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Ekpeitut:
Hello my people,

I've had this strong desire to relocate out of naija given the harsh economic climate, the hopelessness, insecurity and other ills. (Note: I live comfortably and earn decent wage, had part of my education outside Nigeria, my job also allows me travel outside every once in a while)

I had started the relocation process but I keep stalling because of the following questions/ thoughts that keeps popping up in my mind;

[/b]1. If all the sane Nigerians flee Nigeria who then remains to fight for the soul of Nigeria (Some may say Nigeria isn't worth fighting for) sadly I agree but it's all we've got.[b]

2. The country I intend relocating to have had their fair share challenges but somehow rose above them to create the utopia that now appeals to me. So what's stopping me from doing same in my Country ? ( One tree can't make a forest - that's my answer)

I just want to sample opinions. Please keep them coming.

India has more than 18 million of its citizens in diaspora, to be specific 4.4m in US, more than 3m in UAE, same goes to other developed countries as well. Even the UK has more than 5m of its citizens living abroad as migrants.

Emigrate while you can, the country will be fixed when the people truly needs change.

Don't let patriotism blind you from seeing reality. Grab this opportunity while you can else you will regret your folly.

smat101:
[s][/s]iPrevail, she is a very hardworking, respectful and intelligent girl...
Beating her can NEVER make her rebellious instead it will make her very scared and embarrassed[s][/s].

Trash.

Beating hardly make any significant impact. Almost everyone here is suggesting you talk to the poor teenager and you are here rambling.

Salvado1:
Pls dere was a girlfriend of mine who I really loved so much although she loved me too in de beginning but as time goes on she became so uncaring she never tends to call me anymore I wil be de only one calling her but wen I told her y she is no longer calling she said dat she will be calling but she will never call so as time goes on wen I call her she will be sounding so boring on phone as if am disturbing her sometimes I call her she won't pick up my call I start wondering what I did to her I try de little way I can to make her happy but at de end of de day she will still continue to be so uncaring, so one day I started thinking about de situation so I became so annoyed of it nd I texted her dat 'its over' since October 2019 I hav never called her nd she hav never called me or even texted me even to ask me y I texted her such message she just kept silent ever since, but am still missing her so much can't stop thinking about her am planning to start calling her again nd tell her to forget about de message I sent to her.My people ur advice is highly needed pls..

I just feel It will be ideal to let you know this.

You are about To make sad mistake bro, never ever call that girl, but if you do then it will automatically give the moral ground and know this it will be much more dramatic than the previous. this time around she will brutally manhandle your heart because she already know you are a weakling who can do without her.

Bro be warned. Go out and look for other lovely girls, there are lots of them out there.

I have been there so im in the best position to guide you.

rosy1992:
Incredible, its like saying you want a mango tree to produce orange. Male virgins are endangered species.

I am 23 and a virgin. So what did you said again?

We4all:
I believe the heading is clear enough. My friend(a lady in her 30's) wants a man who is a virgin for marriage. Her preference for a virgin man stems from the fact that promiscuous men have a high tendency of cheating in marriage and infecting their partners with STD's.

The friend in question is not a virgin, but now that she is ready to settle down, she desires a virgin for marriage. The man in question should be between the ages of 36 and 39. He must be tall and athletic with a good sense of humor.

He must be a respecter of women, liberal in religious views, a neat freak, sophisticated, calm, domesticated and educated.

His level of income doesn't really matter, but he should be able to support himself, while the lady does the same for herself.

Furthermore, the lady is a tokophobic and desires for a surrogate birth while in marriage. So, the man in question should be sophisticated enough to accept that.

The marriage contract will be for a period of 1 year and if things works out fine, there will be a renewal.

If you meet the above criteria and you're cool with the terms, indicate by sending a pm and I'll hook you up with the lady in question.

something tells me that this is a fictitious story about an imaginary lady looking for a virgin husband.

We4all:
He was only using you as a rebound. That sweet talk of "you are the kind of woman I want", could have just been mere words and not really that serious.

The truth is, he wasn't really into you. It's good that you were smart enough to figure that out, to avoid stories that touch.

Your ex left you for another woman and I don't think she is to be blamed. Your guy must have seen something in her which was missing in you(unless he was under a spell and not in his right frame of mind).

You must bear in mind that for one to rise, someone must fall. Life isn't fair and that's the way it is!

Regardless, I think the part where you mentioned about his wealth wasn't necessary. In my opinion, seeking 'a standing ovation' for your act wreaks of hypocrisy. Both of you were not into each other and it has got nothing to do with doing the right thing.

Guy one fresh punna for you.

Your analysis made sense. Yeah I also view it from this angle.

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Is it possible for a Nigerian passport holder to travel abroad via other African countries like say Gahna or Cameroon?

Semaj77:
Ok , what piques your interest ?

You said you don't smoke, drink or womanize. So. I was astonished considering this habits are now a norm among our youths.

rman:
Majority of niaralanders are self absorbed!

You mean they are Living in their little bubbles.

Semaj77:
The biblical timeline just doesn't fit

Inconsistences found in the holy books

Overwhelming evidence to support evolution and science as against creationism

No explanation for dinosaurs , fossils and other planetary bodies

Really if you believe donkeys and snakes talked , the plagues , 5000 people eating a few loaves of bread and numerous baskets are still left and men living up to 969 years then you're surely due for a psychiatric evaluation.

And yes why were the other ancient manuscripts removed if there isn't something hidden

I have come a long way to know anything you can't question , like God , is usually a scam

I was even more interested in your first two sentences.

moscow406:
And what other areas are you inferring; street wise. Intelligence just doesn't mean the ability to study your book and pass your exams only, that's being a dork. Intelligence means the ability to apply what you've learnt, high analytical skills, diversity, dynamism, the ability to perform in different fields exceedingly well, great conversationist, a problem solver. I can deviate into any field I want and perform without hiccups, it's who I am.

I don't need to prove anything to you before you believe, you don't even know me. And mind you, people who can get into Government owned medical schools in the South West on merit list without pulling strings are not just only brilliant, they are also intelligent, Ask around

Just wondering why you are wasting your time making explanations to this assholes. As if they matter.

I know an intelligent person when I see one.

Bang on man.

rman:
This thread is quite revealing!

It is pointer to why nairaland contributions are exactly the way they are.

Revealing in what sense?

Semaj77:
I don't drink alcohol or smoke and I surely don't womanise so most people think I'm a "pastor" when they notice all these "qualities" but they couldn't be further from the truth. In reality I'm irreligious , a better term in my estimation than being called an atheist ( I really don't like the tag atheist or agnostic ).

What made you so? Please elucidate.

Am curious.

pansophist:
1. That I am mean. I say my mind, I do not mix words, and I tend to say things to people's face the exact way it is, and many people are pissed by it, although, those who know me well loves me for that and see me as a go to person when they want objectivity. Also, I do not intend to piss people off, but I operate on a principle "telling the truth, and at least not to lie", and as such, there is just no way I can decorate words with sugary appeal. I'll rather not say anything, than to tell you something that is organically different to how I perceive it. I'm authentic, and you'll either love me or hate me, there is no in between. I try to be tactful, and can be insensitive sometimes, I recognize and working on that.

2. That I'm not a happy person. Mere looking at me, one may think I'm angry and pissed, but I hardly smile and if i do, it will be the most genuine thing you'll ever see. With my all 32 teeth in full exposure, and my smile wide like a mega watt light bulb. The places I've been to, that people didn't see me as weird was in Ukraine and mingling with Russians. I am your typically Nigerian Putin. I like straightforwardness, I've defeated my ego long ago, so I like truths, bitter or not. You don't have to worry if I get angry, my brain leads my emotions, not the opposite.

3. I'm weird. I talk to myself, I laugh by myself, with bodily demonstration that baffles people when they see that I'm not interacting with anyone. I just live life by my rules, and it's my own way of expressing negative emotions and let it all out. I just need to walk in nature alone, and my crazy side will flourish unhindered. But I'm not mad, I'm just weird. I overly dependent on myself, hence, I'm completely entertained by my own company.

4. I beautifully loose battles. I'm someone that will let you win those petty fights and arguments, giving you the illusion of success, that you've actually won and subdue me. But the main war, I'll prepare for it and beat you in your game right under your nose. One will feel so stupid afterwards and regardless if they hate me or not, they will admire my skills of picking the fight that truly matters, not miscellaneous battle success that at best, strokes the ego. I'm a master strategist, I am your typical female in a Male body. I calculate alot, I left no stone unturned in this my giant machine called brain. Though, this part of me is reserved for wicked people, you know, those people that sees a kind heart as a ripe victim to exploit. No one has a monopoly of wickedness, and I like to remind wicked people by actions that the gentle walk of a tiger is not foolishness.

You just describe me man. I possess almost all of this traits except that I love smiling.

I have never seen or heard about you before, just came across you a couple of months ago here on Nairaland, but I completely admire you. I have said it before and I will say it again that you have a spectacular way of thinking. A rare gem is what you are.

luminouz:
Ask him to send his account number and you will know

Just feel like to reply this comment, though I don't know what that moniker need, but I just want to remind you that its not all about money. Things like depression, anxiety, loneliness are serious issues bro. Its possible a single person may be experiencing all this.

Edusouls:
All these write ups doesn’t work in real life complications, complexity, unseen and many uncontrollable factors play out every minute, every day life is way too complex to understand, making us powerless and only trying.

You are right. Sometimes life can be unpredictable and the only thing we can do is to flow with the tide.

1mrprolific7:
Welcome to Year 2020.

If you wake up to log in to NL to learn about the bad news about the country or for tribal masochism, and spend the next 1 hour on facebook or twitter looking at the latest news or trends, then spend another 1 hour on whatsapp looking at peoples' status and personal lifestyle, then spend the evenings to go watch how Chelsea should win or how Barcelona should fail...then keep logging off and on NL to see how many likes or mentions you have had...

then I put it to you that if you continue this trend for the next 2-3 years, especially if you are a youth that has a bright future ahead, the likelihood that you'll end up as a failure in life is high.

If you put all the minutes you spend on unproductive things online, it's enough to find a bearing for your life and loved ones even in the midst of the hardship all around.

I saw this comment in a certain thread, and I forgot who the original poster is. Was it you?

salford1:
[/b]Cheaper to employ locals than flying in workers from their native countries[b] I guess.
Same happens at all embassies and not just Nigerian ones.

could you elaborate more?

Purehuman:
My heater is useless. I think I need a boiler.

I just view your profile and I saw your post on how disappointing Nigerian youths are.

Am glad you are finally in DE, Nigeria is to some extent beyond redemption.

bigl:
Nothing like that jare!

Just stuffs created for those who choose to swallow it!

That's how they will say "if u miss who you are supposed to marry, you have missed it"!

All na lie! I'm a strong christian but I read my bible right!

I wish most Nigerians have this way of thinking...

Princeadebayo11:
Good morning my brother's and Sisters in the building, I am Here to seek your advice. Please don't mind my Construction of English.
There is this girl we are living in the same hostel in school, we use to be just ordinary friend in the 1st place, later we started cooking food together and we got so close that we sometimes sleep together in my room. Although I know her Fiancee because she is in serious relationship and her Fiancee also knows me. At the long run, we made a mistake by involving in Sexual intercourse one night. After the act, she said she has to tell her Fiancee that she can't keep that in mind that she has promised her Fiancee she will never cheat. Now she told me on Monday that she discussed the issue with her Fiancee that she didn't even mention my name but her Fiancee mention my name himself, that he has been expecting this to happen before.
Now I am not comfortable since then, her Fiancee will soon visit us in school and I don't know how I will even face him or talk to him. And [/b]I don't even know whether to end the friendship with the girl or not. [b]
Please need your opinions on this

Guy you sound confused, but you can fix this shite.

just meet the guy and honestly explain your own side of events for him, am sure he will get it. And maybe apologize.

And stay away from that immature girl before she land you in a bigger problem.

Lesson: Never over step boundaries with peoples
GF/wives. many are in their early graves because of this. Take note.

kelish:
I am lady of 22 years, 5 years ago, i was this teenager with a very big dream which by my own calculation would have been partly achieved by now. But the wind life choose to blow against me, my dreams barely achieved, i have lost so much time already.


I rounded up my ND program in computer science in 2016, but since then, i hav'nt been able to make any head way. I have been unable to collect my result, to seek a reasonable job, i have been through quiet a number of interviews but couldnt get the job after passing the interview because i couldnt provide my result.

I have also done a number of non-result required jobs to save up to go get my result, but i have been unlucky with the jobs regarding payment. This is the 3rd month of 2019 already and am still confused, jobless and depressed.
I want a way out of this suituation.
so i need an advice on how to get out of this.

. Unfortunately many are in this situation, its quite depressing to say the least. Still , you need to man up as there is an end in sight.

I live in kd too, send me an email let's connect, I gaht a vital information for you

I have came across a lot of Great personalities here notably PANSOPHIST. I admired this guy, his way of thinking is quite outstanding.

Out of the many girls I have approached, I can confidently say I am more good looking than almost all except may be one or two of them.

Some of them just wanna play hard to gett Regardless of their looks so they don't look cheap, while sone of them are just dumb and don't even know what they want.

My guy the thing sef don taya me.

Midas01:
According to which stupid pediatrics. Lol. The same pediatrics that now think it's okay to turn your male child into a girl if the child feels he was born in the wrong gender, lmao. The same kids in America that are allowed to bring home their bf and have sex under the roof. The same place where teen pregnancy is at an all time high, lmao.

Listen, have sense of your own. You must not copy everything from the whites. Those same kids were not abused still go on to shoot up Schools, are disrespectful to their parents etc but here in Africa and the rest of the sane world where kids discipline is encouraged, you'll find that kids are better behaved, more respectful etc.

the hardest person to argue with is someone who believe his own lies and living in his own little bubble.

Just listen to the trash you spilled up there, you think you made sense? SMH for this fool.

However, you lack decorum, so is it all the flogging that made you this idiotic because you sound like one.

Because its a fresh start, more like a breadth of fresh air.

franchasng:
No be only marriage therapist, na marriage herbalist ....marriage therapist for a Nigerian wife hehe


The man has to find a way to make himself happy....and maybe get another secret phone and always lock that phone in the car.....spend more time at the office or business premises...or start hanging out but make sure you are providing every necessary things at home oh....but just find a way to be happy and ignore her wahala...[/b].don't make trouble with her oh before she mud you [b]

[b][/b]Wifeys are lik Hitler in their marriages, only UN peace keeping negotiators can tame them, if you apply force you loose, if you deploy soldiers, you may die in the war lolz

Na tactical war you can only win by tactics, perseverance and patience

Guy you wicked oo.

But op he is on point aha...

sprints1:
If you knew my profession u would have withdrawn that statement.. I am not a bully I just don't tolerate indiscipline.. Mind the way you use words that is a powerful word that is compromising..

Apologies.

Cheato64:
I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

[/b]I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want. [b]

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala

On a serious note its quite heartbreaking you are experience this nightmares from your wife, sorry about that.

My advice

Have a heart to heart discussion with her regarding this issue (be dead serious)

Consult a marriage therapist.

if all seems not to work involve her elders.

sprints1:
see what book has turned this one too.. you think it is by English..There are some children that are just impeccable to a point will u flog those ones..So don't compare.. Some children are generally stubborn and the best way to deal with them is by flogging

Trying hard to justify how colossal of a bully you are?

Equity15:
I also thought so too when I first starting teaching. in fact I engage the whole class in reasonable discussions almost everytime they err but it all fell on deaf ears. maybe they aren't used to reasonable discussions as a form of discipline from thier home, I wouldn't know. but I switched to spanking and they've been behaving normal.

So what is your final verdict on this issue?