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izeek:
iice,

just how i c it too.
u dont wait until he hears or finds out, tellhim from the first date.
that way u know if he is there for real or not.

if u postpone it, am sure it wud be aproblem to tell much later.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Thank you ooo.
I always say, give them the full blast. . .if they stick around, then they are worth all the effort.

Na why, people relationships crumble. . friendship/relationships. Keep tip-toeing around each other [/color]

Yeah, you're right, just the way I've seen it. One thing is certain though: not everyone knows what to do in certain situations. . . like I said and going from what she said, she wasn't going to hide from him, she wanted to wait a little bit more before she tells him - which I think was a stupid attempt. I'm still sure most ladies nowadays will still hide such from their potential boyfriends depending on where they are or whatever other criteria they have chosen to hide it for.

Now, the question is what should the guy do? This is just like any other secret, maybe a little heavy, but still it's an offense that can be forgiven, if he truly loves her; nevertheless, my friend doesn't know what he wants to do

[Quote author=kanye West]@the sick seeker

You are just a very stupid retarded animal. I have chosen not to respond to you because your extremely irrelevant to the scheme of things and your huff and puff still makes you a "C" list actor in this movie and your not important. You can yab me from now to afghanistan i dont have your time, i have a more bigger fish to twist and mangle her neck. Your just a noisy irritating neighbour that needs to be strangled at night so that the estate can sleep in piece. So you can stick your tongue into your mother's anus and lick the 4 corners of her yansh and hang your self after you rim her thoroughly. . . . D***k head![/Quote]

Hahahaha! This is funny but I don't think you really needed to demonstrate to the public that you didn't have a mother to bring you up, come on, this is a public forum and you don't wash your dirty clothes outside - oops!!! You didn't have a mom to tell you that, sorry! And your father - oh your father - that boy was simply retarded to have been a practically insane figurehead in his own home which was why your mom was a LovePeddler. Whores don't look after their kids and that's what your mom is hence, your disrespect for people's mother. I don't blame you.

Strangle me at night at the estate because I didn't let the neighbors sleep with my noise? I bet your dream has always been to live in one but as it is fools are allowed to fantasize, it's the free gift of nature after land. Bigger fish like Amaka? Amaka done kill you a long time ago and you had nothing to say, stop being a fool. And I didn't know nairaland was a movie scene - chei!!! too much of African magic. And who's looking for you to have his time? All I need is for you to get some senses up your brain or you get stick in the ass, period! Foolish idiotic boy!!!

[Quote author=kpolli]ok, am gonna be neutral n judge this according to your words,
MrSeeker your an igbo fool am sure, u see two people arguing n u come n judge stupidly,
AUNTY AMAKA your wrong for using that statement, yes u didnt say most edo girls r prostitutes but for u to say most prostitutes r from edo is a tribalistic statement n accept your wrong,
KANYE WEST, u too messed up by saying igbo girls r prostitute, thats a very harsh thing to say,
MrSeeker have u now learnt how to judge cases, dont kiss ass or pick sides,
PS, AMAKA n KANYE WEST your both in love, meet each other, have safe sex n invite me to your wedding,
Piss out[/Quote]

Seems like you don't have enough magnet in your brains to draw understanding into your empty skull. You're a stupid and unreasonably foolish nonentity. Do you know how many threads Kanye has insulted igbo women? Do you know how many times I have bashed him? Have you ever seen him respond? You don't have to respond to me to make fame for yourself, and shove that foolish judgmental attitude up your ass because it appears to me like you do not understand proper English language or you would have known I didn't kiss-ass Amaka (I'm not even a big fan of how she represents her views).

Next time, get your facts straight and stop taking swipes you can't handle when shit hits the fan. Fool!

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=346230.msg4850095#msg4850095 date=1257209080]the relationship already lacks trust. i wonder how long she was planning on keeping this a secret? i mean, this sort of things you dont keep them secrets. she should have told him upfront, if the guy sees in her than her past life he would have stayed. its not as if being a single mother means the end of relationships or love life.

being the guy here, it would definitely be a hard pill to swallow. even if he accepts her back, what other secrets is she hiding? how is he sure there isnt  more in the pot? how can they regain the lost trust in the relationship? trust is crucial in relationships and if the guy checks and see that its something he cant rebuild then the relationship serves no useful need again. however, if the trust can rebuilt then he should stay and walk things out[/quote]Right there is where the problem lies in our society. I am sure she couldn't get herself to see past the stigmatization of the society against young girls who have babies. We all know how it is with women who have babies outside wedlock and very worse still, having the kids at very tender age; do you even know that some of these men refuse to claim responsibility for their own baby and that leaves the woman with a very bad image where most people would have to think her attitudes - mostly promiscuity - led the man not to want to take responsibility.

I'm suspecting this may have triggered off her decision to keep it from him for a while, and I'm very sure that she didn't intend keeping it from him forever, of course, at some point, according to her, she wants to tell him but she needed a perfect time to do that. We don't even know how many men have rejected her because of this. I'm not saying it's a good excuse but we all tend to avoid troubles and chaos when we can and that's what she did but in a very wrong way.

Needfully get the needed sleep that you deservedly needed to start a needed hectic day tomorrow; and ensure you dream the most needed dream, have a good sleep, eat the supposedly amount of diet needed for your needful growth needless to say you shouldn't go against your physician's advice. Goodnight blood.

I didn't know Ebony was bothering you or we could have talked it over on our pillow talks. Remember she listens to me? She's a doll, I must say. As for getting chics off my back, I'm not sure about that, but trust the almighty to come and refute it.

Lexi, if I catch you with that Amaka rant. E be like say you wan make she pounce on you with these harmful teeth? If she devours you then you'll know better  Better still, she said she's going off NL, are you invariably saying she's leaving when you said Ebonyeyes was?  

Seek medical advice from a certified medical practitioner.

^^ Yes. The way everyone is asking for him to break away is alarming. What if he looks over what she's hidden from and take it as if she feared leaving her hence, her reason to have hidden it from her; more so, I think if she leaves her now that may, in a way, confirm her fears she first had.

Wow!

^^ They are about the same age. But are you saying if she was a little older than him he should walk because of that in contradiction to your first suggestion?

^^^ They will send you their new born baby as proof. Idiot!

Why can't he consider the fact that she may have actually been scared to lose him if she had told him firsthand?

smooooooth:
that one statement just made your post very very very very very dumb! . u are the people who give xtianity a bad name, the goat among the sheep. a true xtain like me wont even look at your face if i already have a wife. not even now that i am single sef, cos u are evil and out to ruin a happy home. true xtianity preaches one man , one woman, and what God has joined 2geder, let no ''u'' put asunder. leave him and go find your own

husband snatcher!!!!!!

Nice advert! Where are the lonely NL girls?

No be you been dey get gbege with Evil666?

A friend of mine, 25 to be exact, has a girlfriend who he's been in a relationship with for almost one and half years. As it seemed, they appear to have shared a lot together and from the look of things - as it all started off and stands at - they love each other very much. Unfortunately, very recently, about two weeks ago, my friend found out his girlfriend has a child - a boy she had from another relationship when she was a teenager.

This was devastating and disappointingly crushing! He was totally broken down and at a crossroad not knowing what to do; he talked with her about the discovery and all she kept and still keeps saying is that she loves him very much and felt like if she voiced it out earlier, she could have lost him, and she didn't want that to happen. On a deeper look into the issue, my friend said he isn't sure if he would or wouldn't have been turned off if she told her that at the commencement of the relationship, however, he's doubtful if she still has some other things she's hiding from him.

What's your suggestion? That he leaves or stays!

Suicide.

PRAISE THE LORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Finally we have a good news. Oya, Lexi, let's start copulating on NL. Ebony, Kunbee, oya come let's collabo

Why I no go fart? As I dey talk now sef, I dey mess

denony:
i think its possible but some girls here like

THE AMAKA,EBONY etc  

are making it so difficult to achieve  
am not expecting bullet from anybody ooooo    

i don search so teyyyyyyy body tell me  

Remove Ebony from that list

whitelexi:
Hehehehe

Its not easy to point fingers and call names,  [wish i could explain that more too], but she was too fiesty too so i think her leave will do everyone good

Yeah right, it's not easy to point fingers but I point you. . . point your own. As for Ebonyeyes, seriously and no jokes, she's very intelligent and if she's a teenager, she's absolutely phenomenal. She has this very calm attitude to reacting to other people's issues but she already has an underlaying vituperative spirit and maybe sometimes that doesn't help how she comes across, but she's a fine young woman no doubt. I wish some of these small small girls could be like that too. Bluespice (iya agba) I hail oooo!

whitelexi:
Oxymoron ko, Irony ni

How can u even begin to contemplate the impossible?
Taking thoughtless risks with individuals who are as volatile as petrol??

Talking of Ebony sef, word on the corridor is that she fled nairaland after receiving the rough end of a battle of words with another nairaland member. . .  Do u think we're gossiping?

It takes a chronic armed robber to identify a thief. . . I wish I could explain that more.

WHO RAN EBONY OFF? I NEED TO SLASH ME SOMEBODY'S THROAT

whitelexi:
No shout am loud oh! that corridor info na [b]correct lie [/b]oh! Me and ebony ke? No try am oh
The house go leave us run

My wife sabi herself

Oxymoron! Just how I like it!

Lexi nwa mama, word on the corridors of power and romance on NL has it that you are getting down with Ebonyeyes. . . you had better back the f.uck off

^^^ Talk to them, they're not aliens.

whitelexi:
Word in the grapevine is that Amaka nwa mama is looking for a life partner too, 2 of u might wanna put the fiestiness aside and make nairaland the proud owner of a successful union

Me and Amaka? You want make I die prematurely? Abeg oooooO!!!!! My mama still get hope say I go be president one day and I no want Sandra Achums or Eucharia as wife abeg oooo

whitelexi:
^^^ You are very wrong.

I'm predicting a successful union in 1 yrs time

Bros, which one now? I dey find partner sef.

Una still dey here?

^^^ She has always been a bitch, so whoever has been expecting her to stay with her husband must have been "Joseph, the dreamer"

Roger is no doubt the better of the two, but my support still goes behind Nadal.

Tuface is a sperm donor. Simple!

Same to you Eyeonigger