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luvmijeje: Oops am seeing this late.I said it,most people on NL have been programmed to think one way.So immediately u see less,it means settling for a rich guy.
Fine,money is an important ingredient but is relative as far basic necessities of life is met.
Now,at this stage due to alot of influence,people get marry for the sake of I want to get marry.When I wrote 'less' I mean settling for a guy that is abusive,a wife beater,irresponsible etc.A guy u know u wont settle for if not for the pressure.

Hey dear, who doesnt know wat "LESS" means? Iv neva seen a case wia LESS was used like u claimed, dats y i said u gave us a new definition of "fantasy"

And is dia any living thing who dosnt know d mindset of a typical Nigerian gal? We know wat a gal means when she says she wants a God fearin man.

Guy, brush up ur toasting competence, bcs its time to look for a new gf, this one u call ur gf is into e-prostitution,

U are hearing that for the 1st time rit? yes, its my word, abi hw will u explain a gal u met online, who u eventually have sex wit and u pay for it.

Dats where d world is going anyway, gals are becomin funny. How will u met a guy online and d next tin is sex? And u expect a glorious future?

luvmijeje: If u are above 30 and u still single pls don't settle for less.I know it is easier said than done but what is the use of getting married and u re unhappy.
Pls don't let society pressurize u into making a wrong choice.
'Why are there high rate of divorcee and single mothers' are threads that people should open on NL.

Seriously, u jst gave d world a new meaning of "fantasy"

So u actually tink getting married to a particular guy means u are settling for less.

Until marriage is viewed in d rit direction, d way God designed it originally, we wud keep getting it wrong.

Status, height, standard of living, colour, race, among odas, shd neva be d yardstick for marriage

U jst echoed wat d OP said.

raqueal: Mostly, you'll find insecure ladies sticking to a chronic cheat because their minds are unable to comprehend the fact that there could be faithful or better men for them.

For some, it is love and for others it is nothing short of stupidity. An old uni friend married her chronic cheat boyfriend after several years of dating even after her consultants(alfa's) predicted his unfaithfulness.Her reason was that she had made a vow that the man who disvirgins her would be the one she'lld marry.

Different strokes for different folks

Wow, u have successfully pinned out some of d reasons y people stick 2 cheating partners, bt above all, its an emphatic demostration of foolish stupidity.

It has nothing to do with love, what people call love is actually a temporal feeling which diminishes with time, love is a confused word.

These are wonderful tips bt its so unfortunate that gals are nt guided by tips like dis, dey will rather depend on nollywood, media, trend and role models like Tiwa savage and Tonto Dike

abohrandy: Well to me, I will say give her and monitor it to see if its sth relevant or important! Having a gf is a responsibility. At least u gotta support her, no b say u go become her popsi o!

Just give her and let's see how it goes!

So make him carry 15k do experiment, dude, dats somebody's monthly salary o,

Naija tuf o, 10k is nt easy to come by dis days

Guy, 1st thing 1st, look for a job, work for sometime den u can start talkin abt havin a relationship.

Its sad and mad to tell u dat gals will hardly listen to you if u cant take care of them, im talkin abt d nursery gals nw,

Bt if u want a big gal, a high profile gal, u must have a GOOD job.

Have you noticed dat rich men or guys who have d mints always get d most beautiful gals.

Some gals wont listen to u if u dnt have a car, some wont listen to u if u have jst one car.

Some gals wont listen to u if ur salary is less dan 100k, some wont listen to u if u dnt live on d island.

Pls get a job 1st, den u will understand this thing

So what are you doing in Italy?

The most annoying thing is this same gal, like many others, would have rejected some decent guys somewhere and run after jerks

goldenbee: Say hypothetically i know this guy who is 32 years of age and still living with his parents.
what's your take on this guys?

Wait a minute, are u blaming the guy or wat are u trying to do? In case u missed it, the condition of our nation is pathetic. Guys dey struggle die

Common dudes, the most interesting thing about wedding is there is no stereotype way of doing it, no formula, if u like wear Agbada, nobody will slap you.

Dont allow the media dictate how you live your life.

salt 1: By late marriage, I mean 32 years for the woman and 40years for the man.

The disadvantages are numerous
1. For a lady: menopause now starts earlier. I don't know whether to blame it on dietary habits or environmental factors, women now experience menopause earlier; some as early as 35. Women who marry late panic and fret about having children. Their anxiety can also delay achieving pregnancy. Women over 35 also miscarry easily and experience more complications during delivery.
Again when women don't marry early, (from 22) they become so fearful at the prospect of becoming spinsters that they abandon the search for Mr Right and accept any Mr Available. Desperation can lead to wrong choice and failed marriage.
When a lady is made career-wise, men get scared of her. they feel an inherent sense of inferiority. Those that muster the courage may be seen by her as gold diggers and opportunists. Better to marry when you can get genuine love and grow with the person than wait to be on the begging end.

2. For the men: whether Nigerian men like it or not, male fertility also reduces with age. Blame it on diet and lifestyle. The men also get desperate to have children and may be tempted to have kids outside marriage.
Getting the love of your life is also more difficult if you are already "made". It is when you're nobody that you can tell who loves you and not just who came because of money.
If you're already comfortable, the girls may fight to get your attention, making the selection of wife material very difficult.

Marrying at an older age means you can't connect with your children because of generational gap. You will be analogue and your kids will be digital.

You risk making a young wife a widow. You pay school fees with pension money.

Dear readers, do you agree?
If you do, add other disadvantages of late marriage

I beg your pardon, 32 is not late for a woman. Why put unnecessarry pressure on them for God's sake.

If you look around you, there are more unmarried ladies in their early 30s. Pls dnt put pressure on them, pls.

Thank you

This is exactly why iv bin sayin its risky to play with people's emotions, some people dnt forgive at all and can go as far as the moon to take their palm of flesh.

Everyone has been saying ladies should beware, i think thats not the bone of contention here, treat people fairly and you wont stand the risk of being butchered.

What wud you expect from a man who sponsored a gal to the university only for her to change the music after graduation?

What wud you expect from a lady who stayed with a guy for 8 yrs, a time when nothing seem logical only for the guy to shop for a younger gal when he is ready to settle down?

Its wrong for a guy to play with a gal's emotion with the mind of "chop am clean mouth". Its wrong for a gal to play a guy's feelings with the mind of "chop his money"

Some people dnt forgive easily and the strangest thing is you may never know until it actually happens.

ambrosini593: If you love her or like her what do you do. Do you walk away or continue to chase. Some girls value guys that walks away why some don't

Seriously, iv spent my time doing this research and i confirmed that a gal who doesnt want you will neva love u. She might eventually say yes to you one day, bt she still doesnt want you, she probably said yes bcs she missed out on her 1st choices and you have just been around the block. i love this quote " a man persuaded against his will is still of the same opinion".

Im nt saying u shd jump off d train when a gal turns u down, bt the signs shd be there that she wants you, when she is totally icy, dnt bug ursef, look elswhere.

rinora: Hey,peeps,i just need ur opinion,on this,i called my boyfriend like two hours ago,three times,but he dint pick,and he hasnt called me back since then,now am so worried and have started feeling insecure,and thinking,things that he is probably with another woman,thats why he refused to call me,or he is probably tired and getting bored of me,cos when we just started dating,and whenever he misses my calls,he quickly calls me back immediately...Am worried and Mortified

If you call ur patner and he didnt pick nor call back, its logical to think that he is busy. Bt i hv d way of doing my thing, i do everything to know y she didnt pick, any other thing u do wud be based on assumption(which has ruined many relationships). If u can establish that he is avoiding ur calls, then u can start getting worried, and being unnecessarilly disturbed is absurd

You belong to my ship OP, i thought i was weird, in fact thats what dudes make me feel weneva i tell them how mad it is to always go with the trend.

And truth is, anyone who goes with the trend can fall for anytin, which is too negative,

In case you dont knw, the media rules the world, u neva tot abt it rit? The media will tell u hw 2 eat, wat 2 eat, hw 2 walk, hw 2 dress, wat 2 wear, who is ugly, who 2 accept, hw 2 sleep wit ur wife, where to shop and nobody wants to feel rejected. The reason y most people do wat dey do is 2 be accepted by odas.

Its such an illogical state, and my watchword is, i dnt need 2 impress anybody apart frm mysef and my mum (which iv impressed already)

There is no uniform for wedding, it mustnt be a black and white, its d way u want it

But do you know that Google has bought techno and they are producing wonderful and decent phones. Please when next you go to SLOT or any other phone shop, ask for techno T1 or N3, they are Android phones with unbelievable features.

And she is somebody's role model, haa

For me, early marriage is gud, in that, it prevents one frm fornication and u tend to get done with child bearing early enough. It is socially alluring that you are getting returns frm your children when you will enjoy it most, jst imagine d joy of having a grandchild at 50, its sweet that you are 55 and your child is 30 with a 5yr old grandson. Bt there is this snag abt early marriage, by the time you realize u didnt enjoy life b4 marriage, dats d beginin of wahala, dis explains y early marriage most times will have to be endured

I personally dnt expect anything for val,

Val celebration beats me, wats d logic behind it?

Feb 14th has neva been a special day to me. Im nt the type who do things bcs everyone is doing them, i sit down to analyse the meaning of something and if it doesnt make any logical sense to me, i wont do it. The question is, y must i wait till Feb 14th to show love to my world ( it shdnt be a particular person )? So wat happens on 8th August, May 21st, etc. You mustn't do tins bcs people are doing dem

anitank: Yes, good girls still exist. One of them just typed this.

You would rival Mr Bean for comical competence

I will thank her, dance, summersault for slapping my mum

That's why valentine's day looks absurd to me.

pash4naija: i guess he has the money and good for him. But I can't for the life of me figure out why people spend that much on a car which is a liability instead of investing in more tangible assets. Anyway to each his own I guess...as long as they can afford it

What makes you think he has the money? If you know what these guys do, u go fear fear

What does Wakaso knows abt Nations cup? The fact that Ghana lost 2 a team doesnt mean B/Faso is the best team in the Tournament, then wakaso shd be greatful Ghana didnt play against Nigeria, it wud have been a black-out. Every living thing knows Nigeria is d best team this year. Burkina Faso are a group of touts. Did u see what dey did 2 dos Ghanians?

Is there anybody who doesn't like Odunlade? I dnt think so

I personally i prefer femi Adebayo

Donmichaelz: well if u re conversant with Afcon,no doubt you only have one player in Mind,Bance..d guy was fearfuly made,as in his appearance can make a defender commit an own Goal..although he is "Sexy" he is also a great Player with indomie on his head.

Did you say the guy is sexy? How was your nit son?

The dude is just seeking for attention

And what are the 1000 mistakes women make in relationships?

Thank you