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Tascocent: Does dat means There's no responsible girlz on 2go...........abegi

Ha, 2go ke

No carry ur life play ludo.

Its jst 2 risky to think u cant get a responsible gal online, im not sayin dey dnt exist thou.

However, ask ursef these questions: wat is she doin there, how many guys cud she have met jst like u, for how long has she bin there and if she has

bin meetin diff guys den there is high probability that she has bin sleepin wit them, the chances are really high, seriously.

and if u really know wat some gals use their phones for, wat dey do online and thier purpose for being online, u go fear fear

Anyway, if u are responsible ( and u shd know if u are ), if u go towards responsible places and hang out wit responsible peolple, chances are high that u wud be comin across decent gals

The same thing applies to both men and women

OILOFGLADNESS: I kept on hearing guys saying that girls approaches them for relationship and promises love and heaven and earth and the funny and suprising thing is that 90% of men fall prey of these girls and very proud to say that ladies ask them out, i wonder,, i have haerd most guys said "abeg this girl loves me and yet spends for me i will call it quit with my girl afterall na just sorry i go take"
hmmm i ask my self again should this be change in generational trend?
should this be love actually?
or shouldm it be as a result of pressure or impatience?

As for me i kept on disputing this inapropriate foundation in relationship, i kept on asking my self why and i kept on advising against it.

please let us discuss.

Gal, dnt mind wat these people are sayin, focus ur mind on doin wats right and u shall touch the sky.

The bible says " He who finds a wife . . . . . ." not the other way

Apart frm the effect this might have on the relationship, wit time such union always lead to disaster.

Naturally, it takes d grace of God that a guy wud respect u if u throw ursef at him

The reason y our parents lived for so long is bcs they obeyed some basic rules abt life.

This generation is filled wit so many Nickolas cages and Ju mongs, people who beliv they dnt have to respect/obey God and dnt need to follow any basic principle abt life. Wat has bin d outcome? Broken/unhappy homes. Divorce rate is at a all time high.

This is the same generation which contest wat says abt love and respect.

True2myself24: If I won't even date a guy the same age as me how much more younger? Women mature faster than males.

Exactly, In 10-15yrs, will u still be saying age ain't anything bt number.

The problem wit our generation is everyone is educated and knows everything. Dudes just think the kind of feelings dey have now wud remain for eva.

Will u still feel the same way abt dis person wen u look lik his mum or vise versa?

Just picture a 45yr old man, then picture a 45yr old woman, or imagine a 50yr old woman and a 45yr old man.

The future shd be in mind weneva we are doin anytin, dnt jst tink abt now

Ozioma49: Sometimes beating a lady is the only way u can knock sense into her head jst sayn d truth

Is she ur younger sister? Wat kind of mindset is dat? Chei

eyenCalabar: I know that's a lie but I'll still advice you. I wish you were able to raise a this topic earlier before advancing with her to this stage. Right now, if anybody tells you to leave the girl alone, I think that person may become your enemy. But let's get this straight and establish some facts:

1. You have become a slave to love.
2. The girl in question do anything without minding how you would feel about it.
3. You have some fears in your heart.
4. This problem would escalate more than the way you are perceiving it now.
5. The girl would resume absolute control over you soon.
6. The girl doesn't trust you.

So, from the above facts, what are you going to do? Sit and watch her and continue begging? No! Sit her down and talk to her deeply. Let her understand that she's a woman and nothing more than that. But for now, suspend that marriage and watch out for a change. Tell her that you couldn't meet up some things while you start working on her. If after like a month or two, no change comes, brother cancel that marriage. Tell her openly that you are no more interested that some things couldn't just work out between you both. Don't chain yourself in the name of love. Love is not blind again. Let yours see as well.

U are right dude. I cant agree less wit most of ur points, bt guy i dnt go wit u on
"Sit her down and talk to her deeply. Let her understand that she's a woman and nothing more than that."

When it comes 2 marriage, this doesnt wok at all.
A gal who had bin living her life in a particular format, say 25-30yrs, hw do u tink u can suddenly talk her out of herself.
Walahi, it doesnt wok.

I love dis particular fact "4. This problem would escalate more than the way you are perceiving it now"

kennethik: Well the only I would like u to do is sit dawn and talk sense into her,make her to understand how u feel about Her actions it should be issues to be trashed out before tying the knot,if not is going to bring problems into your marital life.telling out of experience because I am married.

Dat has neva worked in marriage, it might work in a bf/gf relationship
Wat makes u think u can change anyone? Wat makes u tink u can change anyone by sitting dem down and talkin sense into them?
One major tin we shd knw abt marriage is u cant change a man/woman, especially wen its positively.
When u see something u cant live/cope wit in ur partner, its beta 2 luk elsewhere than think dey will change or that u can change them.
When it comes 2 tins lik dis, people dnt change.
Pls take a case study of different families or ask married people, u will have a concise understanding of wat im sayin
Marriage is meant 2 be enjoyed nt endured.

There is no laid down guidelines for wedding, its freestyle. Sit down and plan hw u want it and dnt think abt wat people might think, u dnt need 2 impress anybody.

Hmmm, bt its so unfortunate that young men will end up doing the DIRECT opposite of these commandments.

There is something you didnt include poster, maybe i shd call it the 11th commandment,
"neva try to impress anybody, there is no rule for success bt the rule for failure is to try to please and impress people"

Well, its totally wrong to think everyone must subscribe to ur ideologies and opinions, everyone is entitled to his.
its also gud to understand that we had different backgrounds and we tend to act on d basis of wat our background gave to us.
For me, i dnt see any reason why i shd say thank you after a meal. However, i dnt think its wrong, the purpose is to inculcate a heart of gratitude from childhood.

It depends on wat led to the break-up. If it jst didnt work out because of genotype issue for instance, no problem,
but if u guys broke up bcs of unfaithfulness, disrespectfulness, hurt, how cud d above topic cross ur mind?

Our problem in Africa and Nigeria in Partucular is that of extended family. Why cant everyone mind his/her business. Shd we attribute this to idleness? Bcs if you are the manager of a bank, or you have shops at Idumota, you wont be doing this. Its just stupid and im nt in for this

She must be a teenager. Love most times bring regret and people dnt learn frm thier or oda peoples experiences. Dudes who have been in different relationships in the past knw that the way you feel abt someone now have no bearing on wat will happen in the next 6 months. A guy u want to die for now may betray you later.
People shd stop watchin Nigerian movies, now she is tryin to do wat Ramsey Noah and Rita Dominic did in ESCAPE FOR LOVE. Tell ur friend to grow up

Talk abt d ones that will have wasted their time at younger age doin rubbish like chasing rich men, sleepin wit all d men on d streets of lagos, etc, then by the time dey turn 38, pastors will nt rest anymore.
Anyway its natural that you childishly think you shd make use of ur options

The greatest love song of all time "ENDLESS LOVE" by lionel richie and diana rose

I dont say anything normally except its getting too much

Wat a humorous thing to do,
wats the point buying a car if ur mind wont be at rest?

Miracles are real bt if i may ask, wats d aim behind this post? Wats on the poster's mind?
Are you trying to mock the pastor, or God or christianity?

Gambrosia: Sometimes yes and sometimes no!

And wats d determinant?

totalbaby: I guess it depends on the person. As for me, every year I make new year resolutions but I never seem to stick with them.

So where do u think u have bin getting it wrong?

Have you bothered to make research on how 2 suceed in executing ur resolutions.

This is why i dnt go with the crowd, isnt it absurd when i allow people tell me wat is beautiful and wats nt?
This is a question of wat is appealing to me and for me the greatest gift God gave man is OPINION
Personally,i like hair, i like braid, i hate attachment, i hate coloured hair, i hate fictitious hair stles, bt i also like seein gals wit low cut occassionally. So my wife will have a variety of styles 2 choose frm.
Thinking hair is the beauty of a woman is pitiable. Thats one of those things we met people saying and they have bin saying it frm d begining of time.
It depends on wat u like, there is no general rule to life

Thats the trend, U know d saying "go with d flow, go wia d wind blows"

Wait a minute, is dia a particular way to pray? Are u suppose to lie down, kneel down or . . . . . . ?

Kai, some African cultures are odd.
It has nothing to do with christianity,

Kai, some African cultures are odd.

In marriage, the 1st person to bring up the issue of salary is fraudulent and shd be suspected. Money is the major reason y marriages dont last anymore so this is the best thing, for me, everyone shd keep his/her bt d family shd have a joint acct, im talking abt a family joint acct.
if a wife knows d husband's salary wat wud she do wit it and vice versa.

ebamma 3: you give your hard earned money to your girlfriend out of love but she goes behind your back to call u a mugu

My brother, you are very correct, bt d options lies wit you
iv sworn that no gal will eva call me a mugu, i swear
I will prefer a gal call me stingy than mugu.

Putting physical attributes like big bossom, height, big backside, complexion etc as primary has neva worked for anybody, it only lead to disaster.
The problem is we dnt learn from people's cases. pls ask people who have been married for 30years and they will tell you a thing or 2 abt this.

Its funny when gals think men are due for marriage, wait, who shd be the subject here, guys or gals? Who shd know whether he is due for marriage or nt? How cud a gal who is on the sideline, fold her hands, cross her legs and think that a particular guy shd be due for marriage.
Its jst like looking at a sick person on the hospital bed and thinking he shd be ready for discharge, are u nt suppose to ask him to know if he is ok?
Gone are those days when age was the determining factor for marriage, now its a different ball game.
Gals are jst funny, when you rush a guy who is not ready into marriage you will still come back to tell the world how unserious and irresponsible he is.
Y shd a guy rush into marriage when he knows ur parents will collect his ATM card and u fantasize a N1million wedding, want to live in a 5 bedroom flat in magodo estate etc.
Money had suddenly become the MAJOR factor for marriage and its not easy to come by anymore.
We know this right from the word "go", you show us how money answereth all things while dating and how life can be unbearable without it.

If people u see physically could let u down, wht do u think abt people u hv nt seen b4, isnt it riskier?
Anyway, it lies with u, pray and watch out. Maybe you only go after the excesively sofisticated guys. Iv come to realize that to get some decency you need to give up somethings.
Im nt saying its wrong to search for husbands online or that it will never work, bt its like shooting an arrow into the darkness.
Come to think of it, when people ask how u met, u may need to paint the truth.

The problem is that most peolpe only think about now, a gal who care about her future woulnt do that
its jst too cheap, she no dey watch film? Haba, she is a weak fool frm Dugbe

Everything is just upside down, only God will save our generation.
Men want sex and dey want it badly.
Gals believe since he is sleeping with me then he shd pay, and you need to hear the way some gals even say it.
So its like dis, gals want money, guys want sex. Kai, dis is nt funny at all.
Gal are now offering sex for money.
Guys are now paying for sex.