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ChiefSosa:
Get a lawyer(s) to draft it out. Prenup is very well recognized in Europe. Lawyers are even invited to make things less complicated between couples. No matter how long it takes; prenups MUST be signed. We are not rushing anywhere. Post-nup is also a thing over there, that's to tell you how serious they take agreements. Please, point out the lie(s)? I'm currently cooking jollof rice, but I've put off the gas, so I'll settle down to reply you.

Dangote has money and you don't know the kind of father he is.

Lmao. Same Alaafin? . If he dies tomorrow, most of his children won't go 'Oh father'.

Theunbothered:
Did Dangote's children abandon him?

Aalafin of Oyo?

Life is not that simple.

Your second paragraph is not true.

Once the children have no use for his money, HE WILL BE ABANDONED. He is as good as his money.

You think they will forget the rich man that made their mothers cry? Most wouldn't!

Theunbothered:
What you are seeing from your friend is a father who abandoned his children.

If he was still financially supporting them or he stuck around in the marriage for appearances we wouldn't hear this.

Most women aren't interested in the men they marry anymore, rather the idea of marriage and an expensive wedding.

When the ideal is shattered resentment sets in.

I'm not interested in marriage, I'm not going to deceive myself with the illusion of sticking to one person for societal approval.

Prenup in Europe? Like it is going to be a walk in the park. Lmao.

Most of what you wrote is a lie anyways

ChiefSosa:
ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOU SIGN A PRENUP. FELLAS, FORGET ALL THE EMOTIONS OR THAT TRUST ISSUES NONSENSE SHE MIGHT BRING UP. MAKE SURE YOU SIGN A PRENUP. Look at some famous men that lost MILLIONS and even BILLIONS to women after divorce. Marriage HIGHLY favors women, especially abroad. Some women even get the house, cars and kids, without leaving anything for the man. Then, he'll have to start from scratch while the woman is flexing his life's work. SIGN THAT PRENUP, BRO. I'll take care of an ex-wife if divorce occurs, but NO WAY will any type of law force me to split my things or totally give them up to her.
Dr. Dre was married for over 24 years, yet after divorce, the wife still wants his assets, even after she already has some percentage stake in his billion-dollar companies. She even requested $2M per month, excluding other payments o. BROS, SIGN THAT PRENUP! IF SHE LOVES YOU, SHE'LL SIGN THAT PRENUP. KANYE AND KIM SIGNED!!!

Her last slide for me

He is telling his own truth not mine. So you go listen to him and nod at all he says.

anselm791:
Wealth creates options.
Listen to that guy, he is telling you the truth.

Wealth doesn't guarantee faihfulness.

addictiv:
If you want a high value man, always know that he is very likely to cheat because he has options. If you want a faithful guy, marry an average guy with Less resources.

It never ends well for the family.

You can't claim to love your children and put their mother through this unnecessary emotional turmoil.

Then the poor children out of wedlock, they are going to have lives vastly different from the other three children. Another trauma itself

MansoryMX:
Too many kids in Nairaland lately! You can see them defending the stupidity of that so called Ighalo. Ighalo is so irritating and irresponsible! Every man who have walked down this path usually end up losing everything. He should be careful!

No. It is the same old automatic reaction to she is going through. It is boring.

Kindness is wishing, hoping and saying kind words like 'may she find the strength to move beyond this'. Not 'she is pained', thanks for stating the obvious what else should she be feeling?

She needs to feel that pain. She is entitled to feel what she feels.

anselm791:
Compassion? Empathy? Kindness?

I am trying to understand why many of you are concerned about her pain.

Says who?

illicit:
The poor cries most

Who doesn't cry?

illicit:
Hmmm the rich also cry

pocohantas:
I am curious too. I have never met one feminist that said women shouldn’t be good to their husbands. Talking about Mercy, how good was she to Ike? What peace of mind did she give him, both in and out of the house?

Anyway, she has said what them boys wanna hear. Tomorrow they’ll still call her olosho once the euphoria of this post wears off.

Did your ancestors love and cheer for prostitutes? Did they marry them? Confer them the status and respect to address non-prostititutes? Did they also actively encourage women whose behaviour suggested sexual immorality? Allowed their women to mingle with them? Shamed non virgin brides? Live and mingle with the rest of the society the way she does?

Feminism is the reason she is not ostracised the way she would be without it. It is a different question to ponder whether feminism or prostitution is bad.

Lmao. If you don't know these little things, you shouldn't be jumping up and down looking for a fight.

Drella:
Disingenuous you mean?

How is the status of prostitutes and prostitution in our society today largely because of Feminism??

Only my first sentence was directed to you.The rest was directed to all you feminists out there(why I said "y'all".
I am not assuming,I am talking facts!

You are very bitter

tunwumi:
You are yet to know the pain your mum is bearing for you to tag him God on earth. But it's good to have once wish granted.

Not people like Chimamanda, more like people with common sense in healthy relationships including friendships.

Those principles are not mutually exclusive or mutually exclusive to submission or feminism. They are the bare minimum for a good working and healthy relationship.

I don't understand why you are hoping Chimamanda must be doing something different in her marriage. She might or not and I know that nothing about her views or herself is a unicorn.

Feminism like every ideology has its good, its bad and its ugly. Part of the good is that it gave you the opportunity to be able to go to school.

ImaIma1:
There's always a balance that people like Chimamanda might apply. You can't be married and carrying feminism on your head and in your home. Marriage comes with selflessness, compromise, etc.

The single feminist(maybe not all) in Nigeria think being a feminist is about being rude to men or challenging them wherever they go. Feminists that have remained married especially to Nigerian men need a balance. Or they can marry white men who don't place emphasis on respect and honour.

Besides, your example, Chimamanda can claim feminism in public, do you know how she is in her home? Does she fight to be the head? Or is she submissive when it applies?

Your first sentence is disgenious. The status of prostitutes and prostitution in our society today is largely because of Feminism. The platform she has today, is because of feminism.

First, you can't comprehend. Second, you are quoting the wrong person. Which part of my posts inspired your silly assumptions?

Drella:
So without feminism,she won't grow?
Y'all should go and deal with your low self esteem first.
You are the ones bringing yourselves lower than men and complaining why men are so above you.

She is showing disgust to an ideology that has contributed to her growth. Your question should be directed to her not me

Drella:
Someone is showing disgust towards feminism, you're say feminism enabled her to do this and that.
Aren't you negating the post?

Everyone doesn't have to agree with feminism. But from her, it is rich. Feminism is the reason she can LovePeddler in peace, wear what she wears and still able to address other women. She has profited from it.

sapphiere:
It beats my imagination when I see some women reject the movement. Like they are so comfortable being opressed. SHM

Many of the married men she slept with had submissive wives.

This is very easy. That girl can't begin first victim. Minor rape is common in Nigeria especially in low income communities. You will find the other children if you look for them.

And none of the server saw it or knew all this time

Ikillbrokehoes:
Like ur own

How big was the skull though?

You don't sound like a man

WoundedLamb:
The fulani militias are men too. But that aside, I'm not disputing the fact that everyone is suffering. But if you're really saying you're not concerned about the increasing violence against women by men, then I guess there's no point having this discussion.

I'm a man with sisters I care about.

He never had a career

Segzy19:
Fabiyi's career ain't over any shit. Epstein bla bla bla is in another clime even at that Donald Trump still stood with him as a friend..

We all need people like that to stand by us in our trying moments. Friends that will condemn our actions but won't condemn us. If God hasn't condemned anyone, we have no right to condemn them.

All Fabiyi is saying is that let the guy have his day in court of law and now this public court or media court...

Very useless man! I blame Idiots following him on Instagram. I believe they are the same are on Yoruba movies typing 'interesting movie' to movies where the victim is always the scape goat.

Too much editing

1. You don't know but you are willing to assume falsely. Even the chief supporter, Yomi Fabiyi after all of his investigations haven't said otherwise. You may be right or not. You are quick to make excuses for a man who assaulted a minor when none presents itself.

2. This is where you need to go online and understand the meaning of sexual harassment or seek out your HR and get them to hold a seminar on sexual harassment. What on earth is overt sexual harassment?

Can you see what you are doing? You moved from assuming without an fact to back your assumptions to minimising sexual harassment. If what you called non-overt happened in a country where I live, you will be ruined legally even if it was toward a 40 year old woman.


3. When did body mass become a way of measuring minor or non-minors? I don't think you know anything of US laws. First, ignorance is not an excuse and his ass will be sitting in jail sweating because he is ruined for life.

There is a video of a Yoruba man in the UK pleading for his life because he messaged a teenager and went to her school to see her. He hasn't touched her and he hasn't asked to send pictures.

When you repeatedly hold assumptions by shifting on what if, but she looked like, non-overt sexual harassment etc, it shows the kind of man you are. I might have initially assumed you probably don't know much about sexual harassment but at this point you do but you are doing everything to make light of it.

Your attempts to rationalise despicable behaviours to minors and women appear to me you are also guilty of this. If you have a history, reach out now and sincerely. Your what ifs and assumptions won't save you if justice comes calling one day.

true2god:
Thanks so much for your mature and reasonable response. Even though we see this issue from a different perspective I appreciate your manner of response.

Of course her face was blurred in the video but it won't be blurred in the court of law. People that know her will attest to her real age and the defense lawyer will also verify her real age. Remember, in a scandalous and sensational issue like this, the age of the alleged victims are always lowered to garner public sympathy and outcry. I have, and many others, have always doubted the official age the media, and princess, gave the girl. That's however not a justification for rape or molestation.

And again, if the judgement is based solely on what we see on the video, except if we have other damning evidence, baba Ijesha will go scotfree. That video is never incriminating enough. There is nothing in that video that suggested rape or overt sexual molestation. Caveat: I never endorsed sexual harassment in any way and i fully condemn it.

If this incident happened in a country like the US or UK, baba Ijesha willl be the one seeking damages and not the other way round because there is no any shred of evidence of any form of coersiin. Besides, the lady in question, based on video evidence look far above 14. My 21 year old sister (last born) has the same body mass as the girl in the video. If she is 14 she is physically matured above her age and most men approach ladies/girls, not based on their age but on their physique and physical maturity.

Thank you.

Now every criminal wants to benefit from this impending chaos

1. Do you know her that well?. A minor can have have an ass bigger than 10 pineapples. She is still a minor. Assuming she isn't, it is still sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a crime. It isn't the norm yet in Nigeria. Culture is changing, the youths are different. Hopefully in a couple of years, the guilty will begin to spend time behind bars. . That will be most satisfying


2. You don't need to show resistance. A minor is a minor.

3. That is shocking why, her face was blurred...did you see her smiling and laughing with him or what?

4. Not everyone goes to a panic mode biko.

5. Make it make sense please. There is something called entrapment in law. If a policeman approaches you and offer to sell you cocaine, that is entrapment and it won't hold. If you approach the policeman and ask to buy cocaine, it isn't. Now apply that to this situation. There is also the added benefit of being a minor. Even if she comes at you, you run the other way.

6. That can happen it is possible. More often than not, the abuser is usually guilty. You have a video and a confession. How far will you like to twist the truth to suit yourself?

7.That was eons ago. Good try again. You are just trying to throw a bucketful of assumptions to justify a predator. Thanks for telling us the kind of person you are.

Lmao. Now it is 'Let's make it about Princess'. Some man you are.

true2god:
Exactly! Most people are looking at the issue from emotional, instead of a rational, point of view.

1) The lady in the video I saw is never 14 but between the ages of 17-24 years

2) At no point in time did the lady resisted his illicit sexual advances

3) Both seemed relax and comfortable with each other

4) The lady didn't show any sign of being in any panic mode when the man was making the advances to her,and as a matter of fact,she was complicit

5) If it was a setup, that means the people who arranged the setup are equally guiity since they have a foreknowledge of the possible outcome

6) What if the so-called princess was in a romantic relationship with baba Ijesha and she felt betrayed by the man she loved and trusted and sought a way of destroying him

7) The so-called princess recently had a crashed marriage hence all men are guiity as far as she is concerned and will go any length to destroy any man that criosses her path.

Note: The moist dangerous woman is a scorned and a jilted woman.

This isn't a humbling situation. That is an interesting way of minimising the harm he has caused and you are also contributing to it.

It is an expose of a man who preys on our weak and our defenceless. He is a predator.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
Please go and read it again ma. When you find yourself in humbling situations,it is part of human experiences regardless of what you consider as the scale of the sin, it doesn't give you an excuse to beat yourself beyond recovery or listen alone to toxic comments from those who are beating you when you are already down. Some people are narcissistic in nature and just like to even prey on those already down even when we know the person will still face the consequence. If the society does not believe in second chance, there will be no correctional centres nah. There's no sudden calamity of failure in life, it's always a build up of one failure after one another until it blows out. For some, they're in it but not caught yet while some are just about to go into it. My best advice I recommend is to avoid sin to avoid disgrace. Whether it is bottom or middle scale,it doesn't matter. For some, it's driving one way everyday until a day they hit and kill someone yet they knew all along it's a sin but felt it's not serious as murder and the one he is being tried for. Like I stated, the case is in court, I trust that the court will decide.

Your opinion was based on his guilt, stand firm in your excuse for bottom tier behaviour. Hold brief for everyone as well.

Vaughanlanrewaj:
I will refrain from passing judgement on a case still in court and the accused had already taken his not guilty plea.

Right now,I know that you're not the court and I take your verdict as your personal opinion. I repeat, anyone about to do something disgraceful should better not do so and learn from the case of this man. And if you have fallen, take the punishment with equanimity and don't go back to the sin. Sin is sin, don't buy the idea that one sin is bigger than the other. Flee all appearances of Evil. Ire O!!