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onstelly:
Hahahaha I love the part where the Op said if u get promoted to the main chick position, just know someone will fill in ur own position.

. Lmao @dat, yet smh..

vicchi12:
Rules to being a side chick..

1. You are the other woman. This does not mean that you are the only other woman. Act accordingly.

2.
Please focus on the stolen moments that we spend together. Do not
concern yourself with my whereabouts when we are apart. Frankly
speaking, my life outside of our time together is not your concern.

3.
Be comfortable with who you are to me; do not mention my wife and/or
main woman, as she is not your concern. Do NOT compare yourself to my
main chick in any way and do not attempt to contact her -- to do so
would be a breach of our agreement.

4. Anticipate frequent changes in our plans; for the most part, a spur of the moment escape is the best that I can do.

5.
You must understand that maintaining a positive vibe while we are in
each other's company is vital to the success of our situationship. No
bickering or nagging about promises that I didn't keep.

6. We are
secret lovers; we can't blast our situationship to the world. Please
don't tag me on Facebook, and don't send me invitations to your
work/family functions or events. Major holidays -- more likely than not
-- will be missed.

7. No discussions about "where this situationship is headed." We are where we will be; together, in this moment. Enjoy it.

8.
Yes, I am still sleeping with my significant other, and we do not use
condoms. Again, focus on our time together, and not what I do while we
are apart.

9. I am not interested in bringing a child into our
situationship. By the way, an unplanned pregnancy will not force a
relationship commitment of any kind from me nor will it guarantee a
promotion to main chick status for you.

10. There are no
guarantees about the outcome of our situationship save one: I am a
cheater at heart, and that won't change unless I want it to. Until that
happens, if you are promoted to the main chick, please know that yet
another sidepiece will fill the vacancy that you've left behind.

And
one last piece of advice that my friend wants sidepieces to know: If
you choose to enter into a situationship with someone do not get
emotionally attached, as things won't be easy for you if and when you
separate.

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5541789

. As derogatory as dis post sounds, I won't deny d fact dat whomever composed dis (originally) is highly intelligent. Lmao@ 'situationship'. May dis never be any decent woman's portion IJN Amen

slap1:
If you still love her, give her a chance. If not, don't look back, not even out of pity!

Don't complain that she's been used; it makes no sense, unless you swore by Amadioha to date only virgins (and haven't touched any woman since then). Don't follow random advice, follow your heart.

However I think your post suggests you're still hurt by the past. Like I said, accept her if you truly love her. If not, BOUNCE!

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JuicyGee:
Wait first o.. all these dudes saying friendzone friendzone, so you guys mean you cant keep female frnds without being either her bf or bed warmer. Smh ..

. No, ordinary frend & 'frend-zoned frend' are 2 different thins entirely

tenovaten:
sleeping with a woman inform of payback does not make you a man, infact resisting her is what make you one!!!

. Very true

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

. Exactly my point!

@OP, d grl u r datin now or d grl u will even marry , u tink say oda guys never still knack d kpekus (as u pple wuld say) abi? & u nko 4dose past 5yrs havnt grls been knackin u too? D truth is dat mayb u never rilly loved her in d frst place

brainpower:
Nigerians can abuse English language for state. Everywhere "hater". No more criticisms in this world. I wonder if that word is in the dictionary for thesame meanings we put to it. If those people were haters, is google also a "hater"? Many of us don't know how much she would have lost in law suit if things went to court. Don't ever pray for someone to feed off your sweat while you eat crumbs. Runtown used to write songs for davido until he discovered that he wasn't getting anything from it. Now see where he is. I'm not "hating" cos I visit her site too. But if she's guilty so be it. I. Like her and I think she's hardworking. Will you also call those that are richer than her and yet do not like her "haters"? Example is wizkid and olamide. If she actually did what she was accused of and which google confirmed then its plagiarism or stealing and we know what those that steal are called.

. U don't just condemn ppl based on 'ifs'. She's innocent until legally proven guilty. So those being called 'haters' are those condemnin & spoilin her name witout any proof of her being actually guilty. Yea we know wat those dat steal are called, but will u be happy if you urself see ur name all over d news/net, people callin u thief & all sorts of thins, while in d actual sense u r innocent of d accusations? PS: so u tink rich pple cannot hate too? Pls wake up!

Acidosis:
You are a big f00l! We have different definitions to the word "succesful"

...and yes! My mom got herJob after getting married to my Dad. Tell us about your mom f00l!

You mentioned names as if you know the roles they played in their youthful years. 'Who see' Chiamanda or whatever u call her will assumed she never slept with any man in her life. Quit talking rubbish


Let them speak! They should come and tell us their stories.

Mind u, I never said ALL women are involved in this business.

. See how agitated u are cos dey mentioned ur mum, but here u are mentioning oda peoples' mums/sisters/daughters. My dear from ur earlier statements we hav to decipher that its either ur mum is unsuccessful or she is successful wit strings of bedmates. Dats it! U can't swallow ur words now, sori!

thandii1:
And models are you own standard for successful women? Did okonjo, late dora, adedavoh, mo'abudu, rita dominic, maupe ogun, omotola, chimamanda, chidinma, the female consultants, engineers, lawyers and a host of them in the corporate world also use their bodies to succeed. Did your own mum(if successful anyway) sleep her way to wherever she is? You are so myopic and shallow and it baffles me that you take pride in it. Were you there when alakija was sleeping her way to the top. Hypocritical christian! Sit in that poverty corner of your and keep yapping thrash about successful women.

. My dear eh? I feel like giving dat d.unce a dirty slap

Acidosis:
Lol

Keep deceiving yourself

Have you ever heard/seen a situation where male students sleep with female Leturers for grades?

You guys just love deceiving yourselves. Nigerian men (MOST) can hardly render any meaningful help to a woman without an ROI.

Your insult is so lame. Come up with something better

. Can u see how u r spewing ur ignorance , stupidity & low IQ all over d thread? Ur comments are even DEGRADING men! U said 'hav u ever seen male students sleeping wit female lecturers for grades' NO. Dats because most female lecturers won't stoop so low as to sleep with students. But d male lecturers many atimes go ahead to threaten female students with multiple carryovers if dey don't agree to sleep with dem. Dey don't even mind sleepin with girls yung enof to be their granddaughters. Now secondly u said , 'most men hardly render any useful help to women witout requestin 4 sx'. Now wit dese above statements of urs aint u indirectly saying dat men are more or else shameless animals? Please u pple shuld leav all dese women dat toiled to make names 4 demselves & find ways to deal with ur disgu.stin libidos

Adyrin:
Pls don't mind dat unfortunate son of a leprous beast!

Hi haters, keep hating

. Dis insult no get part2, u can imagine wen a beast becomes a leper, smh.

Nigerian men being threatened by successful women since d year 1700

Joavid:
Smh. I cannot believe all this is coming from you.
I see that Nigerian men will forever be jealous and intimidated by successful women and thereby cook up all kinds of stories to dent their image.

All of a sudden Alakija slept with a lot of politicians for her oil blocs and linda ikeji blog was shut down by google because she was sleeping around?

And you have no idea how insulting it is to refer to a woman by her private part. Wtf is "three fresh punnanies"?
Don't you have some kind of respect?
Do you have women in your family??

Smh!

. Don't mind dat d.ullard

booket:
qualities of a real woman from a home,well said.

. Thanx

I feel so sorry & sad for Ini. Such a humble innocent girl wen she acted 'worlds apart'. I know its because she didn't conceive dats y d inlaws are all against her. I pray she repents (if she's bad) & find a man who will love & her , & whom she will bear plenty children with, Amen

Atmmachine:
Tell the husband to swear he never fork any girl after he married Ini-edo.
Na Ogun go kill am

. Exactly

ad84ada:
I bet you. It will feel more confortable when a child sees his/her dads babe than his/her mums guy. Women are mothers and mothers are honourable. Think about this. Even sex happens inside the woman. Haba.

. What a useless excuse!

axortedbabe:
That her ex sef wey kip dat him ugly oily face lyk back of black pot wey dem pour groundnut oil..mtcheew

. Am tellin u. Dere's somtin not quite right about dat Philip guy

Sweetlemon:
I agree with you. The government needs to do something about it for the sake of those who see no need for more than one ceremony. There is really a need for documents.

What motivated me to start this thread is a lady I know of currently crying her heart out right now. Her then struggling bf only did traditional wedding and postponed the white till further notice giving the excuse of finance. She moved into his house, only too happy to get a hubby just before clocking 30. The guy got an offer abroad but because they weren't legally married, he couldn't take her along. All advise that she should tell the guy to do court wedding of nothing more than 40k fell on deaf ears (court payments plus small refreshment for like 5 witnesses). She was hopeful that he will come back to do the white/court wedding at "his own pace" . Ok nau, the guy left. Little by little, he stopped calling her.

Then all of a sudden, she heard he was in town........ for his wedding! When her family confronted him, he said he was married to her traditionally and he was allowed to have as many wives as he wished under tradition she was given a choice to accept it or leave. Meanwhile he did white wedding with his second wife o! They signed documents. They have both since gone back abroad leaving his first wife high and dry without the dignity of any proceeding. As in it was like an ordinary unceremonious break-up btw a boyfriend and girlfriend. God forbid!

. God forbid really. Wat a pathetic case. Girls be wise

Suarezilla:
D guy dat barely talks...he just sits there with intense concentration and wud never say a word to anyone **oga r u dumb?**

. Hahahaha, so na dese kine thins una de see? Na wa o

Tallesty1:
You didn't include the Giraffe Guy.

He is tall like a tower.

Comes when the hall is almost full.

Finds his way to your front.

Sits and blocks you completely.

And you end up watching his head instead of the game.

. Hahahahahaha

donpeey22:
Then let single ladies start making their own excuses instead of blaming an innocent Nigerian society. It annoys me when I
hear some ladies say that the Nigerian society is
"forcing" them into marriage, when the truth is that women of all races since time immemorial, crave men as if they can never exist without being married to a man.

. U r talkin rubbish, can u compare d societal pressure a 32yr old singl man goes thru 2d pressure a 32yr old singl woman goes thru. Chidi Mokeme got married @40, yet everyone was still seein him as a yung lad, but as 4d likes of Funke Akindele, Genevive, Rita D, Princess d comedian etc who are not even up to 40, yet d society always makes mockery of dem as old maids. I once read one sacarstic comedy refferrin to Geneviv givin tips on how to get married, som ppl even go as far callin her 'ever singl' & lots of derogatory statements. & u r here saying d society no de put pressure? Abeg go siddon.

Chai! Wat a funny thread, lmao

daveemuobo post=/post/26807706:
As You hinted, you have no business using a tablet @op.don't speak for others.
if you say such in my class/hospital, you'll be seen as those who bought because others did.

ur case is different. Medical students wuld probably need it to get a clearer view of body anatomy & oda videos for learnin. But d OP is talkin of d average person here. Not cases of special needs, like class tutorials

rozzay post=/post/26814997:
Too many hypocrites here. Cococandy thumbs up gf, the topic clearly stated single pips includes man nd woman, yet wat we r seeing is gal sleeps with married man, wateva happened to boys or guys sleeping with married women. MtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeEeeeeeeeeeeeeew! Everything bad sseem to be caused by women.
*unfollows thread*

don't mind dem

cococandy post=/post/26814974:
This stew go sweet well well.

Well I was quite young then. I thought she would understand. I never experience nigerian women in their full glory at that time. I for just ignore the first message sef.

I didn't collect stuff from him because I hadn't even said yes to date him. Collecting would have been agreement na. I just found out I didn't like him enough to date him after the first few meetings.

Who answers Boniface in this time and age?the name was a turn off in itself.

. Dis poster get sense fa

cococandy post=/post/26814670:
I don talk my own.


In summary:

If a man cheats he's looking for something his wife doesn't give him at home.

If the wife cheats. Erm why should she go look for something her husband doesn't give her? Why didn't she just endure it for better for worse.

If the single person is a girl,she's the blame for seducing the man.
If the single person is a man he has no blame. The woman who slept with him is to blame.

Your opinion is duly noted .

. Its really a man's world. Everythin seems to be d woman's fault, whether single or married. Its pathetic how our society views thins, so unfair.

cococandy post=/post/26814021:
Story time...

When I was in school there was this man I met at friend's wedding. Mr B.
He started asking me out seriously and trying his best to drive down from ph to owerri to come and pay me surprise visits at school.

Many of my hostel mates then knew him because he would come without informing me and if I wasn't around,he would wait outside the gate until I come back. Sometimes he would go if I came back late and then my friends would tell me ''that man been come again o. Ha''

One day he opened up and told me his pastor saw my picture on his phone and told him I was the one God revealed to him as his (Mr B's) wife.
Kept putting pressure on me to give him my parents' contact so that he'll make his 'noble' intentions known to them.
All that 'apparent' seriousness was to make me feel his a good guy with good intentions and make relax around him enough to open my legs.

As an asideI've even heard of guys going as far as introductory marriage rights to get into the pants of a very strict principled lady and disappear once their mission is accomplished. So don't think every single girl dating a married man knows he's married)

Continues..

Until one evening I received a message 'leave my husband alone. Go and find your own. Husband snatcher # **unprintable names**'

I was surprised no be small. So I called the number and confirmed truly that that was his wife. Mr B would travel all the way from ph to owerri to woo me and form Mr romantic while denying his wife at home.

The sad thing was that after trying to convince madam B that I didn't have anything to do with her husband like she thought and didn't even know he was married,she still saw me as the enemy while ignoring the fact that the onus of protecting their marriage rested on both of them and not me the single girl outside.

Well I tried to make her see that I was on her side but she was blinded by stupidity.

Kept saying she knew how her husband uses ladies and dumps them that it would soon be by turn to be dumped and her loving husband would soon go back to her.
That I should not think I've won as I'll be dumped like a piece of rag and he'll be with her the madam(main chick )
................................................................

That's the mindset some women have when their husbands cheat on them. It's always the fault of the girl outside. She seduced him. She charmed him. She did this or did that. Forgetting that the man made the first move of betraying his marriage by looking outside to start with. A man who's determined to cheat will cheat. Even if all the single girls outide reject his advances he'll do it with a married woman. The cheater is the only constant in that equation. He's the one that needs to be changed if a different result is desired.

I'm not saying this because I think women don't cheat. I'm saying it because it is women who are more unrealistic when cheated on.
That's what I like about men sha. Cheat on him and he sees the problem which is you.
But cheat on some women and they'll leave their problem(the man) and face the girl outside.

. 1billion likes

BananaBender post=/post/26810334:
Why should we say 'NO' to married people?

Do I know his spouse? 'She be my family member?' 'She be my friend?'

Why should I deny myself something so as to do a total stranger a favor.

I don't even know if the stranger is a nice person. I don't know if she demands that her house-helps sleep on the kitchen floor.

Am I mother Mary? Did I take a vow with you?

Abeg, married people should face their spouse. Leave us alone.

.

Kamsified post=/post/26827447:
N.B pls While we celebrate, remember to pray for Rich4god as today is his day to prayed for.
For those of you who missed the announcement, hear this again:
In the spirit of October devotion, the house has decided that we will be praying for one another for the rest of the month. So if you haven't done so, please indicate a date you want the house to pray for you. Salc will update us each day who and who is being prayed for. On that day, make out time offline to Pray for whoever it's their turn. If u also wish, you can drop a prayer for them on the thread here. On some days we expect to have more than one person to be prayed for since we're more than 31 in the house.
May God help us all as we pray for another and may he,through the intercession of our holy mother, grant all that our heart desires according to his will.
And very importantly, May none of us on this thread miss heaven.We ask these through Christ our lord. Amen

Dominus Vobiscum
Let the party begin!!!!!!!!!!!!

. Amen

Ngwakwe: Though you case is forgiveable because your opinion was based on obfuscation of facts by contributors on the said thread

I suppose its Obiagelli's signature thread assuming my memory kept track of the debate.

www.nairaland.com/1851308/gejs-incompetence-kill-us-all

u sabi speak English o