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Guys, beware of a gal who disobeyed her parents to please you.

Chances are high that she wud do same to you and raise rebelious children.

Looking at those pictures is making tears roll down my cheek.

I have confirmed that the future is more important than now, young people should learn from this

We have this kind of snag and some people are giving their rich pastor 700 cars. God will judge all of us

PurpleHouse: wonder how he's gonna explain this to his kids in the future.

He is not the only one who wud explain silly things 2 children, so wud anyone who has tattoo, a guy who pierce his ears, a gal who pierce her ears more than once, a gal who pierce her nose (when u are not bororo), anyone who bleaches etc, you cant help bt wonder y people do these things, how wud u explain to your kids that you did these things. People dnt care abt the future, its all abt today.

This guy obviously is nt thinking abt raising a family.

Its natural to think of yourself 1st, never trust anyone who tells you otherwise, such dudes can kill you.

Words like self-centre, stingy, love-hate etc are not real words, they are used by selfish people who want to enforce loyalty on you.

This is what i mean, if a friend wants u 2 be loyal to him finacially, he wud call you stingy and u wud be force to prove him wrong.

If a guy wants u 2 be loyal to him emotionally, he wud say u dnt love him and dat u are not caring and u naturally wud want to prove him wrong.

So anyone who rub it on u dat u are a self-centred is up to something, who else shd you think abt 1st.

26 ke? Maybe she meant 36

Christianity is fast becoming a religion of deciet and hypocrisy. Jesus emphasized giving to the poor and widow, does it mean these people cant locate the needy, y give to the rich when we have people who cant afford 3 meals a day? y empower the rich when there are jobless people all around the place. This is shambolic and lamentable

This is a thoughtful and educative thread for ladies (and men too), Bt OP, it is poven that gals dnt learn frm theirs or other people's experiences.

If u tell a gal the truth abt something for instance, she wud rather experience it herself and that doesnt mean she wont do the same thing 10 times.

A gal wud naturally take inspiration and knowledge from wat she reads in novels and wat she sees in movies, and thats y fantasy gets the best of them.

I wont wanna believe some gals dnt knw wat they are doing or the repercussions, of course they do, and we all know its all abt the mints. Thats why some guys take advantage of this fallible mindset. A friend once told me that a gal wud only go wit u bcs of the gud things she believes u can offer. Thats exactly how most men see gals and they have not been proven wrong.

However, some gals are really innocent and dont deserve to be treated like a TV set, work on yoursef and dnt waste your time wit wat wudnt benefit you. Always have the future in mind, Tomorrow is more important than today.

ATMC: Another reason is lack of a good foundation. When we are attracted by d wrong thing, d relationship ends when we come to our senses. Then d saying 'd longevity of a relationship is determined by its foundation' is fulfilled.

Its amazing this is coming from a lady. Seriously, people go into relationships with wrong mindsets and it alwaz ends in disaster.

The worse thing one can eva do is to be in a relationship wit someone wit the wrong mindset, by the time you wake up you will discover you have wasted your unredeemable time.

Plarp: Dude... its not my fault that girls have to tell you stop calling them, I'm not silly enough to get in that situation. This topic is about what I call rejection, because its the most i've ever got. If having to be dragged out of some chicks house is what you call rejection then you r on the wrong thread.

And secondly, when did i say i didn't respect her decision? All i did was smile and walked off. I don't give a crap about her, i just thought getting her number was a done deal. I was wrong w/e. That is the definition of "respecting her decision" you dumbass.

From your post, u said a gal didnt respond when u ask for her number and felt rejected frm it. Thats wat u said, and Bro i will say it again, thats not rejection.

I tried to analyze wat rejection really means by painting those pictures.

God bless you for saying that last word, bt i am a very polite and courteous person

crestime: Is this picture true? was that inyanya @ poly or something? let me know your view on this

Why is it that when God blesses youths the next thing is tattoo?

Is this the best way to demostrate your gratitude to God?

A gal refuses 2 tell u her name and u call it rejection, i dnt tink u knw wat rejection means.
Had a gal eva left u face 2 face bcs she belivs dis oda guy will offer wat u cant? Had a gal told u 2 stop calling her bcs u cudnt send her d airtime she asked for? Had a gal eva told u NO bcs of height, money or status? Now dats rejection. i shdnt feel hurt bcs a random gal refuses 2 be a friend. And Bro, gals have d options 2 either say yes or no to ur advances, respect their decision

How many Bsc holder will eva make N5M in their lifetime? Cant u get a Bsc out of the N15M?

For me, i cant do it. I have verified that a gal taller than you will find it tough to respect you(not all o), it takes the grace of God.

Its for men who are really at height disadvantage. Its not advisable for 2 averaged height people to marry each oda

It boils down 2 mental insecurity, our parents were oppressed so dey trained us 2 be oppressive, nobody wants 2 be rejected so u do anytin 2 enforce acceptance nd loyalty frm people. Bt me o, dudes knw me, i dnt live 2 impress anybody, i dnt care abt hw u see me, if u like fly in d air, i no send u, im jst gona live my life wit contentment, God has given us so much 2 be grateful for

totalbaby: Am going to evening service. N u?

Im making money here

totalbaby: Hello my lovelies

How was church?

Gal, If dis is coming from your heart/head, you have my respect and you deserve the best home.

Roseey0: Just take in 4 him shikena,your parents must gree by fire by force.

Dats a lamentable advice. Wud u do dat if faced wit the same bridge? Wat a shocking opinion

Franny89: Plz am into a reletionship dat has lasted 4 2yrs now. Am 23y old nd my guy is will be 26y by july nd he stays @ abuja. We met each oda @ skul nd our families, friendz nd reletions knws we'r dating but my guy jz graduated last yr nd i myself am still in skul(on I.T) so we agreed to marry but nw my parents dnt support us anymore cos he has not been established so they wnt me to marry som1 who is established but my problem is dat my guy keeps on begging them to liv me marry him. He told me to relax nd promised me by nxt yr we will get married but my parents still dnt agree cos they beliv he can't take care of me. My problem now is dat am use to him nd getting married to anoda man is diffcult 4 me nd also 4 hw he showed me luv nd cared 4 while he was still in skul even till now. He even accomodated me wen my parentz could not pay my accomodation fee @ skul. I dnt wnt to hurt him nd my parentz are here pushing me to marry som1 else nd beside am not getting younger. Plz dear landers i dnt wnt to make a mistake. Jz tell me wat u tink.

Did u say u are nt getting younger? At 23? Dat says it all, im very sure u will jilt this guy in the end.

Your tone shows that you wanna go wit ur parents and God is in heaven.

Smartie gurl: Some persons here amuse me. . . . . . When you eventually elope and maybe at the end of the day thngs becomes difficult for you two.. . . . . .lol. .i wonder who you wil run to. Your parents that were against your love affair? Your friends? Jst curious.

Thats my point

Its simple, u need to convince him that you are a gud decision maker, you dont do it verbally. There will be less important occassions where you will required to make decision, make gud ones, with time you wud have proved ursef.

Then a word of advice, dnt go about wanting to be heard, if ur husband realizes ur mission he will never listen to you, never. Then, dnt have the mindset of showing people you are intelligent, it doesnt work with friends neither doe it wok wit men

[quote author=eagle,eye]I believe you have not seen or heard cases of people being opposed based on sentimental reasons.

"He is too short ___ short people are normally temperamental".

she is from Ijebu ode, those people are normally high sense people.[/quote]I like ur thoughtful points, dats y u need to sit and debate it out wit them, eloping is nt the only and best option.

The madness wit eloping is whe trouble comes (and they will surely show up) u will them come back to the people u absconded frm.

Abrantie: Most (not all) lovers who didn't elope had come to regret their actions, I’ve seen many like that and there is something about love, it ends in regret (not all times)

Clownic *lol*

Adaeze003: There are so many reasons y a girl would stick around wt sm1 who treats her like crap. What I'm tryna say is that they must be gaining something. For eg a girl refused to leave a man that beats her because of intimate satisfaction. Hard to believe? Well its true! Some might be gaining money for fees or to keep up with society and so on. Just very few hang on bcoz of luv and that's the truth. Gurls aint so stwpid.

Thats wat iv bin tellin friends, pls tell me y such gals shd lament to our hearing wen the relationship goes really bad.

Now u said they are nt stupid, bt you will see it on the news wen a guy pours acid on his fiance, wen the guy is beating them daily you wont hear it bcs they are getting some benefits ( in your own words) bt wen it get worst they will come online to tell us how wicked men are

[quote author=Mynd_44]If my GF tells me she is a virgin, it does not increase her worth or decrease to me. And that is to me.

Why should I use other poeple's standard for my life? Sounds silly don't it?[/quote]I respect ur candid opinion, bt naturally speaking when a gal tells a man she is a virgin her value appreciates, the guy wud respect her d more.

Men respect and value virgins(not all sha). Like i said, that doesnt mean she wud make a gud wife.

ITbomb: The feeling of love can make people insane.
Only people who are madly in love do elope

And that feeling bring about regret in the end. Love is more than how one feels at a point in time, the future shd be put into the picture

tpacalipse: When your parents are against ur union, make sure it is not multivated by selfish reasons. Most of the time thay ain't gat good reasons at all. And for the fact that some failed as elopee does not mean their parents were right in the first place. They would probably fail if they had lsiten to their parents in the first place. If I am going to fail, let it be frm my own decision but for me to fail based on the advice of others, very embarssing and I won't take.

Doesnt that mean u dnt trust ur parent's judgement? Anyway, if my parents say NO to my union, i will ask them to convince me, we shd sit and share logic. I trust them

[quote author=Mynd_44]You need to stop being myopic and look at the bigger picture bro. Virginity just shows that she decided not to have sex. If does not prove that she is a good human being. Decency is an entire package and virginity is one element in that package[/quote]If you discover a gal is a virgin what wud come to your mind?

If you tell 10 people a gal is a virgin what wud dey say?

I understand that the fact that a gal is a virgin wudnt make her a gud wife, or courteous and it doesnt stop her frm being rude or disrespectful.

Decency is alwaz attached to sex

[quote author=Mynd_44]When did virginity become a measure used to detect is one is decent of not?[/quote]Pls what does decency means?

There is no logical formular for marriage, if you marry Bishop Oyedepo's wife it might not work, you might not be successful in business if u do wat Dangote did, so dnt wait for anyone to tell you potatoes.

The main thing is be prepared for marriage, den study diff marriages to know wats making them successful or otherwise.

Chei, i feel for the guy sha. Bt if thats the family ur friend came from then he should be proud and oppressive too, he came from a family with pride and ego and im suprised he didnt pick dos trait.
People refuse to understand that wateva u have was given to u by God, y make d other person feel bad? Its jst like tellin someone u cant marry him/her bcs she is short, its appalling.

Anyway, if your parents say NO to my partner, dey need to convince you. Personally, i wont disobey my parents, bt dey have to convince me