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SixSeven:
He could even be married. Men who know their worth know what to avoid.

Seun what's in this reply that needs bot banning me?

ukaface:
Unfortunately Tinubu and his senators and his governors and his ministers won’t see this.

I wish them all a slow and painful death

Double0h7:
You’re the grinch of Xmas 🤣🤣🤣

Mikocake:
Una no dey everly get love at first sight or crush on barrow pushers and artisans, na always good looking and well to do men. Infactuation at its peak

SisterAnn:
👹

SisterAnn:
Oga speak for yourself. The lady says she's in love and I believe her.

Charis15:
Well currently I don't have a boyfriend.
I have been celibate for over a year and I'm okay. I have every good thing of life you can think of believe me.
I have a guy in UAE pleading for me to join him but I declined because I'm not attracted to him.
I give more when I'm in a relationship.
I'm not those 2k abi 20k girls

Sirmwill:
These kind of situations lead to broken homes and broken hearts,eternal frustration and unending regrets

I tell people
There is really nothing like "Love at first sight"
You can NEVER like a person:girl or guy,at first sight
You only liked her curves or height or complexion or face freshness or hair or his height or complexion or his car or his expensive clothes or his manner of speaking
And NOT THE PERSON
Loving someone takes days,
It takes weeks
Months,
Years
Decades
Ask people who lasted till their old age in marriage.
When the money, curves, skin, everything goes away, where would the love be?

Btw
You have hormones that want you to procreate to maintain the human population and further develop Ecological systems
This makes people think they are in love

Charis15:
Lol
I also belonged to that school of thought that believes that there is nothing like love at first sight.
Wait till it happens to you.
Life is deep and unpredictable.

SisterAnn:
Na wa for you oo

Someone cannot fall in love in peace again?

Charis15:
On Sunday the 21st day of December 2025 I left my home that faithful day and embarked on a trip to my village. That was our family thanksgiving day, so missing out was not an option. I arrived at the park around 12noon and I was so in a hurry to meet up because they will start 12 till around 3pm. When I got to the park at koka in Asaba heading towards Kwale, though I will stop before Kwale but there is no straight Car to my village that's why I have to board with them, but they needed 5 more persons to complete the vehicle and that's not an option for me, so I went to the vehicle going to Warri/Ughelli because they just needed two more persons. When I got to that sienna I saw something that captivated me and change my whole sense of reasoning, A handsome, tall, fair and spotless man. OMG am I lusting? I lost my gaze for a few seconds. I think it's called love at first sight. I regain my cool and I told driver please shout louder so we can move and this man/guy said to me why don't you pay for the extra 🪑? I was just 🤔 what to answer. He said " them no dey chop woman money", I chuckled and then he said, " I will pay for the extra sit for you because you are in a hurry", chai see caring man. And I jumped and gave him hi five. But fortunately for him, a guy came and completed the sit so we kicked off. We had some talks about the situation of the country and the west. He told me what happened when he went for training in Amsterdam, Dubai etc.
Now I believe a guy should show interest first no matter what. He didn't ask for my contact and I said good, I'm a woman and I have dignity. So neither will I ask.
When I got to my junction, I highlighted and waved him., Immediately that car drove off, I was full of regrets and until now my heart isn't settled. I know I'm in Love. But how can I love a total stranger like this?
Now the pain I feel is like a broken heart for love that never bloomed.
I have never felt like this about anyone before.
I don't know his name , no contact, I don't even know if he likes me or maybe he is married, yet I feel so much pain for not being able to communicate him thereafter.
Now I feel at ease discussing it here.

YourGFsnatcher:
Yes. But I'm on holiday

SpencerForbes:
It’s a double-edged sword. If you’re playing the 'just a friend' card without any real game, you’re basically funding her lifestyle without her even noticing. She’ll bill you before she bills her own boyfriend because she sees you as a safe 'provider' while you think you’re just 'preparing the ground.' You’ll be the shoulder she cries on while she’s being handled by other guys. Then, after 100 heartbreaks, you try to move in for a kiss and she gets angry because she feels you weren't 'honest' about your intentions.

The truth is, being direct is a confidence booster. Even if you get rejected, you’ve acted like a man. It shows b😊lls. Hiding behind 'friendship' just to get close usually stems from a fear of rejection. Some women with high standards won't even respect you until you show that masculine backbone. It reeks of low self-esteem. While the friend-to-lover route can work, it requires elite-level game and usually takes way longer than necessary. If you don't handle it perfectly, you lose the girl and the friendship in one go. Unless you have serious game to navigate the transition from friend to partner, you’re better off just shooting your shot directly and moving on if it’s a no.

YourGFsnatcher:
Where do you people get all these money from to give a girl that's not your wife? I can't give any girl more than 30k at a time. Mostly na 10k I dey give. Where una dey get this money?
And I have the hottest girls

Zestzealotzenit:
your own good bro my banny say I nor fit buy her mama Xmas chicken or clothes she get elder sister wen dn marry n elder brother too but non of them buy rice wen I tell her mother she say make I no bother cus she know say things rough for me but banny still da insist I must buy na so relationship end 2 days back

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

HgAkpobomeEr:
Lagosians shouldnt panic. Security agencies are on top of the situation.

budaatum:
It's a great pity that seun does not seem like he cares too much about what he has provided us with here as much as I do.

Its like he does not know that Oxford University began just by people congregating in the city and exchanging ideas just as we do here.

But in all sincerity, perhaps him not knowing is what has made this site invaluable. If he did know, his head might just grow too big for his shoulders and his ego might destroy the site.

Seun, buda humbly respectfully bows.

budaatum:
Obviously not, since the service seun is offering is in no way worth that much!

I did offer to backdate, note, and I have been here awhile, so it might be a considerable sum indeed, though I doubt as much as 1k dollars.

Rynny:
She always takes everything that am the one at fault, lately I just consistently apologize for the ones I do n don’t do, I just apologize for peace to reign cos am tired of constant quarrels, and if I decide to go quiet with she start acting weird, after few days she comes back saying how of a feminist or woman have I become that she went quiet I also went quiet. And I be like you hurt me with your words and insulted me and you still want me to come beg you, the reply was “That’s what real men do”😮‍💨

Daniel058:
I'm usually surprised, like what do men see on women backside...

To be honest most times the so called big nyash disgust me.

Big boobs better pass am Nah

Daptboy:
When we dae collect red pills for nairaland more than 10yrs ago.. I doubt you were here... So face your front...

Daptboy:
When we dae collect red pills for nairaland more than 10yrs ago.. I doubt you were here... So face your front...

Daptboy:
Baba think say everybody na simpleton like ham... Keep dreaming bro..

budaatum:
That might work for 12 year olds, but mature people watch both words and deeds.

I definitely would be worried if my sons listen to him, and moreso if my daughters do.

Daptboy:
Baba think say everybody na simpleton like ham... Keep dreaming bro..

Samantha125:
My sister or not, we're all controlling you...💃💃💃

Before your girlfriend or wife, it was your mother who was controlling you.

Daptboy:
Which true colors?? No be everybody dae be simp like you bro