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Pinoralia:
Pls Note:

I no longer share any PTE preparatory material with anyone.

Why?
It is some people's business. Why wreck one man's business because I am trying to help the other one?

Dont bother to offer me money. I am not into PTE business. Some people sent me mail asking how much I sell the preparatory materials. I was given for FREE by someone and it was really helpful. That's why I intend sharing it with people too but I no longer do that.

I can only help with registration since paying with Nigerian bank debit card has been issue for a while. I had the same problem when I was about to register for my PTE in 2016. That's why I am eager to help out.

No offense, please.

People are depressed.We need psycologist to help us out.There should be proper sensitisation.We are loosing vibrant people in this country.

Even if i was hurt,i will never wish evil like this.Tonto is becoming so bitter.I dislike everything she is doing of recent.

sacluxisback:
she was seriously hurt in the last relationship

Why are twisting the truth.Both are the same.They don't have any certificate to show.

NOC1:
Forgery and alleged no certificate is a different thing. PDP has never said Buhari forged his certificate rather they keep on saying he has none.
He might have a certificate but it is forged.

Yeah she is deprressed.She needs to calm down,forgive and move on

majamajic:
I love Tonto,

I think she is depressed now, someone close should help her.

weed ,. weed

Guy,i am not referring to Tonto.I was quoting someone.

donbenie:
Which relationship are you talking about?

A marriage that ended ages ago,abi na another one?

HATRED is not the opposite of LOVE,

INDIFFERENCE IS..

This B1TCH is still OBSESSED with her EX..

God forbid! Not my portion

Go girl! There is dignity in labour.

Tonto should stop!

If this is true,this culprit should be ready to loose freedom forever.This a serious crime.God forbid.

Lol.If i can't air my view in any relationship,then am definitely not at peace there.I don't appreciate pretence.Although,there is a thin line between saying what's on your mind and speaking with respect to someone about your displeasure.Make a change where necessary.

SEONaijaExpert:
Very uncourteous stupid girl.

This one is an example of a girl a man should never pray to marry.

If a girl is all nice to you and it's looking kinda way too much, better run, it's a trap for you to marry her and later show her inner demon that will finally frustrate your life.


This Tonto Dike is an example of a prayer point for men to pray against

Thank you for this.He is reading all you guys have to say.Am learning too!

Richy4:
I am glad you came to Nairaland...and that you have the child's welfare at heart... But as far as advising people based on relationship goes, please stop doing it.

The fact that he physically abused the lady those days... or that she was insecure over language barrier... was that even remotely a yardstick for marriage? And to become a happy family as u stated...

Kama got nothing to do with individuals who are not compatible and decided to split..... Assuming he promised to marry her.. and when she got her pregnant, asked her for abortion and she did and he went and got married to someone else then we will be talking about kama...

All u got to tell ur collegue was to seek for custody right of the child and his warfare... if he looses the custody in court, he can still step up as the dad and provide for him

Assuming your colleague was in a serious relationship, invested maybe 4 or 3 years into that relationship.. would you have advised him to leave that and go and pay dowry on the other lady because he had a child with him?
please in this day and age when a child is involved, it is not compulsory the individuals involved must marry Biko..

The truth is that i fear for the child's future.I don't want him to stay with the mother in that environment and turn out to become a cultist,a thief,and all sort of nuisance to the society.

Juliearth:
Do you sleep well at night knowing that your child is with another family and probably her well-being is below par?

bukatyne:
This is funny.

From the OP, the family of the girl wronged the guy and should be the one to make amends.

Am not blaming anyone.I just don't appreciate the extortion.He has been taking care of this child.Let's not keep draging because all played a part.The mental health of this child is what i care about.What is your opinion as regards this child?

He used to beat her then.She doesn't understand their language.He was first adviced by his people but he declined.That was why i got confused as to how to help him with a better win win advice.

JasonScoolari:
Dear Sweetilicious,
Never you give him that wrong advice to go and pay the dowry of a "run away" mother who denied her baby the nutritious breast milk meant exclusively for the kid.

To the young man, you were not prepared to becoming a father five years ago, you allowed your big prick and the pleasure of sex mess with your brain and made you forget to pull out when it was 2 seconds, I won't blame you that much though, you were really deep inside the pussy and shiit happens.

Now, what your silly baby mama did was kidnap and her parents trying to extort from you in order to see your boy is called blackmailing.

I will advise you to involve the police on your next visit to Bayelsa and charge them for this gross stupidity. They were no where to be found when your mom and your sister took care of the little boy, and now, they spring out from their canoe house to snatch the boy away and trying to reap where they did not sow.

Involve the police and press charges against them. "If pant wan tear, my broda, make E tear finish" Nor reason anybody face.

This is my "Wrong Advice"

I believe you.I couldn't judge the lady because my colleague admitted to always beating the girl then.Meanwhile,the girl was insecure because her family rejected her at first coupled with the fact that she doesn't understand the guys's language.She always felt threatened each time the guy's family spoke in Igbo. If you want to be fair in judgement,find out the remote cause so as to solve the problem amicably.The most important thing to me now is the welfare and sanity of the child.It is his basic right.As well,i don't want my collegue to make a mistake that awaits karma.We are always quick to forget how we treated people,but always quick to condemn them when they leave.Life keeps record of everything we do.

PaulAris:
Sweetilicious (whoosh! what a name),
In matters of Family, one as to think deeply and well before making a decision
Outline the benefits and the not
The pros and cons
The advantages and dis-
The history and predicting of the future.
But no matter what decision he decides to take or the advice he decides listen to, he shouldn't marry her so no paying of any dowry crap or whatever
Better not to go ahead with the wedding than to have a nonsense and broken marriage, you would agree.
Now from your lil' writeup, it happened to be the woman is only good at causing negatives;
Abandoned the Child for multiple years
Came, took the Child without the consent of the Father
Asking for fees to settle hospital bills. I mean if she and her household can't pay hospital bills, then why did she come and carry him, just so she can use him to get money!

Signs are clear already, does he need to see rainbow or fireworks before he knows whats up?
...
Guys, this is one of the benefits of not using a Condom!
So ride on!!

Fam,my colleague got a girl pregnant 5 years ago and had a son.The mother left after having the child.He kept the child and took care of him with the help of his mother and siblings.I won't judge the mother because i don't know her story too.He has always been advised to go pay dowry to the girl's parents but he didn't adhere.The shocking part was that the mother of the boy came visiting and was welcomed.Surprisingly,she ran away with the child to Bayelsa which happened to be her homeland.My colleague thought the child was kidnapped and made entry on a missing person to the police station.This affected his mood and work output.He had to take casual leave so as to go look for the child.Luckily,the child was seen in Bayelsa the mother's place.Now he is complaining of extortion from the girl's parents as they stated that his son was sick and that he had to pay for his hospital bills before he could set eyes on him. I was contemplating telling him to pay her dowry and have a united family but i don't understand the extortion nor when it will come to an end.I see it as a wicked manipulation. He took responsibility for the child as the dad for 5 years,why are they not seeing it? I only blamed him for not contacting the girl's family for this long.What do you suggest to him.I lack wisdom for this one cos it involves customs,law and equity.I will link him up to read your comments.We are waiting!

OP,In as much as we are solely responsible for our happiness.I think it is disrespecting to rub it on your partner's face.Making your partner happy does not entail you becoming a comedian or an entertainer for them.You don't need to be coached on how to live peacefully with your significant other.

Thank you.I will go with you.

Michelle55:
Marry when you can afford to be married.. Don't let your parents push you into something you can't finish or end up regretting.
Dem no dey catch latecomer for marriage matter

Somebody should please get her a reputable job. It will help change her mindset.

I will use this page to speak to my younger brother who just got admitted.He needs proper guidance.

For 3 years I have never taken alcohol.

Cletus77:
Understand feminism first before spilling

If it is right for a man to cheat because he is a man, it is also right for a woman to cheat because she is a woman

It's not good for any of them.It ruins beautiful things

Techengine:
My friend Bnimz has always wanted me to leave Nigeria/Africa since he was in the UK but I didn’t take him seriously until sometimes in August 2017 when he told me that he’s now a permanent residence in Aussie. My brain opened immediately. He gave me options of studies, Canada and Australia and because I was desperate to leave, I started working on all the options.
My first Ielts (LRSW 8,8,7.5,6.5) was in September 2017. I did Academis because I thought I could use it for the three options but the result could only work for school. I got engaged the same month and dropped the idea of school because I was not ready to leave my babe behind.
I worked on my CDR and paid for Engineer Australia Assessment (Fast Track) with materials and guidance from Bnimz and my babe as proofreader in November 2017. I did my best on the CDR and was expecting a direct positive assessment. Also with counsel from Bnimz, I paid for PTE and was preparing. I got late to the exam hall for my first PTE and was not allowed to take the test. 52k wasted. I almost wet my trouser with wee wee. I gathered another 52k and paid for another PTE the following week. The result was terrible. The same week I got the result, I was contacted by my CO from EA and he requested for two additional CDRs. I literarily gave up at that time. Nothing seems to be working.
I gathered courage again in January and decided to prepare for IELTS because it appeared simpler to me. I wrote 2 more CDRs and submitted (not expecting anything good). I got positive assessment from EA on lovers day 14th February 2018. It rekindled my hope again in Australia but I was more focused on Canada.
My second IELTS was in April 2018 (this one pain me enhh). I had LRSW 8.5, 8.5, 8, 6.5. I almost ran mad. I was never good at English, especially writing but I thought I prepared well. I was sure my marked would increase so I sharply requested for remark (na IDP so it cost 45k). Painfully dem chop my 45k laidat. I cried liked David of the bible and encouraged myself in the Lord. I registered for another IELTS immediately and got May 12.
I need a new paragraph for this story… I didn’t mention all along that I’m working in Ghana and have to travel to Nigeria by road (as I no get money for flight nko) to take all of those exams. IDP did not fix date for my speaking until less that 24 hours before the test and I was in Ghana. I had to beg my boss and colleague to cover for me and travel that very night (night bus). I got to Ikeja around 11am or so and was given just 10 minutes to rest before going in for my test. I sha did the speaking test with a very tired voice and forced smile. Shebi it remain LRW laidat. It was May 12 and it was a bad day devil drink water (Yoruba people will understand). I got to the exam hall as early as 7am and the exam didn’t start till about 10:30am. Meanwhile I spent most of the time standing on queue. I was already tired when I entered the exam hall. We couldn’t start with listening because their speaker no dey work properly. They sha forced us to start with reading after which we did writing because the speaker was not ready. About 12pm when we wanted to do listening finally, rain started falling so we had to wait for rain to stop. No food lataaro, everyone was tired and agitated. In fact a pregnant woman passed out while we were waiting and was rushed to the hospital. We sha later did the rubbish listening like that and I was sure I wont get up to 8 because the speaker still didn’t work properly. I cried at Ojota bus stop that night because I thought I’ve wasted another 68k. But the miracle working God I served stepped in and helped me. I had LRSW 7.5, 9, 8.5, 7. Ni 10 point ba pe.
I didn’t know much about 489 so I begged for help on nairaland and god sent an angel, IFUNNAYA. She introduced me to this wonderful group. Spongbob was beyond helpful. He gave me all the things I needed to apply and encouraged me all the way. I applied on 11th of June. I quickly organized a small registry wedding with my babe on 5th of July and was nominated on 23rd of July. Lodged visa on 15th august and medicals 20th August. With prayers and a lot of prayers, We got direct grant yesterday 7th August 2018 and IED is 20th August 2019.
I hope my story will help/inspire someone. PLEASE DON’T GIVE UP. If I could do it, YOU, yes you too can do it

Can I contact you?

TryingHard:
Well bro I think the only thing this girl love about me is my look and prolly good sex too cos The only good she used to say about mw is you're too cute, our kids would love very cute blah blah and she went ahead to date an ugly guy with a nice ride lol

Time heals as the above advised.Lol nice ride? who stays with a man because of car? People are looking for something meaningful and original.Look I dated someone whom I loved deeply,I gave my all,I was so dreaming of the future with him.Unfortunately, I didn't know we weren't thinking alike.Op,take your time and search the more.Involve God to help enlighten you on a good partner.Know that you cannot do it alone.

mmadu5:
acting weird, nagging and lying to me when I am having financial problem. I STOP READING FROM HERE

Exactly

I concur.Respect your husband,give him peace,speak to him with humility,and if you are lucky he is honourable,he will support anything you so desire.He will be your cheerleader.People will claim you used juju on him but it's just simply logic you applied.

Man pikin go just dey go marry impending trouble put for house.People should carefully examine the mental capacity of the person they intend to marry o.

WestAfrican:
I don't want to feed wrong information. In the past it was possible for schools to waive you of English exam cum SOA and you still get your visa. Things have changed with the new govt.

Your case officer may still request for IElts/PTE and or SOA if they perceive you as a non-genuine temporary entrant. So its best you get those documents handy.

Key Australian student visa requirements:

Genuine Temporary Entrant (GTE) requirement
Financial requirements
English proficiency requirements
Health and character requirements

So handy.Thanks