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Are you saying that standing up to demand they step down and a new election is destabilization? I am not in any way advocating for violence here but I want us to be sure that it is not the case that Nigerians do not know what to do and can not do what they need to do if called on to do it. It only seems that many of us are more willing to settle with what is rather than move to demand change to it.

The one thing people like yar adua and all those in office are afraid of is the people. That is why they guard themselves all they can. They know that if push comes to shove, they do not necessarily control the army anymore and the police will possibly fight against them than all for them. Problem is the people are too stuck on fear to act or move to save their own lives.

If your stand up against the govt system will ever work, it would've worked in Zimbabwe or Niger Delta. The only thing you'll achieve by doing that is mass dead bodies and looting brought into play by zombie soldiers sent by your govt.

What journalists are you speaking of? Are they difficult to break up Or is it that we wait with arms folded for them to decide to break themselves up?

I have seen what Nigerians can do. We saw it back after annulment of June 12th, we saw it up north recently with the riots. Do you not think that if the people decided to do away with those imbeciles today, they could not?

You are suggesting we destabilize our govt by causing riots and losing lives and properties?. How will that work, please do indulge me?. Whom will you choose to replace them that will not have the same looting tendency?

dem say action speaks louder than words!! If you are saying that so that the problem will MAGICALLY go away, then we may continue in poverty until the gods of magic come to our rescue then. Lol

It's not as if we are not making an effort. Read Nuzo's comment again as if Nigerians decided to live in squalor in unison. Journalists try their best, private citizens complain but the oligarchs that are at the helm of our affairs are very difficult to break apart and it will not take a days labor to do that.

How do you deal with a disobedient husband in Islam?

Yes, we do choose to live in Abject poverty as said.

If our poverty is by choice, then i am happy to inform you that we are sick and tired of it and wish for a change. It's not by choice my dear.

Did you notice she pronounced Kayode wrong? She called the dude Keyowdi!

Yea i heard that but it's okay because we hear worse here.

On a more serious note, it still baffles me why nigerians have chosen to cowardly live in hunger and abject poverty instead of living a comfortable life by bravely asking for what belongs to them from their leaders.

We chose to live in abject poverty? Are you kidding me?. It's God's will that we are in our current state now and not by choice.

i heard that that this is causing an uproar btw the igbos and yorubas in US.I hope it is not true

Yes; jobless igbo and Yoruba people.

No. The video is not a lie in its whole, neither is it entirely true. Just like all the scam scandals and poverty propaganda in the media. Im sure you understand what I mean. This guy's reply says it all.

Are you saying the American woman made up the stories just for the purpose of tarnishing our image?. She paid those maiguards at Epe to claim they use juju instead of guns?. She made the slums out from her computer and somehow recreated those guys that were running their mouth like cholera on camera.

Why are Nigerians too quick to appear before any oyibo camera just for the purpose of putting Nigeria down?

Roflmao; very funny video

Why didn't the maiguards that use juju to catch armed robbers take over the whole lagos state and control crime?

Wtf was that man doing collecting bribe on camera?. EFCC needs to throw his ass in jail for denting our image so baaaaaaad

How does one deal with a disobedient wife?
Friday, February 20, 2009
How does one deal with a disobedient wife? Is there any dua? Can one divorce his wife if she’s absolutely disobedient?

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• The Amir Aoliyahi-llahi Islamic Soceity, Alhaji Leke Shittu-Bulala (left) interacting with the CEO of Loofemsah, Alhaji Lookman Femi Saheed at the Fidau prayer for the late Sheikh Muhamadu Awwal Abdullahi Otolorin (Omupo) at the Tafawa Balewa Square, Onikan, Lagos recently. PHOTO: MOSHOOD RAJI



When you query on disobedient wife, it would be advisable to clarify your statement of ‘disobedient wife’ – whether in terms of Sharia or in terms of extra requests. However, an approach that has earned many men contentment and happiness, which you may in the interim try:

1. Focus your gaze on Allah Ta’ala (the Almighty).

2. Ensure that you are fulfilling your spouses’ rights

3. When you enter your home, you smile and greet and speak pleasant words

Initially, it may take your spouse to adjust wondering at the changes and she may even comment or respond in ways that may upset you. However, focus on all the good she does and has done for you. Hold your irritation, anger and tongue. Be patient and tolerant and also show her love, smiles and kindness. Shower her with gifts, spend quality time with her, help her reduce her tasks, see to her rest, her simple needs and focus on what makes her happy. All solely for the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala even if she does not appreciate it you have not failed.

Your reward with Allah Ta’ala is there, insha Allah. You will see the contentment and other bounties, which many pious men have seen, even if she doesn’t change.

However, on the brighter side, many have changed with this approach with neither a lecture nor shouting. Your example is of paramount importance, your prayers are also important. Also it is beneficial to read after every Fardh Salaat (obligatory prayer), Rabbanaa hab lanaa min Azwaajinaa qurrata a’ayunin.

Assalaam Alaekum. Hope you are well. My sister has been married for a year now, and ever since the beginning she and her husband have always been in arguments, fights etc. They both have an eight-month-old girl now.

He does not want to move out, meaning my sister lives with his parents, which is the main problem. The mother orders my sister about a lot, to clean the house, cook etc, when she is looking after her own baby at the same time also (her husband is a doctor, meaning he’s only at home during late nights). I would say that’s fair enough as the wife has duties, but that mother also has a daughter of similar age, a son of her own too and she doesn’t get ordered to do anything. The husband himself is a nice guy but when the mum gets mad, she tells him to do bad things, such as one time she ordered him to cut my sister’s hair off, and hit her many times etc.

We called the police at that point so he hasn’t done again, but the mother has thrown my sister out the house now and said she’s not welcome back. My sister is living with us now. Obviously, violence is not the answer, but we are desperately looking for a practical solution. Discussing it with them doesn’t seem to be the answer anymore because problems keep happening over and over, and my own mother is becoming very scared for my sister’s own life.

Jazakallah for writing to seek solution to your sister's marital problems. Many sisters are experiencing the problems you mentioned in their marriages.

It is indeed very discouraging when one reads that a man is prepared to use his muscular and physical strength against a woman who has been given to him as wife by Allah's decree. Nowhere in the teachings and examples of our beloved prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wassallam) have we come across an incident where he beat up or raised his voice against any of his wives. His wives were human and they did err and incur his disapproval. He did not resort to any form of violence against them, be it physical, emotional, financial, psychological or verbal. He left behind him the most excellent examples of how a wife should be treated by her husband.

Allah Ta'ala sent him to this world to teach us how to conduct our lives. Muslim men are expected to, and should, follow his examples in the treatment of their wives. Instead, many Muslim men choose to ape the 'Period of Ignorance' or follow the fashion of being the man who can be most abusive/ most mean to his wife. Concerned people all over the world observe a week of protests and lectures etc, which highlight the plight of abused women and children.

[size=14pt]To be honest, many Muslim men most probably take a top ten position in the "abusers" pole.[/size] [size=14pt]They behave in the most distasteful manner when it comes to the treatment of their wives. They adopt the postures of being the powerful guys who are in control and who can get things done their way by beating up their wives. They do not care nor take heed that when they abuse their wives; they also abuse their little children. These innocent beings suffer a great deal as they watch and hear all, they experience their mother's terror too, no matter how old or young they are.[/size]

Let us take a look at what treatment the wives of Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wassallam) received and shared with him during their marriage with him. They lived a life of having domestic help from their husband in their home. He was caring, gentle, supportive, helpful, understanding, tolerant, forgiving, loving, amusing and with the ability to share with them unconditionally.

What do I read in your mail? Your brother-in-law has been given the gift of higher education, knowledge and intelligence but he does not have the ability to use his training to deal with a simple issue in his marriage. He chooses a primitive method to deal with friction between his wife and mother. I am most certain that he did learn some psychology during his training as a doctor. He has either not learnt anything from that training or he lacks intelligence to be able to put his knowledge into practice. Human beings are bound to differ and have quarrels now and then. A great deal of effort is needed on all sides to deal with problems in an equitable way.

No single person can always be right and the other person always wrong. A man has to obey his mother only as far as her instructions are in keeping with Sharia. If her requests are contrary to Sharia, he should disobey her. I do not think that this man is ignorant of this fact. He is totally out of line in beating up his wife on his mother's orders. This is a sign of weakness and ignorance in his character and his mother will be held accountable for her actions too. A daughter-in-law is not meant to be punished by her mother-in-law. It is expected that a daughter-in-law will respect her husband's mother, that she will assist him in fulfilling his mother's rights over him and that they will live in harmony for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala. Likewise, the mother-in-law should remember that a daughter-in-law is gift from Allah Ta'ala to her son and as such she should treasure this daughter-in-law because she is Allah Ta'ala's creation too. Hurting a fellow Muslim makes one liable and accountable to Allah Ta'ala.

Brother, you mention that your mother is concerned about your sister's safety. Do not hesitate to call on the police and other related agencies in order to protect her. Any threat against her life or safety is illegal and should be dealt with to the full extent of the law. If Muslim men are not prepared to obey and abide by Allah Ta'ala's laws, then they should face the wrath of the law of the land. If your sister is still prepared to meet with her husband and you fear for her safety then I suggest that you make sure she is always accompanied by one of her brothers.

Allow me to suggest that you consult a learned person, a respected family person or an aalim or imam in your area to help resolve this matter as soon as possible, insha Allah. Your sister and her child are being traumatised and it is not emotionally healthy for them to go on being in this situation. Insha Allah these problems will be dealt with in an amicable way. May Allah Ta'ala guide and protect all married couples. Ameen.

And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

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Bankers intensify status contest with private jets

By YEMI KOLAPO and BOSEDE OLUSOLA-OBASA

While the global financial crisis has forced bankers in Europe and the United States to tighten their belts, their Nigerian counterparts are engaged in a private jet acquisition spree. YEMI KOLAPO and BOSEDE OLUSOLA-OBASA report.


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Bankers intensify status contest with private jets





At a time when bankers in the United States of America are facing tougher rules on transparency, bonuses and the use of corporate jets among others, in response to the global financial credit crunch, chief executives of Nigerian banks appear to have intensified their contest for status with their current private jet acquisition spree.

This new craze might have been overlooked, but for the hitherto conservative nature of the banking profession. In the past, bankers and accountants were described as miserly, mainly because they rationed their spending in line with necessity.

But the banking sector consolidation, which saw banks' assets growing by approximately 277 per cent between 2003 and 2007, creating over $1bn in Tier 1 capital for about 11 banks as at end February 2008, and pushing four Nigerian banks to the top 500 in world rankings, might have made the bankers to see the need to live as big as their new shoes.

In the US, President Barack Obama does not think that the banks, which pushed the world into the current financial mess with their recklessness, have any cause to continue to live fat. He argues that it is senseless for banks to reward themselves for failure, but some experts say the Nigerian situation is clearly different from America's.

Still, others are of the opinion that the banks are groaning under some weight, which are best kept secret for safety reasons, and should, therefore, not engage in practices that will further expose them to the crisis.

However, the new craze for private jets among Nigerian chief executives comes at a time when long-standing shareholders and new investors in banks are nursing the wounds of their unexpected losses in the capital market.

But the bank chiefs do not see it this way. According to the President, Chartered Institute of Bankers of Nigeria, Mr. Erastus Akingbola, there is nothing wrong with CEOs of banks owning private jets, as long as they have not been found to have engaged in sharp practices.

He says these jets are no luxuries for bank chiefs as they facilitate their time-demanding jobs.

Explaining the usefulness of jets for the CEOs, he says, "Yes, I know some of my colleagues have jets. Once they have not been found to have stolen money; once their banks are stable; and as long as they can give returns to their shareholders, there is no problem. It is a common thing abroad.

"I don't have one yet. But let me say this, owning a jet is not a luxury. Why? I charter aircraft for the day because sometimes I want to touch three states because my diary is so full. So, if I can use that day productively by owning a jet, it is better. There was a day I was in four states in one day because I had an aircraft. I was able to achieve a lot that day and return to Lagos in the evening. So, it is not a luxury."

Some shareholders, who cannot fathom the new craze for jets acquired with monstrous sums, insist that the practice amounts to a waste of resources even though a source at the Central Bank of Nigeria maintains that the chief executives of most of the banks currently operating in the country can afford the jets without touching the bank's money.

According to the source, who asked not to be named, "Those chief executives that have bought jets have done so with their own money. They don't have any business with shareholders' funds. Do you know the amount of shares they control even in their own banks?"

But the question, according to industry watchers is: If the rich CEOs can afford to buy private jets on their own, do they also maintain the jets from their personal accounts or from the banks' accounts under the guise of travel expenses? This question is one the bank bosses will have to answer, according to a shareholder.

The CIBN identifies the tight schedules of bank CEOs as a reason why private jets may not be luxuries, but that has to be ascertained vis a vis the conditions for owning one.

In an article titled, "How to buy a personal jet" published on e-How, a foreign aviation consultant posited that a company or individual requires 350 to 400 hours of flight time per year to justify full ownership of a jet otherwise, he should consider fractional ownership or rental as a more cost-effective way of meeting the need.

But the banks are neck-deep in the passion. Investigations by our correspondents reveal that the United Bank for Africa Plc owns a Cessena Citation jet, managed by Virgin Airline; Zenith Bank Plc owns an HS 125-800 XP, managed by Arik Air; and Oceanic Bank International Plc owns two HS 125-800 jets. Guaranty Trust Bank Plc also owns a Challenger 306 jet, managed by Kings Airlines and Travels Limited while a reliable source at Bank PHB Plc also hints that the bank is on the queue, following an order it has placed for the procurement of its private jet. It is learnt that the managing director and chief executive already has the bank's approval of $20m to purchase the private jet.

"Once delivered, the jet will, among other things, enable the managing director to easily close deals across the globe," the source notes.

According to a reliable source at the Nigerian Civil Aviation Authority, who could not immediately ascertain the cost of the jets acquired by the banks, private jets, which have capacity for between four and six passengers are new acquisitions that cost a minimum of $30m.

Running costs may range between $3 to $8m per year.

Meanwhile, another source at the NCAA, who says the law does not allow an individual to run an aircraft, adds that anyone desirous of owning one must do so in agreement with an airline, which has an air operating certificate.

He, therefore, argues that it is not possible to trace the ownership of the jets to the banks or their chiefs.

However, while our banks launched a new romance with private jets, Wall Street bank, Merrill Lynch announced a sharp cut on the use of private jets among senior managing directors to reduce administration and non-payroll expenses.

A Financial Times of London report says, "The restrictions on flying by private jets are also meant to demonstrate that the firm's top brass must set an example to the rank and file in tightening belts. Other changes include requiring bankers to travel by taxi rather than limousine and reduced allowances for dinner on the job."

"Private jets can sometimes be a cost-effective means of transport for teams of bankers, enabling them to visit clients in different locations in a single day when commercial alternatives would take much longer. They now have to obtain direct clearance from the global head of investment banking to hire one and to demonstrate there is no more efficient means of transport."

Nigerian banks have also been advised to tighten their belts and reduce operating risks to pull through the current crisis unscathed, regulators may therefore need to take more than a passing look at this new bride in the industry, observers note.

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You 're half-baked!

, Chelsea new boss, Hiddink blasts Mikel, Drogba, others
, Says they are not fit to win anything
Friday, February 20, 2009

Guus Hiddink believes Chelsea's players are not fit enough after taking his first training session as the club's temporary coach recently.



With a tough Barclays Premier League match against Aston Villa tomorrow, followed by the Champions League first leg against Juventus next Wednesday, the Dutchman has little time to get his players in shape.

Several members of the squad do not believe they’re as fit as they were under former assistant, Steve Clarke, who left for West Ham in September, but Hiddink intends to step up the intensity.

He conducts fitness tests this week on his squad, who responded with a predictably enthusiastic session in front of club owner and their new coach.

Roman Abramovich's interest in the club has been re-ignited by Hiddink's arrival and the Russian took his girlfriend, Daria Zhukova to watch Saturday's 3–1 victory at Watford in the FA Cup.

Abramovich's financial affairs were laid bare recently when it emerged that his fortune has been slashed by half following the collapse of the economy.

The oligarch, who sacked his third manager in the space of 15 months last two weeks, was estimated to be worth $23billion last year. According to Finans, Abramovich remains the second wealthiest individual in Russia.

Chelsea's benefactor is in negotiations with representatives of sacked Luiz Felipe Scolari over a severance package expected to worth £7million. It means Abramovich would have spent £28million for firing Jose Mourinho, Avram Grant and the Brazilian Scolari.

Mourinho mischievously claimed at the weekend that he wants to return to Chelsea.

The Portuguese is in touch with a number of the club's players and has told them he’s prepared to come back in the summer, but that is wishful thinking on the part of Inter Milan's coach.

The players are preparing for a new era after Scolari's removal, which midfielder, Michael Ballack admitted came after Abramovich consulted the squad.

Ballack said: "If you don't have success, people speak with each other. It's normal that he (Abramovich) comes into the dressing room to speak with the players."

Manchester City believe they can lure Chelsea captain, John Terry at the end of the season with an offer to double his £120,000-a-week wages.

Sportsmail revealed on January 6 that City rate Terry as a realistic target and Chelsea have now confirmed their interest in retaining the 28-year-old.

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How Obama's inauguration led to recall of Ambassador Rotimi

By Simon Utebor with agency report

Indications emerged on Thursday that the clash between Minister of Foreign Affairs, Chief Ojo Maduekwe and the Nigeria's Ambassador to the United States, Brig-Gen. Oluwole Rotimi (rtd), was a fallout of the January 20 inauguration of the United States President, Mr. Barack Obama.


Empowered Newswire sources said the inability of Maduekwe to get an accreditation to the Obama inauguration for the event, might have been the last straw.

US White House and State Department protocol officers had reportedly issued the Obama inauguration accreditation to only the resident ambassadors or diplomats who were the chiefs of missions.

The officers insisted that such accreditation could not be transferred to any other top government official from their home countries.

In the case of Nigeria, sources indicated that Maduekwe had expected to be the one to take the Nigerian accreditation, since he was in town, but embassy officials were said to have insisted that the regulations did not permit such a transfer.

But one of the US officials who spoke with Empowered Newswire, said it was not only Nigerian diplomats that had this problem since many government dignitaries from Europe also wanted to have such transfers.

There was no apparent confirmation of this last night.

But Rotimi has reacted to the controversy over his recall.

In a statement made available to our correspondent, Rotimi said that he did not call Madueke a tribalist as alleged in one of the accounts of the spat

He also said that the reference to the defeat of Biafra was completely taken out of context.

The statement reads in part, "I wish to acknowledge receipt of the message of the Minister of Foreign Affairs conveying the directive of President Umaru Yar'Adua recalling me as his principal representative in the United States of America. I will dutifully comply with this order.

"However, I wish to also seize this opportunity to correct some misconceptions and distortions attributed to Chief Madueke by the media.

"The little snippet of information released to the press stating that in the exchange of correspondence between us, I called him a tribalist is inaccurate. In addition, the reference to the defeat of Biafra was completely taken out of context.

"Moreover, I would like to assure all patriotic Nigerians that I have no intention to cast any aspersion on any ethnic community in Nigeria. I have always believed in and worked for and will continue to work for the unity of Nigeria even when I am not in the public service

"I have had the privilege and honour to serve under distinguished and gallant senior officers of different ethnic backgrounds in my service to the Nigerian Army. In addition, the God Almighty has blessed me with children whose mother is half Igbo and half Yoruba.

"Finally, let me state with all my heart that this distortion is deeply regretted and I honestly apologise to anyone who has felt slighted in any form."

"God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria."

The official noted that the US government made it clear that such dignitaries from the capitals were welcome to celebrate in their own way during the inauguration events even though they were not technically invited to the official inauguration.

While Maduekwe arranged for a special delegation from Nigeria including himself and some other eminent Nigerians like former Commonwealth Secretary-General Chief Emeka Anyaoku and former Nigeria Ambassador to the US Prof. George Obiozor, Rotimi had been reluctant to supporting the idea of a delegation in line with the procedure outlined by the US government.

Even US officials acknowledged the potential difficulty that was likely between Ambassadors and their principals since many delegations from other countries wanted to attend the inauguration, especially because the US itself normally sent presidential delegations to such inaugurations.

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@Debosky:
What's up with this curiosity of yours? You need a job?

Yes; cleaning the Nigerian embassy in Washington.

Osisi abeg dont kill me. You are too funny. i dont know. The hard angles of his face na die. he is now a pastor. I saw him on Tv in an interview scratching all his orifices

Now imagine why that hot girl married him in the first place. An ugly uneducated ex alaye soccer UN ambassador.

the akatas believe in the "for better for best" part of marriage

nigerians believe in the "for better,for worst part" to an extent though

post millenium Naija chics don't have that belief anymore. If your game is not tight, they step.

No, he was delivered through cesarean.

When one woman leaves you, the problem may be with her. When three leave in quick succession then its you. You wants to live with a man that has two green made -of -attachment horns. You sound like you like him. His own personal voltron.

Who were these women that left him?. He only married Atinuke and got bitten like a viper. What of Finidi George that makes babies from one white girl to another, will you say he has a problem because he cannot marry?

Taribo had been married before and also had live in girl friends. Last time i checked you didnt need to have a wedding band on your finger to be beaten to a pasty pulp.

Even when she was still working in the bank in lagos while taribo was in far away Germany. Did he beat her through the phone?. They never lived together.

My dear they said the ding a ling does not work. Time that could have been used doing correct stuff in the bedroom was used to beat his women to an inch of their lives. Imagine that muscled Taribo giving a woman a beat down.

"They". Who will be this they?. The  bitch scandalized taribo to save her face.

not true,whites and akatas can be stupid smtimes

Don't lump them together biko. A tiny fraction of them is capable of that action biko.

wasnt taribo exposed as being an impotent wifebeater?

How can he be such when they didn't even live together. People initially believed her story until she said she married Taribo because  she wants to help her family because he is as ugly as hell.

Again, If black women and most Nigerian women have learnt to divorce and divide their husbands kingdom into two at any slight opportunity, do you blame brothers for going white?

What happened to Taribo West when he married Atinuke even though he was in love with a French woman?

Doubtful. Most get angry over stuff like cheating NOT BATH WATER and even with cheating sef, they only cut the Dck off

I think she killed him for some other thing apart from bath water.  99.9% of American women will also see it as weird. may be the woman has mental issues.

LOL
aba and abagana are 2 different places in 2 different states.

Ok

Is there a forensic test for juju?
you can't prove it,can you?

Forensic or not, the crux of the matter is that the man is dead from his wife. Death is death whether na from gun or juju or sex.

Follow them to your [b]Ogidi or Abagana village [/b]meetings and conventions.
I'm sure there there some families there with daughters.

Who wants an Ogidi or Aba village woman in this 21st hot century?

Im not sure whether to laugh or cry

A Nigerian woman may have killed his using juju. So what's the difference?