriage independently like singles, completely unaccountable to each other.

Unless men and women change their orientation, we have not seen anything yet!

Have mutual love and respect and know your place and limit as a husband /wife. The man is the head and is wired to lead. The wife is the homemaker and brings sweetness into the marriage.

If each party plays their role well there will be peace

My husband is not father. My husband is not even like my father. No one can ever be my father except my father. In the list of people that are like my father, I don't see a husband. I see my husband's father and other men but not my husband. If you feel useless and worthless without a woman, your problem not women's problem. Quit making it sound like it our problem.

I am not your equal either. From this conversation, it is clear who has more to offer the world between you and I.

Arrant nonsense!

Ademolag:
its uncommon, nevertheless even if the husband insults her , she isn't supposed to talk back, its like talking back at your father. will you talk back at your father no matter his utterances?

let it stick to your brains, men aren't your equals . its just that way. the earlier you accept the better for you

I don't believe in all these love, respect and other terms people throw about. I don't know a woman that doesn't want to be respected nor do I see a man that does not want to be loved. Submission is a word that is too big to comprehend in this scenario. Either partner can be more flexible than the other. So can we stop making it sound like men cannot be flexible and women cannot compromise unless they see it as a duty? It is an insult on both sexes.


How about we treat our spouses as humans who have feelings like we do?

Iamzik:
If you look at it through the prism of financial contribution you are bound to get it wrong.

No matter who contributes or has more money, the basic principles of love, patience (man) and respect, submission (woman) will always win the day if husband and wife see themselves as one.

I know female politicians who are richer and far more influential than their husbands but they still play their role as wife. I equally know men who are richer and more influential than their wives and that shouldn't oveebloat their ego to think they can misbehave.

Money is dicey. Go for the basic principles and life is simple.

It is not known. Men insult as much as women. Take a look on this forum, and tell me if men don't insult. O line or offline, men insult as much. I guess you wouldn't know because you don't have a problem with men.

Ademolag:
getting me wrong again.... its known that men don't throw verbal abuse .

Actually, if you could read you will see that your question is very defective and I have given you reasons why it is.

I have already asked you to talk to your grandparents.

Iamzik:
You stylishly dodged the question so I will ask again :

Since the days of our grand parents till date do you think the rate of divorce /domestic violence has increased or decreased?

Answer simply

It is alright for a man who contributes more to throw verbal abuse but it is not right for a woman to throw verbal abuse if she is contributing more.


It is alright for a man who is contributing more to throw verbal abuse but some betide the woman for exchanging words with him

Ademolag:
the first is wrong, i mean once a woman contributes more she is prone to throw verbal abuse.

According Ademolag's logic, earning more or contributing more automatically empowers one to abuse another person

According to Ademolag's logic, a man cannot beat a Godly woman, and an ungodly woman deserves what she gets

According to Ademolag's logic, a woman is always responsible for the abuse

In conclusion:

Ademolag is worthless when he cannot provide
Ademolag is useless to his wife if he can't provide her needs
Ademolag is a horrible father if he can't provide for his kids
Ademolag needs a woman before he can feel like a man
Ademolag's wife can beat Ademolag up if he can't provide


Be like Ademolag, Ademolag is perfect

Ademolag:
if my wife earns billions she should keep it to herself.... 50-50 mtcheew!!! why won't she have the guts to slap the man or talk anyhow. is that the original configuration?

I hope our remember to ask the same question when a woman slaps her husband

KKKWHITE:
Did the man just hit her without any reason try to hear from both sides first

Is your village the same population size as it was ages ago? FYI, in those days domestic abuse was very normal.

There are so many other factors that u don't even want to get into. . Don't let your sexism blind you.

Iamzik:
Has divorce/domestic violence increased or decreased since the generation of our grandparent till date? The answer you seek lies in a truthful answer to that question

The bolded is not true. Why don't you ask your grandparents? Domestic abuse didn't start today. There wasn't much divorce but there were a lot of threats and family meetings.

Iamzik:
Marriage is an institution and the basic concept of submission and love can never change if you want the marriage to work.

Don't you wonder why it was so rare to hear that any of those grandfathers beat or divorced their wife?

Respect and love are two forces that keep a marriage in equilibrium.
As a woman learn how to respect your husband. As a husband learn how to love and be patient with your wife. If men and women follow this principle we will not be reading this kind of sad stories.

God help our society to build homes that will endure

SMH

Stu.pid

Mtchewww

Like they ever had the right in the first place...Bunch of jobless idio.ts

Eeyah....Your hatred has really affected them that they have fallen into depression

Good riddance

tunlade02:
Ibadan women are the most promiscuous I have ever seen in my entire life. Hardly can you find one who is married without them having extra marital affairs. I hate them with so much passion.

Why her now

You could have donated one of your sisters

moorevic:
This modi is sooo useless. Why wasn't she used for ritual when she was still a virgin to bury her village chief.

Take it easy

Her case is with a customary court. Customary court deals with issues that fall under custom, culture etc


N3500 may be too much sef for the man to pay. You don't expect the court to ask the man to pay a sum that so far above his means.

KardinalZik:
So even illegally getting pregnant without fulfilling marital rites is still considered as marriage that can be dissolved in a court of law? How can the law be reduced to a mocking-stock? I thought "whoever comes to equity must come with clean hands". How comes we now need the law court to disintegrate something whose integration didn't pass through the due process regarded by law (to wit: parental consent, payment of bride price, and signing of marriage register)? BTW, the judge is a wicked man who don't take care of his kids; he's probably a child labourer and abuser. How's #3,500 enough to take care of a child monthly in this regime of hyper-inflation? I'm not disappointed, though. NA DEM...!!!

Can you hear yourself?

How would Facebook password stop her from cheating?

handsomenfrosh:
what? can't believe I started getting angry with this ... can you ever be in a serious relationship?? and do you really know what real commitment is... you don't really know what's going on there relationship yet..if it's a serious one the girl is fucking hiding shitty things I bet that..

When insecure guys think a lady is far above them, the next thing is to call her Olosho. We done see your low self esteem, e dey smell

Unionised:
Na your mama be asshole.

Tithe ke? Trust me God is not unreasonable

If you had one, you won't be wasting time on loose ladies like me.

ObaKlaz:
Oh yes, I'm too smart for loose ladies like yourself to play. I have a great life and I have a lot going for me. What do I expect any, flies will always defend and support excrement, the same way you & your types support unfaithfulness. Please, be careful, and stop barking at me. Bye!

Some of you cannot just stop yourself from acting like assholes. Get a life!

Unionised:
A special thank you to all you oversealous enthusiasts who have contrived to spoil episode 6 for me.

Special mention goes to Seun for creating this spoilers thread, you just couldn't hold yourself, right?

And to all the jobless hackers, May you all hacking tools get hacked this weekend.

As for that Ashawo Dany Girl, with all the problems wey dey ground, na man she dey look.

Mtcheeewwww...

For your mind now, you think you are smart. Perhaps if you have a life, you won't be wasting one over someone who don't give a damn you

ObaKlaz:
The guy sef slow. Just go CIA and hack into the damn thang without her knowing it! I just dey look my current babe, with all the sh.it wen she dey do for fb. I know everything. The babe get long mileage sha. I don't need to fuss over a beech. I don increase my banging rate. I'm dismissing her cheating ass next month!

Don't mind these people. Wife or not, it is none of his business. If he has a trust issue, it is only going to get worse. Your Facebook is a personal thing. Sharing your log in details is a choice, you may or may not share it with him Let it be your choice not his. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you should log in details with him. You are not obliged to give him even if he is ready to share his.

Thebest12:
My boyfriend is always asking me my facebook logging details. And this is bringing misunderstanding between us. Please what should I do ?
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Go and live in the zoo if what you are is an animal

Pervert!

demsid:
it's sexual assault , yanyanyanchancchan opening breast to confuse men up n down is not sexually assault abi. Rubbish that serves her right.

It is sexual assault. It is illegal. Nothing under the law provides for such despicable act. They can be prosecuted and imprisoned for such behaviour. It is so wrong on many levels, their job description does not include the power to punish. If they want to arrest for public indecency, they should and let the law take its course.

I bet you also think prostitutes should be raped because of the nature did their profession. I bet you believe raping a cheating GF is justified. Bloody hypocrite! You call yourself a Christian yet you condone such act. Mr holier than thou! Is it your body? There is something called averting your gaze, it is not very hard.

Ironically, your signature happen to speak to you. You should do well to reflect on it.

oluspicy:
Good morning sis...

You're right though, but a similar occurrence was witnessed @ Epe T-junction years ago when the dreaded combat team of QRS stopped a lady with huge revealing boobs and the bike man was ordered to suck her boobs in broad day light. No one was allowed to take pictures.

Ever since such acts have been reduced cos those QRS team patrolled the Lekki Epe Expressway 4 to 5 times a day.

"To whom brain is given, sense is expected "

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