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Rice and chicken stew accompanied with chilled grape juice.

I think the only way to know its fresh n real is when you buy it from the farm directly. . .

I'm also addicted to taking yogurt. . .though I prefer taking the lfat free yogurt which seems to be everywhere over here. . .

My favorite brand so far is Nestle Unsweetened yogurt. . .

Except I want some of my guests to have a running stomach?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Sorry but bwahahahahaha

Reminds me of that popcorn thread [/color]

lmao. . .

caliber:
All over this site I have posted this article, regardless of where it seems relevant or not.

This article wasn’t written out of anger or spite but rather recently gained experience that I consider humorous.

It also shouldn’t be considered a misogynistic write up.

I guess all over the country but mostly particularly in Lagos there exist a breed of women whom I particularly refer to as the USERS. They come in all

shapes and sizes, they are of different ages but ultimately they have a trait common to all of them, they are Users, Leeches, they stay with a guy

not because of what they can bring to the relationship, but for what they can take from it.

Before I go further, I should explain that I belong to that group of men who can be termed “nice guys”; we like to do nice things for the special

ladies in our lives, i.e. spend money, time and show affection. We do all these by the truck loads.

Unfortunately, more often than not this makes us easy prey for the USERs of this world, to the women who see men only as a means to an end,

usually a financial end lol, and the women who tend to exploit our natural kindness for weakness.

I recently crossed path with one such female (hence this article).

We met unexpectedly at my office, she was looking good (of course, Users tend to look good on the surface, that’s what they use to lure in the

interested, ) I was attracted, so I got her number and did the expected, I started calling her and things were seemingly going well, we watched

a couple of movies at the cinemas together (no point for guessing who did all the paying, ), somewhere along the line, as is only natural, there

was intimacy and she actually had me thinking “heck, I might just have found me a great girl here”, yeah right!

Unknown to me, this fantasy was all beautifully orchestrated by the User, to lure me into a false sense of security, because slowly but surely as is

the way with Users, she started showing me her true colours. And mind you the signs are never overwhelmingly apparent, no, they are more like

little isolated nuggets of information here and there that to a more experienced player would have made sense, but to a nice guy like me, they

were totally unrelated.

First I noticed our communication was one way, I did all the calling. When I asked her why she never called, she replied “that was because I was

working and she wasn’t, hence I should have money to call her”, AHHHHHH, the 1st of the many and vastly multifaceted signs of the Users, lol.

Then she told me that her junior sister wanted to tag along to the movies with us one day, , being a nice guy I was like what the hell,

it was a Monday night, silverbird, 900bucks per head plus popcorn for 3 people, that’s not so bad, sure let her come, (Fatal error), for she shows

up not only with her junior sister, but also with her bleeping junior brother in tow,

Then came the empty promises, Her: “I will be coming over to your house for sure tomorrow” Next Day, Me: “where are you?”, Her: “I don’t have

a single naira on me, I can’t come again”, pathetic.

Then the Coup de Grάce, she tells me, “babe we can’t have sex again this month o”, Me perplexed): “why?”, Her: “I made a covenant with

God to be pure this month” , yeah right,

I have since successfully extricated myself from the claws of this User and am left with the ability to sniff out a User a 1000 miles away.

To all “nice guys” out there, there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy, really, yeah we might be targets for female Users, but in the bigger

picture, they (Users) are the ones who have the real problem, one they have to deal with eventually, I mean who prays to live their whole life

leeching on other people?,

True and also applicable to them dudes!

If your so bothered about the issue. . .then I do not think your being chained to date him.

The only explainable reason why such dudes won't compliment their gf's beauty is because they are insecure! Period!

angelbart:
Hi all,
Just a little advice needed please.
Been married to a Nigerian man for near a year (I am British) and we have a son. Before we married he had cheated (although I forgave him, but it did cause problems), he has always also been very stingy where money is concerned, but when I met him I understood lack of going out and gifts because he had little money.

In our marriage we have endless arguments, he is very stubborn, tends to think he is always right (even when not) and highly critical of even the littlest things. I have met his family, his mother has stayed with us on occasions when visiting and she is very supportive and lovely.

Finances as a married couple have been difficult as he seems to begrudge not being to be able to afford to travel and spend money on himself as our money is needed to support our family.

Recently we split and have been living separately as things were getting too bad, but I do love him and I believe he me and would like to make things work. We are talking now of sorting things out, but it has been so long since things have been good that I am wondering if they can be.

I have been trying to think of the good times but then the other night I found a diary from about 6 months in our relationship, which was describing him as being cold, distant and critical of me, the same things as he is now, which worries me that perhaps this side of him has just become more pronounced now we are married and he'll never change.

It is not just me who has been discussing divorce, he also has said that it can't go on like this as he really wants a family and if I can't put things right well he can find someone else who will.

I hate to generalise but are his characteristics typical of Nigerian men, don't get me wrong he does have a loving, caring side (when he wants) but he is just very hard, he sees me as British as having had an easy life compared to his Nigerian experiences and so shows no tolerance when I am upset at things because he sees them as trivial.

Its been so hard as I do love him so much and really don't want to end our marriage, any advice on how to handle him or this situation.

I always say. . .A leopard never looses its spots. . .If you notice any behavior in your partner while dating. . .and he/she isn't willing to change while you both dating. . .what gives you the assurance that such a partner would change when you both married. . . 

If I were you I would have taken note of these signs back in the dating days and taken action back then. . .

But I guess mistakes happen. . .and what makes us strong is our ability to learn from those mistakes. . .

My advice to you. . . you know where the shoe pinches. . .if you know you won't be able to wear/tolerate the pinch. . .then take off the shoe! but if your willing to tolerate the pinch then goodluck with that!

I really do not see how it can work. . .I mean how can you possibly love three dudes at the same time?

Not one. . .not two. . .but three?

Are you okay?

xynerio:
She is not my gf, she is just a babe a, u know sex partner.

Yea Rite. . .clap for yourself. . .you must be feeling extremely proud of yourself!

Read in between the lines. . .that's simply a polished way of telling someone you ain't interested in dating them. . .

Emmanbaba:
There is this babe I'm in love with. I've asked her out but what she told me was that she doesn't want to be distracted in her studies,  And i want her badly. Pls how can i convince her.

Yea rite. . .you want her badly. . .and after you've gotten her badly. . .you move unto the next person. . .Pest!



. . .Let her be. . .she ain't in no mood for dating! leave her to concentrate!

Emmanbaba:
Re: what do you mean by love.
Yeah the normal thing we all know love to be- i think about her often and all that

some dudes make me wanna hit them with a bat.  . . .

sistawoman:
You want, what you want and no one should make you feel like you should settle.

You dont need others to validate for you what you need or want in a mate.

WORD!

Because Human Nature is Insatiable!

Nope. . that would be demeaning myself!

I feel before you make a decision try and put your self in the position of your gf. . .would you allow her ex stay with her in her apartment even for a night?

Yes love at first sight is sweet and nice. . .but please its worth taking a second look!

I do not see how the size, shape, or length of a vagina would determine the attitude of a woman!

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=292854.msg4140403#msg4140403 date=1246859131]GOSH! must you tell us a very little things that goes on between you and your gf

something are just better not shared with everyone biko! and if she sneezes so what?[/quote]I wonder OH!!!!!!!!

Customer Care . . .Strong thing!

I really don't think so. . .A dentist in a govt hospital should be okay.

What happened to paying a visit to a dentist if your that bothered?

I don't see why you should allow one or two bad experience with some total loosers who ain't worth the time deter you from mingling. . .

I feel each relationship whether it ended well or bad should be like a lesson. . .and should only be used as a tool. . in the next relationship. . .so you don't repeat the same mistakes made in the past!

Long Yawn


. . .don't you dudes think your beginning to sound redundant?

LMAO

I guess I was lucky to have a childhood where I didn't have to hawk anything cus we were sufficiently provided for. . .

I'm also glad I never did. . .cus I've heard cases about these children hawkers being sexually molested, maltreated and kidnapped. . .very saddening. . .not something any child should go through.  

Fake eye lashes can look really nice on some ladies when they look natural. . .but I can't stand ladies who fix the really long ones (Makes them look like witches) 

But personally I can't see myself fixing fake lashes. . .I think all I need is a good mascara to enhance my lashes and thats it! 

Just go see your dermatologist ( Tattoos can now be removed with Laser Surgery)