₦airaland Forum

@ Ronkebp
u are very correct,that woman is a tru mumu. But realy if this story is true then that woman is FINISHED and in a DEEP SHIT. Anyway since she is from a rich family,her rich parents will set her up again.

@op,excatly just as kennykadry has said,stay away from them.

@queen
nawa for you oo,ok let me break it down and make it clearer so you dont get it all missed up. I only cook and do d laundry wen my hubby is on night shift duty,and besides my son sleeps mostly during the day and thats when i get some sleep as well when he sleeps in day time. And i only put in on my back when he is tired and crying of being in his bouncer. And yes my hubby is very supotive and helpful cause on his off days while am asleep with my son in day time,he does my chores for and cook too,which means i have extra time to sleep at night at go along well with my buisness.

Op,honestly i assure you that wot u are facing is far from stresful compared to the chores that will be added when your kids start arriving,by then you will have to take care of your hubby,child,do d laundry,cook,sweep,e.t.c. You dont need a househelp yet as your marriage is still young beside you are still very young and have strong bones to go all d way. My advice is sit down and plan how to go abt you chores and make sure you go by the except situations warrant you do so. As for me since i had my son who is almost 6months,i now do most of my cookin n washin in d midnyt,most times i have to put him on my back while i work and i still have time 100% for my hubby,and tnk God for my hubby he as been so supotive and helpful. Best of luck.

Meeeeeeeen, am loving this tread. You women rock big time,cc,outstrip,ronkebp,debrief08,mutter,and the rest of you,am so much loving this and learning new tatics. AM PROUD TO BE A WOMAN,no regrets at all.+

ronkebp:
Naso, by force by fire. See the man behaving like taataa!! If i hear!!! i hate when adults with large balls behave like nwantakiris'

very very funny. The woman should beg and resolve the issue so her hubby can eat,else the stands the risk of loosing her hubby. Then they resolve what caused the misunderstanding later. I believe as a woman you should know how to make your hubby beg you for his offence. As for me,i will make him eat that food.

@jenny
mrs perfect english teacher,spell check my spellings well o.you not worth giving me headache at all.The last thing i would ever want to be is your fan. I am not a feminist and i would never be.

@jennykadiri,
i make much more sence than you do,alot more sence than you.am still shakin my head for you.

@jennykadiri
am realy shaking my head for you right now jenny,i have been watching every of your post and i cant help but shake my head for you again and again. Do you realy think there is sence in what you are saying? I pity you ooo.

@oluite
ofcoure there is no gudenuf excuse fo cheatin but since the dead has been done and she is remorseful then she should be given a chance. You do not cut of the hand because it has been infected do you?
If she wasnt remoseful is a diffrent case entirely.

@chaircover
yes the film is indeed intrestind. And when stephen okereke had to deal with her boyfriend van vicker for jiltin her after 7years of living together and how rita dominic the supposed lucky one ended up with a bisexual man. Very lovely film.

@mutter
you have made a whole lot of sence in your post.

@jennykadiri,i see no reason why mutter shuld be banned for posting such sensible post.you seem to have forgoten this is africa,Nigeria to be presise were we women are lovin and caring to both our husbands and kids. You dont just opt out of your marriage cause of some tiny girls in skirt who wants to break our home and destroy love that exist between father and children. Unlike in oder countries were they just go for divorce,in Nigeria a true virtous woman would give her best and fight tooth and nail to keep her home intact and never go for a divorce except in exceptional cases which i dont see in this. If every woman as thus and just go for divorce then am sure 85% of the population in the world would be of single parent and broken home. No mother in this life ever prays to raise thier kids out of a broken home and those that are product of a broken home DO NOT have good tails to tell.
My stay on marriage is as long as kids are involed,when you face challenges in your marriage,you do not only consider youself but consider more of your kids. No woman wants to have 2 or more kids for diffrent fathers.

@debreif08,very true. The film is titiled reloaded and ramsey noah was the cheatin hubby.
@outsrip,u are completely right abt the woman not given her all yet into the marriage.
@op
am sorry this might sound hurtfull but you that insult toyourself by goin to contront that lady. In the first place,you have no buisness wothsoever with the lady. The only person you need to fight is you hubby.you still need to give your hubby a chance cause you gave room and played your part in making things go this bad.

@Ileke IdI
she wasnt caught,9lifes said in his post that she has gone to confess to an elder even before he knew about it.which means she regrets her actions and is remorseful thats why she dint wait for her man to find out himself but went ahead and made confession.

@chaircover,u have said alot ot truth.
@Mrbrownjay,if what i wrote is laughable then laugh it all out,i have not in anyway said all women are hypocrites. U are entitilled to your opinion just as i am entitilled to mine.you advice the op to leave the woman he still loves without given her a chance at all,but when you men do the same or even worse you expect we women to forgive you. Lets assume your best male friend as done this to is girlfriend,wunt you be among those pleading to the woman to forgive your friend? There is no perfect humanbeing,people have done worse thing yet they are forgiven. @op
well u have been given alot of advice so the ball is in your court. You alone know excatly what you feel and how much you still love this woman.you can not love two women at the same time.

@op
i can only imagine how u feel right now. Keep this in mind,for that woman to confess even befor you got wind of it means she totaly regrets her actions and is remorseful,i am a woman and i tell u this,its not easy for a woman to make confetions except we truely love the man. Women keep a whole lot of secret. Some women,even when you catch them in the act will go the extent of swearing even wit the holy bible and tell u to your face that what you saw isnt true,so for her to take that bold step and cofess is enuf reason to be given another chance. Remember if you leave her,the next woman could be far worse than her and you end up regreting ever leaving the woman you truely love. Give LOVE the chance to heal your wounds and let it all melt away,it will definately take time but you will sail true. Best of luck

@op
there is definately life after an affair.the two sides to the coin are either the love gets stronger cause more love and care would be shown to prevent such act from occuring again or the love dries up. My own opinon is that you forgive your spouce,yes it will take long to heal your pain and trust her again,but since you said you still love her then give her another chance and find out what made her do such,but if she isnt remorseful then you need to have a second thought. Good luck,

chaircover:
There is nothing stopping you from both of you doing it the next day if the woman is up to it physically and emotionally The only thing I will advise is that the man uses a condom so that she doesnt get an infection and he is very gentle.

Even at the six week postnatal check up they will be asking you if you have started Being Intimate again and what contraception are you on/will be using assuming that you dont want another baby very quickly. Which means that they would have expected you to have started making love again.

So There is no set in stone answer to your question. It solely depends on your wife and how soon she feels comfortable  & ready to commence duty 

lol. Very true chaircover and except the woman had a CS or adviced otherwise medicaly

@chaircover,u are very right,

Its not so easy leaving ones spouse as we people think expecialy when one still LOVES the other and kids are also involed,u dont consider yourself alone but also your kids,the aftermath of such experince is very terrible,it affects their studies and social life,some kids dont even forgive thier parents and some females children grow up to tink all men are the same. Am sure if we ask single parents of their experience after leavin their spouse,90% of them do not have good stories to tell.marriage is not a bed of roses so is divorse. Am also sure most us here grew up knowing our parents lived together as one, am not saying either of our parents cheated at one time but the truth is they will never tell thier kids.
Have we also given it a thought of if the man is being jazzed? Yes its possible cause this is Nigeria. This case needs God intervention.

@op
i want to beliv you are legally maried and agreed to all d oaths,and i also believe you and your hubby truely love eachoder and thats why you are togethe. In d first place,if a man truely loves his wife,he as no reason whatsoever to cheat on her except somthing went wrong,its either the love dosent exist anymore or he feels he isnt loved anymore. If u still love your hubby,forgive him and have a heart to heart disccusion with him,let him know how much pain he as caused you,show him more love and care,let him understand his kids are lookin up to you both as role models and thats why you need to betogether. I know its preety difficult cause of all the hurt,embarrasment and insult you have faced. It will take long to heal and trust your hubby again BUT FOR UR KIDS AND YOUR HUBBY AND FOR YOU TOO, pls u need to make your marriage work cause thats what makes you a VIRTOUS WOMAN. AND DONT FORGET TO PUT HIM IN PRAYERS u realy need it now than ever. Put the devil to shame my sister and make your marriage work,am sure you dont want your kids having a step dad. Whatever you decide,i wish you the very best.

Dear mothers,my son is only a week and a day old.his cord as falling of and i av been told dat newborn babies contact tetanus very easily through their navel after the cord as fallen of if the navel is being exposed for 2min. Pls how true is this?
Secondly my son sneezes very often and as mocus in his nose even wen he is sweatin heavely,pls i need advice as i feel guilty i must av passd it 2 him in pregnancy cause i do sneeze very very often 2 even wen am in a very hot sun right from wen i was a teenager,am not asthmatic neither av i ever ad asthma. Pls ur advice would be highly apreciated.Tnx

wot an episode,al tru labour and dilivery,my only tot was getin my son out and not d fear of opening my legs 4 d male doctor, 2 God be the glory,my great fear of dilivery is all over. I had a beautiful bouncing BABY BOY!!. He is a replica of his father. Am so greatful 2 u al 4 ur advice. God bless u all, [color=#770077][/color]

[color=#990000][/color] pls wuld some1 kindly advice me on how 2 get rid of weevels in my kitchen, now they dnt only stay in d beans bt fly abt d in d kitchen house. I cant seem 2 kill enuf of them wen am picking beans cos i end up eatin enuf of eat after cooking beans. My hubby has used bagon insecticides on them several times,it does kill them bt d next hour u see them in millions again.

It just shows we are facing the same problems all over the world,d so called advanced countries inclusive, I read an interview on d bbc of a 49 year old Nigerian Uzodinma Wigwe a cleaner in d UK dat was recently sacked,complaining of poor economy, I wonder what is happening in dat country lately, make dem let ‎​♏ε watch premier league oo.

Am nine monts pregnant and due for delivery any moment from now,its my first baby and my major fear is not being able to open my legs for d doctor to take delivery of my baby, my doctor is male and I can't stand anoda man aside my hubby seeing my private part. Pls help wit an urgent response as I av nursed dis fear from day one of my pregnancy. Tnx

@ybab according to my account officer she said banker will dislose som1 account balance 2 a second party for a personal account unless thru court order the embassy can only ask for the genuity of d doc and confirm if the account holder really exist

NL my friend as a problem.he has jst completed hs savins 4 d reqd mtce in our acct and has very limited tym 2 apply which application center is d fastest in lagos? secondly d statement of account zenith gave him does not have dere logo just d bank name acct nu, date of statement etc u know all dose printout from dere website but every pages was stamped and sign by 2 bank officials pls NL can he use d statement of account.
its urgent pls respond thanks

@tjadeba, i also fell into same scenario wen i 1st applied for my student visa but i was denied cos of waec cert evendough i explained that it as bn misplaced but i dint add police report nd affidavit to mine,since u av dat wt d confirmation of result from waec i think u r gud to go or beta still if u v tym u cn ask ur school to state it categoricaly in ur visa letter dat its ur waec statement of result they assessed to gv u admision and nt original waec cert.i hope dis helps