₦airaland Forum

COOLDUN: Court Judging you said? that is one of the reasons crime has been on increase in Nigeria, court will discharge them tomorrow on lack of evidence and witness, then they will growm more wings and egos to carry on with their criminal activities.Many captured terrorists and criminals has bribed themselves to freedom through these means and our weak judicial system.Let the criminals and kidnappers be hit more harder by the means and other more painful methods so that others will be discouraged to continue when they see what happened to their counterparts. Destroy all they acquire through kidnapping and armed rorberry so that people will know that it is vanity upon vanity.Your suggestion would have been the best methods if we have a healthy judicial system.

fittty: Dis tin too long na

abifoluwa: was that obi calling Orji his bro? they are not from the same state sebi. P.s jst an observation, make una no abuse me o

ZUBY77: Where does anyaoku come into this? As a matter of fact, it is you Anambra people that answer anyaoku as a name #jokes.

Nobody is jealous of you people, atleast not me. I live in Onitsha. I made most of my money in Onitsha. I have a house at Awada Onitsha, i have my business there as well. I dont hate Anambra state, they are Igbos like me. I have many friends from Ekwulobia, Nanka, Oko etc. I know every corner of Anambra state.
The problem here is that you people see it as a normal thing to call Ebonyi people 'umu Aba', enugu people ' ndi wawa' in public. But you people dont accept bad names in public like you want other igbos to do.
Why so much anger against me here? Because someone finally decided to take up the e-war with you.
If we must agree to be one Igbo, then let us have equal status in the table. Your individual millionaires are good for all of us. As a matter of fact, we have individual millionaires all over Igboland, not just your state. Yours may be bigger in numbers but then 'so what' ?
You dont see others brag about them.
When we were one state -Anambra and Enugu- Jim Nwobodo was the governor.
Jim is from Nkanu in Enugu. What happened? How did you allow that to happen despite all your millions?
You see we are united down here in Enugu, so we will always win you. You can see us as fools, uneducated, poor but the capital of Igboland is Enugu. Half of the buildings in Enugu urban belongs to Anambra people. We are one and the same. For the fact that government decided to divide us doesnt change that.

Catholic church parish in Ugwuoba enugu state is still under Awka Anambra diocess. some parts of Ebenebe see themselves as enugu state.
See what i mean?
I was driving to Isuochi last week and found out that Anambra and Abia are just the same. Same goes ti Awgu in Enugu and Okigwe in Imo. Same place, same people, same language, same foods etc.

I apologie for what i said about Anambra people. It was out of anger. My brother was kidnapped and we have one Anambra man in custody since then. He refused to tell the police what happened. He has been denying hs involvement with the kidnapping. We discovered a text message which he used in collecting 8million naira kidnapping ransome in Edo state. He agreed to that one but not that of my elder brother.
Maybe now you can understand my anger over the people especially when kidnapping issues come up. Just like this topic. Not on everything.

birdman: If you are not going to change your last name, why even get married. Why not just live as partners, share the house and kids but keep everything else separate.



This has nothing to do with patriarchy. You change your name to the man's signifying he is now responsible for you, as your primary protector, no longer biological father. Ghana for example, is deeply matriarchal, yet they take their husbands names. Anyways, good luck taking advice from people with a 70% divorce rate. We'll see how that works out

Kobojunkie: It usually does not usually matter, especially when many of the lawyers and judges are also indoctrinated into this mindset.

Absolutely right!

Goes to show, not only the roots but how deeply entrenched the injustices have been dug into Igbo land and culture, and why it will linger a bit on.

Because, the lawyers, Judges and all the law enforcement Agents, feeds the culture/tradition!

The reason they are now, reconsidering their attitudes towards Bride Price is because, most Igbo men are priced out of the matrimonial market - a man wey never find way to chop food - how i go afford woman dowry?

He can only afford it through, adopting a shot-gun wedding strategy - get her pregnant, quick!!

No, we should not be in shock as many Nigerian girls are cohabiting in such relationships - and calls the men their husband instead of boyfriends because of shame! You'd often hear them say:

Na my husband! No, the man you're living with is not your husband until you're legally married, ok! And that's the implication of a shot-gun marriage - it blurs the boundaries!

You see, with this new law every thing is done to favour the Igbo man in our culture and without consideration for an Igbo woman - and this law they are trying to change won't work, as some families would give their prospective son in-law other Terms and Conditions to recoup the money they spent educating their daughters.

Papa and Uncles would say, after all, he is the one coming to his domot to take away, his investment - oku ya! Just watch this space.

It will not work! New Terms and Conditions will be created from this new law- remember where you saw the prediction, na here.

But, how could we expect families to price an intelligent, highly educated, high flying daughter the same, as a girl that had just left secondary school, I wonder?

Human beings love money and parents would find alternative ways of securing the investments made in establishing a better future for their daughters, bet me!

Beside this, the cultural change is also going to throw up another kind of family dis-functionality in society, which no one had yet envisaged. A Nigerian man in particular, an Igbo man with his ego on top of Everest, would not handle it when his Mrs tells him to get up in the middle of the night and attend to the baby's need e.g. change and feed the baby - your turn!

And for those in the West, it doesn't matter because, they're already doing it here and there is the law to gagged them - they won't dare however, as the world is rapidly changing, and women are learning their rights every day, I wonder how a Nigerian man living in Nigerian society, would cope when his wife makes such demands?

But, what redress, has an independent Nigerian woman with her own money, apart from going to court, to end it! And, those without such power - too bad!

Also, knowing that the culture had never offered the men the opportunity to acquire a 'free wife' until now, and except for those who acquired theirs, through shot-gun marriages which the families are obviously not happy about - the way and manner they handle their women domestic needs, will determine the efficacy of these common bride price matrimony, and we shall all live to see it.

Also, would it change the Igbo man, controlling and roving eye behaviours? And, how would the sister handle it this time, round? I can't wait to see and read the first episode on here.

These are few de-merits I foresee, this cultural change, might bring.

On the other hand, may I predict, it could actually promote respect for an Igbo woman in her marriage - as many are not getting any, right now.

When a man realises he got his wife 'free of charge' he might think twice before, controlling and disrespecting her both at home/public as he knows that e.g. controlling her body by determining the number of children she should have for him thus, sending her to maternity ward every 2 years in order to get a son, when she doesn't want to; suffering his verbal/physical/emotional abuses etc would not be tolerated this time and they can now stand up for themselves or, she goes hack home or somewhere else where, they would never see her again, leaving her husband and parents begging her to come home and, let's fix it - your choice!

Dede1: If you really want to share in the landed property of your father, you should not bother about bride price. You should reject or should have rejected all available suitors so that you will the person to occupy your father’s compound when he has gone to his forbearers. If you have any intention of usurping the position of your male siblings, I should remind you that Ndigbo do not buy land from a woman. Again, the only landed property a woman inherits in Igbo land is through her husband. My people say that only a foolish Ada (the first female child in a family) does not know she is a “stranger”.

There is nothing wrong with Igbo tradition except where it demands sacrifice of ultimate price. I speak authoritatively that such traditional demands have been put rest in Igbo land.

Yes, so far as you and your kind that lacks morals are favoured by this nasty tradition - there's nothing you could see wrong, with Igbo tradition.

Based on that, I repeat, as long as we are entitled not to be sold into slavery by this up coming Legislation, we are also, entitled to our inheritance! The two must go, hand-in-hand because, women inheritance began in the Bible.

And, if you lot claim to be Christians, you should all emulate Christ!

He came to mediate for us in the New Covenant, righting all the wrongs of the Old Covenant (Moses law) and thus, made that law obsolete - where women are dis-inherited immediately after they got married - they hand back to the family their inheritance.

Yes, in the Old Covenant, our Most Righteous, Fair and Just God recognised the need for women to be given their inheritance as he declared in the first ever, land mark case on women inheritance in the Bible - the Zelophehad's 5 daughter's.

Their case came up to Moses for judgement and he sought the face of God, and God declared favour on girls' - they won their case with CONDITIONS attached that, once they got married, the inheritance reverts back to the family (Numbers Chpts. 27 and 36).

And afterwards, that was wrong in the eyes of God!

Yes, some things were wrong in the Old Covenant (Moses law)!

God having considered many of these things, e.g. continuous animal sacrifices for the atonement of sins, divers laws, rules and regulation that discriminated against God's children for example in Deutronomy Chpt. 23 v. 1 - 6... KJV stipulates:

" He that is wounded in the stones, or hath his privy member cut off, shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord". Wow!!!

Also that," A b a s t a r d should not enter into the congregation of the Lord, even to the tenth generation (as if it was his fault he was born a b a s t a r d? ).

Again,"An Ammonite or Moabite shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to their tenth generation shall they not enter...for ever! In fact, that includes us - the Black race - if the Ammonites and Hoabite (who are closely related to Abraham) should not enter the congregation, what chance do we have?

And, one would ask, were they not God's creation and children?

As you can see, these are just few reasons, our God made a New Covenant thus condemning the the Old Covenant (Moses law). It was not appropriate therefore, the Most High God sent His beloved Only Son - Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ to come and Redeem us, and He Atone for our Salvation with His Precious Blood once and for all thus, the New Covenant condemned the Old law and made it obsolete (Hebrew Chpts. 8, 9 and 10 - NIV).

With Christ - the New Covenant was more tolerant and favourable to all mankind thus, giving us equal rights that is Fair and Just in the sight of God!

We can now, inherit from our fathers just as our brothers whether in the back garden in the village or on top of the mountain in Jericho - it doesn't matter as long as Daddy has given it to me - it is mine and I can do whatever I like with it, get it!

That's God's Will!

And, you CAINS sons of Adam said no - you must control, dominate and intimidate your sisters over their inheritance and our Fair and Righteous God will fight for us on this up coming battle in the Imo State House of Assembly - time will tell!

Just watch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

odocity: the breast of so many girls has fallen,so they put on foamy bra to pad it together.From Woman Doctor.

[b][size=16pt]B r e a s t of so many girls are fallen, they bemoans

Why? Don't you know why it has fallen? Because of you!

Because of all the fornications you do with these ladies, that resulted in unwanted pregnancies and Nigeria culture itself doesn't help, either. A culture that condemns a woman that had a baby, as second-handed and one would ask, who gave these ladies these babies, after all? Na, tree or electric pole?

Because of the stigma attached, these ladies are forced to run to the abortionist to terminate their babies so that, society would perceive them, as virgins - really?

Now after all these mess, what happened to the b r e a s t you're on about?

Because, the b r e a s t starts preparing milk as soon as you climb down your horse (you fornicator!)thus, activating or triggering the lactating hormones to produce milk ready for the baby and in the process, it enlarges/increases the size/weight of the b r e a s t and in doing so, stretches the skin that holds the b r e a s t in the natural, uplift position that you desire, and the final result is?

Your NOSE sags and drop down to your ankles, while you're here moaning!

I have a word for all you fornicators who are here, moaning - 'you can't eat your cake and have it' and your sins have finally, caught up with you!

Keep damaging Nigerian girls while you seek to marry virgins - and whose virgins will you be marrying, this time? Perhaps, the one you met in your dreams.

But how about the ones you damaged, who will marry them? Maybe, your Uncle! Ah, the Sugar-daddies are all waiting to take the damaged article thereby, causing havoc in peaceful homes, and leaving society to pick up the dysfunctional aspects.

Now, I challenge you all, plead your innocence!

Can you count the number of babies you've joined hands to kill and pour their blood in the drain? How many?

Confess it now, as you bemoan your fallen - Nose!

Remember, judgement awaits![/size][/b]

Abagworo: I don't know which part of Igboland you come from that you don't know of "Idulo" culture in which a father gives utensils, clothes, house, cash, car to his daughter to support her new wedding. What is given is according to what the Father can afford.

However if you are talking about a man who died without writing his will, then it is likely the tougher guys in the family will seize his belongings. Sometimes his brothers could even out-smart his children and wife but that is not Igbo culture.

Listen, you're living in cuckoo land with regards to Igbo traditions!

The women who are living the realities of this unfair system are informing you of their every day experiences and you're here arguing blindly.

Yes, "Idu Ulo" is an ancient Igbo tradition, and not all clans, hamlets and families are respecting it, in this present time hence, the suffering of these women.

Also, it is an Igbo tradition, for a father when he is alive to allocate any of his village land - I repeat, any of his village land (not those in towns, not shares etc) if he wishes, to his first daughter mainly - whether married or not, and no one dares take it from her - lai, lai, lai!

But these days, the son's would take it from her - is it not our culture and shouldn't we 'Uphold' it?

Now tell me, how many clans, hamlets and families are respecting that, today None, and you are here promoting respect for Igbo traditions, the ones you chose, abi?

We only have to respect those ones that favours you and your clans men, abi??

In that case, all Igbo traditions should now, be reviewed and quick to stop these injustices...!

Imaine, you come here to inform me about our traditions - I am "Ada na Nne and Nna" and you can't tell me about my culture!