₦airaland Forum

Millenniumlady:
Hbd mama....Please is your son single

So if any of her sons are single, you'll jejely leave piiko. What a waste of his time. I pray he knows ur shenanigans and finally drop your ass after fucking 3 years together-apart.

I no longer believe this stories.

Story for the gods. Non of my business.

politeme:
which network is 200-1gb?

Lol
It's not really regular. It's EMPTY N

Owerri girls and ashawo job. It's in their history since God created Earth.

Pattypatt:
I prefer to save in my bank, even if heaven falls, I won't touch the money if I dont want to.

I can't make that mistake again with these new CBN policies and ecobank have been scamming me of my hard earned money. Not giving me my correct balance and chopped sara 4k from my account telling me stories. Since then, I just cancelled it. The account is just there for fancy

I gave my mom money to buy my N150 piggy bank yesterday and I jejely kept 6k from my April salary inside cos d way I spend nowadays is sth else esp on data and I'm no longer buying data like I used to again. Just my N200 for 1GB for a week pere.

funmisticqueen2:
SU couples always have 'challenges' on their wedding night. I am tired of counselling many cases.

Pls give her some mills and boon, or harlequin romance novel to read. When it gets to the sexual scenes, let her imagine herself and her husband acting out the scene. This will build chemistry and enable her enjoy sex.


The secret to painless sex is to be mentally prepared for it.

•She should relax and come from the place of her husband loves her and doesn't want to harm her.

•She should tell herself that sex is enjoyable, with the man she chose. After being celibate, she better enjoy the sweet fruit of the her efforts.

•She should start to see her husband in a sexual light, as a sexually attractive man. Like in the romance novels.

She should communicate with him to be gentle with her and take things slowly.

I wish the couple good luck.

Pls what is the meaning of SU

I've done my job. Voted successfully.

What a man. I've heard of him, anyways his death is prolly around the corner.

So be it. As he wishes. I'm not a much believer of these preacher men. I'm a Catholic anyways.

I've heard of this man. One of the most powerful men in this nation. He walks freely free and anyhow he likes. An ethnic bigot.

Here comes another akuko ifo

stagger:
Tell me your friends and I will tell you who you are. Only a thief supports a thief. YOU ARE A THIEF!

Mtcheeeeewww. Biko gafem nazu. Onye apari.

Poor for me ooo

I support the chef joor. Na where person dey work e dey chop. Stingy banky. He should say that he's broke and doesn't have enough money to pay him rather than paint the chef black cos he doesn't have a voice to speak out.

Story for the gods. His wife's story got me. Chai

Audio

Why is this thread just kicking up now after how many years. Lessons learnt tho.

Paulgold:
confused goat

Your generation have breded confused set of animals.

9izone:
How on Earth do you even believe this story?
Anyways if I must say, leaving the house is an error! Looking at his wife, she managed, she never left him because he has no job, she was there even though they are fighting and all that she stood! So my dear, if this woman tells you her own part of story now, I promise, you will skip.
From my own sensing, I see this man ran into another woman.

Maybe. Ath can happen but I'm against my woman having illicit affairs. Tb me personally, I'm d faithful type. Idk abt the OP. Good luck to him anyways.

All is know is that, there's original an there's fake dada. What most pple carry is fake. Mere looking at a dreadlock, I know the diff. It comes with sth spiritual attached with it. Esp from the Marine world. It disturbs them alot. That's why it takes prayers and sacrifices to Barb it off. The funniest part of it is that, most of them end up becoming good seers and prophets. God is so wonderful. While some of them carry it for beautification and use it to scam pple, the real ones use it for sth good and most of them end up having bad things come their ways or their offsprings ways cos they're battling with a strong world and forces that don't want them to be. Even MFM pastors can't Barb it off like that. That's the strength of an original dreadlock (dada as we call it, na oyibo man call am locks)

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

I was moved to tears and your story is very emotional.
OP you passed through a lot. May God guide u wella.

But be patient with women and shine your eyes. It's the next woman in your life that'll suffer for her sins.

He dedicated his beards to the pandemic. See the EWU himself.

Now let's see what will turnout in the next few days within the cabal

What a nigeria

Their usual work. It had been happening for years. My condolences to bobo's familia

Their own cup of tea. Still the same shambles we're in.

Hisduchess:
You can't say much sir and it's good like that

Ya
Ya
Ya

newdawn2017:
I love em shy & innocent. Can I please harvest ur innocence?

You're free anyway if you can cope with my shy attitude and I'm an introvert.

My number is on my sig if u care tho.

HammedOlanaija:
Even if belle face sugar mummy ready for marriage

Your head dey there.

Denique:
That is how he can get me in the first place
I don't joke with that. I love it and I pray I find me one

So I can try my luck anyway