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Maybe you are emotionally attached to her, yeah... I have been there and I know how hard it is to let go. However, Don't you think she isn't the right one for you? What will you lose if you decide to break up with her?

How will you feel if the same thing is done to you?

With the economic situation of Nigeria one may think the best option is to emigrate. Yeah to search for Greener pastures. However, these days, It seems only skilled immigrants are in-demand in almost all developed countries, as such they are paid better and tend to have an easier path to PR or even citizenship.

However, on the hand unskilled migrants, with no skill or talent are faced with lots of difficulties. From securing visa to getting the job itself to the most crucial which is work permit. The uncertainties are numerous. To the best of my knowledge emigrating as an unskilled worker is quite risky and unpredictable. From The U.AE to
Qatar, Malaysia and Turkey, the systems are some how the same - Enter via a tourist visa later change it to an employment visa , Afterwards your employer will secure your work permit (except turkey). In some developed countries you have to go back to your country pending when your employer get your work permit. And even more, the pay is meagre , the working conditions nothing to write home about.

I know a mammoth number of my compatriots are on the verge of taking this route ( a mate just left a couple of months ago). Here is the question does it worth it? Any viable option out there?

Guys what's your take on this issue.

Agbeni33:
Hey please can you give more information on Qatar. Like how easy it is to get job over there.
Like what type of job is in demand at Qatar.
I have the opportunity at hand but still contemplating about it.

Please anyone with good information about Qatar should help me out.

please Don't hesitate to share valuable information as we are on the same boat.

yetundetanwa:
Honey, there’s no need for looking for threads concerning this, all you need to do is walk into your bank and meet the customer Care, tell him/her about your interest to invest in treasury bills.
It’s the best and secured investment ever. I’ve been investing for the past 3 years now.

could you enlight me more about this treasury bill?

Abini2012:
A waka

Clean Overland train. I like

where have you been?

I so much missed you

Welcome back

oikotas44:
Hi
I have been following your responses.
Thanks for your time and efforts.
Please I have the intention of relocating to Germany through study. I have a Bachelor Degree in Civil Engineering and hope to further.
I need assistance to how to go about it.
Thanks in advance

sorry for my late response. All the information you need is right here on niaralnd. Visit the German student thread.

Unfair comparison's! The UAE is on a par with countries like Hong Kong, Singapore and Luxemburg.

Nigeria on the other hand is lagging terribly behind in development thus it should be compared with the likes of Bangladesh,Kenya, Mozambique and Ethiopia

So Turkey ahead of Germany?

Must be a joke.

Ukpebor278:
bro if you were on my shoe, which country will you choose

its a matter of what one could afford. I would like to emigrate to either the Netherlands or Switzerland, but one needs lots of cash to actualize this.

So the cheapest option is Germany

Ukpebor278:
thanks bro am considering Norway, like how much do I need?

I don't know. Goggle should be your best bet.

Respect, honesty and effective communication any day any time.

ePoster:
if you came across a dozen post a day, claiming that all men are dogs because of the bitter experiences several ladies have had with cheating exes, you would be slightly angry. Why? Because you're human and a male. No one wants to be painted with the same negative color by a complete stranger.
By the way, im as you are; completely realistic. 99% of nairaland males are hypocritical. But dont take my word for it, scroll through this section and judge for yourself.

it is something both genders usually engaged in - name calling and insults.

My take is; don't take most things here deeply because some are simply trolling.

MrBrownJay1:
you will be surprised to see how many take this "proposing/ring" thingy seriously... its part of the whole marriage procedure.... and many abide by all its rules and regulation. before marrying someone you should propose...



true



some women out there want the whole fairytale charade... its not about making a scene (or pressurizing someone) but more like doing something that they have been waiting for, since the day they were born.



i think it is completely different than drama, and more to do with society and its view on what marriage actually means. these women need time to wear that ring, and flaunt it around to all people around them. thats why you never marry someone the day after proposing, but instead months later.



do you really believe this has anything to do with being manly?! meaning that men who actually propose aint "real men"?!
do you really believe this has anything to do with money? i doubt it, as even poor people propose (without the diamond ring though)

IMHO this has all to do with society, and Nigerian woman are brought up to view Marriage as a do or die mission, and proposing is part of that whole marriage package.

I for one re-created myself in my early twenties. thus i transformed myself, so I no Longer give a toss about what the society say. just like I said earlier my standards and principles are my compass and I hope I will meet my soulmate who shares my views.

You sound bitter and and slightly angry. Let me speak for my self, i say things the way I see it without sentiment regardless of gender.

Reason why lots of people dislike me. I am a realist.

Don't paint us with the same brush, we are different individuals you know.

pansophist:
Truly masculine men do not fall in love, but love (there is a difference). ''in love'', and ''to love'', often used interchangeably to mean the same thing, but they are different. By nature, men express love (to love), and women fall in love (in love).

To love is sacrificial, its to put yourself out there to protect, provide and premium the interest of your beloved, it is putting ''them first'', as opposed to ''me first''. It is the kind of love expresses by Jesus Christ when he died on the cross for mankind, even though many do not appreciate his death and sacrifices. To love is unconditional, it is a decision and less of emotions, its altruistic and not based on reciprocity. This is how men are to love women, and the kind of love instructed by the bible that men should love their women. (Ephesians 5.25), mind you, the bible did not instruct women to love men, but respect men.

Now, women do not express love to men, like the way men express love. Women are ''in love'' with men. The kind of love women have for men is the kind of love men have for their careers. You love the career as far it satisfies your financial needs and interest, it is a romanticized, egoistic kind of love. The love is only retained as far it satisfies your need, it is opportunistic in nature, and will leave when it doesn't fulfill its purpose and has outlived its usefulness. Women love men in a practical way, that is, she will be in love when he is useful to her, by lavish spendings, his high status which strokes her ego and making her feel physically and financially secure.

Men love flows two-step downwards (to his wife, and then to the kids), while women love flow one-step downwards (from her to her children). Women love (to love) children in the same way men love women and children. Women are in love with men, in the same way, men are in love with their career. Got it?

love your analysis man.

A leopard never change its slot.

Davisk11:
how do you feel when your girl friend greets you on social media like " Morning, Noon or Evening" with no romantic words attached. mean while you always shower praises on her while greeting her in those period mentioned so far.

the feeling ain't mutual, she maybe feel just obliged to greet you.

A warning sign if not a red flag.

Start searching for her replacement.

MrBrownJay1:
are you saying that kneeling in front of the woman, you want to spend the rest of your life with, is degrading?!?!?!



let me be the devil's advocate here: ok so i understand that you may find the idea of kneeling in public awkward, fair enough, but saying that because of such mundane issue, you will give up on the woman of your life, is a bit cheap dont you think?! do you think such woman is found at every street corner?! you may replace her yes, but not for the same caliber i guess (unless you find women to marry every other weekend)

And why should the woman consider me not knelling to propose as a deal breaker? A woman who dramatize such mundane thing like her life depend on it would give lots of headache later in the marriage.

Nothing beats a humble, sensible and considerate woman.

I am pretty sure a sensible woman won't create a scene out of this unless she is a slayqueen. A woman will only pressurize a man to do such if she sense some beta male traits in him or maybe he is broke. A man should be what he is and should be.

That trend only appeals to dramatic people, not every one fancy it you know.

Bottom line: be yourself and be manly, try to be financially stable and you won't even be the one to propose, she will break the ice in an unexpected manner.

Godstime76:
Can you drop more light on what you mean by created new account for this? never have account here before . this is my first time creating account in nairaland . Pls let be matured in way we talk. Thanks .One Love.

so I am not matured? Bros if tear you slap ehn?

newagetech:
No mind them, na for only Nigeria you go see say something like this dey happen every time, girls too fit help guys with money no be bad thing...Well, i can help you spy your partner’s WhatsApp account for life without touching his/her phone, even if the person lives far away from you, i will send you the tutorial for free just for confirmation but if you can’t go through the stress i will help you do it myself for 3k, WhatsApp me if interested 0~8~1~0~5~0~8~2~1~3~6

bros I am interested.

Ariza:
Here's my honest opinion about the rants and complains I've seen Guys make here, if you can't stand the heat, leave the kitchen. [/b]If you feel you are being cheated or not getting full satisfaction from your dealings with women, Please go your own way. Leave relationships /marriages to those who can handle it.It's not a do or die thing![b]

how about we awakening our slumbering bros who have sold their soul and self-respect to these bimbos?

zoeA:
Hollywood + Bollywood + Nollywood + Internet + Bbnaija equals to stupid generation of Nigerian gals

broad you forgot kannywood (Hausa movies ) and ghollywood (Ghanian movies). These things have made out ladies dumber.

MrBrownJay1:
1) paying for sex? paying for a woman's affection? is that not what clients do with oloshos?! having sex is beneficial to men AND women thus since both enjoy the act, i dont see why men should pay for it (unless from oloshos)

2)[b][/b] if you want to get married then you have to do whats the norm... you must kneel and beg ask this babe in marriage the right way.

so kneeling down to propose is now the norm?... If yes then I am bound to default it... I mean why should I degrade myself to this extent? Makes no sense to me. That its a trend is something I don't give a toss about. I may even propose while me and my fiancee are relaxing or just doing something exciting, one thing is certain I will never subject myself to this awkward moment. If it doesn't goes down well with her the door is wide open. I will replace her with a nicer woman , it ain't pride its self-worth and self-respect. I have my standards and principles which serves as a guide to my life.

So you created a new account for this? Well, it sounds shady to me.

Any lady that accept this offer is doing it at her own risk.

It may or may not legit... Choose wisely.

Ukpebor278:
thanks, but outside Germany which other country do you think one can also reside as an African

reside? There must a purpose man, you know these countries follow due process, you don't just sneak into a country just like that, there must be a valid reason: education, tourism, family reunion, business, a highly skilled expatriate or as an asylum seeker.

The easiest route to emigrate is via the study visa reason I suggested it in the first place, and as far as studying is concern Germany will give you a value for your money. The benefits are numerous.

Other countries like Norway ,France are Denmark too has has similar system.( the system is somewhat closely the same in all developed countries)

To the best of my knowledge these are some of the legit ways one could emigrate legally.

Beware of uninformed suggestions and worse beware of travel agents.

Ukpebor278:
among the countries listed above, which do you think is best, for one to get good paying job and less expenses

All are good countries... Your chances of getting a good job in these countries are high, for example Germany unemployment rate is just 3.1 %. Also its cost of living is low relative to its European neighbors.

Ukpebor278:
I intend to work and reside there for a long time, I just completed my HND in elect/elect engr. which type of visa would be suitable for me, and would be easier to approve,

study visa is your best bet... For a start most German public universities are tuition free.