Romance › Re: Coaching Crew Needed Here by Tallesty1(m): 6:37am On Oct 06, 2014 |
samflexxy: don't be speechless or dazed I don't wanna bore you to stop liking me am a ned and I know how I can really be with ladies and i already think you are bored by me and since am still trying to win your love so i just ask nairalanders for advice. You did well bro. I dey road now dey go villa. Expect some tips later in the day. |
Romance › Re: Coaching Crew Needed Here by Tallesty1(m): 6:35am On Oct 06, 2014 |
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Romance › Re: Coaching Crew Needed Here by Tallesty1(m): 6:34am On Oct 06, 2014 |
samflexxy: I just start an e-romance yesterday with one of the most cogeous lady on nairaland sweet and ever lovely (mizmycoli).just a day in and I already feel she's bored by my humble self, so guys and ladys alike what can i do to spice it up I don't wanna bore her with same stuff and same topic everyday so guys are will be counting on ya comment cause am in a dilemma now. Thank you  Direct entry to the university of heart attack  |
Celebrities › Re: Ini Edo Busted By Her In-law Over Divorce Saga Lies by Tallesty1(m): 6:29am On Oct 06, 2014 |
philtrum: I can perceive the stew in the pics.....NEXT Stew? |
Family › Re: How Do You Handle A Wife That You Love So Much But Still Cheated On You? by Tallesty1(m): 6:17am On Oct 06, 2014 |
This question is not easy to answer. Some cultures makes it impossible to stand up and give a simple and direct answer
In Enugu Ezike(Somewhere in Nsukka). If you know that your wife is cheating on you and you eat her food, you will die.
In Kogi state. If your wife cheat on you, she will fall sick which may lead to her death. If you treat her or say sorry to her, you will die.
In some part of Idoma, if your wife is cheating on you and you still eat her food, sleep with her, take care of her as your wife, you will die.
So it depends on where it happened.
4 me, she will be forgiven but will cease to be my wife. Even if Virgin Mary brings her back to me. |
Family › Re: How Do You Handle A Wife That You Love So Much But Still Cheated On You? by Tallesty1(m): 6:08am On Oct 06, 2014 |
imas: You need to find out why she cheated on you in the first place, women do not just wake up and decide to cheat, when you get the reason then you know where to start from in solving the problem, it could be the man does not value her, she may not be getting conjugal satisfaction, the man prefers hanging out with the boys to spending quality time with her etc too numerous to mention. That was during the time of our grand mothers. Any girl that sleeps with her bf is already cheating on her husband  She was sealed for a reason. And once the seal is broken  ............ You know the rest. |
Family › Re: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Tallesty1(m): 6:01am On Oct 06, 2014 |
Tannie: The bolded made me laugh.
I know where the generosity is coming from now but me think it should be the other way round 
Hope you won't be this generous when you get married   . Make I shut up for now. I will answer when I get there. |
Jokes Etc › Re: How One Shoe Can Ruin A Family Photo by Tallesty1(m): 10:49pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Ooooooops! |
Romance › Re: What Do Men Really Want From Women by Tallesty1(m): 10:48pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Moderation |
Family › Re: What Will U Do If Your Daughter Request This ?? by Tallesty1(m): 10:26pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: I will raise her in such a way that she will have other ambitions. If I fail and she is old enough to participate in such videos, then I will have to accept my failure. As long as I can decide for her, she won't. |
Romance › Re: Men, Do Not Underate A Woman. by Tallesty1(m): 10:25pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Someone should remind the op that Adam didn't ask for a companion, wife or help mate. |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 10:11pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
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Family › Re: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Tallesty1(m): 10:06pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Tannie: Try me bro.
I'm still trying to figure out what "being generous" has to do with this but like you said I'm a woman and I don't understand the way stupid men behave He is not silly my dear.... Two families were involved there. His own family and his own other family  You don't know the situation of things in his other family. Maybe he was trying to safe lives. But as a generous man, he made sure that he settled his own family(in a way) first before going to the other family. A generous man doesn't take care of his family alone, he extends it to his other family. You won't understand sha    . |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 10:01pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
chibwike: which kind love be dat, i just saw the girl thread wey the guy dey talk about...una kinda dey harsh on the guy oh...afta all doz lengthy write ups Bros who be unah? I no follow at all. Show me the thread please. |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:57pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
chibwike: ha ok...wetin coli and pascal come dey do na...dem too dae learn? Well methinks they are in love. That kain primary school love nah. Wey be say nah you dey use your own hand beat the girl wey you love    |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:54pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Krak: Always think before you comment on Nairaland. If you have nothing meaningful to say, then dont say anything.
I believe that trading insults in any way is a sign of immaturity.
The words you say offline or online will either have a positive or negative effect on the minds of your fellow men. Insulting words kills harmony and breeds discord.
Thats one of the main reasons why I almost never comment on the Politics section. Since most of the people who comment in that section are either politicians or active participants in politics, I look around the country and realise why Nigeria is in such a mess.
If you think your harsh words only brings others down, think again...words have a way of coming back to their owners silently and with more force and potency.
The bottom line is that we should think well before posting and also learn to express our differing views and opinions without insults or harsh words.
Thats my humble advice to everyone. I think the MODs there are enjoying it............ I rarely go there because I don't want anybody to attack me unnecessarily |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:51pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
chibwike: Tallesty wetin dae happen here Oga we dey learn how to handle shooters  of insults on nairaland. |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:50pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
fabiano09: Whatever,i dont hate you,hate only hurts d pesin who hates,i just wana let u knw dt u dnt hv to b nasty to pple,n feel lyk ur smarter dan evry1,hv u ever wondered hw i would hv reacted if u had corrected me in a nice way?,am nt a saint,am guilty of alot of things,but at least i accept my flaws,hv u bothered to apologise,ofcos no. Life is ephemeral,n wat goes around comez around,i quoted u initially cuz i recognized ur moniker n wat came to mind was wat u sed dt day,i decided to air out my thoughts to u,take it or leave it,am not gona quote u again. Bros m. When someone attacks you. Ignore the attack and the attacker. That's what maturity is about. You don't have to carry it in your mind all the time. As for being MyColi's soldier, I think you are wrong. An innocent person doesn't need the service of body guards. The MyColi you are talking about here and the one I'm following on nland are two different people. So I'm lost. |
Family › Re: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Tallesty1(m): 9:42pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Tannie: Generous  How does choosing his mistress over his family shows his geneous. The man is just plain . I pity the wife and kids You won't understand what I mean. Cause you are a woman. |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:26pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
okotv: I have been attacked but I just let it slide, I do a lot of thinking and sometimes my instincts just pick up when its important and it helps in my reply....I remember turning my attacker into a friend with about three replies. Some attackers are attention seekers, all they want is to be noticed. |
Christianity Etc › Re: You Don't Need To Feel Guilty If You Experience These by Tallesty1(m): 9:23pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Observing |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:18pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
naijaboiy: What do you do to those who are hell-bent on bringing out that other side of you?
Because there are some fools that will ne'er rest till you engage them in a bout  Silence has the power to get people to think. It is so powerful that even fools understand the message it passes across. |
Romance › Re: Ordinary Romantic Relationship Vs Serious Relationship by Tallesty1(m): 9:08pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Epathra: Gr8. Just came in from church. I'm not sorry I missed the match jore! Arsenal can brk smone's heart. I guess u r a chelsea fan. Btw, hope u didn't obstruct anyone's view today sha! Yes I am. A noiseless one thou  Are you supporting Arsenal? |
Romance › Re: If You Want A Marriage Proposal from your boyfriend,just Check This Out:) by Tallesty1(m): 9:07pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
MisterLongman: How many yards sir I am yet to measure it but I can assure you that this is the best quality one can get. |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 9:04pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
temigracie: .....Oga oooo....
One Nutri-c guy just dey attack me like say nah im Great-grandfather own NL....
Thats onething I cant do....I dont like accusing pple....I cant attack anyone here on NL.....I believe we reason differently....
Naija people always love destructive criticism....... Someone once told me that people that attack you online without any good reason are mostly the ones that are not happy in real life. I dunno how true |
Nairaland General › Re: How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 8:57pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
ayobase: lolz
anybody still losing cool and running temperature over any nl matter must still be a learner. Abi? Sometimes I'd just regard that attacker as an ediot and ignore it............ |
Nairaland General › How To Keep Your Cool When Someone Attacks You On Nland. by Tallesty1(op): 8:43pm On Oct 05, 2014*. Modified: 9:02pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Sometimes I see people attacking each other on Nland I'd wonder why on earth would some spend good time online firing shots at a person you don't even know?
When a negative comment pops up or an attacker fires at you on Nland.
There is always an instantaneous urge to fire back but the right thing to do is to hold yourself and not sink to the attackers level.
I can remember the first time I was attacked here. I gave my opinion on a question one lady asked and the first mention I got was "YOU ARE FOOL
I wanted to fire back immediately but then I remembered that some people are really going through hard times these days. Yea......They come online full of frustration, anger, and disappointment, etc. As all these pile up, they'd need a place to dump them, so I told myself that I am not and cannot be their dump site. Maybe he would have said more if I had replied.
Here Are Few Things You Should Do To Keep Your Cool When Attacked.
1: Don't react immediately.Take a moment to gather your thoughts before saying or doing anything, no matter how much the comment may have stung. If you know you have a bad temper, or are prone to angry outburst then close the tab immediately and think about what was said.
2: Ask a question rather than making a statement. This is really important. Try and find out why he/she is attacking you Instead of firing back. It could be a result of misconception of your standpoint. Remember not everyone here is an adult.
3: Be gentle. No matter what the response is from that person who's going off on you, you must maintain your cool. In the end, if you are kindly and gentle in your response to that person, s/he is the one who will end up looking bad to others. A lady once fired a shot at me. She said "You are an ediot" I told her that I know cause some already told me. No matter what kind of person you're dealing with, the only thing you need to worry about is what kind of person you are. Remember you have followers that see you as a responsible person.
4: Don’t freak out. Suspend judgment. Don’t take what has been said personally. Resist the urge to react right away Instead, take a deep breath, scroll up and read the Op and your comment once again. Maybe you made a mistake somewhere and the person(due to lack of manners) is correcting you in a terrible way. If the comment is ok then let it slide. If there is an error then correct it and move on
Sometimes the best thing one can say is to say Nothing at all.
These are the few things that help me.
If you know of any that isn't listed here please add it let's learn. |
Romance › Re: Reasons On Why U Should Date An Older Man by Tallesty1(m): 7:06pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
I know when A girl is eyeing an older man. |
Nairaland General › Re: Why Do Women Thigh/laps Appear Bigger And Larger Than Men's by Tallesty1(m): 7:03pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
aaronson: This has got me really wondering and its somewhat enticing especially when they in bump shot, why are they really that big in the lap? Because they are women. |
Family › Re: Oh My God ....men Sha!!!! by Tallesty1(m): 7:00pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Kai!
A Sad way to go.
The disadvantage of being generous. |
Celebrities › Re: Have You Seen Any Celebrity F2f, How Did U Feel? by Tallesty1(m): 4:37pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Nothing |
Christianity Etc › Re: If The Old Testament Is Of A Perfect God, Why The New Testament?? by Tallesty1(m): 4:30pm On Oct 05, 2014 |
Oga m.
I'm not here to argue with you.
Nor to convert you to Christianity.
I'm here to know why you keep talking about this God that you don't believe in.
Does it make sense to create posts and spend hours talking about something that does not exist?
Why not do your thing and let Christians and their God be?
Honestly the fact that you keep talking about God makes it impossible to believe that you are atheist truly. |