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Nowadays,you can't just leave your daughters with a grown make.

People and greed.
Her frustrations are obviously because the present Oyo state government has not allowed them to get away with some of their illegally acquired properties.

mikeybrainy:
I swear, funny enough, almost all our neighbors have found snake in their rooms in a space of two years, everyone is scared.

You guys need to clear your environment.That's a cobra.

You're not selfish Op.You had this discussion before marriage so you even have a legit claim to not having more children.
Truth be told,it's tough economically having many children and it's not just about money.Giving them quality time is important too.The more children,the less quality.

I've got bad news though,when a woman wants more children, she's likely to get it.Women literally man the post.When they want a goal,they let it in even if it's an own goal.
Keep having the discussion with your wife.Does your wife work?

WeedSeller:

ssssslloooooooow!

WeedSeller:
Y'all should kindly ignore the deluded being comment above me.



I'm really sorry for the emotional trauma you v been subjected to. It's quite obvious you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship which won't stop anytime soon being the third time. Three times of physical assault isn't a mistake anymore. In summary that's what he brain revolves around. Violence !!


I understand you bringing your issue here is a cycle of trying to figure out the next step you should take in reference to the advices you will apply here when you have feelings for this person and have developed a history with them.

However, it’s the future, not the past, that you should consider. This would definitely get worse
26 years isn't a young age when debated in factual context but in this abusive relationship context. It is to me. Reason being that you r too young to be subjected to violence when you aren't even married to him. What will become of you when you both settle down finally ?

I really don't know why women tends to hold back their mental health and peace in abusive relationship. Like it cost you no dime from ending this shit. Fact that you both aren't even married is just a step ahead of divorce processes that could v been a burden.

The ratio of women who always stick to an abusive partners are ones that have little or less financial backings and live with the constant fear of where will I start from.
No debate can justify your partner loving you and still beating you up. It just doesn't make sense.

When a man beat his wife once, twice nd then thrice. He is never going to change. I really don't know if you r doing this for the sake of your child but your safety comes first. Why breed your child up in sadness and pain ?


End that shitty relationship with that panel beater. If you are so insecured ND scared of him. Move out quietly to an unknown location of your relatives or siblings. You deserve better woman. Find peace and watch your beauty gleaming again to attract sensible men who will love you for who you are.


Love always

You're slow and can't see sarcasm even if it hit you in the face.

Chidebless111:
Pls I need advice on what to do

I have daughter who is 14months old, though I'm not legally married but I and my daughter's dad live in together, and yesterday will be the third time he is physically abusing me that I almost passed out, I choked me and hit my out daughter feeding flask on my head and beat me. Now when I called his mom to reported what happened,she asked me to pack my things back inside, that she knows of a woman that her husband beat regularly And still she's still with her husband, that next time he want to beat me I should run outside,and if I decides to leave ,I should leave and if I take my daughter along she will fight me,that if I don't want her anger I shouldn't take my daughter.... Now my problem now is I can't leave my child for them,as I'm typing I'm weak and tired from all the beating, I'm 26years,I can't continue this way,cos I don't know how long this will continue

I think you should listen to your partner's mother.There are many ladies in such abusive relationships and they are enduring.You too should endure.

devafire:
Can it be changed in a few seconds? He doesn't have to nag her about it, that alone hints that he's tryna protect his image. Let him run along to a slim lady and love her.

It's obvious from the Op's write-up that he had mentioned it severally over time.
There's nothing wrong with changing some things that can be changed especially when it's a compromise you make for someone you love.

My fav dunker.

What do you do for a living?You seem like you have a lot of idle time on your hands.
Work on getting busy.Learn a new skill,it will take your time and give you less time running around.
Try to work in your mind too.

Report to the village head.That's the only way to exonerate yourself.

Continue with the relationship but I beg you, don't mess up.
You both can work something out.She on her part will keep trying to convince her family members while you keep trying to warm your way into their hearts.
If you get married,you will have to create your own space so their presence does not bother you.
As long as you both are united, it's a war you will win

Stupidity.

See talk.'A lady brought food for him'.

Preshieben:
Good morning to y'all


Have been single for the past 11 month.since I broke up with my ex,
I decided to stop dating and focus on improving myself,learnt a skill(Makeup tho)got a job before lockdown while still studying...
I so much enjoyed my single life
I turn down guys I don't like and friend zoned alot.
Then I met this guy online,we chatted for over two months
I liked him,his personality and every other thing about him
Was ready to stop flirting and get serious with him
I was actually waiting for him to ask me out,and when he finally did,I turned him down, wanted him to put more effort..told me he can't take A No for an answer and then blocked me on WhatsApp.I had to go delete his number, Deleted everything about him.cos I hate nonsense
But what could be the reason he blocked me?

You hate nonsense.What makes you think he doesn't hate nonsense too?!

What is Osu and what's with all this discrimination?
When the poor girl ends up not getting a suitor again and getting old,they will still harass her.

Blood flow to the pen!s is what causes erection.A male child born normal can have blood flow to his organ and have an erection.It is not because he is thinking of sex,it's just because of an external stimulation like his own touch with his hands or sometimes because he wants to wee.

He doesn't look too old.The knowledge he could impact is gone.

Kobojunkie:
The relationship between Jesus Christ and His followers is a Master-slave type relationship. By pretending husbands are like Christ to their wives, what you suggest is that husbands are like masters to their wives and that runs counter to what Jesus Christ Himself taught His followers.

Every doctrine must be weighed against what Jesus Christ taught and all found not to conform should be thrown out, do not agree with this?

That's not entirely true.In John 15:15,Jesus said,I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

They started out as 'servants' but after growing with him,He told them they were no longer servants but friends.
We as Christians too are not servants of God but sons and daughters.

Kobojunkie:
Did Jesus Christ ever exclude women from living exactly as He did? If No, should the @OP be making comparisons to men alone?

Well,there are topics addressing men alone and some women alone.
I guess Op chooses to address men now.

devafire:
I dunno if I'll be comfortable with someone who doesn't like me twiam.

There's nothing wrong with asking someone to change something that can be changed like she'd weight, hairstyle etc.You will probably not be comfortable with someone who makes a remark about your appearance.

You better tell the guy he has to re-format his brain and start seeing fat people as beautiful.
This girlfriend of yours will not lose weight and if she does,she will probably pick it up again especially with childbirth.
She has a lifestyle of eating junk and no drive for fitness.It's not something that will just change except she has a personal conviction to.
You saw her like that and asked her out.You better suck it up or leave her.

Is the 8 in years?

pek:
I beg to disagree. He doesn't need to see any elder. How would you obligate him to a contribution of ₦120,000 to his brother in law's wedding? Sounds outlandish and beyond comprehension! He doesn't also owe his in laws any monthly stipend.

Seeing wise elders is just for both the wife and the husband to resolve issues and look at ways of ironing out issues.It is not to compel him to pay any money.

Love the ref already.Clearly not a racist.

Well your husband does not have a responsibility to send money monthly to your parents.He could but he is not obligated to.
Your husband also does not have an obligation to contribute to your brother's wedding.It is your own obligation as the sister.He could do that however as an inlaw.
I guess the problem with your husband is that your family did not treat him well when he wanted to marry you because of the list he was given.
You both need counsel from wise elders.