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Neither is transphobic.

Flamemignon1:
J. K. Rowling leads the TERF (Transphobic feminists) pack with Chiamanda Ngozi Adichie as her vice

Probably too much carb. Reduce carb intake, add protein and fibre to your meals.

That is exactly the kind of wife they want her to be. She isn't and for that she is not good enough for heir family.

pocohantas:
Like?!!! I am sure if you check the so called relationship he has with her family, the bulk effort is coming from her people. You will see the wife’s side would lay on the floor for the man to walk. Move to the husband side and they will sit on a high horse, waiting for you to do everything. I vowed never to be that SIL to my brother’s wife. I no even get time. Once my mum brings up her matter, I tell her to rest biko.

Communication is a two-way street. Some of us are in-laws and we don't wait around expecting people to call us.

We aren't talking about Nigerians and racism so stay focused.

My statements are still valid, You are trying hard to fit in. So every excuse of ignorance and racism is fine because you can't be bothered to be offended everyday of your life. You have projected your beliefs on Asians as well when in reality, they find those words offensive.

You won't be the first black man living in the remotest part of Europe. Your experience is peculiar.

Or11:
You don't know me so how would you say I'm trying to fit in? Why should I be offended by a word? If that's the case, I would be offended everyday of my life. Every Nigerian must be ignorant and racist because we call Chinese people and things chinko. Run along, let the intelligent people have space to express their views


And to answer your question, I live in a town in Europe where you hardly see a black or Asian person.

White people that aren't ignorant or racist won't use those words either. Many Chinese will find the words rude and disrespectful.

It is like you are trying hard to fit in to make white people feel better.

Or11:
I'm glad your parents don't care what people call them cos that's the way it's supposed to be. It's like Nigerians calling Chinese people chinky or chinko. That is racist too, very actually. The word can be used in a racist way and as a sign of love and affection.

We aren't being racist when we call chinese people chinky, it's just a "slang".

When I was younger I got offended when I hear a Caucasian use this word but now that I'm older, It doesn't bother me. If people like, let them call me a monkey, it doesn't define who I am. However, everyone has a right to react differently when called a "nigga".

No white person in their right mind would call a black man a nigga or use it so casually.

I don't know where you live because your experience is very peculiar.

Or11:
Oga be calming down. My white wife and friends call me nigga all the time. Strangers I don't know say to me "what's up nigga" And I reply "I'm good ma wigga, you good". This is 2021, the word " Nigga" Doesn't necessarily have to be an insult.

You are bitter and unintelligent. You should know they are referring to Best in Lagos state.

aryzgreat:
A girl in Abia State was recently rewarded for making 9As

How is 8&7As best waec results?

Lagos/Ibadam expressway press are at it again

2, 1, 3

Are you saying that Mother of 4 doesn't deserve happiness? The arrangement is not exactly ideal, but this mother of 4 is not in any danger. Please leave her be.

Candidlady:
this dude is just a lil bit older than us! Dont forget she has elder brothers and na naija we dey o! Mother of 4!

The op is definitely not Yoruba man.

You can't stop her family from celebrating their daughter's marriage because you can't afford to. They can't make you feel inferior because that was their choice, you didnt ask and beg for a big celebration. It was their choice to make.

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When we say people are not perfect. We mean we lie or we backbite. We don't use imperfect to excuse rape, rapists and rape apologists.

This guy came with lies about
1. SUVs he purchased
2. Lawyers he never hired
3. $150 000 legal fees he never paid for
4. Claimed racism yet the judge and the victim are black.

5. There are news article about another sexual assault in Japan that got him deported to Nigeria
6. His Nairaland history shows that he is a rape apologist.


However, you want to die on top his matter and you think we won't see you as another rape apologist? Your bad faith is poorly disguised. We see through you.

chatinent:
Mmotimo, maybe you can stop tagging my username all over the thread. Don't make people disrespect you when you think you are right in what you say and how you feel but you allow your annoyance deliberately try to hurt another.

Your points are clear...and you have been repeating them all over tagging me. You have called me all sorts of names. It's fine, I understand.

You have bought the anger. I understand.

You have made your points. I understand.

Rape is a traumatic experience! Yes, it is. There is nowhere I said I supported rape. There is nowhere I said the child deserved to be raped.

In fact, I acknowledged the child was raped. My arguments then were focused on some facts if the evidences were falsified...or sb pulling the strings behind the scene. I was concerned because of the long sentence!!

I wasn't glad the child was raped! I was only concerned then that the right culprit be brought to book.

I only said then that he could be innocent of the crime if those facts he provided were truly falsified.

I understand my roles in this case may have annoyed you. I understand.


You are not perfect either. You have also sinned. You have lied. You have stolen. You have borne false witness. You have also done sth that has lead to graven actions unknown to you. We are all humans. We are imperfect.

You don't keep accusing sb directly of what they are not because you want to satisfy your anger.


I will still respect you.

Thank you.

Make threats? Won't listen?

Your trump card is if you marry from a useless or a weak family. A proper family will throw you and yourself out into the gutter. Lmao. Who you be?

Wallade:
When the time comes, we shall see what I will do about it.

A good and responsible father will interfere in your marriage if he absolutely need to. There is nothing you can do about that.

Wallade:
I am not competing for anything with my father in-law, there is nothing to tussle on but I married his daughter. I have respect for him and expect him to respect himself as well or keep his place as my wife's father but never interfere with my marriage except when permitted by me ultimately.

I am not below my father in-law. If my wife thinks like you and instigate anything to prove that to me, then she is in for shockers.

A man is in lust/love with you but you still kept him close because you didn't feel the same way. You don't have sense.

I find it difficult to see how I will go through all that trouble to acquire someone's property. What manner of evil? Armed robbery has nothing on it..

Mariangeles:
As in!
What manner of fruitless advice is that?

I don't care about the first part. You attack me, your death is very certain. We need to get to a poin where it is criminal to be interested in other people's inheritance (extended family members). I am not interested in fostering relationship with greedy people.

Let them do whatever they want to do. People should stand up for themselves and let greedy family members win. He doesn't need fight or talk to them or visit the land. He needs a better lawyer then he can relax and let him do his job.

ChiefOlabowla:
Let's draw a possibility of 4 quadrants about this issue.

1. You can stop them from selling the land and loose your life or harm your family. In this quadrant you yourself will finally not make use of it.


2. You can stop them from selling the land and still not be harmed. But severe relationship between you and them. Who family relationship help sef ? In this case bad blood and vendatta is still possible.

3. You can stop them from selling the land and nothing will happen to you or your family. And you guys would still get along like nothing happened. I have not seen where two friends go to court and still remain friends afterwards.

4. You can allow them sell the land and look like a fool. Live amicably or still have vendatta or bad blood but your life or family is un-harmed. More so, you can revenge, work hard and buy urs.

In all of these 4 quadrants above there is something important you need to know: neither me nor this guy up here telling you not to allow them to sell it would be with you when ever any of this 4 happens. Choose wisely.

In 2013, I was in somewhat similar case. I was insisting I won't allow them do so... Yen yen. Later on I took a rethink of the whole issue and I let it slide. Baba today I am own four plots in Port Harcourt. And I go still buy more God willing. Those uncles never buy a quarter plot till now...

Get a diligent lawyer! Do away with your old one of you can.

Prosmobi:
Goodevening NairaLanders. Please, which law enforcement agency can i report my uncles to... They have been trespassing on my father's land even when the case is in court.

No. He is not going to do that.

ChiefOlabowla:
My brother let me advise you. Allow them sell the land. You go buy your own. E get why

There are many more not as famous though. These past few years has been good for some of them. I am loving the representation .

A rapist is off the street. His sentence can't be too long.

viettastitches:
he deserves to rot in jail. I was just wondering the difference between 1 life sentence and 3 life sentences given to him. He must have really disgusted the judge.

And besides I wrote that befofe i learned of his japan escapades. I thought asians were strict enough to chop of his disease manually.

It wasn't right she was shouting at the girl. That is very embarrassing.

Mariangeles:
Looking at the footage, I’d say she (the woman) disrespected herself first butting into what wasn’t her business in the first place, so she shouldn’t be surprised at the reaction.

Even here in Nigeria, a teenage girl will hardly take that from a woman that isn’t her mother.

What can I say? She should go and take her respect in court.

The little girl was disrespectful though.

Lol. Feeding is a need not an allowance.

Kobojunkie:
I don't have a data subscription. If it is a family's allowance that is fine, that family should take care of themselves.

You don't need data. You should cancel your dtaa subscription. That is some families' feeding allowance..

Kobojunkie:
You are right ... the moment i am able to, I intend on doing exactly as God commands instead of living for self.

This is where I wonder what you are doing on Nairaland. That money is better spend on feeding homelesa kids.

Kobojunkie:
Which kain exercise in futility be that one?

God didn't say pray for such things... instead He commanded those who claim to believe in Him to welcome the homeless into their homes.

You think of it as God punishing you for the sins of others, but God sees it instead as you obeying His commandments to you. So you decide... do you obey God or do you go your own way.

You can pray to God to soften all parents' hearts for them to adopt all these kids .

I should be punished for their sins as well since I should be responsible for their actions.

I shouldn't have my own kids because some people decided not to be responsible.

Kobojunkie:
Ofcourse, it is not your business.... the part where God the very same God decreed that you welcome them into your own Home, you conveniently ignore. All you want is to be able to fulfill your selfish desires - your so-called joy of motherhood, right?

Maybe it is because when people talk about population, they also talk about resources. For a country like Nigeria where we barely utilise anything. I am choosing resource efficiency over population explosion.

Kobojunkie:
How did you arrive at the conclusion in bold please?

Nigeria doesn't have a population explosion problem, it has an efficiency problem.

I am not contributing to the 'populatiom explosion problem' if I am able to cater for the NEEDS of MY kids. Meaning if I can handle my business that is my kids. If I am it relying on Nigerian government to pay their school fees or an uncle to feed them or beg an aunt to find them a N50k job. Mercy can afford to do that. Many of us can't.

Mercy can decide to have 20 children and each of those children can add value without taking from what is not available and underutilised resources.

We need to differentiate between those two concepts. I won't advocate for people who are financially and emotionally capable of raising more than two or four children not to do it.

By the way, I hope you know that the more less birthing = Less working age population = more aging population = Less resources = Less money available for Governance = an even sadder and poorer country.

Kobojunkie:
Nigeria currently has a population explosion problem with the number recorded as rising at about 5 Million each year.

The worst kind of 'role model' for our women and children at this time are women who blatantly contribute to the explosion issue simply because they can afford it.

There is nothing wrong with that. If you cannot afford something, you can want it and wish it but it won't end well you get them for yourself. Life isn't fair.

Mariangeles:
Yeah. It's like her saying see these things that I have? Don't have them because you can't afford to.

You can't put the decisions of parents of those 10 million children on her. She is not directly and indirectly responsible for the consequences their decisions. Mercy has done no harm with having more than two children because she appears to be financially capable and hands on with her children. These are really important for raising children and adding value to our society.

Kobojunkie:
That has been the tradition in all of Africa since before the time or our fathers. We should be abandoning such tradition and instead be moving towards considering that which is greater than us when doing that.

This woman here has 4 kids because society needs her to inject 4 more kids into an already overwhelmed situation?

We need people to become less selfish in these things... there are over 10 million abandoned children out there on the streets of Nigeria. We need to hear from people who have something meaningful to say. Not those perpetuating old norms and looking to advertise it.