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You know very little but you come off as being so sure about strong women. When it comes to relationships, it's a numbers game. There are more Men who desire calm and 'womanly' women than those that do not. A woman, victorian has explained from a personal experience and you the guy is arguing like you've been a woman before How many guys want a domineering woman? and how many women have the time and effort to look for those?
Call men insecure all you want but any guy who has been with both would certainly choose the submissive (not servile) woman over a commandeering and bossy one. How old are you sef?

Jman06:
You ain't getting my point at all. Being arrogant, inconsiderate and outrightly wicked is different from knowing when to stand and fight for what is right.
Besides, only men with low self esteem would want ladies who display their vulnerability for everybody to see. If you are naturally soft, you can be excused, but you trying to act soft and vulnerable just to gain insecure men's approval is unattractive to real men tbh.

Great! Can you tweak on a modem?

yemight474 Physics is a foundational science and if you learn and understand it, you would love it. When you love something, learning more about it becomes effortless.

So try to get a first class, then apply for foreign scholarships (reach out, if you need a hand) ... as crooked as Nigeria is, academic merit still counts for foreign scholarships provided by National agencies and companies.

From there, a new world would be opened to you and you can go on achieving as you desire. On the other hand get a 2:2 or below and join the army of unemployed and N-power people gearing up to vote Nepa bill President for a second term to life.

Good luck, try to learn programming or computer tech stuff as well.

I agree, except that this isn't mental slavery from colonialism but rather a wilful and obstinate self-imposed and self-sustained slavery to ignorance. These guys have multiple bibles in their homes and workplaces, even give some as gifts to strangers but still remain as ignorant as an illiterate herdsman.

Benz4pimp:
If you think buhari will not get a second term,u r as gullible as Toyin legbegbe or aimaku!!!if you can’t ask your pastors where tithe is written is it your type that want to challenge you bad leaders?sorry for all of you suffering from colonial mental slavery

Call me a misogynist or whatever but wake me up when a local nigerian girl speaks like they are able to think a speck critically.

Talking about asking questions and you want to challenge what Daddy Freeze said and not the obtuse Toyin

It's difficult not to think along racist lines towards Nigeria as a whole in terms of average intelligence. You would think the country is locked up in a cave with no information whatsoever getting in but hey! it's 2018 AIs robots are becoming more accessible and all these lots know is religion, church and tithes and big brother

The prospect of even electing a senile uneducated president, far above retirement age, yet again only demonstrates the bulk of people in the country.

I empathetic to the large majority who've had and still don't have access to good education. They know no better, but none whatsoever to those who can read this on a smartphone or computer that aren't even able to understand Daddy Freeze. What then can they understand, the human genome, or the cosmos?

If you want to be happy and live in Nigeria as a Nigerian, best stay uneducated. The people abhor and persecute those who seem too love acquiring knowledge.

Is this some sort of a poor (wo)man's poetry or a suicide note, makydebbie?

notice how clean everywhere was 2018 and still exhibiting savagery. Electing uneducated grandpas. We die here o. Sai Baba till infinity.

'Psychologist' brazenly spewing ignorance. I wonder which university she bought her degree from. Could she be one of those who sleeps with lecturers for grades?

guy! you dey vex? lol

kernel507:
Unfortunately we have a president, whose intelligence quotient (IQ) is less than 10, less than an IQ of an average primary school pupil.

A man tinctured with intellectual emptiness, who doesn't know Western Germany isn't no more, what does he know?

Demarketing Nigeria with unpresidential languages, without a print speech this man is dead, what sort of president is that?


He's like a robot, read-only-memory (ROM).

male feminist? such a wuss

must you start a relationship before you follow your heart?

thought they had a song already on youtube.

the bible is one funny book lol

Moral of Story: Chemo is expensive and only the rich can afford it. Marry a rich girl

Great concept and lovely photos. The girl is hot btw.

when una no provide consistent power and standard education for the people...how dem go take watch am? Fools! Most people online cant be bothered with the dangerous elections in Nigeria. Elections are largely decided by those who do not have access to these luxuries.

the spelling

MhizzAJ:
What's the difference between pastors and politicians

You should sent an affirmation that you are a lunatic with a smartphone. The reason why I'm so anti-religion is because it causes normal potentially nice people to become psychotic.
Hope you come to a realisation in your time on earth. If I knew you I would ensure you get a psychiatric evaluation...for your own good. Just like annyplenty too much bible thumping has got you overboard mentally.
Waste of space... And people are lying fallow in the hospital hoping to have a meaningful life but here you are wasting. Shame! And please ask Jesus to tell you my name and where I am since you talk to him

MrPresident1:
John 5:22
For the Father judgeth no man, but hath committed all judgment unto the Son:

I judge you with the judgment of the Son, you are a FOOL.

Zombie

"Anyone who calls his brother a fool/idiot/zombie will be sent to fiery hell" the words of your Lord and master Jesus in Matt 5:22

It seems you would also be sent to hell like the rest of the unbelievers. Shame you're wasting your life trying to warn people about where you will still end up.

MrPresident1:
Zombie, your eyes will soon open.

Idiot.

Jesus keeps postponing his coming until you will grow old and die with regrets of wasting your whole life reading fiction and believing it. I have told you before MrPresident1 but it seems you are actually crazy. Get a life! Your dear Jesus isn't coming, you and whoever brought you up with this BS have been tricked...but it's okay, we all have been at some point.

It makes me sad seeing someone who can read and write legibly waste off to this delusional machinery called Christianity. E no go better for the colonial masters. You could be a doctor or a scientist useful to yourself, family and country but... If only wishes were horses.

I know you guys, this wouldn't even make you bat an eyelid to reflect on the BS you dedicated your life to. SMH MrPresident1 is just another one of many wastes of space we have littered in the Third World.

Truly sad indeed

Was treated in a hospital in France. Foolish Nigerians in Nigeria would trust completely in God and still die of typhoid and malaria. God is good indeed to the ignorant.

Isn't it ironic that after she stopped believing medicine yet still went for treatment and continues going for frequent check ups. You religious crazies should wake up. Focus and believe in science education like you do this imaginary God. Nigeria would become a better place and maybe the French could travel down to Nigeria for treatment and praise whatsoever imaginary friends they have.

The question I asked before I turned atheist

delerx:
I had to shut my eyes for a few seconds.I don't just understand again.this is barbaric.but I wanna ask when [b]GOD commanded king Saul to destroy everything in a city back them,were children among too?[/b]so I don't just understand again.I just want to leave this wicked world

There!!! There lies the problem, isn't it?

mrvitalis:
Yea I know what he has done

Distroyed the youths and killed many

Corned the allocation and royalties that come to the town and use very little to do few projects

I know what he has done monopolizing power and making himself nearly a God in the town

If you think someone like him with no clear source of wealth deserve kingship then you are part of Nigerian problem

Well, they didn't know any better, neither did they see/experience any better. They are simply the products of these shitty old folks...and how about the people experienced and benefited from when the country was 'good' and working take responsibility for the embarrassment they have transformed Nigeria into? How can someone who attended public school and paid no tuition from primary to university become minister/commissioner of education and then steal and withhold funds meant for schools? what then do you expect those schools to produce? and you want to blame the victims?

FYI, the younger ones aren't worse by the way, I wonder how you inferred that from my earlier comment. From your comment, there was no class because everyone was getting the same or comparative standard of education. Who are the ministers from these your 'angelic-can-do-nothing-wrong-generation'? But they don't reason, do they?

ddjay:
Mmm, and the younger generation are worse (that means)

Why do you have to do all that to reach an all-knowing all-seeing omni-plenty almighty all-powerful god? What of people who are blind that cannot read the bible or simply cannot read? and deaf cannot hear or mentally impaired individuals ... means they cannot access this God Your moniker says 'dare to be different' but it seems you don't even know how you came to believe this your imaginary friend you call god.

I know you haven't read the bible in its entirety so just ask yourself this interesting question, when and how did the christian god know and start caring about black people like you? #hint 17 or 18th century AD ie. 1800 after death of your master Jesus and you say this god that came with slave masters and colonialists is all-knowing? and knew you before you were born To keep things in perspective, I suggest you check how long humans have been in existence, then christianity, then pentecostalism, then nigerian pentecostalism, then your church ... hope you get the drift

“When one person suffers from a delusion, it is called insanity. When many people suffer from a delusion it is called a Religion.” ― Robert M. Pirsig

Let me predict, you won't look because you are afraid of what you might find out yourself, that you just may have been believing in fantasy all along but if you are so sure about how 'real' this your god is, try looking for answers to these questions and while you're at it, talk/pray to him along the way

2SWT:
Yes He believes in the God the bible talks about, do you have any problems with that?
If you cant help him get what he wants just say it and leave the thread quietly, nobody forced you to type

@ Kalvoken the first step towards praying is trying to connect with God. Now ask yourself what makes you connect to God? Couldn't be music, reading the bible or chtistain books or even watching Christian movies

oh right, then these same set of people become the repugnant monsters that molest female students and act like imbeciles because they are called lecturers. Look at the politicians and the civil servants Please, spare us that nonsense, the old generation have failed the country and are still rubbing it on our faces.

ddjay:
Uc y d education then (80s/90s) was good and infact,better.we were made equal irrespective of how rich your background is.we used to wear thesame school uniform, compound wear and all were of thesame style.girls dont plate dia hair (all low cut).we wore sandals for classes and slippers for compound wear. Also ate thesame food.then when we got into the university, we treated each other with respect, infact, those that had respect (what u call high class)were those on first class and 2.1, not those just having cars and staying off campus.

and how is that any of his business? The author had his condescending lenses on throughout drawn from his religious inclination. Maybe it was written on a Christian blog but if not ... my comment remains valid.

bukatyne:
I don't think a fleetingly divorce 26yr old having sex all over Europe counts as 'unmarried person having sex'.

It still hasn't struck you that god and religion are just a fiction of imagination due to human teleological nature.

They are building schools and libraries and banning religion in China but in Nigeria, the opposite, you spend all day arguing about tithes and build churches and mosques all over the place. Live life based on stone age fairy tale books you guys never read yourselves.

If you are still waiting to be told that religion and 'God' excuse is for either the extremely clueless, lazy or poor ... when next you pray ask god why he loves his mega-houses situated in poor societies in sub-saharan Africa and why irreligious countries like Sweden have everything better on living indices. Perhaps, he loves watching helpless children die of hunger, malnutrition, tropical diseases and war but would rather care about who is homosexual and who brings tithes and offering to the 'storehouse'.

What has these slave-masters' gods done for you people, for Nigeria, for Africa? It's 2017 and this absurdity of the nigerian's craze for religion is nauseating You are ignorant if you think you god created you. I wonder what you even studied in the university?

Facts are harsh sometimes. No apologies.

moscobabs:


lord wetin i do you that warrant me to be created in Africa?

I read for my WAEC inside cocoa farm 17years ago throughout my days in the University I read for my exam in an uncompleted building , I have to read for my ICAN while Im inside the bus going or coming from office because there was no chance for me to read.

God ...are we africans not created by you? and the irony part of it is that we are the most religious Continent .

oboy abi ogirl...you are being unnecessarily emotional and from your rants it's glaring that you are making not-so-well thought advice and you want to shove your OPINION down into everyone's throat. Calm down. For all you know, this could just be another tale by moonlight intended for the front page. That said, no use anymore. The OP didn't save anyone other than his friendship, sadly. Moving on...I think there is no case here anymore. No evidence just hear-say and the stigmatised girl. OP should live with his conscience and you should keep your emotions in check. Peace!

take your advice, chew it up, swallow it and sh!t it out cos it's crap, what a pathetic advice! do u think a man who is raping his own 13 yr old child does not know it's wrong?? u think what he needs is advice or an ultimatum. are u high? OP is in NO place to counsel this girl, u must think the job of a psychiatrist is so easy that everyone can do it, u said it yourself, this is a sensitive issue. only ppl who have the proper sensitivity training should deal with it, it's OP's job to get the authorities involved, that's it, it's not his job to start fixing this child. stop doling out stupid advice, u mean if u found out a man is sleeping with a helpless child that he fathered, your first instinct would be to talk to him and not immediately get the helpless child away from him?
imagine the roughest sweatiest sex of your life and replace the girl with your mother, do u feel how repulsive it is? do u know what an unnatural order it is for a man to have carnal knowledge of his own seed? if u found a man raping your daughter in your own house, would u wait for him to finish, counsel her first, then give him a warning and tell him not to do it again? the way some of u think is straight up toxic. pedophilia and incest and psychological abuse are all serious issues individually, how can a combination of all 3 be so trivial to u? smh

Like father like son. Ojukwu big daddy coward...Kanu little coward. You guys should watch out for his wife and family becoming ambassadors of the zoo... and if he isn't dead, contest elections to be president in the future.

Haven't we seen it all before?

I agree with you. The author's religious prejudice and condescension towards unmarried young people having sex spoiled what would have been a worthwhile composition off a great title.

AgentOfAllah:
Oh, the prejudice! This author has given happiness a grotesque definition to justify the snarky title of their article. Happiness is not a finely defined set of wants, but any aspiration that brings about contentment. For instance, I may invest my happiness in the success of my child, in which case, I would do anything, even if that thing hurts, to make sure my child succeeds. My happiness could also be invested in sexual gratification. Should this be the case, why shouldn't I seek it, even if it means spending my own money to travel across Europe to fulfill this dream? The only thing this author has done to drive home their vacuous points is resort to silly red herrings, like equating sexual gratification with multiple partners to STD cultivation. What about people who get STDs from single partners?

In this nauseating excuse of an article, the author mentions a few examples of "higher" pursuits which should supersede one's desire for happiness. For instance, they mentioned the "deeper fulfillment of parenthood", as if to suggest that every parent gets a sense of fulfillment. Such a claim is just bunkum! The truth is that there are many parents in the world today, living in extreme misery because they had children when they shouldn't have. Those parents enjoy no deeper fulfillment! This is not to say having children cannot in fact give one fulfillment. Only that if you are certain that it wouldn't, or even unsure that it would, you had better held back before plunging yourself into an insufferable abyss.

"Will this make me happy?"

What is wrong about this line of enquiry? Yes, it may however be useful to enumerate the sort of things that make you happy in order of priority, for some pursuits might require you to forego others, but make no mistake, your net happiness is always the goal. Anybody that says otherwise is either pretentious or doesn't know the meaning of happiness. An equally important question to ask is the cost of your happiness. I suppose this is the most difficult bit, as it is very complicated to estimate. And I'm not just talking of financial cost, this also includes health, time, effect on those you care about (if you care about anybody), and so on. If your happiness pursuit isn't sustainable, then you may want to think twice before indulging.

This author recommends a list of questions to ask before embarking on their so-called "higher" aims. These include:
"Is this right? Is it my duty? Is it productive? Is it healthy? Is it worthwhile? Will it bear good fruit? Will it make me a better person? Is this what God wants?"
When you ask if something is right, what is the yardstick by which you measure its rightness? For most things we do in life, there is usually never a ready answer for whether they are right or not. Also, while the outcome of certain actions are certainly predictable, these are very few compared to most of life's pursuits. The eventual outcome of our pursuits are so unpredictable that one can never be certain of the answers to questions about how productive or profitable their actions may be. For all we know, one of those people Elise met along the way might have turned out to be the source of her "higher" aim; and yes, her definition of "higher aim" is as irrelevant to us as ours might justifiably be to her. In short, while the answers to all these questions could very well be the justifications for one's life's pursuits, they are subjective. Even still, whatever lies at the end of that pursuit, whether you acknowledge it or not, is still about your happiness. So, by all means, ask yourself: "will this make me happy?" without being shamed into accepting that there can be such a fulfillment that is deeper than your happiness.

The most atrocious liberty this author took was their attempt to desynonymise happiness and joy! That's just an egregious contrivance not even fit for pedantic deliberations. A joyful person is a happy person, and when someone is unhappy, they cannot be a joyful person. Obviously, joyfulness and happiness are equally transient states. There's nobody that is perpetually joyful; so, to end an article eschewing the pursuit of happiness with a statement like: "You can never go wrong by doing what brings joy" rings excruciatingly hollow, and dumb...like really? You don't say!!

In the end, I've only read a disappointingly uninspiring article by someone who is eternally bitter that other people may find joy in different ways than them. The author attempts to paint these people as "joyless, miserable, lonely, smiling, empty people". However, it seems to me that the only person who is joyless, miserable, lonely, empty, and, might I add, shallow, is someone who, rather than embrace all the many expressions of happiness and its pursuit, chooses to limit its definition as an excuse to condemn others for not being just like them.