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My ex that i was planning to get married too got pregnant by some guy, i was away hustling and found out when the boy was 5 months old. She begged and cried for me to accept her like that with all promises and assurances i refused. Now her younger sister is also a single mom. When you advise some girls to be careful they say you want to control them, then when they get pregnant out of wedlock they start acting as if they were saints. All those qualities that the op mentioned, don’t single girls without babies have those qualities as well? If they indeed they have those qualities why did the father of their child not marry them. You like bad boys, but when they get you pregnant and leave you want to hook a good guy with the responsibilities. Stop looking for validation from people, even i as a guy doesn’t want to be a baby daddy, i want to get married before having kids. Talk less of a girl

angelfallz:
The bolded,
Keep deceiving yourself, your gist might be worse than the OP's own.
There are a lot of virgin girls out there. Your job is to find them and never settle.

Virginity is not my only requirement in marrying a girl thats what i am trying to say. If she is an illiterate, lazy, stubborn and obnoxious i should marry her just because she is a virgin? I have stayed among hausa muslims, they get married to 17years or less old virgins and they still get divorced within 2 to 3 years. Being realistic is not settling, is sex all women have to offer? I can meet a virgin and if she still lacks in other qualities I won’t marry her. Guy i no like liability, virgin or not. Say she no be virgin no mean say na ashawo she be, ashawo sef was once a virgin. Immanuel Kant said character is found in logic and not emotions or feelings. And what makes you think say no be me wey go dey bleep person wife to be? Two can play the game, i am never threatened by a woman’s sexuality because I know say even me sabi the game. I have exes who married too, as a guy, as long as i can keep making money i can out bleep anygirl for body count. Even at 60 years i fit still dey bleep on my own terms. I don’t have a victim’s mentality

I don’t expect to marry a virgin cos thats so far fetched these days. But atleast decency and trust is very important in human relationship. All these starts with women not marrying the man they love but whoever is available, na her family she just embarrass. And the biggest problem in modern society is that girls what to emulate only the terrible things that men do, but ordinary dig gutter dem go say dem no get power for that one. Thats why i tell my babe all the time dat if i follow wetin i dey see online, i no go marry anybody. Its has almost an abomination to carry good mind for any babe, e be like na you go be the mumu. No be every guy get time to bleep around, some just want someone to build a life with. Nobody is an angel agreed, but who wants to dine with the devil. No be every body spoil oooh

Small thing oh, e don turn to quarrel for NL. Gender war in every thread. Sha, I still learn so much even admist the childish squabbles

Serves us right. Nigerians we too self centered and only think of our self interest. Whenever we meet a leader who knows what they are doing, we resent them, insult and castigate them for flimsy reasons. Only to later wail and cry. Shey the same Saraki that everybody was insulting and calling all manner of names is the person we are talking about. No foresight, no hindsight. We deserve the kind of leaders we have, the way some people hated Saraki that time eh, that he was the one frustrating Baba's government. Now see......

How I wish some south africans were in this thread to read the hypocrisy spilled here. Shey when they were complaining that Nigerians are destroying their youths, they said nobody forced them to buy...all na hustling. For those saying the north are the most abusers of illicit drugs, might be true, but the major suppliers are igbos. Pharmacy business in Nigeria is mostly ran by Igbos. Now you feel what you cause on others.

No politican in Nigeria that does not have skeletons in his or her cupboard. Only if you step on the wrong toes, or they want to deal with you, then your secrets will be made public. It's all for self interest, not that anybody really cares how much was emblezzed, somebody somewhere is pulling the strings.

This world eh, problem no dey finish. As a broke guy nobody will want to marry you because they say you cannot take care of a wife. Ok, you hammer con say make you marry, haaaa na gold digger and cheat you go con meet. Women will marry a man because of economic security but will have another man just for sexual adventures. It's not just to make money ooh, also surround yourself with the right people. As a woman if you know you don't love a man, leave him alone. Because women are devils to the man they don't love. If we use you girls as baby mama only everybody will complain. Im not possessive at all, na just to bang and free you to go do what you like

That's how a girl my friend and I met in a club last week was saying she has not seen any man that can control her. Same babe you can arrange and bang for less that 2k. See levels

Daniel058:
that's why you hardly see Igbo people divorce.. unlike a neighbouring state CROSS RIVER ,where one lady would be married up to 4 times to different men From the same village.

Note : The pride price is not as high as that here oo

Come to Ebonyi state and Marry our beautiful women o .

Izzi , ezza, ohaozara nwere enough Wife Materials

Since you feel like talking nonsense. Let a Cross River person face you. I pity you igbo men, where your girls will travel outside your state and Bleep around (come see dem in Abuja) and then you use millions to marry them. Get pregnant for another man and yet your tradition expects you to raise the child since she is your wife. Igbo women looking expensive while the husband dress cheaply, enslaving to satisfy a woman. Baba dey your lane. N.B...just to say igbo people don't get divorced, you endure bullshit

DSC7:
I met this beautiful damsel around 2012,we got admission into same institution same year....

We dated from 2012-2016,,,,

During service we parted ways and met again 2018 but ended up becoming friends with benefits....

By 2019 distance(different states) kept us apart due to life plans.....

And we don't have each others contacts again

So i was chatting with my elder brother this morning and he told me about his fiancee, i asked for her picture... Lo and behold she was my ex and friend with benefits.....


Now there is no way she will know that we are related except on their wedding day coming up next year if i attend.....

I don't know whether to tell him or just let them be

Baba, use your discretion and tell him without making her look like a slut. Everybody has a past agreed, but some kind of past is too much. If your brother later finds out, he will not be happy with you for not telling him. Especially if she ends up doing something silly. For her to agree to be a friend with benefits, that is, she was willing to have only a sexual relationship with you says alot about her. What girls these days refuse to acknowledge is that women will be always judge by their sexual history and men by their financial capabilities. If it was just a friend it's something else, but for elder bro to find out the his younger brother has bang the same pussy he wants to keep, e no go funny. Blood is blood, they can get married and divorce, nothing is certain in life, but your brother will always be your brother. And forget what some girls are saying , naija girls will do anything just to get married especially when they are of age, then her real character will show

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Datboredberry:
Yep... Black women with white guys gets so much hate... Especially from black men...

Reminds me of Serena Williams... Every black man hating on her until she married a white man... Then they calling her their ebony queen...

I which blacks were more supportive... But black women tend to put in more effort to put up a unified image to the world... Black men just don't care...

See eh, you girls who are privileged and live abroad should let us rest abeg. I have never met anyone white woman before and don't dream of marrying one. But one thing I know for sure is this, you don't own any person because you are of the same ethnicity or race with that person. My problem is that you girls now have inherited a war that has nothing to do with us. It's like you girls went and studied the same course in school, how to blame men 101. You don't like it if black men date outside their race because you can't control their choices. Everything you complain about blackmen, white women don't see. Nobody hates black women but everybody hates a woman with unresolved issues. Loud, insolent and entitled. 21th century black women only learn how to blame and hate men, but not how to keep one. That's why na baby mama sure pass. Women have the keys to sex but men have the keys to commitment. Who wants to inherit a pain they didn't create ?

When a girl will abandon the guy she use to date in the university immediately she graduates because she cannot wait. And then marries a guy who is already made and sees her like a trophy wife turn to nanny/maid. It's your short sightedness that disturbs you girls. That guy you see like mumu, that one that allows you to express yourself no matter how silly is the guy you should marry. But fantasy, greed and competion will confuse you to make the wrong choice, see wahala and then comeback as bitter, blaming men in general.

I don't know how God created this female gender. Do you know the rubbish women do to men and we let them go? If everyman wants to revenge every hurt a woman has caused it their life, how many will survive?

vanbonattel:
Are you surprised?

It's only in Igboland, a place where evil is frowned at and efforts made to correct things that the community comes together to punish their youths in a bid to save them from a societal evil as drug abuse. The method might not be the best, but it's a way of drawing attention to the evil called drug abuse.

Other parts of Nigeria would deny the drug use, ignore it or collect government money and embezzle it all in the name of lying to themselves. They will even give it religious interpretations or start trading blames like, "is it not yoruba people that sell our fulani boys drugs?"

Igboland is the best society in Africa.

Abi, but Igbo can go to India and Malaysia to sell abi? In Nigeria, you guys use pharmacy as cover to sell drugs abi? And you wonder why people resent you guys sometimes, you don't mind to make money off other peoples addictions.

Especially when you were abroad and you came back home to marry a submissive wife you want to use and do anyhow and then it back fires. Most of those women married those men as a means of economic security not because they really loved them. And trust me, even if a naija girl doesn't love you, she will sha marry you to help herself. Just avoid leeches and know that no 21th century woman is olodo. Don't think you can treat them anyhow and expect them to be docile.

What exactly are anti-party activities?

O boy na it be say instead of romantic proposal na strict warning I go do. You're a single guy and all you think is when will I settled down, blessed with a family. Then na that same family wan stress you. Chai. Someone told me that marriage is like a boxing ring, some people want to get in, others want to get out.

Avoid broke bitches, especially those ones you think you want to help or uplift their social status. They will marry for the money, and then feel they can do whatever they want with one guy who gives them nothing, except sex. I prefer a woman who has her own money cheating than the one who was picked from the streets but think they are cunning. If caught, they get kicked out with nothing to hold on too

In naija, be careful what you say during interactions with people. Strangers will be forming elder to correct you, people who want to help you also plan to scam you.

As a man, getting married to a graduate or not a graduate speaks about the type of person that man is. If you like a sophisticated woman, someone who can challenge you mentally or someone you seek to dominate and is docile, that will influence your decision . As for me ooh, ever since I entered the university when I was 17 in 2009, it's girls on campus that I date oooh, and graduates. One of my ex has a masters already, and my current GF is a 300l student. Baba I will marry an educated woman, I like to talk to them and scratch their minds. I respect their individuality and freedom to make choices. Someone I can have intelligent debate with and learn something new. Who wan marry bush girl, to just chop food and born pikin. If my future wife is like Ngozi Iweala of WTO, I go happy die. Who wan cheat will cheat. But I can't let insecurities make choose a girl to marry who I don't respect

Chai na wa oh. When you're single, you are told sex outside marriage is a sin and all fornicators are going to hell. In fact your babe can tell you that no sex until marriage or because you have sex with her you must marry her. Then you con marry na so that make you dey flex na, it's still an issue. That's why I don't agree to no sex till marriage since women libidinal drive reduces after having kids. I dey knack any babe wey gree for me

Women have silly things to say about men and likewise men have silly things to say about women. We humans are innately covertious, although nobody has control over how a person's body develops. Small penis vs small breasts, short duration vs smelling pussy, soft penis vs wide pussy. All na talk. When I was in secondary school and still a virgin, one girl in my class said no guy can bang her and make her cry. Fast forward years later, I was banging a girl in my room and she was begging me please, cos she couldn't handle it. I immediately remember that girl in my class and what she said. Even if you're good in bed it doesn't mean much, highest is that the girl will commend you but nobody will be there to hear. A woman's praise is over rated, you can't use it to withdraw money from the bank or write it in your CV.

Palema007:
Sigh.... Your quest to be right, your thirst for validation and your desire to have the last say is what is stopping you to see what really this thread is all about.

This isn't a Man hating thread! I don't hate men either! Naaahhhh I love Men! And respect men just as I respect women. I love the Men in my life, I don't preach or instigate hatred either. Shuu I spent hours on prick thread yesterday, you come dey tell me I hate prick owners? which kind misyarn be that!

Contrary to your belief and others who suffer herd mentality on here jumping up and down to defend what is not, to a sensible mind this is an objective thread. It's aim isn't to create a gender war, but to bring to realization the ills going on in our society, it causes which if properly discussed may result into coming up with solutions to curb these ills.

Here is a summary of the whole thread in a question: Why is it difficult for men to respect women's choices?

Abeg..did the op who started the thread make it about men not respecting women's choices. She made a poor attempt to ridicule men as losers who can't meet up to women's standards . And to your question, men in previous generations lived on close knit societies where social norms and values were held in highest esteem. In this generation, except insecure men, men don't care what women do with their lives and bodies. Lol the sexual liberation of women is very sweet, you don't need to marry anybody to get some action these days. The only time it's an issue is when you love the girl or she is a family member. If women want to do silly things in the name of freedom or expressing themselves, no p. And I don't seek validation, rather I can't stand unnecessary bashing online.

Palema007:
Nevermind.

Bye

Correct yourself. That's how oyibo women form hatred for men, then one small yahoo boy who didn't finish SS3 will scam them online working on the fantasies and insecurities. You girls don't acknowledge that shit happens in life. A girl I dated for 4 years and planed to marry got pregnant for some guy who abandoned her with the baby. I was shattered emotionally, but it doesn't mean that I hate women in general. People get hurt and move on. I bet when you were 16 years old, you didn't have all this view about men

Palema007:
I used "sound" not "look" lol... Nevermind.

Well what you wrote up there sounded like a sob story of a confused toddler trying to convince his adamant mom why he needs a new pair of shoes.

"Everything ends in death" lol.. that was so funny to read. . Lol @shaming , sorry you felt that way. Not my intention, let's just agree that I got carried away

You can insult me if you like, I don't mind. There is nothing I love like an educated bitter woman, in fact there was a night I spent over 3 hours talking to a girl who went and studied in the UK and came back with lofty ideas. Don't generalize your heart break stories, no matter how bitter some women might be, it doesn't trouble me. I toasted one fine usher in church this morning, lol, boys are catching cruise. That's how oyibo women form hatred for men, and then one small yahoo boy will then scam them of their money online. No dey form, a guy like me has ruptured your hymen and cervix, and bruised the walls of your vagina. Women will always say silly things about men, I knew that right from secondary school. But Sha, we know where we still meet.

Palema007:
I used "sound" not "look" lol... Nevermind.

Well what you wrote up there sounded like a sob story of a confused toddler trying to convince his adamant mom why he needs a new pair of shoes.

"Everything ends in death" lol.. that was so funny to read. . Lol @shaming , sorry you felt that way. Not my intention, let's just agree that I got carried away

You can insult me if you like, I don't mind. There is nothing I love like an educated bitter woman, in fact there was a night I spent over 3 hours talking to a girl who went and studied in the UK and came back with lofty ideas. Don't generalize your heart break stories, no matter how bitter some women might be, it doesn't trouble me. I toasted one fine usher in church this morning, lol, boys are catching cruise.

Palema007:
No matter the fluency of words, it can never cover the illiteracy of the mind.
Palema 2021.

You sound like you are close to breaking into tears, why?

As in you can see from where you are that I am close to tears? Chai, if you hate men, that's your own problem. I have a girl I love so much and will marry her next year. Even if she breaks my heart, I will still love again. Shaming people online doesn't make you better, no vex.

Kobojunkie:
So because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, she shouldn't have desires and standards of her own?.

Because she is 38, she should open up for anything to throts her way resembling a dick because 40 is around the corner?

Because she is 38 and 40 is around the corner, desperation should cause her to seize as a human and instead walk around with shame?

If your very own sister was also 38 and unmarried, would you also enjoy having your friends speak of her as the wide-borehole desperate for marriage willing to open up at the mention of the phrase " I go marry you"?

Guy wetin be your own sef. Why na to defend women be the matter wey you carry for head. Abi you be white knight? If you live your life by women's standards then be careful. Nobody is a saint or angel

Firefoxy:
Your insecurity marvels me. This thread wasn’t comparing men and women’s successes. And you thinking that dating women for their “fertile body” is okay to say is further proof of your ignorance.
Maybe if women haven’t been oppressed for so long they’d have the same opportunities as men, just like black people against white people.

Your desperation belittle women and say they have nothing apart from the little things you men took you over, at least you have gotten that out of your heart. You should read more books or do more research.

You say these disgusting things then get mad when the “feminists” hate you back.

Next time, read with your brain...if you have one, and not your feelings.

"We’ve come to the times where more and more men are growing desperate as they do not meet the standards of women. Sometimes they project their insecurities on women by saying you’d be alone forever, other times they try to convince you that you need to get married as soon as possible, even though you have no interest in it. You’re supposed to believe that you need them more, that way you become desperate too and stoop low to accept these low quality me"..... Were you not the one who wrote this? What do you mean by men can't meet the standards of women? Do you know the meaning of insecurity? And all of a sudden you're being insolent and assuming I don't have a brain? Where did I insult you in my write up? Provoke the way you like, but I bet one guy has been inside you already and you can't change that fact. Whether we meet your standards or not, boys are still collecting. Fresh girls are turing 18 every year. If you think you're too special, believe me, there are always girls who have the same biological components you posses and will gladly give us. Everything ends in death

Firefoxy:
Recently, you notice a lot of single guys making threads to give relationship advice to girls and telling them how to act in relationships. Hardly would you see a girl make a thread to ask for a lover, or tell men how to act in relationships.

We’ve come to the times where more and more men are growing desperate as they do not meet the standards of women. Sometimes they project their insecurities on women by saying you’d be alone forever, other times they try to convince you that you need to get married as soon as possible, even though you have no interest in it. You’re supposed to believe that you need them more, that way you become desperate too and stoop low to accept these low quality men.

Although they first convince themselves that they have to become a certain type of man, only then will women chase them. But it never works. Because they take advice from and listen to other desperate and bitter men, instead of women.

Research has shown that as time goes by, more men will be involuntary single.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/male-sexlessness-is-rising-but-not-for-the-reasons-incels-claim

They become incels and they pose a great danger to women. Because the world isn’t like it used to be, and more women are losing interest. They feel entitled to a life partner and when they can’t get that, desperation turns to hate. From belittling women on the internet, to committing crimes like rape and femicide. I’m afraid the time is here.


Good afternoon.

lol. You girls are just hilarious. I am not a fan of red pillers or radical feminists cos both groups are bitter and preach hate and fear. But the truth be said, men need women and women need men in their lives. And talking about standards, you girls over exaggerate things. How many women are there compared to men in professional roles, or own estates, industries or companies. Apart from hair salon, selling bags, clothes, shoes, what other business do women dominate. How many female billionaires do we have compared to men. Small money some of una see and person will not rest. Women are financially dependent on men world wide, there are only a few men who depend on women. And a side note, men don't date women because of their material possessions but character and fertile body

Well you can't marry someone because of sex cos you're going to get tried at some point. Moreover, if you don waka see life, you know that some girls will say no sex till marriage and be secretly banging one guy. This life no balance