₦airaland Forum

numericalguy:
OP, how do u expect such a nice and cool dude to approach you when you have baricaded yourself by hanging on the arm of the "most wanted guy" in your level. So much so that most people think you are dating. You get loads loads of attention from all the guys in your level buy flirting with them.

Must you have every guy in your class? He's the last one remaining and you must have him even when you know he has a favourite girl.

I don't think you really love him. You only want to conqure him since he's probably one of the few guys left that is not really bothered by you.

. OMG, dis guy is a genius!! How com I didn't tink of dis? Mehn dis is true

Tallesty1:
You ignored all the guys that are giving you attention and you are complaining that someone is ignoring you??

How does it sound?

You have a favourite guy.

He is got a favourite girl.

So you would be happy if he leaves her and starts walking with you "slowly"?

If you want him that badly then why don't you just walk up to him and tell him your mind?

Abeg park well and free a brother.

. Hahahahahahah, smh

OP I don't even see ur predicament as a big deal. U r gud looking right & @least okay socially right? Fine. Since u ppl attend same lectures, just try & initiate a conversation one day, a light, casual conversation , (afterall we do dat wit ordinary classmates too wn u feel like chattin a bit), den from there u go wit d flow, & even knw weda he is ok in terms of conversation sef. Don't ask him y he ignores u, hell no, twill seem somhow, like he owes u attentn or somtin. Don't seem too forward, just be frendly. Hiaan wats there?, no be ur classmate? Den from there u see how it goes, if he's into u he will take d baton from dere, if not..@least u tried

Harbosede02:
i knw,guys can be very nasty,bt do u think hez sum1 dat can do sumfin like dat??itz normal 4 im to think u like im wen u ask im d question,bt at d same time if u think itz worth d risk,then take it,bt if it isn't,abeg make una continue to dey eye eachother 4 lecture hall.

. Gbam!

Louislewis:
My question is this- How safe is the soakaway pits where the waste products from the dead and survived Ebola patients were deposited? During the future evacuation of the waste product, is there not going to be the upraising once again of this Ebola virus?

. Waow, anoda brilliant thought!! But God wey cleanse Nigeria will cleanse d soakaway pits

MrsAnyanwu:
pls op, i sincerely sympathise with u, but pls try and watch dis movie titled 'fireproof ' u myt learn a thing or two, from it, God preserve and bless ur union, more kids on the way.

. I swear dat movie rilly touched me. See eh, God is rilly d foundation of any happy marriage. Anybody dat tinks its beauty, or moni or his or her own smartness, hmm d pesin shuld hav a rethink

dancok:
u like him abi tell me don't let them hear..*lower ur voice*

. Lol, smh. His line of thought, not him k?

palma:
@op let me come in as a married woman with 2 kids and over 4yrs of marriage. Trust me i am not perfect and to be candid strong headed. Kudos to my hubby for ever managing me. Do you believe that there are no perfect marriages out there? Do you know what you count has issues are not even some people will consider a problem. As much as i dont support some of the characters you listed especially the not cooking aspect, i will still implore you to be patient and just a little bit understanding. She might be stressed and frustrated. Is she working? Does she have any help? Do you help? In what aspect does she compare you to her dad? Are you caring enough? Are you the type of man that just laze about expecting the wife to do everything? Do you compliment her? Do you notice her? Do you ask after her well being from time time? Do you take her out? Are you proud of her? Do you discuss with her or see her as someone who cannot be your match intelligence wise? How do you talk to her? Any endearment words for her? Do you love her? Did you cheat on her?

Your wife might be unhappy and she will lash out when she cant take it anymore. Don't even call 3rd party into your issues it will make things worse, talk to her ask her why the change. If you can sleep with her to bring forth 2kids without external intervention, then get your acts together and solve without any intervention. Sometimes take the kids off her hands to give her a break. Dint ever reply her in an abusive manner. Hold her close, if you love her tell her. She needs to know you have her back.

See a real man will look for a way to put his life together, asking for help on a social network such as this might worsen an already bad situation because most people giving you advice are not married thus might not understand your situation. Please keep your marital troubles away from people because they will add more issues. If the situation is very bad and all else has failed after several attempts, then you can involve basically your wife's family, your family must be the last to know and before you wonder why its because when everything is settled it might not be settled in their own mind and your wife might forever not find favour in their sight.

Dear anguished op thats all i can say. May God be with you and your family,

. Nice one! I must say

gbadexy:
Its funny that most of those commenting and suggesting that the op and other man with similar experience weren't doing enough are males and probably singles too without authority to counsel. They just want likes from the females.
I know that even in business, hostel etc where people relate together, there are some easy to get along people and some are just trouble so I don't doubt it would be so in marriage too.

. True sha. Som pple are naturally difficult. I pity men dat aint mature/ strong enof o, cos I know d solution to a stubborn woman is a tougher/more mature man dat can handle her. Once a 'troubl som' woman is in d hands of d 'right' man, all dose her trouble go melt

DukeNija:
Bros abeg no vex o, is it your wife who doubles as life partner and mother of your children you are referring to with such disdain?
You seem to be a very angry person who feels he's doing a woman a favor by marrying her. I am not married, but I felt the urge to say I am very disappointed in your choice of words towards your wife. I take care of people who are not even related to me by blood, financially and otherwise and I never feel I'm doing them a favour, how much more my own family.

You sound like you were forced to marry her, like you didn't propose to this woman, didn't buy her an engagement ring and all that, like she was begging to become your wife. I went through your post and I couldn't even find what she did so wrong for you to hate her this much, even up to the point of contemplating divorce.

Using words like "putting her under my roof", "feeding her and our kids" "bitching about everything" is just too disrespectful to your wife and I'm afraid your marital challenges can be traced to your negative attitude towards your her. Please approach your marriage with a better countenance and see your wife as you see yourself by truly loving her and sincerely appreciating her contributions to your home. And yes you need to praise her for cooking, cleaning after you and your child, taking care of you and maintaining the home. Yes, you must praise her. Try telling her how much you appreciate her efforts and cooking, and how delicious her food is and see if she won't be overjoyed and do something special for you.
Women complain a lot, my mom, sisters, gf every woman I know can complain, it just doesn't make them bad people. That's just their way of communicating sometimes.

And pls if you are tired of putting her under your roof, u can send her to me. I have a very large flat with four rooms that can comfortably accommodate her. *Just kidding*

. When u see MEN u ll know, kudos jare.

alutacontinua:
You're apparently high on something cheap would be too honourable a word to describe.
Cow urine, maybe





You never meet correct father wey go deal with you and your whole entire being
Why would we call a man a man if he needs another man to handle his woman?
biko, coogar, I no fit argue this morning.....just wanted to tell you to check your 'angel dust', a laboratory test would reveal some urine of some sort (I'm sure of that)

. Y wuld we call a man a man if he needs anoda man to handle his woman''. ...I tink dis is a classic statement

Ately:
Dat her mama dream say.. I dea disturb dem for dream... Say I cum from a masqurade family










#can u imagine dat......

. Hahahahahaha

April07:
"She's my Bestie and I can't ever feel anything for her.." and I kept telling him he did.. he kept denying it..


They got married last month..

. Now my award goes to dis wan

taiwoti:
With my experience, ladies that prove hard and stubborn are the ones dat say it during sex, they won't even know when they say it, this is so funny, sme ladies saaaaaa.

. Wats so funi about it? @OP; here is d reason y ur grl doesn't say it

chinziaski:
Sometimes, its just the orientation of the girl. Some girls are emotionally uptight, they don't just find themselves saying sweet things to their partners. They do all the loving in their minds.

Sometimes, the love has gone cold. She doesn't feel that blood rush in her. So, she doesn't get emotional enough to say it.

Sometimes, it can be you. You don't always put her in that emotional position to say it. You even say it at the wrong time. When you say it at the wrong time, it will just be a duty for her to reply.

Sometimes, it is because she's not feeling the boy.


This love thing is getting boring, "I love you" is a statement, I don't know why it requires an answer.

. U get sense ghon

xrayz:
I think its a wise decision, to avoid epidemic CAF should reason wit dem oo,health first plz.

. True. Very wise & firm decision

chocmanne:
kai! bt i hear say William Shakespeare don die now..

. OMG! How did both of us hav d exact same thought

sparkymummy:
I think the first step is to talk to her about it. she might not even know op is feeling bad about it. Some people find it hard expressing their love verbally.

5likes

HARDDON:
have u ever really felt Love in ur life?

Have u ever been colasped into ur guy's warm embrace n for once felt protected from d scourging of dah sun?

Have u been so trampled , tossed n troubled by live's storms but a single Kiss from his lips seems to drawn all ur tears n soothe all ur aches?

Tell me, hv u really felt love b4?

wow, dis guy must be shakespare's son

niggi4life:
I KEEP TELLING THE YOUNGER ONES, WHEN YOU HAVE MONEY, EVERYTHING TAKES ITS PLACE.
NOW IS THE TIME TO HUSTLE HARD, IF NA BOOK U SABI READ, READ AM WELL, GET BETTER GRADES, IF NA MUSIC OR FOOTBALL, DO AM WELL..
WHEN YOU FINALLY ARRIVE, GIRLS WOULD CHASE YOU LIKE THE WAY EGRETS CHASE CATTLES.

. Its not about guys alone my dear, its how d world works generally, even in ur family, dey wuld u more wen u r somdodi & makin dem proud. Success attracts plenty followers. Ok y has Flavour being associated wit only beauty queens, popular ladies? Are dere no beautiful common, village grls again. Yet he always chooses girls who are not just pretty but also very popular & hav made a name. So dats d rule of d world. Dats y I also advise ladies , to strive, to be sombody too, cos its not all about beauty. Once u v made it, pple will swarm around u like bees

richardjemedafe1:
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A FOREIGN
POST AND A NAIJA POST ON A
THREAD.
UK PAGE....
Hello, my name is Stacy Garlic, I am
from Uk, I love my husband so
much and I can do Anything to please
him... But recently I am
falling for his younger brother, what should I do,
please advice?
COMMENTS:
*John Stick : I think u need to talk to
your husband because marriage
is all about communication.
*Thelma window: Oh my dear, sorry about
that.. I Have been in your
shoes before, I had to wake up and
face the fact that I am married.
*Mike Pepper: well just remove
your mind from him and make
your husband do the things you like in
his cousin.. good luck.
Justin freak: It is well, keep praying
about it.
NAIJA PAGE!
My name is perpetual ngozika obigelikamso, i stay in Lagos, i am
married with a kid, I think I
am falling for my husband's younger brother and
i need your advice. No
insults please.
COMMENTS:
* Ada Ameh [adasexy]: first to comment.
*Dayo muyiwa [dhayominho]: Fool, yo papa no give u home training? Ewu!
*Nkiru joy [nki_lahot_la] : You are a disgrace to
womanhood.. shame on u
*Idris kunle [idris_d_starboy]: Any news about ASUU
strike?
*Toheeb sule [weezy.t]: If u want to fall for me
too, call my on 0708312455
*Funmi Leye [minajtohbad]: I no blame u at all,
better go find something do with
your life, fall koor, stand nii mtcheww
*Richard oke [davidoh]: Abeg who get bb
charger here (pin mouth)
*Amaka Achebe [ada4real] : Ur a prostitute, u
need deliverance !
*Tony Dike [largedeeck] : any sugar mummy in the house? Add me up.
* Samuel byki [ceeSLEEK]: why seun go put this rubbish for front page! Mtshew jus passing.
* Tayo owode [teezypro]: omg! I'm on front page!
* Stella Nkechi [kechibusty]: * [space for sale]
True or false?

. Hahaha, very true

Afam4eva:
Some people can't read. They did not place a travel ban on Nigeria rather passengers from Nigeria are required to submit a recent medical test to ascertain that they do nt have the virus. It's a step in the right direction.

. Its u dat prolly can't read. Go & re read d first paragraph

ZACHIE:
Na by force to sound educated?
genre ko
specie ni.

olodo rabata

. Hahahahahaha, NLanders no go kee pesin

sammyzacks:
When you give to someone in need, don't do as the hypocrites do--blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth, they have received all the reward they will ever get. Mathew 6:2

. Gbam! U v said it all

HARDDON:
Vic wor? Sorry to disappoint u.
A lion does not turn a puccupine at the flip of d coin. If every guy was like yours truly, men would eat at the very exalted tables they were fashioned for n not scrub scraps ...

Let's say I'm a voice of correction to these whack guys that don't know that not for naughts were they born .
N to C snubs like u who think d sun shines out of ur bu77s , try something more challenging like having Kul people who u can hv intellectual talks with n r challenging, not having 500bbm contacts yet none got brains.

"No disrespect buh I killa queen !"






Btw, how twisted can u get? Advertizing ur pin on ur signature so u can hv more recharge card clients? N when they don't send, u turn blind eyes to their pings ?

. Hmm u rilly sound pained. Take a chill pill dude, stop takin life too seriously. Whether u like it or not guys will be snubbed, same way som grls will be snubbed too, dats life. But if u r confident, it won't 'pain' u soo much, u just forge ahead to d next person dat might like u. Even wit all d moni in d world, not every grl will like u, same way not every guy will like u even wit all d beauty in d world. Dats it. U win som , u loose some. U don't hav 2 look @ it as if its 'us against d grls' or somtin.

aigjoey:
You are a big fool for questioning the school's action. the rules were clearly stated . no phone. no piecing of any kind.... and now they have been suspended u are crying woves. mind u the school can suspend a defaulter anytime.. I am a product of a public school were two days to exams students are suspended if found guilty... go busy urself pls and making storm out of a tea cup. I hate u

. Lmfao @d 'I hate u'. U r kiddin right?

kuuljay:
There is nothing wrong with it if properly punctuated.infact it can even be used in formal writing if properly punctuated

true

gistsky:
We speak alot of wrong english in Nigeria, for exampl, at d eastern part of d country toward d south, u hear ppl sayin "i can be able, we can be able", even their teachers, pastors, etc. Hw can u use can and able at d sametime when they mean d same thin?

. Another example: at d western part of d country towds d south too, u hear pple pronounce; 'post office' as 'post oviz', 'hear' as 'ear' , 'protein' as 'pro-taane', 'issue' as 'izhiew' & dis is if u r lucky to meet dose dat can actually speak anoda language besides their mother toungue. This happens even amongst their learned , I don't knw y

alexis007:
...c as our small talk don take involve omotola and nollywood.......back 2 d topic...did you really collabo with this chick in inventing dis topic...if yes,den i think the source of your topic is either Nigerian movies[as you've already implied in d comment above]...or real-life experience[i still think some guy with a polygamous mindset who you unfortunately kols 'father' kept ur mum as his concubine]...

. Funi, but I honestly 4got to laff . I promise I will nxt time #scoffs#

lynpetra:
Well,you can cheat,no be today i know the nature of men.+f you elevate my status,,no problem if we marry.But if we arent married,problem dey small ooh.I dont like putting my eggs in same basket know say temptation no get gende.No vex if you see me with another guy,remember say you sef dey blow,no complain,and dont give me that stern look.Remember,IT IS NOT YOUR PURRY!!!Just pretend as if you didnt see me,i just might at that moment be sitting with someone who means lot to me.Dont smile,dont wink,dont send a text to tease,dont congratulat.i will see you later....wait.....we shall fix a date for us.

. U funny die

Abee79:
**This, right here is exactly why I don't want to complicate my life. Thank you #teammainchick4ever&ever!

. Hmm insted of u to say 'team only chick' u r sayin 'main chick'. Main chicks even suffer more dan side chicks cos emotions & commitments are involved, whereas d side chick doesn't give a hoot, she just wants d moni & off she goes 2 her main(or only) dude. But d so called main chick will be there sufferin hrtbreak cos of her guy's escapes wit side chicks. God forbid bad thin

alexis007:
...side chick ko...front chicken ni.....op,to whom did dis crap u wrote addressed to?.....are u actually talking from experience.....in the relationship ur mum have with ur dad[don't tell me she's his wife bcus i don't believe you].....is she 'side mirror'...sorry side chick?.......does she live in a seperate house where your dad comes in to bleep her and goes home to his true wife after the deed is done?....answering all these incisive questions might cause you a 1st-class migraine....but check it out....you deserve no better after opening this useless thread...

are u so d.umb & d.ull dat u can't get d message dat D OP is passin? Wen u watch home videos & u see Omotola go to juju & stuff, does it mean she does it in real life? No! She's only tryna tell dose dat do it d consequences involved