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Because she is the one that cheated and abused Paul bah? You can't help yourself. You must shift responsibility.

Bewiseedet:
It seems Paul's wife, Anita was the black sheep in the family.

She might be criminally charged. Poor family!

I hope the investigation leads to job loss.

The interesting part of life is that you might end up in a relationship with him and he might treat a rag better than he treats you. That is the beauty of life . Ole! Ashawo

NovesaTillie:
I moved to this city because of my new job and my neighbors have been very homely and helpful to me especially the ones next flat,a young man and his wife with a kid . They have been very kind to me, sometimes when I get home late from work his wife calls me to join them for dinner and hangouts. M
My issue now is I am beginning to grow fond of the man because of how gentlemanly he treats his wife and how dotting he is of their son. He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little
What can I do to stop this feeling?
I don't want someone else man or to destroy a cute family

Please don't insult me. I am in a relationship though very young relationship. I'm just human admiring someone else.

My people have been practicing for longer and they don't make such claims

Adalasy:
I have been in practice for over 20yrs so sorry to disappoint you but I am not new

I don't know a doctor that discredits alternative medicine or natural foods, some even prescribe them lol. I know more alternative medical practitioners (you new ones mostly) that discredits conventional medicine.

Adalasy:
I am not discrediting conventional medicine but rather discrediting their attempt at discrediting alternative medicine despite borrowing much of what they utilize from nature itself.

I can advice people to keep off certain foods and focus more on others and indeed I do this a lot depending on the medical situation they are being confronted with.

Our body was designed to thrive off nature and not off chemicals. Alternative medicine is not perfect but barring surgery, it offers a much better option then synthetic medicine. Synthetic medicine thrives mostly due to Big Pharmas resolve to make humongous money off it which is why they do all they can to discredit alternative medicine.

Even in the west (outside Africa) a lot of medical practitioners are now leaning more towards alternative medicine because they are now seeing this truth.

That is not true and you know it. If you were right, nothing like poison would even exist. Eating too much of some kinda food will never be an issue. You will not advise people to keep off certain foods as well. Nature is both good and bad.

I am not against alternative medicine and it's honest practitioners. However, it is dangerous and unfair to others to discredit conventional medicine because you practice the alternative. When you know it is not perfect either.

Adalasy:
The "refinement" you refer to is simply making synthetic versions of a purely natural process which now end up becoming too toxic to our system.

Nature has already provided all we need and if you look hard enough, you will find it.

I can identify at least two steroids (funbact A and skineal) that shouldn't be used long term except under doctor's supervision. Why anyone would use both is beyond me. You should have kept the prescription to yourself. What the op need is a visit to the dermatologist.

tesseract:
It's curable, but will require some persistent treatment that may be costly.
I know someone who had this condition, although on his legs alone, but he is fine now. He said he was always washing the legs with water mixed with izal after which he applied funbact A+, he was also taking a drug called ketoconazol or something like that. When it persisted, he was introduced to an injection which he took from 2014 to 2018, once every 3months I think.
They are:
Ketoconazole
Triamcinolone injection
Funbact A
Skinea (cream)

I pray she gets well.

Antiseptic is very vague. What makes it antiseptic.

Tmcruise:
Apply this cream. I'm sure it will work on her.. A neighbor of mine have a worst situation than this, after series of test in the hospital with injections and medications all in vein . But this cream works like a magic on him. So ma you can try it on her. All on God

Conventional medicine didn't fall from heaven. Many are based on traditional medicine with more refinement. Before you quote me, I am not an outsider. Keep what you are selling to yourself.

Adalasy:
The problem with conventional medicine is that as they attempt to temporarily fix one problem they leave you open to other illnesses. An immunosuppressant can only offer extra temporary relief while leaving the patient very exposed to something possibly worse.

If you are taking an immunosuppressive medication, won't that make you susceptible to everything else? I really don't think it is just medication then.

TundeWX:
Looks like an advanced stage of lichen planus skin disorder...might b wrong tho...if it is,there's no cure,the good thing is that it goes on its own eventually..just medications(immunosuppressive) to reduce the itch and spread..I really pray its not.shed more light on doctors analysis,someone here might be of help with more info.
Take heart,cheers

A good reason not to watch them

Mariangeles:
K’anyi lewenu how the case unravels.



If you watch Latina series, you wouldn’t be surprised at that news.
Cartel women, especially those ones born into cartel lives, are powerful.

You see, when people make mockery of telemundo series, I just laugh at their ignorance.

Series like Queen of the south, Lord of the skies, and Woman of steel taught a lot about cartel lives. Very dangerous.
Those kind of series are very expensive to produce, and telemundo is probably the only production company for Latina series big enough to afford the budget.

The lead actress in Queen of the south is a friend/associate with El chapo.

Lord of the skies is the story of one Amado Carrillo Fuentes who killed his boss and took over his cartel.
He became so powerful and was hardly caught because he owned large fleet of jets he used to transport drugs. He was also known for laundering money via Colombia, to finance this fleet.
That’s why he was known as El señor de los cielos. Lord of the skies.

J.K isn't. J.K has some well founded reservations about gender reassignment surgery and sharing women space. For example, she believes the decision to undergo complete transformation should happen when kids are much older. She also insists that 'women' should be reserved for biological women and transwomen should be transwomen. They have to undergo several surgical procedures and take many medications to be transwomen (not all do). It is not the same thing as being born without a womb and other disabilities some women are born with. The transformation is a much more complex process. Neither of them has issue with that transformation. We don't need to erase these facts because we want to be politically correct. Transwomen are still different from women. They are assigned male at birth because biology dictates so.

Chimamanda agrees with the latter because both of them afraid and their fears are valid. The little opportunities women have created for themselves will now be shared with transwomen. Women fought so many wars to have a seat at the table and transwomen can do the same. We don't need to share our sports and our awards to be accepting and labelled non transphobic. We can create more spaces for transwomen as well.

Outside these, neither of them holds hate for transgenders.

Flamemignon1:
J. K is but not Chiamanda

Neither is transphobic.

Flamemignon1:
J. K. Rowling leads the TERF (Transphobic feminists) pack with Chiamanda Ngozi Adichie as her vice

Probably too much carb. Reduce carb intake, add protein and fibre to your meals.

That is exactly the kind of wife they want her to be. She isn't and for that she is not good enough for heir family.

pocohantas:
Like?!!! I am sure if you check the so called relationship he has with her family, the bulk effort is coming from her people. You will see the wife’s side would lay on the floor for the man to walk. Move to the husband side and they will sit on a high horse, waiting for you to do everything. I vowed never to be that SIL to my brother’s wife. I no even get time. Once my mum brings up her matter, I tell her to rest biko.

Communication is a two-way street. Some of us are in-laws and we don't wait around expecting people to call us.

We aren't talking about Nigerians and racism so stay focused.

My statements are still valid, You are trying hard to fit in. So every excuse of ignorance and racism is fine because you can't be bothered to be offended everyday of your life. You have projected your beliefs on Asians as well when in reality, they find those words offensive.

You won't be the first black man living in the remotest part of Europe. Your experience is peculiar.

Or11:
You don't know me so how would you say I'm trying to fit in? Why should I be offended by a word? If that's the case, I would be offended everyday of my life. Every Nigerian must be ignorant and racist because we call Chinese people and things chinko. Run along, let the intelligent people have space to express their views


And to answer your question, I live in a town in Europe where you hardly see a black or Asian person.

White people that aren't ignorant or racist won't use those words either. Many Chinese will find the words rude and disrespectful.

It is like you are trying hard to fit in to make white people feel better.

Or11:
I'm glad your parents don't care what people call them cos that's the way it's supposed to be. It's like Nigerians calling Chinese people chinky or chinko. That is racist too, very actually. The word can be used in a racist way and as a sign of love and affection.

We aren't being racist when we call chinese people chinky, it's just a "slang".

When I was younger I got offended when I hear a Caucasian use this word but now that I'm older, It doesn't bother me. If people like, let them call me a monkey, it doesn't define who I am. However, everyone has a right to react differently when called a "nigga".

No white person in their right mind would call a black man a nigga or use it so casually.

I don't know where you live because your experience is very peculiar.

Or11:
Oga be calming down. My white wife and friends call me nigga all the time. Strangers I don't know say to me "what's up nigga" And I reply "I'm good ma wigga, you good". This is 2021, the word " Nigga" Doesn't necessarily have to be an insult.

You are bitter and unintelligent. You should know they are referring to Best in Lagos state.

aryzgreat:
A girl in Abia State was recently rewarded for making 9As

How is 8&7As best waec results?

Lagos/Ibadam expressway press are at it again

2, 1, 3

Are you saying that Mother of 4 doesn't deserve happiness? The arrangement is not exactly ideal, but this mother of 4 is not in any danger. Please leave her be.

Candidlady:
this dude is just a lil bit older than us! Dont forget she has elder brothers and na naija we dey o! Mother of 4!

The op is definitely not Yoruba man.

You can't stop her family from celebrating their daughter's marriage because you can't afford to. They can't make you feel inferior because that was their choice, you didnt ask and beg for a big celebration. It was their choice to make.

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When we say people are not perfect. We mean we lie or we backbite. We don't use imperfect to excuse rape, rapists and rape apologists.

This guy came with lies about
1. SUVs he purchased
2. Lawyers he never hired
3. $150 000 legal fees he never paid for
4. Claimed racism yet the judge and the victim are black.

5. There are news article about another sexual assault in Japan that got him deported to Nigeria
6. His Nairaland history shows that he is a rape apologist.


However, you want to die on top his matter and you think we won't see you as another rape apologist? Your bad faith is poorly disguised. We see through you.

chatinent:
Mmotimo, maybe you can stop tagging my username all over the thread. Don't make people disrespect you when you think you are right in what you say and how you feel but you allow your annoyance deliberately try to hurt another.

Your points are clear...and you have been repeating them all over tagging me. You have called me all sorts of names. It's fine, I understand.

You have bought the anger. I understand.

You have made your points. I understand.

Rape is a traumatic experience! Yes, it is. There is nowhere I said I supported rape. There is nowhere I said the child deserved to be raped.

In fact, I acknowledged the child was raped. My arguments then were focused on some facts if the evidences were falsified...or sb pulling the strings behind the scene. I was concerned because of the long sentence!!

I wasn't glad the child was raped! I was only concerned then that the right culprit be brought to book.

I only said then that he could be innocent of the crime if those facts he provided were truly falsified.

I understand my roles in this case may have annoyed you. I understand.


You are not perfect either. You have also sinned. You have lied. You have stolen. You have borne false witness. You have also done sth that has lead to graven actions unknown to you. We are all humans. We are imperfect.

You don't keep accusing sb directly of what they are not because you want to satisfy your anger.


I will still respect you.

Thank you.

Make threats? Won't listen?

Your trump card is if you marry from a useless or a weak family. A proper family will throw you and yourself out into the gutter. Lmao. Who you be?

Wallade:
When the time comes, we shall see what I will do about it.

A good and responsible father will interfere in your marriage if he absolutely need to. There is nothing you can do about that.

Wallade:
I am not competing for anything with my father in-law, there is nothing to tussle on but I married his daughter. I have respect for him and expect him to respect himself as well or keep his place as my wife's father but never interfere with my marriage except when permitted by me ultimately.

I am not below my father in-law. If my wife thinks like you and instigate anything to prove that to me, then she is in for shockers.

A man is in lust/love with you but you still kept him close because you didn't feel the same way. You don't have sense.

I find it difficult to see how I will go through all that trouble to acquire someone's property. What manner of evil? Armed robbery has nothing on it..

Mariangeles:
As in!
What manner of fruitless advice is that?

I don't care about the first part. You attack me, your death is very certain. We need to get to a poin where it is criminal to be interested in other people's inheritance (extended family members). I am not interested in fostering relationship with greedy people.

Let them do whatever they want to do. People should stand up for themselves and let greedy family members win. He doesn't need fight or talk to them or visit the land. He needs a better lawyer then he can relax and let him do his job.

ChiefOlabowla:
Let's draw a possibility of 4 quadrants about this issue.

1. You can stop them from selling the land and loose your life or harm your family. In this quadrant you yourself will finally not make use of it.


2. You can stop them from selling the land and still not be harmed. But severe relationship between you and them. Who family relationship help sef ? In this case bad blood and vendatta is still possible.

3. You can stop them from selling the land and nothing will happen to you or your family. And you guys would still get along like nothing happened. I have not seen where two friends go to court and still remain friends afterwards.

4. You can allow them sell the land and look like a fool. Live amicably or still have vendatta or bad blood but your life or family is un-harmed. More so, you can revenge, work hard and buy urs.

In all of these 4 quadrants above there is something important you need to know: neither me nor this guy up here telling you not to allow them to sell it would be with you when ever any of this 4 happens. Choose wisely.

In 2013, I was in somewhat similar case. I was insisting I won't allow them do so... Yen yen. Later on I took a rethink of the whole issue and I let it slide. Baba today I am own four plots in Port Harcourt. And I go still buy more God willing. Those uncles never buy a quarter plot till now...

Get a diligent lawyer! Do away with your old one of you can.

Prosmobi:
Goodevening NairaLanders. Please, which law enforcement agency can i report my uncles to... They have been trespassing on my father's land even when the case is in court.