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But how come the same energy cannot be applied to the issue of terrorism and organized banditry and kidnapping. In only Benue state and Plateau only this week how many people have being killed and properties destroyed. Ransom is now a steady cash out, monies that even my professor in school has never seen, illiterate boys in the bush are flexing. One Nigeria is more important than the lives of Nigerians. I lost the respect I used to have for the DSS in this administration. Police work is what they are now doing

Even though, I don't support the guys action, I can relate. In naija, a girl expects you to buy grifts for her to show that you're really interested in her or care about her. But you see, some broke girls might know that they are not attracted to the guy but will receive his gifts anyway. Women are funny creatures, if she doesn't like you no matter what you do for her it counts as nothing, but if she likes you even if you give her little or nothing she will be yours to manipulate. All her nasty attitude, scheming and lies is for the guy she doesn't truly like, he is just a toy to be used. So if a girl is not naturally attracted to you, just run away. They usually learn their mistakes in the privacy of their regrets, when she finds out that the one she didn't like was real and the one she really liked was just using her. The score is now 2 zero.

I am 29, and still single. This thread and so many others on this forum have given me correct food for thought. Haaaa, I never imagined that living with a woman can be this contentious and nerve-racking. Baba Bleep love, na reason person suppose reason his life. I can't suffer from childhood as a street boy from a humble family, to escape poverty na like fighting of ancestral spirits only to land in a bad marriage. Ha, na wa oh, when person wan rest eh, when life wan sweet for African man eh. Wahala everywhere, economy na wahala, the country na insecurity fill am, then wife/marriage again wey suppose dey bring joy, na another big wahala be that. Abeg, I am not a man to shy away from his responsibilities, but no woman should think that she can maltreat me and cause emotional havoc and mental disturbance to me and think I go just dey there like MUMU. Wetin my eyes don see for streets no here, I'm already hardened. I no fit count boys wey don die or dey prison, so if na to commot from a toxic marriage that one no be problem. We are going to die at some point, na to enjoy life be the koko. I don't know when this gender war started, or what it is about marriage that brings out the worst in some humans. If you're single, you feel as if you're missing out, haaaa, then married men will be telling you abobi dey where you dey and enjoy your single life. Catch 22. We africans value marriage to much that many people expect you to take whatever bullshit thrown at you just to maintain marriage and avoid divorce. I have intentions of engaging my girlfriend, but the thing dey fear me. Make e no be say the way she is behaving now na scam, after she don become my madam na to start to dey show me pepper. God abeg, I don stress too much for this naija, make I no marry bad woman abeg.

So much has been said on this thread already. My take is this, op personal experience and his list of advice have their merits and demerits and as usual everybody will interpret them to a tune of their own beliefs and standards. Some people are blaming the op for the crash, saying he is not man enough, but the thing is this everybody is not the same. Some people can tolerate all manner of nuisance in the name of marriage or love, but some people can't. Of course there are men who are irresponsible, but people don't do things nowadays because it's expected of them. No man wants to spend his money anymore on someone who takes him for granted in the name of marriage or love. Which girl wants to keep being with a man who beats her to coma all the time in the name of marriage or love. The more freedom we have acquired has made us less tolerant of the things that doesn't suit us. If you want to make your marriage or relationship work you have to give your partner enough reasons to keep being with you, you don't treat someone the way you like and think they won't cut you of. Work on yourself cos people has zero chills these days. People are no longer bounded strongly by religion and traditional thinking anymore that use to make people accept some things as fate or be suffering in silence. People are learning to choose their own happiness regardless of what other people might think.

When it was Big Brother Africa it made more sense and was engaging far back as 2006. But BBN nowadays na trash. No inspiring talks or discussions bothering African or Nigerian youths. Rather it's who can create more drama, or relationship twist to keep people talking and entertained. Every housematey thinks fucking or getting bleeped is one sure way of getting noticed. Wetin no suppose be wahala dem go turn am like say na WW3 wey wan happen. They make hundreds of millions every week for voting and TV rights while plenty girls wey dey watch am nor get reach 100k for their account. If you reach 50 years and you still dey suffer no blame anybody ooo

Shey una see say dem don finish the guy case sharp sharp. Now I am waiting for #istandwithchidinma people.

See two big tins of Peak Milk, and two big tins of Milo, and giant indomie noodles, two cartons. Baba this is not hunger but party about to go down. Funny thing is that if he was not caught, he will ditch what he can by selling them half the market price to whoever is willing to buy. The remaining na to chop am himself.

Hahahaha .... How far the "assorted dangerous charms"?. Una go just dey use English any how. If you have a charm for protection and prevention of arrest, and then you were arrested, I see no how the charms could be described as "assorted and dangerous". When they tell people to either "read book" or "learn handwork" or business and concentrate and learn how to manage money dem no go hear. Na to dey disturb people wey dey manage carry am go spoil be their own. When I was attending night class in school nobody followed me, mosquito dey chop me but I dey there so that make I pass, graduate. Then I get small establishment person no go rest again, those hungry, greedy school dropouts want to flex where they didn't sow. God pass una.

There is nothing I hate like auto crash death. The person was not sick, or suffering from some deformity or ailment that took time before it slowly took the person. Car accident is all too sudden, out of no where, just like that you get the call that so so and so had an accident and he or she is dead. E dey pain me like wetin. That's why I and over speeding driver no dey ever settle

Some fraudsters don't know the indirect effects of what they do. When someone who is lonely and thinks they have found love and are willing to do what it takes to maintain that love, only to get scammed. Emotional pain is also the same as physical pain to the brain. People lose their life's savings and money they have worked for to some guy who uses it to buy flashy expensive things. Bang half of the girls in his street and form motivational speaker online. You use your family poverty as an excuse to create pain and sorrow in other peoples lives. Your greed will catch up on you on day

Yeye man.

Female children are usually very cute, brilliant and sharp mouthed when they are still very young. But immediately they reach puberty, and start being conscious of their bodies and getting male attention. Haaaa, wahala don dey. If your daughter can graduate the university without getting pregnant and get married then your job as a father is done. And when it comes to looking after parents, it varies family by family. If your daughter is not educated or married to a rich man, then don't expect anything. A man will never leave home, no matter where he goes. Your family name and property is always on your head. And the female children will always get married first, my cousin of the same age got married at 21, I'm about 30 and still single. If I have one boy and the rest are girls I don't mind, but I will train all my kids the same way regardless of gender.

Lewisjohnson:
Kill Igboho Now,
Kill de bastardy terrorists Igboho, de should put him in same cage wit Kanu,
Sai Baba

For your mind you are catching cruise. No please, you're just exhibiting your stupidity for the whole world to see. You think you're being sarcastic, na your teachers wey teach for school you dey embarrass

Even though Igbo girls are cute, but as they say experience is the best teacher. There is nothing compared to an educated Yoruba girl. Classy, fashionable, submissive and obedient. And the most important of all is that she will not make you feel as if you owe her the whole world just because you want her in your life. Just because she is beautiful doesn't mean she dates only for financial benefits. I am from Cross River state and na my Yoruba babe I go marry, make them give me amala and ewedu I go chop am lick finger. When it comes to Igbo girls, well, if you see the kind of lifestyle they live when they are far away from home and in a town nobody knows them, even Alhaji wey be Hausa dem go knack. Change to Islam sef, igbo girls no dey get sense when dem see money, have money and you go finish dem. No true love in Owerri na so so give me I give you.

HedwigesMaduro:
I don't know why, but I just don't get sexually attracted to prostitutes. I tried to experience oling with prostitutes with my friends when we were in uni. I had to give up midway cos it was repulsive to me.

My guy those girls no be am, don't be surprised that it's only one round of less than 10mins that cost all this. No matter the romance or sexual passion shared with an olosho, when it comes to money matters dem go change am for you like say you thief. To embarrass you they hungry them, to shout make people gather is their area of expertise. And surely the guy must be have flexed her, bought her food and drinks..It's always better to date a girl who has a job or business or is schooling than a girl who has decided to use her body to make money full time. Their own level of craze no be here, they are not worth the drama

Omo see alliance. Chai naija we get mind ooh. This money trouble, make e no make us do wetin our grandfather go dey shamed of us, God abeg.

Zeenino:
Omg...



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Hahahaha, sharp sharp you don set target. I know now that this message you have composed will be pasted in several places, and some people will actually send you money. But if this is how to intend to make your daily bread then be prepared cos reality will set in on you one day

If I am to become a rich guy and lavish money on prostitues, I will rather remain an average wey get sense and be banging my girlfriend inside my selfcon. As in the wey this so called big guys spend outrageous amount of money on just CUM baffles me. Why do we as men lust over women's body so much that we give them what took us pains to get. Only a woman who is decent, honest and good to me deserve the fruit of my labour. Most guys want to make money just to entertain high priced prostitues in one expensive bar or hotel. That's why you need education even if you have money, a man who reads and understands life will not be easily swayed by his instincts, libidinal drive and emotions. You will learn to always use your cognitive abilities.

Well for me, unless we are married, all that romantic stuff will be on a minimum. If you are still dating, you can do all that and the girl can still secretly bang another guy, or some aboard based guy can still snatch your babe. If I marry you and you are a good wife to me, then Bollywood love na small thing for my side. Anything can happen in a relationship (dating) some girls don't know what they want. No guy wants to be a mugu or mumu

Do you think that, that so called Eedris cares about her? In his mind he is just enjoying free pussy. There's nothing as foolish as a desperate woman in need of attention. She will be the one spending money on him and buying him gifts. Do you think Eedris will want to marry someone like her, no, cos he will think that she might likely do the same to him. If Eedris had a wife, you think he would like for someone to be fucking her? Adultery is a sin but it seems nobody cares anymore. Orgasm is now everything. Please, whenever you think you are playing smart, remember that you might also be the one who is being used.

NgoziLovelyn:
She is not a widow and neither is she a nun.....I like the point you made about not blaming some men for having sidechicks, because according to you, their wives behaviour pushed them into it. And that's exactly the point I'm making. The husband pushed her into that Eedris

With all I have written, you pick only the part that fits into your narrative. I don't support male promiscuity or female infidelity for any reason at all. I'm a Criminologist, and I know that we humans are hedonistic (that is pleasure seeking) we do whatever gives us the greatest amount of pleasure and run away from pain. Also we are rational calculators (that is we weigh the cost and benefits of any action we take). We have FREE WILL, nobody pushes anybody to do anything, it's a choice. If she feels her husband doesn't give her the attention she wants, then she has every right to ask for a divorce and be with the guy who satisfy her period. But she doesn't want to lose the benefits of her marriage which is financial security and the social status of being a married woman but wants to satisfy her needs with someone else. The guy fucking you should also take care of you that's my own view. I repeat orgasm is not everything in life, there is an age you reach and you don't care about sex anymore. People tired of sex at some point. Whatever she is doing with Eedris is fantasy, how long will it last? The day her husband finds out she will be the one crying and begging if he wants to kick her out. Nothing is a secret forever. She is doing what she is doing because she is deriving pleasure from it, it's not a mistake. If her husband tells her to put her hands inside fire will she do it? I have friends who do drugs, I hangout with them sometimes but I don't do it, nobody can force or push you to do whatever you don't secretly crave.

NgoziLovelyn:
It all started from the husband's behaviour. We shouldn't give our partners reason to fall into temptation

Of course, blame men for your own actions as if you don't have freewill to make choices. Are there not widows who have not had sex since their husbands death? Are there not Reverend Sisters and Nuns who have taken vows of celibacy and keep to it. There is more to life than just sex. Don't blame some men for having side chicks then because there a lot of women whose behaviour make their husbands seek for pleasure outside. If he doesn't give her money, no sex, if he doesn't do what she wants, no sex. Sex happens only when she feels like it which could take months. A person that wants to cheat will cheat, a person that will not do it will not do it. If it so, they should cancel wedding vows, it has no use since you can violate it for whatever reason you can make up. Temptation is a constant, you choose whether to fall or not.

If you're fed up of your marriage, ask for a divorce so that you can go and chase the sexual adventures you seek. A man that takes care of you by spending his hard earned money on you has absolute monopoly over your body. Any man that should enjoy your body should also pay your bills simple. I don't understand how women want it both ways, one man to provide financial security and social status of being married and another for sexual fantasies. Choose one. If you are cheating on someone you are financially dependent on, you are messing with your life, you don't think of sex when you have not eaten for 2 days.

Juliusmalema:
If you are indulging yourself in this kind of life better Change

Meanwhile Chidimma must be released.

What makes you think that your father has never cheated on your mother or any male in your family have not cheated before. Send me your account number let me give you transport to go to the police station she is being kept so you can do break her out. Who no dey high, but I never high slap person talk less of to stab person. Be supporting rubbish

Juliusmalema:
Please your family should facilitate the immediate release of Chidimma Ojukwu so that she can go and complete her studies.

The Milk your son Usifo Ataga poured inside her and the ones inside CD is enough punishment and deaths already. All the postinors she took has taken care of....

We can't be mourning multiple persons at same time. I strongly believe anywhere Usifo is today he has found peace......inner peace.

One thing is certain your Son Usifo wu ocho Ife ukwu furu agba enyi...

Chidimma should be released and Usifo buried in peace.

YOU'RE A FOOL. Show me the section of the law that states that the punishment of cheating is death. When that Ghanaian pastor killed his wife in Texas USA, shey everybody was calling the man all sorts of names and saying even if the wife was cheating she didn't deserve to die. So a woman that cheats doesn't deserve to die but a man who cheats should die abi. Let me inform you, culpable homicide is not beans, and your sentiments will have no effects whatsoever on the police investigation or court proceedings

eyinjuege:
If your wife can cook your food, take care of you, the house and the children then she has done her job.
What she decides to do with a piece on the side/lover really should not bother you.
If she's conscientious, she will make sure all the children are yours. That is more than enough.

Well first things first, any woman either my wife or any other woman that claims to be pregnant for me, I will secretly have a DNA test on the child everytime it happens. When it comes to cheating, women do it already without informing their husbands. That your wife will not cheat on you for a 35 years marriage is a 50-50 chance. I am a Criminologist, that's what I studied in school, anything any human does is not a surprise to me. You don't need to wrong somebody for them to hurt you. I have zero trust and expect the worst cos that's what my HOD taught me. You can give a woman the whole world with love and she will still do what's on her mind if she feels like it. It's only our religious and moral convictions that serve as self control agents, if not we humans are hedonistic and pleasure seeking. Mr White Knight, the day one girl bleeps you up, you go shock.

eyinjuege:
You really don't need to go into marriage without planning to be faithful. This is for both men and women btw.. You can have baby mamas/ baby daddy or even have an open marriage from the onset.
There are partners who would agree to such.
An unmarried couple may agree to live together in school, provided they're adults.
That doesn't mean they're cheating on their future partners...
Where is that your logic coming from?
I think you are averse to taking responsibility and want a leeway to cheat by claiming to punish your wife for her previous relationships which had nothing to do with you. You knew she wasn't one before marrying her, so what are you on about?

In African tradition, cohabitation is a taboo and men are not judged by their sexual histories but women are. We copy Westerners for licentiousness but our system is different. 4/7 marriages in the UK end in divorce and about 50% in the USA. You think love should over shadow a girls past but if you watch Divorce court and Paternity court on YouTube you find the opposite. If I can provide financially for my wife and kids then I have done my job. Whatever I do outside the house is my business. Most people think Hollywood love is real, it's not. We get married to have children and a stable home and that's it. Anything else is fantasy

NgHotGirls:
How do you know this?

I grew up in Samaru, Zaria, the town where Ahmadu Bello University is located. As a kid I already knew of Campus marriage and girls living with their boyfriends off campus or those who go to Abuja for weekend with Alhaji. I can't count the number of girls in my neighborhood who before they were 22 have already aborted 2 or more pregnancies. Girls from the south who do their NYSC in the north turn to low key prostitues. See eh, girls leave their homes and do bullshit far away and come back and pretend to be saints. Their past is usually a secret. If you know that your husband will not or did not marry you as a virgin don't get angry when he cheats on you becos that same thing that made you not able to keep yourself until marriage is the same thing that makes him flex even when married. If a man is broke nobody cares if he is faithful or not, that's why guys when they make money do whatever they like. You girls are not perfect, you whatever you like when you are young and wake up in your 30s and 40s and talk as if you don't have a past.

And all this girls sounding angry and bitter, are just forming holy holy. When a girl is between the ages of 17 and 27, they have a lot of toasters. In fact nobody can tell them what to do. They secretly have sex with bad boys and abort the baby, but once they get married and have children, they expect a man that won't cheat on them.

If this man had not died, nobody will have heard all this. We all can say what we want to say but we are not in their marriage and so do not have 100℅ knowledge about what goes on between them. Sex is fun for men and we will always attracted to a woman curves and body. No partner is to be blamed for infidelity, humans have free will and are pleasure seeking. As long as we have young women who are greedy and willing to use their vagina to make money, and men with diverse and insatiable sexual appetite, cheating will always happen. Women cheat as well but are better at hiding it. Whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, only when incidents like this occurs. I can't promise my wife that I will never cheat on her, I will just try not to be reckless about. Na flexing, no be war.

The fact remains that women naturally change after getting married and having children. Their libidinal drive reduces drastically, and feel no incentive to sexually satisfy their husbands, after all, she already has children for him. Men don't change at all, men don't get pregnant and so their bodies remain intact. When a man wants to marry, he is told to get a good wife who should be of high morals. How many married women are willing to give their husbands bj, or indulge in acrobatic sex. Moreover, men most especially in Nigeria don't expect love from a woman's if he ain't got money, when he does have money he feels he should do whatever pleases him. Men of financial power and influence will always do what they want because they can afford it. Even broke guys cheat talk less of man who is rich.