₦airaland Forum

slimtoney: I told my wife about a scary dream I had and she simply stood up and went about her usual chores and asked for no details. I am hurting inside and I felt my life is unimportant to her. I have been behaving strangely to her since yesterday.

realy u dont need all dat,behaving strangely wunt solve ur anger or solve d issue. Call her n sit her down,tell her all u feel,how badly hurt u are for her not showing concern over ur bad dream. Dats y communication does alot in marriage. She could actually av prayed for u wen u tot she dint. Good luck.

neyostica: My bro, i dnt trust my wife

hmmmm, if u dont trush dat much to make her ur next of kin,what abt ur kids?am sure u can trust dem enuf to make dem ur next of kin.

blank: I think it's easier for kids to call daddy first. My kid started with "addy" and i keep encouraging him. Mummy will come at its own time. The funny thing is that i don't even know when he is saying it cos he says a whole lot of stuff that does not make sense to me. Just that he will stretch out his hand to his dad to carry him then i kinda get it.

" addy " so funny. Tnx ma. Will try wacth out for my son.

Why on earth did she go ahead with d wedding after she saw him crying on d eve of thier wedding nyt,all dis rubbish wuldnt av showed up. Abeg let her go and look for someone who wuld truely love her. Agiboma gave u a good advice. Goodluck

ibrahim007: I would never forget the day my brother cried bitterly when i was still job hunting.He later paid my tuition fees to study in the UK for my masters,how do you fall apart with that kind of a brother?. He is the rock of the family,even when i'm the first child.At times i ask myself why he's not the first child.The answer is this some siblings are destined to be great than others irrespective of their position in the family,LOVE is key.What i feel can strain the relationship between my brother and i can actually be when he decides to have a family of his own,but i've made a vow in my heart that i would love his wife and his children to death.I will always carry them along in my plans till i depart this world.Even if i'm wretched(Allah forbid) i would shower them with unlimited love,affection,and care.@ OP I think lack of understanding is the main reason.

u av said it all, UNDRESTANDING ,TRUE LOVE AND PATEINT

ronkebp:

Just kidding...jare, as if my hubby gave me mercedes..during mine....no mind me at all

@ronkebp,dont worry he will buy it for u.

@op,take her out for dinner.

ronkebp: I think when he turned 12-15 months, he started with his 'dada', and the graduated to dadi.....now he sees me and calls me 'mimmy' and his dad' dadi",

He says other words like ''not nice''...when you yell at him or spank him.....lol

wow. So he started with dada? Very sweet. God bless ur family

ronkebp: I love hearing it, my baby, says( mimmy, he is 20 months old) my face lights-up when he calls me that, you know, having a little one to call you mummy, is just divine. I love my soldier.....

awwww.. So sweet n cute. Am so ansious. How old was ur son wen he called u mimmy? Tnx for ur response

Hi every one just wondring how its like to hear ur baby say MUM or DAD,av asked 3 of my frnds now and they all tell me they never knew its what they were saying,is this true or they just dint concentrate to hear them or what? Am realy excited nd waiting to hear my sons first words.he is 7months now. Mothers and fathers abeg share ur experience with me. Tnx

I dont tink its only in polygamous families o,cos Two of my aunts are not frnds n dey aint from poly families,same mum n dad.also seen a lot os siblings falling apart,amazes me

afam4eva: It's different when a mother is trying to protect her child even if she's aware of the child's misdeeds but it's different when a parent vehemently refuses to accept that their child can even hurt a fly.

yes u av a point there,still its difficult for a mother to admit such. Even with d childs father she dosnt paint her child all black,dats d bont btwn moda n child. She prepares to spank her child her own way rather dan serve to d vultures.

maclatunji: They do it to intimidate and break the law without being challenged. Yes, most Nigerians have a wack sense of self-worth and importance!

u are right my broda n adly will u see any Nigerian polise without a gun or their wooden stick. Foolish animals in human skin.

ifyalways: Who says its a Nigerian thing?If you don't trust your child,who would

abi o.

Op,its not just Nigeria but d whole planet, which mother would readily admit her child is bad even she is aware of it. If it were to b u would u admit such? No mother prays to av a bad child oo.

oladcity: Well next of kin i suppose is someone you trust to act on your behalf if circumstances prevent you. It's a thing of choice, however, for the married I would expect that your spouse should be your next of kin, but for several reasons you may decide to use someone else. In your case it could be that your hubby got so used to who he was using before marriage or is ignorant on the subject, probably he still has the mindset that his mum is more trustworthy than you, there could be several reasons.
I would suggest that you discuss the topic with him and you may be surprised that there is nothing to be worried about.

very true oladcity

@op,but u need to tok to ur hubby abt it cause he aught to have changed it now that he is married to either his wife or his kids.no need fight ur hubby over it. Tok to him first in a humble way

@op
i think d problem here is that u feel u dont need such lady anymore cause u already ad s.ex with her. Y not try dating a new person and stay away from s.ex for a while or till u realise u so much inlove with her n want her for marriage.i assure u it will b diffrent. It dosnt av to be a virgin o cos u aint one eida. Good luck.

dabrake: But @Mr.Killz, how come you are replying that orangutan?

refering to a human being as such!!! Am sure u wudnt like it if u were called that.

[quote author=Killz.][color=#000030]Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah. . . Sharrap!

Tell your mother you have been a very st[i]u[/i]pid girl, let her forgive you then you have your baby and move on with life. When you were havi[i]n[/i]g sex, did you call me? Did you ask for my advice? If your mother had told you to leave that boy alone, would you have listened? "He told me to have se[i]x[/i] with him, i refused but i later accepted". . . Errrm, you'll accept the pregnancy also. Pls, for once in your life, be responsible and have this baby. I pray it is a girl, so that she does to you what you did to your mother.

Congratulations in advance. . . If you think of aborting this baby, thunder fire you! [/color][/quote]@killz,serously like dont u think u are being to harsh on d op?
@op,i hope d ,man is not married cos if he is then u are truely in for a deep shit and i hope u dint do dis to tie him down cos of his mony cos u would leave to regret dat action, but if ur mind is clear den u gotr hope but u brot all dis insult to urself n i asure u dat u will get more insult henceforth.u wunt be d first to make such mistake n u wunt b d last,now u are a woman so u need to b stronger dan ever. Dis is wot i would advice my younger sister if it were to b her. U wunt b d first to make such mistake n as long as u fit carry belle den dat means u can nurse a baby.
For no reson wotsoever should u abort dat baby. Go to ur mother,tell her d whole truth n apologise to her on ur knees(its not gona b easy).
Beg her to follow u to d guys house or to his ofice(dont go n fight there or cause comotion o) go in a quiet n humble manner.or if u know any of his relatives go meet them and let them know u are expectng his baby. Dont fyt anybody. If after d visits he is still denying being respobsible,then leave him to God to fight for u,i assure u he will come asking for his child in future.

omigin: Lagos where i live, i often see people displaying their occupation mostly professionals, for example, you see a soldier put his cap in his car where everyone can easily see it,you see a doctor hang his stethoscope around his mirror,even layers put their cap somewhere for people to see. it is only engineers have not seen displaying their tools like screwdriver why i don't know.Do you guys see the same thing or are my the only one seeing this.Even nysc are not excluded.Do we really need to prove or show what we are, do we do it to earn respect or to intimidate others?

i see it also, i gues d soldiers do it to creat fear in pple

Bisjosh: DNT BE SURPRISED DAT D WOMAN WILL STILL BEG TO BE WITH HER HUSBAND. I TIRE FOR NIGERIAN WOMEN

if she begs then she should be sent back to get extra beating till she is filled up.

agiboma: I hate stories like this, ummm do you have a few brothers, or in short some neighbourhood boys will do to give him "the beating of his life" thats what should be done to this man, since domestic violence in this country does not get enough attention.

neighbourhood boys will do it beta,dose one no send anybody father.

stephen121: I went to my cousin's house for the holid, my cousin is married and six months pregnant. The husband came back 4rm work and she served him dinner ..beans. After taking two spoons, he became furious and started shouting that my cousin did nt fry the beanns. Well I decided to keep quiet because it was a family matter. Suddenly I saw him hitting my sister with a stick, i told him to stop hitting her because of fried beans and he slapped me. I was angry and Ileft the house that night, even though my cousin begged me to stay. The next morning I got a call that my cousin was in the hospital. On getting there my cousin was lying on the bed badly beaten. What should be done to this man... Advice please

dat man should be sent to d forest to be eaten by wild animals but bfor then go pay ojuelegba tugs to give him d beaten of his life or beterstill get 5 heavy bouncers to deal with him then send him to wild animals.
Wot if ur cousin losts her unborn child? Abeg comot her for dat house till she puts to bed.

maclatunji: Parents say I love you in Nigeria? That is an imported/strange idea in Nigeria O. Do as you are told or get a whipping is the closest 'I love you' you will get from most Nigerian parents.

These imported ideas are spoiling our children. Next thing, these children will want to call their father and mother by their first names as if 'mum' and 'dad' are not bad enough.

LOL

peaceheartt: tnx for dis thread, i have 3 kids - 2 boys and a girl- i just realised after reading dis dt i only say "I love u" to my girl and never to my boys...... I'll make it a point of duty to change dat. those 3-letter words shld be said to every child at least once a day!

very nice ma.
I say to my son very often.

Still hapens everyday n will never stop hapening.

maclatunji: I mean that you have never killed a woman and in all probability will never do such. Those who have, do not make it an issue for public consumption. In other words, you are e-bragging and not only that I actually believe men like you end up being the puppets of some extremely manipulative woman.

lol